Women And Their Fathers: The Sexual and Romantic Impact of the First Man In Your Life

by Victoria Secunda

From Publishers WeeklyHeartfelt, chatty, well researched and supportive, this study clearly demonstrates how a daughter's relationship with that old mystery man, Dad, colors the rest of her love life. Secunda ( When You and Your Mother Can't Be Friends ) talked to 150 daughters, 75 fathers and numerous psychologists. Young, middle-aged and elderly, these daughters and fathers speak frankly about filial/paternal love, guilt, failure and abuse. These aspects are grouped into thought-provoking categories (though with some confusing overlap): doting, seductive, demanding, absent or distant dads; maverick, fearful, competitive, good-girl or princess daughters. Seconda winds up with suggestions for both parties on improving their relationship, and offers questions a daughter can ask to find her way into the uncharted territory of the paternal heart. Copyright 1992 Reed Business Information, Inc. From Library JournalHaving completed her hugely successful When You and Your Mother Can't Be Friends ( LJ 6/1/90), Secunda moves on to the father/daughter relationship. She theorizes that a woman's adult relationships with men are shaped by her relationship with her father. Dad may have been absent, doting, distant, or demanding; his little girl a maverick, a good girl, fearful, or competitive. In any case, she grows up to marry someone just like Dad. Gender identity and sibling birth order also enter the picture. If the conflicts created by the particular father/daughter relationship are examined, then healing can begin. Both father and daughter can put the relationship in perspective and move on to a more mature relationship. This title will be just as popular as the last. Essential for public and academic libraries with self-help collections.

483 pages, Kindle Edition

First published June 23, 2015