I actually finished this book a couple days ago. I wrote most of a review, then my computer froze up and I lost it. I have been putting off writing it again. This book dragged for me. I spent a long time reading it. Part of that was because I lost it for a few days on the back of downstairs toilet. I hardly ever use that bathroom.
Anyways, it's a book about the "new rich", as in, people who have made their fortunes within the last, I don't know, 20 years. It talks about their yachts, and their houses, their butlers, their ridiculous "charitable" balls. It lead me to this conclusion: whether people are super wealthy or super poor, they can be real stupid with their money.
My husband is in the military, and I got a packet of info from our annual summer party last week. One section talks about what to do in a financial emergency. See, the army has some charitable organization that helps out military families (particularly during deployments) with financial crises, such as no money for rent, or a broken down car. Here is why I refuse to donate:
The packet entitled "Resources for a Financial Emergency" includes a bullet point on the front page, giving advice for families before coming to the military for aid: "Cut Expenses... Consider reducing or eliminating your cable television service, for example."
WHAT? So, they call for help paying their rent, and the person on the phone asks, "Well, Ma'am, have you considered reducing your cable television service yet?" The military spouse says, "Yep. I considered it a bit." Phone person says, "All right. Just checking. Now I'll send you free money." .
Anyways, people at one level are convinced they need cable television to survive. On another level, wealthier people are convinced they need 5 star hotels, room service and yachts. No matter what, you are rich in America. Just like I look at the people in this book and wonder how they can blow through as much money as they do and still want more, I am sure people from the world over would look at me and wonder they same. (Like, "You mean, you could afford a college degree that you never even USED?!")
One other point of interest is the wealthy's "charitable giving". It's more for show than anything. They never seem to give away enough to make it hurt. They use it as a way to gain respect from others, and climb some social ladder. For example, he interviewed one particularly annoying man who spoke repeatedly of his donations to charity. He said, "Oh, I just give and give and give. I just love helping other people. I just do it because I care so much, dang it." Then he added, "By the way, here is a list of all my recent charitable givings. You can publish them in your book. Actually, let me get you a spreadsheet of them so you get them all correct."
I had a professor at BYU I really liked. His name was Richard Johnson and he wrote a piece called "Wealth and Poverty". (Feel free to google it yourself, when I tried last time, it froze my computer and I lost this review.) It was very controversial. It boiled down to this: charity is not so much defined by how much you give away, but by how much you keep for yourself. You know, the widow's mite, like in the BIBLE. But people were seriously pissed off. Wealthy donors to BYU said they would not continue to contribute funds unless he was fired. Crazy stuff like that.
I agree with him. Giving a $10 million endowment to something, but keeping $2 billion leftover for yourself is not that impressive. And for your $10 million token, you get a building named in your honor, banquets for you, and news stories all over the community declaring you as awesome. Wouldn't you or I donate $100 for something like that? It's the equivalent for them. (According to some social theorists (I was a sociology major), the only true gift is an anonymous one. If you give it to someone and get the thanks and praise, you got something in return. The only way to really give a gift is to secretly do it and not get the credit. Kind of like parents wrap gifts for their kids and say Santa brought them, perhaps. Oh, wait. I guess they do get recognized, it's just delayed until the kids learn that their parents were Santa. Never mind!)
I realize how completely filled with blame I am. I am exactly like the richies in the book. I pay tithing and fast offerings. I donate to the Perpetual Education Fund and the church's Humanitarian Fund. But do I give enough to make it really hurt? Do I starve because of it? Couldn't the leftover food I toss out each year feed hundreds of people in another country? Hey, I didn't even give my kid anything for Christmas and pretend it was from Santa. (He was only a year old, anyways.) I did, however, find some toys he already had that I didn't think my mother in law had seen, and wrapped them up. I made sure he unwrapped them in front of her so that she wouldn't think I didn't get my kid anything for Christmas. She would've been mortified.
We are all too rich. We are all to greedy and dumb with our money. How depressing! Maybe I'll go rescue a cat from the shelter to feel better. Dale's out of town with the scouts, so he can't stop me. Ha ha!!!!!