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The Break Up Manual For Men: Recover From a Serious Break Up, Become Stronger and Get Your Ex Back
MAJOR UPDATE 2022 - READ THIS IF YOU WANT TO MAKE THIS THE BEST THING THAT EVER HAPPENED TO YOU.
End the Agonizing Pain of a Breakup, Reclaim Your Lost Masculine Power and Self Confidence and Discover the Secrets of How to Get Over a Breakup Faster and Use it as a Launchpad to Reinvent Your Life, Relationships and Pursue Your Dreams.
Guys, let’s face it - a breakup can suck! No one is IMMUNE to experiencing a broken relationship and the loss of love. It literally feels as though your heart has been torn out of your chest and ripped into pieces.
You can’t stop thinking about her, what you could, should or would do if you had another chance — even if the breakup occurred last week or years ago.
But the truth is… it’s over and she’s moved on!
So what can you do about it? It’s time to start fixing a broken heart and mend the pain of a break up!
The Breakup Manual For Men was born out of real heartbreak, and an urgent necessity to get over the loss and pain of a serious breakup. In this powerful book, relationship coach for men, Andrew Ferebee has distilled the essentials of his own success and life-changing work with men who have been blindsided by breakups into an easy-to-follow strategy that you can devour in as little as a day to get back on your feet.
This is not like typical breakup books for men.
You will leave behind all confusion, pain and heartbreak as he leads you through how to truly “Overcome, Heal and Recover” so you can become stronger, attract new women and have the confidence to start living again in the shortest time possible.
The result — one easy-to-read breakup book that reveals what you absolutely need to know when getting past your breakup. Inside you will
* Keys to experiencing acceptance of the breakup in a matter of weeks instead of years
* Proven method to avoid the pain of seeing her move on and speed up the recovery process
* How to end the fantasy of getting back together with your ex and move on for good
* 3 simple steps to regain your power so you no longer feel empty inside and loss without her
* Detailed guide to effectively handle the social media landscape after a breakup
* Exactly how to get over heartbreak and what to do to accept the loss and mend the pain
* How 5 stages of grief can help you cope with your emotions and accept where you are
* The hard-science of breaking down breakups and how you are going to thrive after healing a broken heart
* Demystifying the truth about why your ex has moved on and appears happy
* Unique and overlooked ways to control your anger over your ex moving on
* The facts on how long it takes to get over a breakup and when to start dating again
* Andrew’s 5 “can’t miss” non-negotiable rules to avoid slipping back into old self-destructive thoughts and behaviors
* A powerful 10 step weekly game plan to focus on growth, recovery and healing to quickly get back into life with more energy and aliveness
* How to channel your anger so you no longer feel like a victim but a hero with a purpose
* 6 ways to rebuild your life and improve it far beyond what you think you are capable of* (Optional) How to get your ex back the right way and co create a better relationship that lasts
* How to know when you are ready for a new relationship
Where will you be a week, a month or a year from now?
If all it took was $10 to get over a break up
End the Agonizing Pain of a Breakup, Reclaim Your Lost Masculine Power and Self Confidence and Discover the Secrets of How to Get Over a Breakup Faster and Use it as a Launchpad to Reinvent Your Life, Relationships and Pursue Your Dreams.
Guys, let’s face it - a breakup can suck! No one is IMMUNE to experiencing a broken relationship and the loss of love. It literally feels as though your heart has been torn out of your chest and ripped into pieces.
You can’t stop thinking about her, what you could, should or would do if you had another chance — even if the breakup occurred last week or years ago.
But the truth is… it’s over and she’s moved on!
So what can you do about it? It’s time to start fixing a broken heart and mend the pain of a break up!
The Breakup Manual For Men was born out of real heartbreak, and an urgent necessity to get over the loss and pain of a serious breakup. In this powerful book, relationship coach for men, Andrew Ferebee has distilled the essentials of his own success and life-changing work with men who have been blindsided by breakups into an easy-to-follow strategy that you can devour in as little as a day to get back on your feet.
This is not like typical breakup books for men.
You will leave behind all confusion, pain and heartbreak as he leads you through how to truly “Overcome, Heal and Recover” so you can become stronger, attract new women and have the confidence to start living again in the shortest time possible.
The result — one easy-to-read breakup book that reveals what you absolutely need to know when getting past your breakup. Inside you will
* Keys to experiencing acceptance of the breakup in a matter of weeks instead of years
* Proven method to avoid the pain of seeing her move on and speed up the recovery process
* How to end the fantasy of getting back together with your ex and move on for good
* 3 simple steps to regain your power so you no longer feel empty inside and loss without her
* Detailed guide to effectively handle the social media landscape after a breakup
* Exactly how to get over heartbreak and what to do to accept the loss and mend the pain
* How 5 stages of grief can help you cope with your emotions and accept where you are
* The hard-science of breaking down breakups and how you are going to thrive after healing a broken heart
* Demystifying the truth about why your ex has moved on and appears happy
* Unique and overlooked ways to control your anger over your ex moving on
* The facts on how long it takes to get over a breakup and when to start dating again
* Andrew’s 5 “can’t miss” non-negotiable rules to avoid slipping back into old self-destructive thoughts and behaviors
* A powerful 10 step weekly game plan to focus on growth, recovery and healing to quickly get back into life with more energy and aliveness
* How to channel your anger so you no longer feel like a victim but a hero with a purpose
* 6 ways to rebuild your life and improve it far beyond what you think you are capable of* (Optional) How to get your ex back the right way and co create a better relationship that lasts
* How to know when you are ready for a new relationship
Where will you be a week, a month or a year from now?
If all it took was $10 to get over a break up
180 pages, Kindle Edition
First published August 12, 2015
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September 28, 2026
Whatever happens, it happens!
These type of manuals are very helpful, I don't agree with some points where the author actually justifies porn and masturbation over one night stands because I feel both of the options are not good when you're facing a breakup phase in life.
Overall, it's okaiyshh, if you're deeply in pain then you might relate.
These type of manuals are very helpful, I don't agree with some points where the author actually justifies porn and masturbation over one night stands because I feel both of the options are not good when you're facing a breakup phase in life.
Overall, it's okaiyshh, if you're deeply in pain then you might relate.
March 20, 2017
Personal, helpful, concise, direct, informative. Ferebee isn't afraid to go deep into some taboo topics: contemplating suicide, porn and masturbation, human mortality. Pick it up once you're out of crisis mode, done wallowing in self-pity, and ready to move forward.
However, some of the suggestions are almost laughable when your "breakup" is actually a sudden divorce after over a decade of marriage and you have several children together:
- Avoid seeing her for a certain amount of time? Impossible. I have to see her almost daily because of the kids.
- More money to spend on myself and not on her? Not with the terms of our divorce settlement, no.
- Remove her from social media? Ok, but even if I could ignore her completely, I still have to field frequent, painful questions from the kids, talk my friends and family into being civil, and diplomatically interact with the now ex-in-laws.
The Bottom line... Once you can actually listen to Joy Division again without breaking down and sobbing, pick up this and a copy of Marcus Aurelius' "Meditations" for a much needed dose of real perspective. Stay calm, maintain a steady course, and remind yourself that everything is transitory.
However, some of the suggestions are almost laughable when your "breakup" is actually a sudden divorce after over a decade of marriage and you have several children together:
- Avoid seeing her for a certain amount of time? Impossible. I have to see her almost daily because of the kids.
- More money to spend on myself and not on her? Not with the terms of our divorce settlement, no.
- Remove her from social media? Ok, but even if I could ignore her completely, I still have to field frequent, painful questions from the kids, talk my friends and family into being civil, and diplomatically interact with the now ex-in-laws.
The Bottom line... Once you can actually listen to Joy Division again without breaking down and sobbing, pick up this and a copy of Marcus Aurelius' "Meditations" for a much needed dose of real perspective. Stay calm, maintain a steady course, and remind yourself that everything is transitory.
February 26, 2024
While the book does have good tips and insights into the male and female brains. I couldn’t shake the feeling that the whole premise was more in line with “gaslighting” and helping men become more of a “womanizer” than truly working on bettering yourself.
October 17, 2024
I know what Andrew is Talking about in the whole book. I just read this book because I wanted to get a glimpse of how man recover from a breakup and to be honest it's pretty much similar for both men and women. So, the Breakup Manual is not for just men but women too, so it's the break up manual for humans overall. I pretty much agree with Andrew except the chapter i.e. Understanding the biology of breakup. That chapter to me is flawed. Else the suggestion and practical guide the book offered is something you should apply and that's how you are supposed to deal with breakup and you should. It's the healthy way. I swear the breakup is an opportunity for everyone to heal from all their past and trauma and everything. So that your future family won't suffer from your negative patterns. Because by healing yourself you leave those patterns and get yourself out of the loop ♾️.
January 20, 2026
It really is a manual
This was one of if not the best book on breakups I’ve read. It’s not a step by step, it truly is a manual— guide on how to respond to a break up and not forcing us one way or another, but showing us the paths that we will eventually cross. Because the author has already navigated the speed bumps and hurdles.. he is informing us of the same speed bumps and hurdles we’ll eventually meet on our own path. However… in whatever we choose to do after a break up… Live.
This was one of if not the best book on breakups I’ve read. It’s not a step by step, it truly is a manual— guide on how to respond to a break up and not forcing us one way or another, but showing us the paths that we will eventually cross. Because the author has already navigated the speed bumps and hurdles.. he is informing us of the same speed bumps and hurdles we’ll eventually meet on our own path. However… in whatever we choose to do after a break up… Live.
February 8, 2021
Perfect guide for breakup recovery as title suggest
I am at my last stages of breakup recovery and i wish i could have read this book earlier. As my progress happened since my BREAKUP it was all well said in book already. And if you are at starting stage of your breakup i suggest you you should read it once and please importantly apply it to your daily life. It all in your heads. So get out of there and make it place where you can live peacefully. Happy reading.
I am at my last stages of breakup recovery and i wish i could have read this book earlier. As my progress happened since my BREAKUP it was all well said in book already. And if you are at starting stage of your breakup i suggest you you should read it once and please importantly apply it to your daily life. It all in your heads. So get out of there and make it place where you can live peacefully. Happy reading.
March 14, 2025
very good read
This was a good book that I decided to read. Men need to realize the true value of being a man in the relationship. This book gives you an abundance mindset vs scarcity mindset. Also tells you about finding the true value for wanting your ex back. It’s def a good read if your currently going thru a breakup. The best part of the book is when the author mentions your winning regardless of any decision your ex makes. Use this breakup as a chance to grow.
This was a good book that I decided to read. Men need to realize the true value of being a man in the relationship. This book gives you an abundance mindset vs scarcity mindset. Also tells you about finding the true value for wanting your ex back. It’s def a good read if your currently going thru a breakup. The best part of the book is when the author mentions your winning regardless of any decision your ex makes. Use this breakup as a chance to grow.
October 22, 2023
This book is a gem
This book will allow you to do 2 things at minimum:
1. Look at your ex differently
2. Look at yourself differently
You will get an understanding of her and her actions and how to handle the situation. The only thing you will need to do after reading this book is take action.
This book will allow you to do 2 things at minimum:
1. Look at your ex differently
2. Look at yourself differently
You will get an understanding of her and her actions and how to handle the situation. The only thing you will need to do after reading this book is take action.
June 8, 2020
Very useful information
Andrew Ferebee's book let's you prepare for moving on by focusing on yourself and the you aren't going be alone. Focus on improving yourself and good things will happen.
Andrew Ferebee's book let's you prepare for moving on by focusing on yourself and the you aren't going be alone. Focus on improving yourself and good things will happen.
July 7, 2020
Listened to the audiobook twice, and I have to say everything in this book is so accurate, it is insane how you can't really see clear when you're going through a breakup, but once you pick yourself up, you can walk into a room and light it up and people notice you.
September 16, 2023
A book about break ups that every man should read before his next relationship.
A great book to understand all the things you shouldn’t do immediately following a break up. Read it before it’s too late.
A great book to understand all the things you shouldn’t do immediately following a break up. Read it before it’s too late.
August 23, 2024
Excellent Read.it helped my realize that I'll be just fine
I liked the tone and precision that this title is written with. Its given me a plan of actions after the end of a 4 year relationship.
I liked the tone and precision that this title is written with. Its given me a plan of actions after the end of a 4 year relationship.
July 25, 2017
Great
This book pushed me to do the things I was already doing before the relationship and break up. I will get back into the gym and improving myself every day.
This book pushed me to do the things I was already doing before the relationship and break up. I will get back into the gym and improving myself every day.
October 7, 2018
Helpful
I loved it , helped me soo much. I will recommend this book. Keep up the work. Thank you soo much
I loved it , helped me soo much. I will recommend this book. Keep up the work. Thank you soo much
May 25, 2019
Short but powerful
Just what I needed right now. Going to work this process and reinvent myself starting now. Thank you for this tool.
Just what I needed right now. Going to work this process and reinvent myself starting now. Thank you for this tool.
June 16, 2020
Amazing
Quick and practice steps to follow after a break up to come up stronger and a better man . Read this book if you going to hard times after a brake up with your partner .
Quick and practice steps to follow after a break up to come up stronger and a better man . Read this book if you going to hard times after a brake up with your partner .
June 20, 2020
Good read
Good lay out and straight to the point. I will read this a few more times before returning it. Thanks.
Good lay out and straight to the point. I will read this a few more times before returning it. Thanks.
July 11, 2020
It's a compilation of blog posts. I do find it helpful for someone desperate or deep into depression.
It is quite simple and straight to the point.
It is quite simple and straight to the point.
November 9, 2020
Helped me a lot.
I know many of the things in there but it’s a good reminder mixed with empathy needed from a man to a man.
I know many of the things in there but it’s a good reminder mixed with empathy needed from a man to a man.
May 19, 2022
More of a blog post than a book... Simple, motivating words but nothing mind blowing here, still helpful content if you feel stuck.
July 18, 2023
so helpful!
So helpful, perfect timing too. This may have been a life changing read for me, thank you so much Andrew!
So helpful, perfect timing too. This may have been a life changing read for me, thank you so much Andrew!
July 30, 2023
Helpful book 😭
September 8, 2023
didn’t work
January 7, 2024
I'm able to let go my 8 year relationship after 5 years of separation/divorce.
December 31, 2024
I wouldn’t say it’s all the pieces of the puzzle you might be trying to solve. There are usual perspectives, and analogies though.
July 6, 2025
excellent
Thoughtful, informative and connects the dots for men who have experienced a breakup. Great read and tangible takeaways. Highly recommend!
Thoughtful, informative and connects the dots for men who have experienced a breakup. Great read and tangible takeaways. Highly recommend!
August 25, 2026
Once I saw “Watch porn every day for three months” I knew this wasn’t for me..
August 10, 2025
I’m not gonna write a review now as I discovered this before I discovered good reads but on my book the title says”… and get your ex back (if you want). I think the “if you want” part is really important and this book is great for men who don’t want their wives back also I can’t say if the getting your ex back part works lol.
September 18, 2020
Good and valuable advice. The linked resources are more helpful
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