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The Choice Wine: 7 Steps to a Superabundant Marriage
God doesn't want your marriage to simply survive. He wants it to be superabundant. Indeed, Christ's first public miracle was to bring joy to a young couple when he turned approximately 150 gallons of ordinary water into the choicest of wines. The Choice 7 Steps to a Superabundant Marriage moves well beyond divorce-proofing your marriage to place a happier, healthier, and wealthier future within your grasp. Follow Steve Bollman on an amazing journey as he integrates the latest findings from modern science with the wisdom of the ages and a little common sense to expand your vision of marriage, including - the neurological research revealing the reality that husband and wife truly ''become one,''
- the medical science indicating that the human person transcends the limits of the visible world, and
- the neurological reality that spouses are driven to be profoundly merciful to each other. Along the way, you'll hear amazing stories destined to touch your - the Nobel Laureate in Medicine who witnessed two instantaneous miracles,
- the mother whose prayers transformed the heart of a mafia enforcer, and
- a very special couple who reveals the power of love to transcend the limits of this world to have a foretaste of Paradise. The Choice Wine will help you experience the superabundant joy intended for marriage from the beginning.
- the medical science indicating that the human person transcends the limits of the visible world, and
- the neurological reality that spouses are driven to be profoundly merciful to each other. Along the way, you'll hear amazing stories destined to touch your - the Nobel Laureate in Medicine who witnessed two instantaneous miracles,
- the mother whose prayers transformed the heart of a mafia enforcer, and
- a very special couple who reveals the power of love to transcend the limits of this world to have a foretaste of Paradise. The Choice Wine will help you experience the superabundant joy intended for marriage from the beginning.
228 pages, Paperback
First published February 9, 2016
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January 3, 2024
This was a great read for our couples Bible study! Sparked alot of great conversations. Great for newly married couples in their first years. Fantastic reminders of the true meaning of marriage. ❤️
February 2, 2016
I received a copy of The Choice Wine from NetGalley in exchange for an honest review.
I just finished this book, and made Sean, my husband, stop everything and listen to me ramble. Well, I didn't make him - he's my Book Buddy even though he doesn't read. Usually, I wait until the next day unless the book is a show stopper.
This book is more than a show stopper. How am I getting all of these amazing books in a row? 2016 is my year for reading, I think. I'll take it!
Let me start off by saying that myself, Sean and my parents (I talk about them a lot, I know) call ourselves Christian Scientists. My mom is a devout Catholic; my dad and I are Lutheran and Sean is Lutheran. This has resulted in us all becoming non-denominational, following Christ and the Bible, but not a specific sect. Above all, we try (and fail at times) to follow Christ's two major teachings - love as He loved; and do not judge. We base our lives on this.
We are also crazy about science. My first book that I bought on my own was a cat encyclopedia when I was 7. I am 30 now and the majority of what I buy is science based. That is 95% of what I watch on TV. My parents are the same way and I was raised with a lot of acceptance (I was Atheist for many years) and anything I was into, my parents supported and were involved in (well, they never became Atheist. They never judged me though and let me find my own path). Sean's journey has been very different, and has really blossomed in his scientific knowledge, and came to a relationship with God on his own about two years ago.
Of course, you see the problem here, as Christian people can't support science - that's what the common belief is. Our family has never found it hard and can see the parallels with Christianity and science. However, we have done more research than most people take the time to do. I encourage you to do the research if you haven't, with an open mind.
The Choice Wine does not only give you 7 very well planned, well explained ways to a superabundant marriage. No, that's not just what you will get here. You will get Scripture, of course. But you are also going to get science. A lot of science. When I first realized how in-depth Mr. Bollman goes in this book, I silent-screamed for joy (it was 4am, Sean was asleep).
Now, I have certifications in 35 areas of study. 33 of them are either science or religion. I consider myself well educated on these subjects. I will absolutely vouch for this book and everything in it. There are no inconsistencies, made up facts, or science that contradicts itself. Scripture is the same way in this one. They are easily intertwined, and Mr. Bollman clearly explains how and why. Even if you are not well-versed in any of this, I believe you will understand it. He explains it that well.
Mr. Bollman chats with you. He does not tell you things in the sense of a lecture. He chats with you with humor, some sad facts, and wonderful ideas. You will learn about him and his wife, and his in-laws (one of my favorite parts). I know this can put people off, and it does sometimes for me. However, I really enjoyed that part of the book. It was just so cool!
But, what about the steps? I know you are wondering. Well, I am divorced from my first husband. That's a long story, but had I not left, myself and my twin Siamese cats, Rhett and Diesel, would be dead. I married Sean - he saved my life, literally. If not for him, I would not be here, and neither would my twins.
Sean and I have an amazing marriage. God answered my prayers with Sean, He really did. Sean and I both believe there is always room to improve and we really love trying new things. He's a bit skeptical of relationship help books, as are most people. I read the 7 steps to him, and he was impressed and liked them. He wants to discuss them further, when it is not 5am. That says a lot, because I've read the same thing over and over in a lot of books. These 7 steps are something new, however. You won't find this stuff in your everyday relationship help book.
I believe these steps are crucial and can help any couple. The chapters on the steps are not short, so I am thinking that whoever reads this will get a clear and concise explanation of what to do, how to do it and how it correlates to not only their personal lives but the world around us.
So, you don't believe in God. Now what? I really, truly think that you can still read this and get a lot out of it. Mr. Bollman did not write this book to make money or to just write a book. It is crystal clear that he wants to help couples out there. It is alarming what is happening to marriages in America. We're not doing so well, you guys. Divorce is used so often as an out without fixing things. Take it from me - regardless of the reason I left my first marriage, divorce hurts. It changes you and tears you open. You have to itemize your entire life - every single thing you own. I had to put a value on Rhett and Diesel (for those wondering, I wrote priceless and it held up in court). What are you willing to give up? Something has to go. I was willing to give up everything I owned - all of it - except Rhett and Diesel. Today, Rhett and Diesel are asleep at the end of my bed. I fought for them, and they're mine. Do you want to go through that, or is your marriage important enough to you in your heart to fix (I, of course, am not referring to abusive relationships. Please, if this is you, get help immediately). Sean and I promised each other that no matter what, we're here forever. We're going to work on anything and everything if need be. We've had our fair share of trials, but we have that promise and we honor it.
We're all in different places in our relationships. Are you just dating? Are you single? Maybe you are married or almost married. Wherever you are, this book can help you - even if you think you don't need help. The 7 steps go beyond just 7 steps. There are ideas in ideas, thoughts on top of thoughts. And, it is all backed up by science and Scripture. There really is something in here for everyone in any situation.
I had to stop reading for a few days due to the blizzard coming to Wisco. We had a bunch of stuff to do, but during that time, I could not stop thinking about this book. When I did read it, I flew through it. I couldn't stop reading. I am actually sad that it's over. I didn't want it to end. Not just because of the 7 steps. It was Mr. Bollman's writing style. It was Riley (who is Riley? You will get to know). I loved hearing about Rose Mary. Shelly sounds like an amazing woman. And Mr. Bollman himself truly seems like a person that we could all take advice from. He really does know what he's talking about.
There is a plethora of these books out there. We all know that. This one truly stands out among them as a diamond. It helps and it does not judge you. Wherever you are in your relationship and whatever you believe, you can read this one. Please, don't be put off by the Christan aspect of it. Give this one a chance, it is phenomenal and a treasure to have in your collection.
I just finished this book, and made Sean, my husband, stop everything and listen to me ramble. Well, I didn't make him - he's my Book Buddy even though he doesn't read. Usually, I wait until the next day unless the book is a show stopper.
This book is more than a show stopper. How am I getting all of these amazing books in a row? 2016 is my year for reading, I think. I'll take it!
Let me start off by saying that myself, Sean and my parents (I talk about them a lot, I know) call ourselves Christian Scientists. My mom is a devout Catholic; my dad and I are Lutheran and Sean is Lutheran. This has resulted in us all becoming non-denominational, following Christ and the Bible, but not a specific sect. Above all, we try (and fail at times) to follow Christ's two major teachings - love as He loved; and do not judge. We base our lives on this.
We are also crazy about science. My first book that I bought on my own was a cat encyclopedia when I was 7. I am 30 now and the majority of what I buy is science based. That is 95% of what I watch on TV. My parents are the same way and I was raised with a lot of acceptance (I was Atheist for many years) and anything I was into, my parents supported and were involved in (well, they never became Atheist. They never judged me though and let me find my own path). Sean's journey has been very different, and has really blossomed in his scientific knowledge, and came to a relationship with God on his own about two years ago.
Of course, you see the problem here, as Christian people can't support science - that's what the common belief is. Our family has never found it hard and can see the parallels with Christianity and science. However, we have done more research than most people take the time to do. I encourage you to do the research if you haven't, with an open mind.
The Choice Wine does not only give you 7 very well planned, well explained ways to a superabundant marriage. No, that's not just what you will get here. You will get Scripture, of course. But you are also going to get science. A lot of science. When I first realized how in-depth Mr. Bollman goes in this book, I silent-screamed for joy (it was 4am, Sean was asleep).
Now, I have certifications in 35 areas of study. 33 of them are either science or religion. I consider myself well educated on these subjects. I will absolutely vouch for this book and everything in it. There are no inconsistencies, made up facts, or science that contradicts itself. Scripture is the same way in this one. They are easily intertwined, and Mr. Bollman clearly explains how and why. Even if you are not well-versed in any of this, I believe you will understand it. He explains it that well.
Mr. Bollman chats with you. He does not tell you things in the sense of a lecture. He chats with you with humor, some sad facts, and wonderful ideas. You will learn about him and his wife, and his in-laws (one of my favorite parts). I know this can put people off, and it does sometimes for me. However, I really enjoyed that part of the book. It was just so cool!
But, what about the steps? I know you are wondering. Well, I am divorced from my first husband. That's a long story, but had I not left, myself and my twin Siamese cats, Rhett and Diesel, would be dead. I married Sean - he saved my life, literally. If not for him, I would not be here, and neither would my twins.
Sean and I have an amazing marriage. God answered my prayers with Sean, He really did. Sean and I both believe there is always room to improve and we really love trying new things. He's a bit skeptical of relationship help books, as are most people. I read the 7 steps to him, and he was impressed and liked them. He wants to discuss them further, when it is not 5am. That says a lot, because I've read the same thing over and over in a lot of books. These 7 steps are something new, however. You won't find this stuff in your everyday relationship help book.
I believe these steps are crucial and can help any couple. The chapters on the steps are not short, so I am thinking that whoever reads this will get a clear and concise explanation of what to do, how to do it and how it correlates to not only their personal lives but the world around us.
So, you don't believe in God. Now what? I really, truly think that you can still read this and get a lot out of it. Mr. Bollman did not write this book to make money or to just write a book. It is crystal clear that he wants to help couples out there. It is alarming what is happening to marriages in America. We're not doing so well, you guys. Divorce is used so often as an out without fixing things. Take it from me - regardless of the reason I left my first marriage, divorce hurts. It changes you and tears you open. You have to itemize your entire life - every single thing you own. I had to put a value on Rhett and Diesel (for those wondering, I wrote priceless and it held up in court). What are you willing to give up? Something has to go. I was willing to give up everything I owned - all of it - except Rhett and Diesel. Today, Rhett and Diesel are asleep at the end of my bed. I fought for them, and they're mine. Do you want to go through that, or is your marriage important enough to you in your heart to fix (I, of course, am not referring to abusive relationships. Please, if this is you, get help immediately). Sean and I promised each other that no matter what, we're here forever. We're going to work on anything and everything if need be. We've had our fair share of trials, but we have that promise and we honor it.
We're all in different places in our relationships. Are you just dating? Are you single? Maybe you are married or almost married. Wherever you are, this book can help you - even if you think you don't need help. The 7 steps go beyond just 7 steps. There are ideas in ideas, thoughts on top of thoughts. And, it is all backed up by science and Scripture. There really is something in here for everyone in any situation.
I had to stop reading for a few days due to the blizzard coming to Wisco. We had a bunch of stuff to do, but during that time, I could not stop thinking about this book. When I did read it, I flew through it. I couldn't stop reading. I am actually sad that it's over. I didn't want it to end. Not just because of the 7 steps. It was Mr. Bollman's writing style. It was Riley (who is Riley? You will get to know). I loved hearing about Rose Mary. Shelly sounds like an amazing woman. And Mr. Bollman himself truly seems like a person that we could all take advice from. He really does know what he's talking about.
There is a plethora of these books out there. We all know that. This one truly stands out among them as a diamond. It helps and it does not judge you. Wherever you are in your relationship and whatever you believe, you can read this one. Please, don't be put off by the Christan aspect of it. Give this one a chance, it is phenomenal and a treasure to have in your collection.
March 21, 2024
This book was a fantastic Linton companion for my husband and I. I highly recommend it to any couple married or on their way to marriage. This book is a gift.
August 23, 2016
A book of seven principles which tend to lead to robust marriages.
The author speaks highly of his in-laws, who in a figure are present throughout the "discussion" in the book; his father-in-law's advice for a good life and marriage, "sit in church with your family every Sunday and have dinner with your family every night," is the catalyst for the rest of the book. The book revolves around 7 principles for a "superabundant" marriage: honor the wedding vows both before and during the marriage (avoiding sexual immorality), maintain healthy financial principles (avoid debt, give to others), give God time (participate in religion, relationship with God), set one's mind on things above (study, prayer, and Scripture, although with an unhealthy dependence on secular science in the book), finding God in yourself (personal faith development, observance of moral code), finding God in others (developing relationships, treating others with dignity and respect), and extension of mercy to facilitate the good and not the bad.
The principles are sound (with the noted concern about science). The author gives one of the more creative attempts to reconcile the story of Genesis 1 with modern views regarding the age of the universe.
The author seems to be Roman Catholic and that influences much of what is seen in the book, including the desire to reconcile faith and science. His examples are often from Catholicism or Orthodoxy; he attempts to use the "Holy Family" as an example a bit too often, presumes them to be Christian as opposed to Jewish, and makes much of Paradise and the theology around it. Original sin and Catholic views of Mary are also introduced.
I personally found the imposed structure of the work in terms of a conversation going on with the in-laws (who passed some time back, as told at the end of the book) to be a bit grating, attempts to "prove" the benefits of which he speaks with scientific data a bit distracting, and in general something which would speak more to a Catholic audience than a more generic Christian one. Yet, in general, good reminders for how we are to conduct ourselves in marriage.
**--galley received as part of early review program
The author speaks highly of his in-laws, who in a figure are present throughout the "discussion" in the book; his father-in-law's advice for a good life and marriage, "sit in church with your family every Sunday and have dinner with your family every night," is the catalyst for the rest of the book. The book revolves around 7 principles for a "superabundant" marriage: honor the wedding vows both before and during the marriage (avoiding sexual immorality), maintain healthy financial principles (avoid debt, give to others), give God time (participate in religion, relationship with God), set one's mind on things above (study, prayer, and Scripture, although with an unhealthy dependence on secular science in the book), finding God in yourself (personal faith development, observance of moral code), finding God in others (developing relationships, treating others with dignity and respect), and extension of mercy to facilitate the good and not the bad.
The principles are sound (with the noted concern about science). The author gives one of the more creative attempts to reconcile the story of Genesis 1 with modern views regarding the age of the universe.
The author seems to be Roman Catholic and that influences much of what is seen in the book, including the desire to reconcile faith and science. His examples are often from Catholicism or Orthodoxy; he attempts to use the "Holy Family" as an example a bit too often, presumes them to be Christian as opposed to Jewish, and makes much of Paradise and the theology around it. Original sin and Catholic views of Mary are also introduced.
I personally found the imposed structure of the work in terms of a conversation going on with the in-laws (who passed some time back, as told at the end of the book) to be a bit grating, attempts to "prove" the benefits of which he speaks with scientific data a bit distracting, and in general something which would speak more to a Catholic audience than a more generic Christian one. Yet, in general, good reminders for how we are to conduct ourselves in marriage.
**--galley received as part of early review program
March 8, 2016
So basically I was surprised to find what this book was. Not gonna lie I thought I was getting a book about wine and things couples could do together to keep the marriage alive while incorporating that wine. It was not that at all but still a fairly decent read. There was much research that went into The Choice Wine: 7 Steps to a Superabundant Marriage by Steve Bollman and it's all in the book with notes...bible passages...charts...and sectioned articles. It is most definitely a guide for those seeking to make their marriage stronger in love through Christ. I have a blog..and I go a bit deeper in my thoughts... https://dalaimommasreadingdrama.wordp...
Again...this was not what I thought it was going to be but still a decent read because it serves as a guide to a stronger marriage if that is something you are seeking. Plenty of research...plenty of tips, tidbits and stories of motivation and inspiration. Of course I recommend this book...I almost always do...check it out and give your own interpretations on it.
As always thanks to the wonderful peeps at goodreads and to Steve Bollman for my free copy of this book in exchange for an honest review to which I gladly and voluntarily gave.
Again...this was not what I thought it was going to be but still a decent read because it serves as a guide to a stronger marriage if that is something you are seeking. Plenty of research...plenty of tips, tidbits and stories of motivation and inspiration. Of course I recommend this book...I almost always do...check it out and give your own interpretations on it.
As always thanks to the wonderful peeps at goodreads and to Steve Bollman for my free copy of this book in exchange for an honest review to which I gladly and voluntarily gave.
March 15, 2016
I received a digital copy of "The Choice Wine" from NetGalley in exchange for an honest review. Books have been popping up in my emails daily & many are catching my eye. Lots of non-fiction at this time.
The book is well written, clearly by a man who knows what he is talking about. The chapters have "stories", if you will, about his in-laws, Riley & Rose Mary, which are wonderful to read. Everyone has a couple they know in their lives (older, grandparents, married forever). Mr. Bollman does not "preach" at you, nor condescend. He simply states the main idea of the chapter, & then supports it with his finds.
The science & charts parts, I found a bit daunting, but that is not my "thing". They didn't take away from his book, in fact, they add to his credibility. Of course the book is filled with Scripture, which, being a practicing Catholic, I knew. He does a nice job tying it all together.
The book is well written, clearly by a man who knows what he is talking about. The chapters have "stories", if you will, about his in-laws, Riley & Rose Mary, which are wonderful to read. Everyone has a couple they know in their lives (older, grandparents, married forever). Mr. Bollman does not "preach" at you, nor condescend. He simply states the main idea of the chapter, & then supports it with his finds.
The science & charts parts, I found a bit daunting, but that is not my "thing". They didn't take away from his book, in fact, they add to his credibility. Of course the book is filled with Scripture, which, being a practicing Catholic, I knew. He does a nice job tying it all together.
April 4, 2016
I received a copy of The Choice Wine from NetGalley in exchange for an honest review. This is a book that provides a 7 step spiritual plan for married couples that is practical and achievable.
Steve begins the book by introducing himself as a man who was about to get married. He goes to his friends in hopes that they will impart some wisdom on him as to how to have a great marriage. He in turn was told stories of unhappy marriages, infidelity or at least desired infidelity. Not one friend claimed to have a happy marriage. Steve gives you his thoughts on the seven steps he believes you need to have a Superabundant marriage (loosely based on his father in laws advice), but mixes those thoughts with Biblical truth, brain behavior, well-researched stats, and scientific facts.
This book was harder to read than most marriage books, but well worth the effort it took.
Steve begins the book by introducing himself as a man who was about to get married. He goes to his friends in hopes that they will impart some wisdom on him as to how to have a great marriage. He in turn was told stories of unhappy marriages, infidelity or at least desired infidelity. Not one friend claimed to have a happy marriage. Steve gives you his thoughts on the seven steps he believes you need to have a Superabundant marriage (loosely based on his father in laws advice), but mixes those thoughts with Biblical truth, brain behavior, well-researched stats, and scientific facts.
This book was harder to read than most marriage books, but well worth the effort it took.
September 24, 2017
I received a copy of this book from NetGalley in exchange for my review.
I enjoyed this book. It gave great steps to follow to help make your marriage, or keep it, superabundant. Some were very simple and common sense steps following along with your vows. I think it would make a great couple's read for those wanting to strengthen their marriage. Or even if the right leader uses it, it could make a good couples bible study.
Thank you again NetGalley and Greenleaf Book Group Press for this opportunity.
You can also find this review with others on my blog
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I enjoyed this book. It gave great steps to follow to help make your marriage, or keep it, superabundant. Some were very simple and common sense steps following along with your vows. I think it would make a great couple's read for those wanting to strengthen their marriage. Or even if the right leader uses it, it could make a good couples bible study.
Thank you again NetGalley and Greenleaf Book Group Press for this opportunity.
You can also find this review with others on my blog
https://mcdawnreviews.wordpress.com/2...
April 1, 2016
3.5- Good, practical advice. A bit repetitive at times, but that's because the advice is good! I liked the graphs and data that are shown in each chapter. I also liked the anecdotes from the author's personal life/in-laws. Not too huge a fan of the science chapter... I love science but the way he explained the Biblical origin of the world matching up with the Big Bang theory is not how I see it at all. Aside from that, it's definitely worth a read.
Thanks Netgalley for the ARC!
Thanks Netgalley for the ARC!
March 23, 2016
Excellent book for couples and engaged couples
This book is an amazing read on the Catholic faith and marriage. The ties between the garden of eden an Christ's suffering and death really made me think. This book not only needs to be read by married couples, but also by those engaged. I plan to get my children copies when they are getting to an age.
This book is an amazing read on the Catholic faith and marriage. The ties between the garden of eden an Christ's suffering and death really made me think. This book not only needs to be read by married couples, but also by those engaged. I plan to get my children copies when they are getting to an age.
July 12, 2016
If you can get over/through the kitchyiness of the Riley factor, this book is pretty interesting. The science behind what used to be common sense, as well as some new things I hadn't know (like bending time and the seven days of Creation actually being how old the Earth is). Interesting stuff Imm glad to have found and read.
March 14, 2016
I liked this book. I think it helps in explaining how to have a superabundant marriage. It also tells how to have a superabundant life. I appreciate Netgallery letting me read this book. I want to get a copy to place in my church library.
February 13, 2016
This book is for couples, either newly married or in a long term marriage. It combines spirituality and 7 steps for success.
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