Memoir Review
Bobby Estell, otherwise known as Bobby Bones, is a very popular country radio host who, despite having been given a very rough start to life, was able to make something of his situation and achieve his dreams. Bones’ book, Bare Bones, gives an in depth look in to his life from growing up in a small town in Arkansas to becoming the image of country radio in the United States. The book is called Bare Bones, because it gives a very bare and raw account of his life. It is a very fitting title for a memoir such as this. Bones is very revealing when informing the audience how his life was a lot harsher than a typical life would play out. His mother was very young when he was born, and this caused a snowball effect of other problems that set Bones back for many years to come. Bones had no one pushing him to achieve anything, and was continually beat down by his peers. Even with this early setback, he continued to pursue a career in radio and successfully achieved that goal. He came from nothing, but with motivation and passion was able to achieve his dreams.
Since Bones’ mother was only sixteen when she gave birth to him, she had to fight early on to support herself and a young boy. She could not keep a job for a long period of time and eventually turned to alcohol to wash her troubles away. She was addicted, and nothing that Bones did could make her turn away from this horrible condition. “A couple years before she died, I went back to her trailer outside of Mountain Pine to visit her (she never came to visit me in Austin) and found her passed out on the couch with an empty bottle of mouthwash right next to her. She was drunk on mouthwash because she couldn’t afford booze. That was a terrible moment for me. I was faced with the reality of how low my mom had fallen, and saw with stark clarity that her life was consumed by drinking” (Bones 120). This habit of hers began because of never being able to make anything of herself. She was never given the chance. This addiction also affected Bones’ life in many ways. Since his mother spent what little money she had on alcohol, Bones was stuck sleeping on the couch for his entire childhood since they could not afford a house big enough for Bones to have his own room. He also never had money for anything that a typical child or teenager might want money for. He could not afford school supplies, clothes, dates, or even food most of the time. They lived off of food stamps, which really embarrassed Bones. “I dreaded going to the Piggly Wiggly or Food 4 Less because I knew at some point Mom was going to have to take out the heap of brightly colored construction paper they called food stamps back then... We were basically screaming, ‘Here we are with our construction paper money. That’s right, we’re poor!’ Counting off the stamps at the cash register was humiliating” (Bones 9). The fact of being poor is mentioned many times. It is the most common theme that can be traced throughout Bones’ memoir. It was something that really affected him, because he did not like people feeling sorry for him. He does not like being the center of attention, but when you are the poorest kid on the block, you tend to get noticed a lot.
Bobby Bones was also noticed a lot due to his small stature. He did not hit his growth spurt until he was a senior in high school, so he was, in simpler terms, a shrimp. He tried not to let this get in his way, however. In high school, he played football despite being the smallest kid on the team. This led to many years of bullying and hazing, but he still did not let that stop him from trying to be better than he was. “If I had to describe my life in three words, it would be these: Fight. Grind. Repeat” (Bones 107). These three words are chosen very ingeniously to describe his life. After reading his memoir and all the adversities he faced, I agree with this choice. Everyday, Bones had to fight, grind, and repeat to achieve his dreams of becoming a radio host, and that dream started when he was five years old.
On his fifth birthday, Bones’ mother contacted the local radio station and persuaded them to wish her son a happy birthday. It was only a sentence that lasted a couple seconds, but it completely changed his life. For the next couple of years, he would make routine visits to the station and they would allow him to say a couple of words live on the radio. This fueled his passion and eventually he became a full-time radio host of the station for the night. When he went to college, Bobby gained another night show at the local station near his college. These night shows gave him the experience needed to move to Nashville, Tennessee, and take control of the country radio station there. Now, he has a full team of his closest friends and the most popular country radio show in the United States.
Bobby Bones has always tried to be authentic. One of the reasons his radio show is so popular is due to the fact that he always gives his audience a real, unscripted account of everything that goes on. He comes up with topics, and without his friends having prior knowledge of them, presents the topics to them. Doing so gives his show an authenticity that other radio shows don’t have. His producers thought he was crazy at first, but look where he is now. This attempt at authenticity reflects in Bones’ writing. All accounts of events in the memoir are very authentic. This gives the reader a sense of closeness and relatability to Bones’ that you do not feel reading memoirs from other authors. Even if you cannot relate to Bones’ life story, somehow you feel like you can due to how real it all is. It is an aspect of the memoir that I very much enjoyed while reading.
The style of the memoir is very different from other memoirs and books that I have read. Bones’ has a tendency to insert in parenthesis “clarification” notes. He does this throughout the whole memoir and I have never seen any other writers do this as much as Bones does. In the first hundred pages, I counted there to be seventy-two of these clarifications. That means almost seventy-two percent of the pages had some sort of note to help you understand what he is talking about. The pages that did not have any parenthesis were accounted for by other pages that had multiple clarifications on them. Personally, I found this to be a distracting. I believe he should have just gotten to the point instead of adding all the notes. Usually the notes were unnecessary information, or they could have easily been added to the sentence. This, however, is just Bones’ writing style. Remember, he is not a writer. He is a radio host, so he deserves some credit for finding the time to write the memoir in the first place with his crazy schedule.
Among the stylistic choices of the memoir is the tone that Bones chooses to use. Despite it being a sad story about all the challenges that Bones faced and the short straw he was given at birth, the memoir retains a happy, motivated tone. At times, you feel sorry for him, but for the most part Bones writes so you forget about his adversities and remember his accomplishments. This could be due to the fact that Bones continually overcomes his misfortunes and becomes successful in his life, but the motivating tone makes the reader want to pursue their passions as well and overcome their hardships.
Despite some stylistic choices that deter from the understanding of the memoir as a whole, the book is well written and is very good at helping the reader understand who Bobby Bones is and what he has gone through to be where he is now. Every person can read Bare Bones and be assured that no matter what adversities you are faced in life, anyone can achieve their dreams with hard work. Bones is living proof that even if you come from nothing, you can accomplish your dreams as long as you have motivation and passion.