who is the book for? couples making a first consideration at BDSM to enhance their relationship. This is a tip book for those who limited knowledge of BDSM practices but one or both partner has a BDSM fantasy. Ms. Burdak tells the reader how to start and eventually create BDSM play. Her method is to develop a scene that might be typical to a fantasy that the couple agree upon, assemble the necessary costumes and toys and get into character. She also explains safety issues when using wax play, shibari and rope bondage, blindfolds, hoods, whips and floggers. The book has advice on finding instruction, demonstrations, education on techniques and where to meet like-minded people (have you heard of a bdsm cruise?).