i found this book while i was googling specific yiddish phrases and immediately knew i would have issues with it after reading the first few pages on google books. this would be a pretty unremarkable, run of the mill shapeshifter urban fantasy/romance, complete with destined mates and insta-love. it was for the most part competently written. however, my issue is with the main character's religion (or lack thereof) and the fact that christine warren really doesn't fucking understand judaism and shouldn't be writing about it.
the first "issue" that i noticed was the way kylie uses yiddish in the book. no one actually uses yiddish like that. there are, of course, communities who speak yiddish regularly, as a first language--see any number of hasidic neighborhoods in new york, for example, or lakewood, and also there are yiddish speaking communities that remain in europe. however, the way kylie would have learned it--from her grandmother, in pieces, would NOT have her speaking the way that she does in the book. kylie's first language is english, and while many jewish people do use some yiddish words in their speech (drek, schlub, etc.--all of those in the place of another word would be normal) i have yet to meet someone who uses yiddish the way kylie does, throwing random words or phrases in there for flavor. no one would use a yiddish phrase in her thoughts and then immediately translate it into english afterward! it just sounds weird, awkward, and wrong. and she gets it wrong a lot of the time, too. while it would make sense (barely) for kylie to call her male cat bubbeleh (it's a term of endearment that means little grandmother and is used mostly for women), she definitely wouldn't call him bubbee, which just flat-out means grandmother. then there's the fact that most of her dialogue is just lifted straight from online lists of yiddish proverbs--there's more to the language than spouting proverbs like a fortune cookie. further, there is no indication that esther is a hasid (especially if her son married outside of the religion and she's apparently cool withat, or with stumbling on her beloved granddaughter shaking up with a goy), or that she's an immigrant, or that she speaks yiddish as a first language in her day-to-day-life. idk. there's just so many layers of grossness about this entire thing--even down to warren noting that esther's HARSH NEW YORK (read: jewish) ACCENT has been SOFTENED BY LIVING IN CONNECTICUT FOR FIFTY YEARS, oh, of course, except when she's angry.
but that's the problem that i had with the book--kylie's jewishness isn't real jewishness, it's set dressing. her jewishness is a chance for warren to play around with a culture and a religion that's not hers--for flavor, for entertainment--but it's so goddamn clear from reading the book that she has no clue what she's talking about, and it's incredibly offensive. i was keeping notes as i read, and the issues are legion and mount quickly. as a first note, no matter how close kylie was to bran, any comment about her sitting shiva for him was inappropriate. she would not sit shiva for him--as close as they are, he is not her family (AND NOT EVEN JEWISH!) and it would be inappropriate for her to even be joking about sitting for him. those who are classed as "mourners" in the sense that they would be sitting shiva are generally spouses, siblings, and children. no one else. similarly, a comment about kylie's bubbe sitting shiva for her is wrong--although esther would certainly mourn for her, it would not be her place to sit. that honor and responsibility would go to kylie's father.
then there's the fact that kylie isn't "really" jewish, per the character's own thoughts. she is half jewish on her father's side. as noted, judaism is passed down through the maternal side. depending on what sect of judaism the family practices, a child born to a jewish father with a gentile mother would not be considered jewish and would actually have to convert. as of the 1980s, reform judaism accepts children who are jewish through their father--so if she was a reform jew, she would consider herself jewish. HOWEVER, despite all of the flavors of jewishness tacked onto her, despite her connection to her grandmother, all of the references--warren makes it clear that kylie herself does not consider herself jewish! there is actually a conversation where she states that "because she is not a practicing jew, she's not jewish." i say bullshit. there are thousands (probably hundreds of thousands) of jews out there who don't practice, but who still consider themselves jewish. it's called secular judaism and it's a Big Thing, especially among people of kylie's demographic (young, smart, urban). it's not something you can stop being, even if you are not actively going to synagogue. most people i know who have one jewish parent still consider themselves jewish, still think of themselves as jewish, whether they are practicing or not. it's more than just a religion: it's a community. that's why i find this entire thing so offensive. warren wants to use the references and the language, but she can't take the risk to have the character actually be jewish and actively practicing, or have a real connection to her religion beyond the superficial cultural trappings that she can't even get right anyway. would that have been too much effort? she clearly put in some cursory research but not enough thought.
the other problem is that she clearly a) doesn't understand a jewish mindset and b) her research was only cursory and she didn't bother to talk to an actual jewish person before filing it. otherwise, some of the extremely offensive things that made their way into the book wouldn't have been kept in. for example, kylie says that she is half jewish, and that her father is a jew but her mother is just a capitalist (the implication being, i guess, that jews are rich capitalists? if that wasn't her intent, this was a bad way to phrase it. idk, i would have given this a pass from a jewish author but coming from a goy this sort of stereotypical shit is just gross). other things that i HATED was kylie's non jewish friend CALLING HER A SHIKSA and kylie laughingly agreeing with her????? even if she's not practicing that shit is SO OFFENSIVE and if she had any REAL connection to judaism she would have been offended and not laughed it off. shiksa isn't a nice word, it's not a joke, and intermarriage is only recently being considered really acceptable--i grew up with friends whose parents wouldn't let them go to prom if they went with a non jew. kylie should have been offended and furious by that comment--she wouldn't have agreed to it! and how fucking offensive is it that warren has a non jewish character police a jewish character's religious identity, and treat it as a joke when this is something very real and very hurtful that children of interfaith marriages have to deal with???
similarly, there were other little things like kylie's grandmother owning a chanel bag that put me off. many older jewish women of that era (i.e. came of age during WWII) would not buy anything produced by chanel because of the nazi connection (or maybe warren didn't realize that coco chanel was a collaborator who used the aryanization laws to steal companies from her jewish rivals--again, sloppy research). (and again, this is where i have to ask--was her grandmother actually an immigrant? because if she was, she probably would have been a holocaust survivor which isn't mentioned at all and WOULD DEFINITELY PRECLUDE HER FROM OWNING CHANEL). and again, even though kylie flat-out tells people she's not jewish, there's a line that she doesn't want the techs to think they were kidnapped by a crazy jewish lady--so she's jewish in THAT sense, an entirely negative sense--but not when it actually matters? also the gross line where dag smells her and she smells like israel. or even her comment that because she's half-jewish she's half shit at magic--ignoring CENTURIES of mysticism and kabbalah and lore like golems (which again, i don't want warren going anywhere NEAR, but the fact remains she doesn't fucking get it). like, come on--christians aren't supposed to be using magic either (or did you forget about all of the witch trials, warren?), but she doesn't have any problem with wynn being a witch, huh? kylie's hereditary jewishness (which, you'll note, KYLIE DOESN'T THINK MAKES HER JEWISH when she's discussing her own religion with dag) makes her bad at magic, but wynn's hereditary christianity doesn't?
she also has no idea about jewish concepts of the afterlife. while kylie clearly thinks in terms of a christian heaven and hell (cherubs, demons, fire), warren seems to have no idea about the existence of sheol in jewish lore, or the fact that judaism has angels in its lore as well (granted, they're no cherubs, but they're there, they play a huge part in the mythology of judaism, and if warren had done any research at all she would have discovered this).
those things were the most glaringly offensive to me.
then there were just a lot of other things that pinged as "wrong" to me. like kylie casually referencing eharmony (owned by christians, notoriously christian, a jewish person probably wouldn't be super comfortable signing up for it) instead of jdate; or a specific comment about kylie's "strong nose" which in the face of all of the other gross jewish pagentry stuck out to me like a sore thumb; or kylie calling non-jews "gentiles" instead of "goyim" (which, trust me, if she uses yiddish as fucking much as warren has her use yiddish, she sure as hell uses the word goyim); or just weird lines like "charming as Shabbat dinner" or downright creepy "feasting on her like Shabbat dinner" that no one would actually say because it's fucking creepy and disrespectful; or her grandmother getting mad that she didn't come home for passover of all things rather than the actual high holy days, like rosh hashannah or yom kippur. like passover's important, but out of all the holidays a real bubbe would be mad about? not at the top of the list. she doesn't even get the food right. of course, kylie doesn't keep kosher (lol why would she keep kosher, she doesn't even consider herself jewish!) but she eats her bagels with butter alone (i have never, ever heard of anyone doing this) and thinks fish for breakfast is disgusting??? again, this reads like "she's jewish, but not too jewish" -- fish at any meal is very common and traditional and especially breakfast, and there's many more varieties than lox. there's a hell of a lot more to jewish cuisine than rugelach, bagels and lox, and pastrami... not that warren cares.
i guess my main issue with this book is that warren was so very eager to make a jewish character, but didn't actually consider anything that really goes into judaism or, apparently, talk to any jewish people prior to writing the story. it's all fun and games to her to try on someone else's religion and culture (a religion and culture that are still very much alive, and whose people are still very much dealing with negative stereotypes and antisemitism) but if you're going to do that, take it fucking seriously and get it right and do it respectfully. don't put in this offensive mockery of a jewish character because lol lox and bagels!!! lol the gargoyle tasted like bubbe's rugelach when she kissed him!!!! lol overbearing grandmother!!! because clearly most of the people who have been reading this don't know shit about judaism or jewish culture either, and i suppose i have warren to thank for perpetuating gross stereotypes and ignorance.
we are a real people, with a real history, we still exist, and many of us care deeply about representation in the media and the way we are portrayed. i'm always thrilled to see more jewish characters in the media, but not like this. i can only hope that in the future, christine warren will either do herself a favor and talk to members of the religion she's writing about prior to publishing, or stay in her fucking lane.