This is one of this handsome author’s career advisory books. The other 3 are: “Start”, “Quitter”, and “Finish”. You got the picture? 😆
The book is very easy to read and sometimes is also very funny. As I am now semi-retired, I first thought this would not be useful to me at all. But I was surprised that I really enjoyed reading it and almost (just almost!) wanted to think about a do over myself!🤣 There are so many good career management advices that I had to note down, as they are going to be so helpful for me to use in training or coaching.
The book is structured based on a chart that forms the 4 investments on Career Saving Account (CSA) during 4 different situations (career ceiling, career bump, career jump and career opportunity).
Hitting a career ceiling and getting stuck, requires sharp skills to free yourself;
Losing a job unexpectedly requires strong relationships to survive;
Making a job jump requires solid character to navigate the chaos that jumps always generate;
Having a surprise opportunity you didn’t see comming requires smart and dedicated hustle to take advantage of it.
The 4 investments are:
Relationships = who you know;
Skills = what you do;
Character = who you are;
Hustle = how you work.
And the formula that links all 4 investments is:
CSA = (Relationships + Skills + Character) x Hustle
In the absence of one investment, the other 3 never reach their full potential.
The writing is logical and the points made are very solid. Apart from... I would like to think that resource consolidation and knowing the direction of the “wind” blowing (macro world economy, local market development and own life vision) should also be mentioned. Also, there are some confusions between skill, attitude & character, and generosity & compassion... Otherwise, there are hardly any other point that I could lay an argument on. Overall, it really is a very good self-help book about managing a career Do Over!
Do you find your job boring? Are you looking for a better job? Do you want to build a better career? Or you are thinking about a complete new start to a different lifestyle? This book will give you some good advices if you got time to read! If not, just read my note below...😁 You are very welcome!
My notes:
General:
- We were told to work jobs not build careers.
- We are afraid of unknown; we grow stuck in the known. If we fight fear and become brave, fear will concede the loss but mutter under its breath as we pass, “it’s going to be really hard; maybe you should be complacent.” If we fight our inertia and hustle, complacency will concede the loss but mutter under its breath as we pass, “It’s going to be really scary; maybe you should be afraid.”
- Learn the hardest lesson of chasing a dream. When you go for it, you don’t escape fear, you land in it. Fear is not a dragon to be slain once; it’s an ocean to be swum daily. Defeat the fear we all feel, by writing them down, responding to them with truth and punching them in the face.
- Choose your attitude and adjust your expectations. Choose your attitude every day until eventually it chooses you right back. Don’t listen to feelings, but make choices.
- Making sure you enjoy work isn’t your company’s job, is your job. Rescuing Monday isn’t your company’s job, is your job. Having a meaningful career isn’t your company’s job, is your job. What happens each day at work doesn’t get to determine your attitude, you do. Attitude is a decision and is a decision you have to make every day, sometimes every hour if that particular day is especially whack.
Investment on Relationship:
- We tend to focus on the things that feel more in our control like skills and hustle rather than relationship. To believe that being intentional about a relationship is selfish and manipulative, is to believe that being lazy about a relationship is humble and nobly motivated.
- Differentiate and deal with the 3 kinds of relationship: Foe, Friend and Advocate.
- Foes are either clueless or calculated. Sometimes they are just madly jealous that you are changing and they are not. Just tell them honestly what you are trying to do and how you would love their help. If they stay as foes, give them distance.
- What about bad bosses? Forget gossiping and come planning... 3 advices: 1. Improve your work performance to see if it improve your relationship; 2. Admit that you are an employee; 3. Dare to find a better job.
- Friends are we all need help from and the only way they can is that we give them information, the truth. Our friends are not mind readers. If you want to have better friends, increase the frequency you see them on their terms, not yours. Own the inconvenience of being friends. Great people surround themselves with greater people who challenge and stretch them.
- Advocates can tell us all the cheat codes we need, if we listen. Their job is to give us advice and our job is to act on it. Don’t try to impress your advocates, you’re trying to learn from them. Give them access to your life and allow them to question hard on you. People who can’t be questioned, often end up doing questionable things. Ask your advocates “what is one piece of advice you’d give to someone like me?” or “what did you wish you knew about this work when you were my age?”
- Some bridges needs to be closed, but you don’t light then on fire. Simply walk away from them and end the relationship. The fewer bridges you burn in your career, the better your CSA will be.
- Easy times don’t test the strength of a relationship.
Investment on Skills:
- Skills a hammer. They help us break through ceilings. Bumping into a ceiling isn’t failure; it is training. The ceiling is actually the Jungle that keeps most people away from the hidden treasure. The ceilings are designed to filter out the lazy and uncommitted. The ceilings are designed to test your mettle and see if you really have what it takes to finish anything and break through to the next level.
- The goal of your first job is to teach you how to have a job. There are so many little invisible skills to learn when you start working. Show up, be there, add value and exceed expectations. Own your attitude.
- Never engage in useless power struggles do use those photos on purpose and win the relationship instead. Express gratitude, show consideration for others, focus on what matters, play to your strengths and everyone else’s, be flexible, respect company’s gears, continue your education...
- Chasing a dream always requires learning new skills. Learning a new skill can reveal a new dream. How can you know you love doing something if you don’t try it. Sometimes you have to get your hands dirty before you can know what your passion is. Learning something new always leads somewhere new. If you want a new job, better job or your dream job, you need to learn new skills.
- When learning a new skill, give yourself permission to be a tourist, not an instant expert. What do tourists have in common? They asked lots of questions. They don’t pretend to be something they are not. They don’t feel the pressure to know everything. They are excited about experiencing new things. And they have fun! It’s not easy to learn something new, but approaching it like a tourist makes it a lot easier.
- Two ways to choose a new skill to learn. Either by necessity or curiosity. Necessity is for the “should skill”. Curiosity is just the opposite, a skill born out of desire, something you’re interested in trying, a “could skill”.
- Once picked, start it. Once you’ve started, it’s a lot easier to continue. The more you can turn an important skill into a repeatable habit, the more you can trust the power of autopilot.
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Investment on Character:
- A better job begins with building a better you. Strong character is not the only way to win; it is just the best way.
- It is your character that will push you forward. It is the one that leaves you with relationships intact. It is the one that protects your name and reputation. It is the one that make it easier to sleep at night.
- Build your character like planting your trees in an orchard. The trees need to be planted, watered, tended, and deliberately grown. The best time to plant a tree was 20 years ago; the second best time is now.
- In the tree orchard, you need to pull out 4 weeds as fast as you can: narcissism, dishonesty and pessimism and apathy. The weeds we can’t stand in others are often the weeds we’ve been ignoring in our own orchards.
- When you make a jump, you will be tempted to cut corners, to quit when the going gets tough, and lose your patience when the results you expected don’t immediately happen.
- Become the type of person people want to work with. Be generous, empathetic and present.
- Give generously of your time, talent and resources without keeping score. Show up in someone else’s life first. Don’t assume generosity is a weakness. In the long run, greed always costs you more than generosity. People want to know we see their needs and we actually think they warrant attention. That’s what empathy does; it makes people bigger.
- To understand people and what they need, you don’t have to be an expert in every product, you just have to be empathetic. Embrace empathy and then combine it with generosity.
- Believe that everybody is the same. The people you work with or work for are just like you. Want more empathy? Know more stories. The key to knowing someone’s story is believing the real one, not the one fear tells us. Read less minds, ask more questions. Don’t just try to guess what someone cares about, take a shortcut and ask them.
- When you admit you were wrong or made a mistake to the people in your life, most of the time they already knew. The weakness you think you are revealing like a secret have been apparent to the people you work with for years. The thing we’re afraid to lose by apologizing to coworkers - respect - is often what you end up gaining. Being honest earns you more respect from people than if you just pretend you have no faults. Own your mistake, so you can start working on it!
- Quit “putting people on pause”. By looking down at your phone in the middle of an interaction, you are telling people “Pause right there for a moment. There is something more important and more interesting than you that I choose to focus on.”
- Take note on a piece of paper at any meeting you attend, so you will not attend to your phone. Make a habit to ask at least one question at any meeting you attend, so you are engaged and forced to focus on what is being presented.
Investment on Hustle:
- “Music is in the piano only when it is played.” By Jack Gilbert
- “Hustle” is simply shorthand for “work hard”. If your career were a car, it will be the fuel. Hustle stirs up more opportunities and when you have one, you hustle hard to blow it up as large as it can possibly be.
- Great lives are very rarely created in great comfort. The words “easy” and “adventure” very rarely travel together.
- You are capable of far more than you think. Because anyone who hustled discovered they were. How to apply hustle? Grit, awareness and flexibility.
- Grit is simply being brave when you don’t feel like being brave. Grit never feels like bravery because grit is a choice not a feeling. Fear hates hustle. Nothing enrages fear like deciding to actually work hard. Fear loves day-dreamers and can’t stand day-doers. Hustle knows you have to do the work others don’t to enjoy the results others won’t. Hustle tries. Then it fails. The it tries again, because of grit.
- Grit is being stubborn in the face of fear. Grit is the first time you try something, and is the thousandth time too. Grit is believing in “can” when “can’t” is loud. Grit is expecting fear and moving forward anyway. The amateur believes he must first overcome his fear, then he can do his work. The professional knows that fear can never be overcome.
- Instead of listening to fear, throw some grit back in its face. Instead of saying “I don’t have what it takes.”, say @I have what it takes to try.” We all have what it takes to try and trying is the only way you learn how to have what it takes anyway. Grit is simply the act of trying, and in many cases, trying again. Don’t wait until you feel brave to hustle; choose to hustle until you feel brave. Face the fear of today, instead of the regret of forever.
- However, there is a thin line between hustle and hassle. Busyness is not the same thing as hustle, either. Hustle isn’t simply doing more. Hustle could be “less but better” - “the disciplined pursuit of less.” Use hustle as a scalpel, to remove things from your life not just to add things.
- It does not mean fast, but focus, intention and pace. While keeping your head down and hustling on the work, raising your head and making sure you are going in the right direction. Hustle with awareness.
- Be flexible with our dream. Remember the work you end up loving may not even exist now. Remember the future is going to change what we do and how we do it. And your dream will change over your lifetime, too! When the door slammed shut on your face, don’t be too proud to hitch up your skirt/pants and crawl through a window.
- There is no such thing as a perfect job. There’s no job where you get to do only the things you love doing. There would be tasks, projects and activities you have to do in your career that you hate. Even in your dream job, you would have to do some things you don’t love. We admit we hate them, recognize the critical value of them, and then commit to do them. But hustle also doesn’t mean postponing fun. We do need to have some fun, because it will help us stay flexible and keep us from getting stuck and burnout. Look for some fun in your hustle, but never think that every part has to be fun. Fun is something you add to your hustle, not a filter by which you select which things to do.
Conclusion:
- Relationships get you the first gig; skills get you the second. Character is the reason that people will still want to give you another chance if the first opportunity fails. It is also the reason that when it all comes together, you don’t come apart, drunk on ego or success. Hustle is how you work on each of the relationship, skills and character. It amplifies relationships since frequency of the key to strong ones. It multiplies skills, giving you the push to learn new ones and the drive to sharpen old ones. It grows character because patience, generosity and empathy are not easy. Impatience, greed and selfishness take far less work but hustle won’t let you take the easy way out.
- An do over or a career jump don’t always mean quitting your job. It could just mean doing something positive or voluntary, or trying an innovative tweak to your business model or working style.