We may internalize our pain or express it outwardly. Either way, we are attempting to deny how we feel. Is it a considered response or an unconscious one? Definitely one that is a delusional denial of our reality, a denial of our own existence that means, “I desire more love, authentic connection, and to be understood, yet I am not making changes to do so and instead acting in ways that actually prevent them happening.” When we observe the impact of our behavior on us, our loved ones, and on others, if we open our hearts we may choose to experience change.