Good read and the key life lessons are very applicable.........he makes very valid points on the need that schools should teach these lessons to school going pupils
My key take aways from the book are............
Bressie grew up in Mullingar...
Father was in the army, Bressie did not like when he went away
When he was 13 his father was posted to Isarel, whole family moved to there for 3 years
Growing up in Isarel was an experience, often had to go into air raid shelters, suffered from anxiety and
panic attacks which consisted of shortness of breath and sweating also depression afterwards and social
isolation. Major issue with sleep at night throughout his life.
When returned to Ireland found it hard to settle in to school etc. Changed school after witnessing much
bullying and unfairness but not done to him. Very good sports person in school played for the school in
rugby, galeic and athletics. Sport was a great distraction in school. Anxiety and panic attacks part of life
now also sleep issues.
Went to UCD on a sports rugby scholarship studying Economics, Socilology and Psychology. Very
anxious in crowded lecture theatres often hiding in toilets to avoid crowds. Did not use college
counselling service as he had the irrational paranoia that it would get back to his rugby coaches. He
realises now how devoid of logic this was as logic often goes away during depressive thinking.
Took drugs for sleep often during college. Rugby major part of life in college. Also alcohol was major part
but made anxiety much worse but was hard to avoid as the rugby and college scene was awash with it in
all social interactions and expected.
Learned music at a young age and found playing the guitar helpful when depressed or low. Spent long
hours playing guitar in his room.
When finshed college got a banking job but hated it so left after a year. During this year he got some part
time work playing music in pubs. This developed and he formed a band which eventually was successful
in the charts.
Lessons learned over his life living with major bouts of depression........
1. Alcohol makes depression and anxiety much worse especially after consumption, very careful
with alcohol consumption now
2. Body scanning mediation very helpful, he uses it before every gig/performance
3. Live in the NOW approach, his friend explained this simply by saying..... “people who are
depressed are always thinking of the PAST, people who have anxiety are always thinking of the
future and people who are happy are always thinking of NOW” pg 57
4. One way of dealing with anxiety/panic/depression was to say “this will pass” and go with it and
deal with on that basis, this realisation got him through each time (rather than fighting against it)
5. Sleep was precious and was the greatest gift to give himself. Sleep was an absolutely critical
“without it my head was a mess and very unstable” pg 110
6. Music and creativity was a great distraction
7. Yoga was helpful
8. Anxiety can fixate on a problem that does not in real life exist pg 87
9. Physical and mental are not in fact separate parts and are deeply connected.
10. Used UCD online councelling and person to person service and found it helpful but found that the
therapy does not get immediate results and only works over medium to long term. We believe it is
the therapist job to cure us but their job is to arm us with the mental capacities to deal with our
issues and be aware of them...a lot of my issues, guilt and regrets came from my inability to open
up and talk to people
11. CBT taught him to control perceptions, often sufferers of anxiety think of the worst case scenario,
all the time, CBT works to show you this is irrational, Bressie says that every teenager should be
taught CBT in school, CBT allows him to stand outside himself and monitor the situation. CBT
technique Bressie uses... visualise myself sitting at the side of the road, cars are passing are
thoughts, what was happening the cars (thoughts) were parking (staying in head) causing a traffic
jam.. slowly learned to let them pass so I can focus one at a time. Another CBT technique “The
magic moment technique” think of the best moment in your life, use all senses, squeeze tumb and
forefinger while doing this for several minutes ... practice often at least for 3 weeks... when sad or
depressed squeeze tumb and forefinger to quickly recall the feeling.
12. Called his anxiety “Jeffrey” (a name he hates) which he sees as a friend as it taught him many
things and shaped his life, new perspective on looking at the issue
13. Went to GP about sleep and anxiety but would prefer non medical solutions
14. After major success in rugby/sport and music often great depression followed
15. It is ok to be not be ok and it is absolutely ok to ask for help
16. Omega 3 important
17. Gut and mood interlinked
18. Mactha Green tea useful
19. Mental fitness as important as physical fitness, should be training in mental fitness/wellness
during good times for the bad times.. schools should do this also
20. Gerry Hussey most admired mentor... values very important, what you stand for gives you why
you want to do things and your motivation... “embrace the chaos” Bressie’s motivation ...try to
make a difference in other peoples lives
21. Never try to write music or book etc that doent reflect your own experience or emotions otherwise
the sentiment will be vague or vague
22. Bressie used exercise as a distraction from issues all his life, often ran at night if could not
sleep... also did Triathlons etc
23. Look up IRONMIND and My100hours and HEADSPACE apps/websites useful
24. Bressie always asks this question before any talk “ how many people have actually invested time
in their minds” .........usually only 5/10% reply they have