“There are two types of people: hunters and farmers. Hunters scan the horizon for what might be next. They enjoy movement, quest, uncertainty. Farmers, though, like clear boundaries. They like to know that if they invest their time within certain boundaries there is a likelihood they’ll be rewarded for their work.”
My husband is a hunter, literally and figuratively, but in this instance mostly figuratively. I, on the other hand, am farmer all the way, and ironically come from a long line of Illinois farmers, but again I’m talking figuratively in Golden’s example of the two types of people. My hunter husband is always searching for the next opportunity, thrives on living by the seat of his pants, and constant movement, never idle. However, the farmer I am, likes clear boundaries, staying in a particular place and job is completely fine with me. I like knowing what to expect, investing my time and effort in hopes of reaping a reward. We are two very different types of people, and the question remains: can this hunter and farmer co-exist together? We’re still figuring that out. The point is to do more than co-exist, realize the other’s wants and needs while (hopefully) the other is doing the same, but to make it both parties need to ultimately buckle down and do life together.
“This faithful long obedience is too often a lost art in a society in which we have starter homes and starter spouses, where we change churches as if we’re choosing between movie theaters on Friday nights.”
Here’s the best thing about having a hunter for a spouse: he is always aware of our downside and tries to protect it, while I’m still toiling away to try and keep what we have, he’s the one who steps in and says, maybe we need to let go. He’s the one who pries my claws out of whatever I’m holding onto and tells me it’s okay, there is life after this. He is quite literally the opposite of everything I’ve been taught, he helps me look at life and the obstacles in it in a totally different light, to look outside of the box I’m hunkered down in. I digress, this is after all a book review.
A quotable and applicable book, Be You. Do Good. eloquently illustrated the struggles change can bring on each and every page. Jonathan David Golden is a former life coach who discovered how many people desire to know their calling. How else are you going to know what you’re made for if you don’t ask the one who created you? Filled with personal stories of those he’s coached, Golden used incredible accounts for the reader to realize they can also be in the middle of life and change careers, while delivering a most shocking message that none of us even think about (the end goal): why not be happy for the remainder of your life? As adults with responsibilities, we think we’re stuck, we can’t change anything because we can’t afford to.
Golden claims you don’t necessarily have to change what you do, you don’t have to be a missionary, not all missions look the same. You can be a missionary directly where you are. Now, that’s not an excuse to not witness or help where needed. You have to step out of where you are to help, push yourself to the uncomfortable limits and God will reward you. You will be happier and fulfilled helping someone else, that’s ultimately what God made us for, to help and be accountable to one another.
“When you integrate who you are with what you do, you have nowhere to run.”
“This is the time when you have to use your gifts, your talents, and your passion for all they are worth.”
“Those who are bold to embrace their callings stand back up.”
And as an aside, this is the reason I’m not particularly fond of romance as Golden writes, “A psychology professor of mine taught that syrupy romantic comedies that suggest that marriage is ‘easy’ are far more destructive to relationships than pornography.”
About the author:
“Jonathan David Golden is the founder of Land of a Thousand Hills, a multi-million dollar coffee company that provides a living wage to more than 2,500 Rwandan farmers and their families. He and his company have been featured by CNN, Fox News, Christianity Today, Relevant, The Atlanta Journal-Constitution, and Charisma. Learn more about Jonathan at BeYouDoGood.com.” (From the back cover of Be You. Do Good.)
(This is a public apology to my husband for my hardheadedness and refusal to move on, I’m sorry my dear…you were right, I’ll go eat my crow now.)
***** 5 Stars
Be You. Do Good.: Having the Guts to Pursue What Makes You Come Alive
by Jonathan David Golden
226 Pages
Published January 2016 by Baker Books
Genre: Christian, Inspirational, Non-fiction
ASIN: B012H105T0
*Disclaimer: This paperback copy was received from Baker Books in exchange for an honest review.
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