I’ve been in the complementarian camp for the entirety of my Christian life. That said, I would consider myself quite open to ideas from the other side of the aisle. Indeed, my closest friend believes quite vehemently in the biblical justification for female clergy. I have dabbled in the literature only in limited fashion, but my discussions have been with a fairly large sample of people. And so I believe that I have a general lay of the land with regard to the popular arguments on both sides.
With that said, I found Partners in Christ to be a welcome addition to the debate. In fact, I can easily say that this book is the best I’ve ever read on the subject from the egalitarian perspective. There are several reasons for this. For one, Stackhouse is widely read on either side of the issue, and is not prone to offering up straw men to score a cheap rhetorical victory. Neither does he write with a chip on his shoulder. To the contrary he comes across as warm to those on the complementarian side, explaining how he started in that camp himself. There is no sense of cynicism or vindictiveness in his writing, which is a breath of fresh air in today’s hostile climate on such topics. His spirit is well expressed on page 132:
“There has been too much antagonism, even violence, in this debate. My prayer instead has been to follow the scriptural injunction: “Let us consider how to provoke one another to love and good deeds” (Heb 10:24). If you have been provoked, I pray God that he and you will channel that provocation into positive reflection and spiritual fruit from which many women and men will benefit, to the glory of his name.”
I also appreciate Stackhouse’s “conservative case” for egalitarianism. He does not simply dismiss a large chunk of the New Testament corpus as pseudepigrapha for being inconvenient to his points (as many others in his camp too readily do, e.g. Steve Chalke). Instead, he holds a very high view of Scripture, viewing the totality as inspired and authoritative. He thus contends with most of the “tough passages”, though he still carries a dismissive view of some (see footnote). He rejects liberal approaches:
“This suggestion that parts of the Bible should be read as corrections to other parts, and even that some parts could serve to provoke even God to reconsideration, will be nonsense for traditional Christians who understand God to be, in fact, the Author of the Bible behind and within all of the various human writers of its component parts.” (Page 146)
Page 71 offers a fair and concise summary of the book’s principal thesis:
“[W]hen society was patriarchal, as it was in the New Testament context and as it has been everywhere in the world except in modern society in our day, then the church avoided scandal by going along with patriarchy, even as the Bible ameliorated it and made women’s situation better than it was under any other culture’s gender code. Now, however, that our modern society is at least officially egalitarian, the scandal (ironically enough) is that the church is not going along with society, not rejoicing in the unprecedented freedom to let women and men serve according to gift and call without an arbitrary gender line.”
With this line of argumentation, I commend Stackhouse for keeping the gospel as priority in this debate. Taking a modern-day missionary as an example, he believes it appropriate to accommodate a traditional culture in order to reach them with the message of the gospel, rather than to scandalize them with egalitarianism that might turn them off to the message of forgiveness. This in fact is what he hypothesizes as the modus operandi of both Jesus and Paul: they could not be more feminist in their respective ministries because the culture at the time was not ready. They had no desire to jeopardize their primary mission by dying on the hill of an important, but secondary, issue.
Stackhouse is well-argued in his exegetical interpretations. He warns of the dangers of a simple “prooftexting battle”, and suggests that rather than digging our heals into a few supposedly ironclad passages that favor our position, we should instead take a bird’s eye view of the Scripture (and especially the New Testament) to determine what the preponderance of the texts are communicating with regard to gender.
While I appreciate his approach, I ultimately don’t find his interpretation of a “trajectory” ethic to be satisfying enough to dismantle the traditional understandings of the relevant passages and themes in the Gospels and Epistles. While I concede the idea of a “double message” implicit in many of these (and other) passages of the New Testament, I don’t find it to be enough to overthrow the seemingly clear instructions about church government or male headship. Indeed, even he admits on page 84 that the varied attempts by egalitarians to reinterpret the Ephesians “submission” passage come across as rather inadequate.
One issue I took with Stackhouse was his (apparent) presupposition that a role of subordination is tantamount to a status of inferiority:
“But then we have to consider this question: Why would God call entirely equal sexes to deeply different roles, ever and always, world without end? Why indeed would one role be that of leadership and the other of submission, if women and men are not only equal in status and dignity before God but equal in every other way as well?” (Page 89)
Though he seems to walk back that presupposition on page 98, it does feel as though this is a bedrock of his issues with male headship. A common reply to this proposition is to draw an analogy with the relationship between God the Father and God the Son, wherein all good Trinitarians can at once affirm the subordination of the Son to the Father as well as the ontological coequality of both.
Stackhouse responds to this: “The problem I have with the complementarian reference to the Trinity in regard to gender is that it is a bad theological move to attempt—by anyone, on any side of this issue. Any strong parallels between the inner life of the Trinity and human relationships just aren’t there.” (page 96)
But here he surprisingly misses the point. Of course any analogy between the inner life of the Trinity and any created thing will be of necessity a travesty. This I happily admit. However, the point being made is a bare one: that a role of subordination is not per se a status of ontological inferiority. That alone undercuts the aforementioned presupposition. While we may feel an instinctive revulsion of the idea of God-ordained hierarchical roles, we must, as disciples, submit to our orders rather than our instincts.
Although I wasn’t convinced by Stackhouse’s many points, I am willing to admit that he reveals several inconsistencies in my camp. I agreed when he stated that most complementarians approve of (albeit silently for many) the “missionary exception” for female church leaders. Further, our camp holds in high regard the underground church movement in China, whose congregations are largely led by women. I can admit that I don’t think the complementarian side has an entirely satisfactory theology for such work. Although there are some complementarians that are making attempts (e.g. Sam Storms has posted some recent articles in favor of calling certain women “pastors” but not “elders”, which seems to walk about as close to line as possible without jumping over).
In summary, I think Partners in Christ makes a fine addition to the debate. And while I was not convinced enough to leave behind complementarian interpretations, I think every complementarian should at least read this book and consider the arguments.
Footnote: e.g. his comment about 1 Cor 14 on page 96 that “virtually no defender of patriarchy in North America today” believes in head coverings, even though they might employ the passage in their biblical arguments for complementarianism. While this may be a fair point about inconsistency in many (even most) complementarians, there are indeed many today who favor head coverings in prayer contexts. Indeed much of non-Western Christendom and the majority report of church history up until 150 years ago would do so.