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Getting to Calm: the Early Years: Cool-Headed Strategies for Raising Caring, Happy, and Independent 3-7 Year Olds
With such a dizzying array of parenting theories, tactics, and fads out there, how can any parent know which advice to follow? Help is here for parents who want to find a practical path that produces exceptional results: strong family bonds, calmer interactions, and healthy, happy kids who are set up for future success.
The latest in Dr. Kastner s celebrated parenting series, "Getting to Calm, The Early Years" is the first book for parents of children ages 3 7 that analyzes popular parenting approaches in light of fifty years of parenting research and current evidence-based treatment models. Offering clear, step-by-step descriptions of proven and effective techniques, this book guides parents as they help their children build competencies while coping with some of the most common and painful problems of the early years, including: Sleepless nights Clinginess Tantrums Whining Power struggles Lying Defiance
Through vivid family vignettes, Kastner illustrates the common traps and travails of parenting young kids, showing us what has been proven to work (and what certainly has not), with an emphasis on positive parenting and wise-minded decision making. This accessible, insightful, and ultimately enjoyable book offers tremendous support, powerful skills, and plentiful encouragement for anyone who is parenting a child through the early years."
The latest in Dr. Kastner s celebrated parenting series, "Getting to Calm, The Early Years" is the first book for parents of children ages 3 7 that analyzes popular parenting approaches in light of fifty years of parenting research and current evidence-based treatment models. Offering clear, step-by-step descriptions of proven and effective techniques, this book guides parents as they help their children build competencies while coping with some of the most common and painful problems of the early years, including: Sleepless nights Clinginess Tantrums Whining Power struggles Lying Defiance
Through vivid family vignettes, Kastner illustrates the common traps and travails of parenting young kids, showing us what has been proven to work (and what certainly has not), with an emphasis on positive parenting and wise-minded decision making. This accessible, insightful, and ultimately enjoyable book offers tremendous support, powerful skills, and plentiful encouragement for anyone who is parenting a child through the early years."
- GenresParenting
243 pages, Paperback
First published August 1, 2015
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April 29, 2017
(4.0) A lot here to directly apply right away (and others that take more planning with partners—you should probably read this together!)
[Will try to fill out with some more key notes here when I’m at a laptop.]
Some good techniques to recommend, here are some things that stuck out in memory:
- you must be calm before trying to deal with an emotional outbreak. Anger/frustration will lead you to poor decisions
- attending to behaviors you’re trying to extinguish actually reinforces them: child is likely seeking attention or trying to exert control over situation (being able to predictably get you to complain about a behavior is controlling you and the situation, even if unpleasant)
- the Right Way to do counting method and time-outs
- validate their emotions first, try to get them to calm, and talk about possible ways to respond in the future. Later, teach empathy by asking how others might have felt
- use role playing to pre-practice protocols for time-out, routines etc. let them play your role too!
- use routines
- use behavior management through star charts etc. be on their side after establishing he rules and following them. Say you’re confident they’ll do better next time when they lapse, don’t turn star chart into punishment
[Will try to fill out with some more key notes here when I’m at a laptop.]
Some good techniques to recommend, here are some things that stuck out in memory:
- you must be calm before trying to deal with an emotional outbreak. Anger/frustration will lead you to poor decisions
- attending to behaviors you’re trying to extinguish actually reinforces them: child is likely seeking attention or trying to exert control over situation (being able to predictably get you to complain about a behavior is controlling you and the situation, even if unpleasant)
- the Right Way to do counting method and time-outs
- validate their emotions first, try to get them to calm, and talk about possible ways to respond in the future. Later, teach empathy by asking how others might have felt
- use role playing to pre-practice protocols for time-out, routines etc. let them play your role too!
- use routines
- use behavior management through star charts etc. be on their side after establishing he rules and following them. Say you’re confident they’ll do better next time when they lapse, don’t turn star chart into punishment
March 15, 2017
Pretty good. Like many such parenting books, "Getting to Calm" is really about getting yourself to calm, and your child follows. It's made a difference in our interaction with our 4 year old. I did like how this book incorporates many techniques found in other books and in common usage, ie targeted ignoring, counting to time out, emotional coaching. The progression is a little scattered, and the practical nuggets are also a little scattered. Could do with some editing and condensing.
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