Between Shadow and Sun: A Husband's Journey Through Gender - A Wife's Labor of Love

by Tina Madison White

WHAT HAPPENS WHEN A MAN’S SEARCH FOR IDENTITY GOES HEAD-TO-HEAD WITH A WOMAN’S LOVE? Tom had carved out a successful career helping companies transform. He loved big change. He also loved being a husband and father. His wife, Mary, called him her knight in shining armor. But Tom struggled with a was he a man or a woman? He had agonized over this question for most of his life. “God, help me,” he prayed, “let it be anything but this.” Between Shadow and Sun chronicles Tina White’s fifty-year journey to her efforts to make sense of life as a man; her awkward first steps into the world as a woman; her struggle to honor and love her family. Tina captures her family’s attempts to make sense of it all, especially her wife, Mary. Mary was disconsolate over the loss of her husband. Would she embrace the woman who had taken him away from her? An intimate look at one person’s struggle to make sense of gender and a couple’s attempts to make sense of love. Visit for personinside.com for Discussion guide for book clubs, students and significant othersA visual timeline for the bookAdditional perspectivesResources for those trying to come to terms with gender variance

282 pages, Kindle Edition

First published September 10, 2015

Reviews

[Cyndi Madden · Rating 5 out of 5]

A must read for anyone looking to understand more about the struggles of one Transgender woman's life in trying to be true to herself in this world, personally, professionally, spiritually.
The author does not hold back and allows you to take a very personal look into the journey on how she came to make the ultimate decision to live her life in truth. Beautiful!

[Robert · Rating 5 out of 5]

The Ultimate Mid-life Crisis

A compelling story of one person's search for self as they enter the final third of their life. As a "late bloomer" from a corporate world myself, I found her journey to be similar to mine in many respects. Excellent resource guide in the Appendix.

[Jen · Rating 5 out of 5]

A very interesting and honest insight into the emotional and physically painful transitioning. I appreciated the honesty and hearing other family members’ reactions, good and initially not so good. The audible made the raw openness even more real. This made me better understand people who are trans and feel more empathetic about their journey and struggles. Thank you to Tina and Mary for sharing your story. The author and her partner have one of the most impressive relationships and I'm proud to know them.