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What Women Want When They Test Men: How To Decode Female Behavior, Pass A Woman's Tests, And Attract Women Through Authenticity
Discover What Women Want in a Man and How They "Secretly" Test You For it If you pay close enough attention to what really attracts women, you'll find that what women want is a man with a backbone. Women want to be with a man who knows how to take the lead and make decisions; one who has strong personal boundaries and knows how to love her like...a man.
Unfortunately, a lot of men have difficulty accepting the truth that many women prefer to be with a man who isn't afraid to stand up to them, who challenges them, and who refuses to be pushed around by women (or anything else for that matter). This is especially true of women who seek a more traditional male-female gender role dynamic in their romantic relationships.
Even if a man knows how to attract women, cultivating a mind-blowing relationship with one requires a different set of skills entirely. Women want men who can make them feel secure - men with strong boundaries and unwavering commitment.
Sadly, most dating and relationship books rarely show men how to keep a woman happy without them having to sacrifice their manhood in the process. How to Understand Women and Pass Their Tests With "Unshakeable" Confidence
Men around the world have no idea that the women they know and love are testing them. These men go about their lives interacting with the opposite sex in absolute darkness, ignorant to the fact that they're being judged, appraised, approved, and rejected based on their subconscious reactions to female testing.
If you had no idea that women test men and why they have to, you're about to take a journey onto a road less traveled - the more mysterious side of female psychology and how women think. Attract Women Through Authenticity and Be the "Strong" Man a Woman Wants For a Relationship
It's important for a man to learn how to walk that thin line between caring, thoughtful lover and firm, assertive leader. The man who masters the art of being the perfect gentleman and a strong alpha male is the ideal specimen to a high-quality woman.
This is what you're going to learn in this book.
So if you're dating or in a relationship and women constantly create drama, lose interest in you, or manipulate you, it's time you finally got some advice from one of the only relationship books for men that won't turn you into a doormat.
Here's what you're going to learn inside: How to be radically honest with a woman and why this makes her MORE attracted to you.The reason why women test men CONSISTENTLY and how to use this knowledge to deepen a woman's desire. (Hint: This is the key to female psychology and how women think.)How to be confident with difficult women.What women want in a man and how to give it to them.How to make a woman happy without becoming a complete doormat of a man.How to seduce your wife and get her in the mood by responding like a MAN whenever she "pokes the bear."How to be firm and say "No" to the woman you love without destroying intimacy.How to keep a woman interested in you by doing the ONE thing MOST men are deathly afraid of doing.How to avoid unnecessary arguments, fights, and drama with a woman by using a simple communication technique.The best way to secretly test a woman's level of romantic interest in you (as well as her emotional maturity) before making a long-term commitment.How to stop living in fear of what a woman might think, say, or do if she disagrees with or disapproves of you in any way.And much, much more...Would You Like to Know More?
Get started right away and learn how to become the attractive man that has "zero" difficulty keeping a woman's respect, desire, and unwavering support.
Scroll to the top of the page and select the 'buy butto
Unfortunately, a lot of men have difficulty accepting the truth that many women prefer to be with a man who isn't afraid to stand up to them, who challenges them, and who refuses to be pushed around by women (or anything else for that matter). This is especially true of women who seek a more traditional male-female gender role dynamic in their romantic relationships.
Even if a man knows how to attract women, cultivating a mind-blowing relationship with one requires a different set of skills entirely. Women want men who can make them feel secure - men with strong boundaries and unwavering commitment.
Sadly, most dating and relationship books rarely show men how to keep a woman happy without them having to sacrifice their manhood in the process. How to Understand Women and Pass Their Tests With "Unshakeable" Confidence
Men around the world have no idea that the women they know and love are testing them. These men go about their lives interacting with the opposite sex in absolute darkness, ignorant to the fact that they're being judged, appraised, approved, and rejected based on their subconscious reactions to female testing.
If you had no idea that women test men and why they have to, you're about to take a journey onto a road less traveled - the more mysterious side of female psychology and how women think. Attract Women Through Authenticity and Be the "Strong" Man a Woman Wants For a Relationship
It's important for a man to learn how to walk that thin line between caring, thoughtful lover and firm, assertive leader. The man who masters the art of being the perfect gentleman and a strong alpha male is the ideal specimen to a high-quality woman.
This is what you're going to learn in this book.
So if you're dating or in a relationship and women constantly create drama, lose interest in you, or manipulate you, it's time you finally got some advice from one of the only relationship books for men that won't turn you into a doormat.
Here's what you're going to learn inside: How to be radically honest with a woman and why this makes her MORE attracted to you.The reason why women test men CONSISTENTLY and how to use this knowledge to deepen a woman's desire. (Hint: This is the key to female psychology and how women think.)How to be confident with difficult women.What women want in a man and how to give it to them.How to make a woman happy without becoming a complete doormat of a man.How to seduce your wife and get her in the mood by responding like a MAN whenever she "pokes the bear."How to be firm and say "No" to the woman you love without destroying intimacy.How to keep a woman interested in you by doing the ONE thing MOST men are deathly afraid of doing.How to avoid unnecessary arguments, fights, and drama with a woman by using a simple communication technique.The best way to secretly test a woman's level of romantic interest in you (as well as her emotional maturity) before making a long-term commitment.How to stop living in fear of what a woman might think, say, or do if she disagrees with or disapproves of you in any way.And much, much more...Would You Like to Know More?
Get started right away and learn how to become the attractive man that has "zero" difficulty keeping a woman's respect, desire, and unwavering support.
Scroll to the top of the page and select the 'buy butto
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First published February 10, 2014
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52 books192 followersBruce Bryans writes books for men and women who want to become both irresistible and irreplaceable romantic partners to the opposite sex. This is the focus of all of his books.
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October 6, 2015
This is the third book of this author that I have read thanks to Kindle Unlimited; I do find merit in his work.
As a woman reader, I found myself agreeing with him viz a viz women when they create tremendous drama.
I found this book to resonate with me, in the sense that it's not just their man that women test, they also create drama with other women, simply out of envy, which is part of female DNA. The same solution applies in that situation, so this book is a worthwhile read for women too, on how to deal with feminine viles.
As a woman reader, I found myself agreeing with him viz a viz women when they create tremendous drama.
I found this book to resonate with me, in the sense that it's not just their man that women test, they also create drama with other women, simply out of envy, which is part of female DNA. The same solution applies in that situation, so this book is a worthwhile read for women too, on how to deal with feminine viles.
January 11, 2020
Excellent book. I am actually surprised that author understands women so well. The main premise of the book is that women test men in order to see his fitness for marriage and reproduction. Real woman is attracted to real masculinity the way a man is attracted to femininity and beauty. So, woman wants a man who is kind and gentle but yet knows how to lead and take control when she becomes emotionally undone.
I'd say 90% of the book is correct, I do have a little issue with him saying a man should not compromise and establish his masculinity by saying that his word is the final word. It will not work with a truly intelligent woman who went through a lot in her life. I don't mind when a man is firm but it should be based on compromise not one person wish and it's also based on trust. For a woman to trust man to lead - she should TRUST him and that comes around only with how he passes her tests.
Good book, and I wish more men would read, UNDERSTAND and apply it in their lives. The happier is your woman, the happier the man will be.
I'd say 90% of the book is correct, I do have a little issue with him saying a man should not compromise and establish his masculinity by saying that his word is the final word. It will not work with a truly intelligent woman who went through a lot in her life. I don't mind when a man is firm but it should be based on compromise not one person wish and it's also based on trust. For a woman to trust man to lead - she should TRUST him and that comes around only with how he passes her tests.
Good book, and I wish more men would read, UNDERSTAND and apply it in their lives. The happier is your woman, the happier the man will be.
February 20, 2021
I know I'm not the target market this but I simply couldn't resist the title!
As we know, the suffragettes fought long and hard for men to be the leaders of women. This book helps men to assert their dominance, which is what all women really want. I think my favourite part of all this was how well the author understood women, particularly as it appears he has not met a single one. I loved the use of the word wussy throughout, it was a great way to reinforce toxic masculinity.
The book did have some good tips, mainly for communication that can be used in everyday life, by men and women. In terms of the 'tests' us women do... maybe I'm an anomaly but I related to none of them.
This book is great for women who love comedy. For men who want relationship advice that works, I'd suggest just simply asking the woman.
As we know, the suffragettes fought long and hard for men to be the leaders of women. This book helps men to assert their dominance, which is what all women really want. I think my favourite part of all this was how well the author understood women, particularly as it appears he has not met a single one. I loved the use of the word wussy throughout, it was a great way to reinforce toxic masculinity.
The book did have some good tips, mainly for communication that can be used in everyday life, by men and women. In terms of the 'tests' us women do... maybe I'm an anomaly but I related to none of them.
This book is great for women who love comedy. For men who want relationship advice that works, I'd suggest just simply asking the woman.
January 15, 2020
Overcomplicated and unnecessarily wordy
This book's thesis statement is basically "respect yourself and women will respect you too." This is a great message. The reason for the negative review is how long it takes to get there and more than anything, how it treats women: mysterious beings that we unfortunate men will be paralyzed for all eternity in our pursuit to figure them out. It's not that complicated.
If you're having difficulty figuring out why you're having a hard time with women, it's because you are not communicating your needs / thoughts / opinions effectively. To figure out why you're not doing that, I highly recommend No More Mr Nice Guy and / or The Dance of Anger (from a woman's perspective) and / or Mating in Captivity.
This book has some good nuggets of insight, but they've been said better elsewhere and in far less words.
This book's thesis statement is basically "respect yourself and women will respect you too." This is a great message. The reason for the negative review is how long it takes to get there and more than anything, how it treats women: mysterious beings that we unfortunate men will be paralyzed for all eternity in our pursuit to figure them out. It's not that complicated.
If you're having difficulty figuring out why you're having a hard time with women, it's because you are not communicating your needs / thoughts / opinions effectively. To figure out why you're not doing that, I highly recommend No More Mr Nice Guy and / or The Dance of Anger (from a woman's perspective) and / or Mating in Captivity.
This book has some good nuggets of insight, but they've been said better elsewhere and in far less words.
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January 14, 2026He’s a straight shooter. He speaks his mind, has strong personal boundaries, and doesn’t care what people outside of his honor group thinks about him. He’s especially honest with his wife and isn’t afraid to “upset” her if he knows the truth will make her a better person or will improve their intimacy.
the subconscious need to test a man to determine his capability to lead and capacity to love her.
be warned: you cannot unlearn what you read in this book
Due to the various social constraints placed on female sexuality women tend to conceal what they are really attracted to in men.
confuse gender “equality” with gender “uniformity.”
the problem is a miscommunication due to a lack of understanding.
Women test men because they seek both love and leadership from them. Therefore, if she has no romantic or emotional interest in you, you won’t be tested.
Whereas a man is driven by his primal (physical) senses of sight, touch, etc., a woman’s sexual driving force is her mind (psychological). Women are stimulated best by sexual tension, the friction of masculine against feminine. In order for her to get that little jolt of sexual excitement from you, she requires a playful assertion of your masculine confidence and power.
So while looking at your wife naked and groping her tight little body gives you the sexual jolt you need, experiencing a first hand display of your assertiveness gives her what she needs. And the best way for her to accomplish this is to “poke the bear” until she gets a rise out of you.
Would you stop squeezing your wife breasts once you’ve already determined that they’re firm and fabulous? Of course you wouldn’t. Would you stop groping her butt when she least expects it even though you already know the goods are still top quality? No, because at this point in the game you’re no longer assessing her quality, you’re enjoying her.
In the same way, just because your wife has tested you in the past doesn’t mean it’s going to stop now.
Assuming she’s been using passive-aggressive behaviors (like the silent treatment) to get your attention, you must push through these feints and get to the heart of the matter.
re-stating or paraphrasing what they hear. This helps the speaker to feel a sense of affirmation from the listener, which compels them to open up even more, thus eventually getting to the heart of the matter.
“You’ve been giving me the silent treatment all morning. I love you, but I’m only going to ask you once. Why are you acting this way?”
“I’ll never stop loving you” to make her feel secure again.
responding from a frame in which you see yourself as a “prized catch”, a man of strength, authority, and leadership, will communicate confidence and therefore the congruence she’s testing you for.
Her: “Are you always this arrogant?”
Him (with an overconfident grin): “So I’ve been told.”
call your woman out on her negative or unattractive behaviors; things like disrespectfulness, rudeness, manipulation, pettiness, etc.
break any emotional glass
she loves them because they’re comfortable. So instead of telling her just how ugly the shoes are you can reframe the situation by telling her that her shoes don’t match up to her beauty.
An effective communication strategy for disarming her test is to first agree with her then exaggerate her statement in a playful, teasing way. All this must be done in a confident, self-amused, playful way.
Her: “You actually think you’re handsome?”
You: “Of course, you know you can’t help yourself around all this man candy.”
Her: “Are you just going to play video games all day?” You: “You bet. And with enough practice I can quit my job and do this fulltime.”
Her: “We’re watching this movie again?”
You: “It’s great isn’t it? I’m so glad you’re excited!”
Her: “Do I look stupid to you?”
You: “I think you’re smarter than you look.”
Her: “Are you always this late?”
You: “Only when I’m picking up beautiful women.”
Her: “You never listen to me.”
You: “What’s that now?”
However, if she continues to flare up in your face and escalate her antagonistic behavior, something deeper may be going on that actually needs your attention. If this is the case, you may want to turn the knob down on the playfulness and take her a bit more seriously for the moment.
Another great way to respond to a woman who is clearly communicating with you in a hostile tone is to wait until she’s finish her tirade, look her squarely in the eyes, and in a calm, firm, masculine tone ask her, “Are you done?”
give her a confident smile and end it with this: “Nice to have you back.”
Women who subconsciously see their husbands and boyfriends as children or little brothers that they have to take care of have a much harder time respecting them.
close the gap of incongruence between what you believe about yourself and how you actually behave. Because of this, over time your mind will work to reinforce the belief that you’re a man of certainty once you consistently display those behaviors.
Him: “Well, while you’re entitled to your opinion. I still say it was a spectacular film.”
Him: “Wow. And here I was thinking that my girlfriend/wife had taste. Oh well, I guess I’m the cultured one in the relationship.”
simply say, “I will not argue with you about this.”
Sometimes your woman is going to want you to make a decision for her but she’s not going to tell you, “Honey, I want you to make this decision for me.”
She really doesn’t even care what you decide as long as you make a decision and stand by it.
“Honey, I’m hungry” something deeper is going on. Two derivatives of this are “What are we having for dinner?” or “What would you like for me to cook?”
Best response: “I’m hungry too. Let’s grab a bite. Put on your shoes.”
Another response: “I’m hungry too. I want steaks tonight. I love your steaks.”
if she says that she’s hungry and you’re not you can say: “Well, I’m not. Grab a snack for now. We’ll go grab something when the game is done. My treat.”
Do More, Ask Less
if your girlfriend complains about her muscles being sore you can either ask her if she wants a massage or you can take charge and tell her that you’re going to give her one.
A true leader makes mistakes of ambition rather than mistakes of apathy.
It is my firm opinion that no man should ever have to be relegated to sleeping on the couch because his wife is upset or angry with him.
“Why are you parking here?”
look her firmly in the eye and with a cocky grin tell her, “Listen, you’re not driving, I am. I parked here because I want to.”
“Why did you park so far?”
“Because I enjoy taking long walks with my wife.”
let a woman’s negative behavior slide and become her doormat.
Yes, you have needs that need meeting but mature, adult relationships are more about the joy of giving.
If a woman had her father walk out on his family when she was younger or she’s been emotionally scarred by a heartbreaking break-up or divorce, she may suffer from strong feelings of abandonment. Women like this end up making men jump through endless hoops in order to get them to prove their love and devotion.
reject her rejection
“No, you’re not. THIS is your home now and I want to work through this with you because I love you.” This is the response of a mature, masculine man that loves his wife with passion and knows how to reject her rejection.
“I have an even better idea. You buy me a drink you think I’d like and I’ll buy you something I think you’ll appreciate.”
“Whoa, slow down. The only women I’ve ever bought drinks for were all girlfriends. Are you hinting at something?”
As a man passes her tests her trust will increase until her attraction to him outweighs her insecurities. She’ll feel overwhelmed with desire and those barriers she’s built up to keep you out will melt away. Sounds a lot like falling in love doesn’t it? Well, for a lot of women, it is.
Leaning on a woman for emotional support and security before she has a healthy amount of respect and attraction for you is a sure way to lose her. While opening your heart and being vulnerable with a woman is a great way to build intimacy, it’s actually relationship suicide if the proper foundation isn’t already in place.
Leave Her in Better Shape Than You Found Her
introspective person
The man who lives by unbending principles will not feel threatened by the ideas and opinions of others.
Because women are hard-wired to seek out and secure the love and loyalty of a man who leads, you’re going to have to up your game if you want a woman to respect, desire, and submit to your authority.
club-wielding caveman
the subconscious need to test a man to determine his capability to lead and capacity to love her.
be warned: you cannot unlearn what you read in this book
Due to the various social constraints placed on female sexuality women tend to conceal what they are really attracted to in men.
confuse gender “equality” with gender “uniformity.”
the problem is a miscommunication due to a lack of understanding.
Women test men because they seek both love and leadership from them. Therefore, if she has no romantic or emotional interest in you, you won’t be tested.
Whereas a man is driven by his primal (physical) senses of sight, touch, etc., a woman’s sexual driving force is her mind (psychological). Women are stimulated best by sexual tension, the friction of masculine against feminine. In order for her to get that little jolt of sexual excitement from you, she requires a playful assertion of your masculine confidence and power.
So while looking at your wife naked and groping her tight little body gives you the sexual jolt you need, experiencing a first hand display of your assertiveness gives her what she needs. And the best way for her to accomplish this is to “poke the bear” until she gets a rise out of you.
Would you stop squeezing your wife breasts once you’ve already determined that they’re firm and fabulous? Of course you wouldn’t. Would you stop groping her butt when she least expects it even though you already know the goods are still top quality? No, because at this point in the game you’re no longer assessing her quality, you’re enjoying her.
In the same way, just because your wife has tested you in the past doesn’t mean it’s going to stop now.
Assuming she’s been using passive-aggressive behaviors (like the silent treatment) to get your attention, you must push through these feints and get to the heart of the matter.
re-stating or paraphrasing what they hear. This helps the speaker to feel a sense of affirmation from the listener, which compels them to open up even more, thus eventually getting to the heart of the matter.
“You’ve been giving me the silent treatment all morning. I love you, but I’m only going to ask you once. Why are you acting this way?”
“I’ll never stop loving you” to make her feel secure again.
responding from a frame in which you see yourself as a “prized catch”, a man of strength, authority, and leadership, will communicate confidence and therefore the congruence she’s testing you for.
Her: “Are you always this arrogant?”
Him (with an overconfident grin): “So I’ve been told.”
call your woman out on her negative or unattractive behaviors; things like disrespectfulness, rudeness, manipulation, pettiness, etc.
break any emotional glass
she loves them because they’re comfortable. So instead of telling her just how ugly the shoes are you can reframe the situation by telling her that her shoes don’t match up to her beauty.
An effective communication strategy for disarming her test is to first agree with her then exaggerate her statement in a playful, teasing way. All this must be done in a confident, self-amused, playful way.
Her: “You actually think you’re handsome?”
You: “Of course, you know you can’t help yourself around all this man candy.”
Her: “Are you just going to play video games all day?” You: “You bet. And with enough practice I can quit my job and do this fulltime.”
Her: “We’re watching this movie again?”
You: “It’s great isn’t it? I’m so glad you’re excited!”
Her: “Do I look stupid to you?”
You: “I think you’re smarter than you look.”
Her: “Are you always this late?”
You: “Only when I’m picking up beautiful women.”
Her: “You never listen to me.”
You: “What’s that now?”
However, if she continues to flare up in your face and escalate her antagonistic behavior, something deeper may be going on that actually needs your attention. If this is the case, you may want to turn the knob down on the playfulness and take her a bit more seriously for the moment.
Another great way to respond to a woman who is clearly communicating with you in a hostile tone is to wait until she’s finish her tirade, look her squarely in the eyes, and in a calm, firm, masculine tone ask her, “Are you done?”
give her a confident smile and end it with this: “Nice to have you back.”
Women who subconsciously see their husbands and boyfriends as children or little brothers that they have to take care of have a much harder time respecting them.
close the gap of incongruence between what you believe about yourself and how you actually behave. Because of this, over time your mind will work to reinforce the belief that you’re a man of certainty once you consistently display those behaviors.
Him: “Well, while you’re entitled to your opinion. I still say it was a spectacular film.”
Him: “Wow. And here I was thinking that my girlfriend/wife had taste. Oh well, I guess I’m the cultured one in the relationship.”
simply say, “I will not argue with you about this.”
Sometimes your woman is going to want you to make a decision for her but she’s not going to tell you, “Honey, I want you to make this decision for me.”
She really doesn’t even care what you decide as long as you make a decision and stand by it.
“Honey, I’m hungry” something deeper is going on. Two derivatives of this are “What are we having for dinner?” or “What would you like for me to cook?”
Best response: “I’m hungry too. Let’s grab a bite. Put on your shoes.”
Another response: “I’m hungry too. I want steaks tonight. I love your steaks.”
if she says that she’s hungry and you’re not you can say: “Well, I’m not. Grab a snack for now. We’ll go grab something when the game is done. My treat.”
Do More, Ask Less
if your girlfriend complains about her muscles being sore you can either ask her if she wants a massage or you can take charge and tell her that you’re going to give her one.
A true leader makes mistakes of ambition rather than mistakes of apathy.
It is my firm opinion that no man should ever have to be relegated to sleeping on the couch because his wife is upset or angry with him.
“Why are you parking here?”
look her firmly in the eye and with a cocky grin tell her, “Listen, you’re not driving, I am. I parked here because I want to.”
“Why did you park so far?”
“Because I enjoy taking long walks with my wife.”
let a woman’s negative behavior slide and become her doormat.
Yes, you have needs that need meeting but mature, adult relationships are more about the joy of giving.
If a woman had her father walk out on his family when she was younger or she’s been emotionally scarred by a heartbreaking break-up or divorce, she may suffer from strong feelings of abandonment. Women like this end up making men jump through endless hoops in order to get them to prove their love and devotion.
reject her rejection
“No, you’re not. THIS is your home now and I want to work through this with you because I love you.” This is the response of a mature, masculine man that loves his wife with passion and knows how to reject her rejection.
“I have an even better idea. You buy me a drink you think I’d like and I’ll buy you something I think you’ll appreciate.”
“Whoa, slow down. The only women I’ve ever bought drinks for were all girlfriends. Are you hinting at something?”
As a man passes her tests her trust will increase until her attraction to him outweighs her insecurities. She’ll feel overwhelmed with desire and those barriers she’s built up to keep you out will melt away. Sounds a lot like falling in love doesn’t it? Well, for a lot of women, it is.
Leaning on a woman for emotional support and security before she has a healthy amount of respect and attraction for you is a sure way to lose her. While opening your heart and being vulnerable with a woman is a great way to build intimacy, it’s actually relationship suicide if the proper foundation isn’t already in place.
Leave Her in Better Shape Than You Found Her
introspective person
The man who lives by unbending principles will not feel threatened by the ideas and opinions of others.
Because women are hard-wired to seek out and secure the love and loyalty of a man who leads, you’re going to have to up your game if you want a woman to respect, desire, and submit to your authority.
club-wielding caveman
September 10, 2019
AMAZING!
This is the second book of Bruce Bryans that I have read thanks to Kindle Unlimited.
As usual, his books are so useful and incridble
I love you, Bruce Bryans.
Top Hints:
"Be strong, be confident, tease her playfully, and most
importantly…lead her. Don’t shirk your role as a man, don’t default your responsibilities to
women, don’t seek her approval, and don’t be predictable. When she loses herself in her
emotions you must maintain your frame, stay your course, and refuse to hand over your balls. In
short, don’t be a pushover."
"No matter how many relationship books you read, how many books on being romantic or
attracting women you study, you will always arrive at the same conclusion over and over again.
And it’s this…
Women want to be loved by a man who leads. Any effort to seduce her or win her heart with
romance will only backfire if she doesn’t already respect you as a man."
This is the second book of Bruce Bryans that I have read thanks to Kindle Unlimited.
As usual, his books are so useful and incridble
I love you, Bruce Bryans.
Top Hints:
"Be strong, be confident, tease her playfully, and most
importantly…lead her. Don’t shirk your role as a man, don’t default your responsibilities to
women, don’t seek her approval, and don’t be predictable. When she loses herself in her
emotions you must maintain your frame, stay your course, and refuse to hand over your balls. In
short, don’t be a pushover."
"No matter how many relationship books you read, how many books on being romantic or
attracting women you study, you will always arrive at the same conclusion over and over again.
And it’s this…
Women want to be loved by a man who leads. Any effort to seduce her or win her heart with
romance will only backfire if she doesn’t already respect you as a man."
November 11, 2016
What an incredible book!
I've read a lot of books on marriage and relationship advice over the past 2 years, I wish I had read this first. The author tells you what you need to know to reclaim your manhood and become a leader in your marriage. Fathers should be teaching this information to their sons.
I've read a lot of books on marriage and relationship advice over the past 2 years, I wish I had read this first. The author tells you what you need to know to reclaim your manhood and become a leader in your marriage. Fathers should be teaching this information to their sons.
May 7, 2017
دیدگاه نویسنده رو درباره ی روابط خیلی قبول دارم . خوبیش اینه که میگه که برای موفقیت راه میانبری وجود نداره و اگر که میخواید در این زمینه موفق بشید باید همیشه در حال ارتقا شخصیت خودتون بشید و به شخصیتتون اصالت بدید.
عکس روی جلد و عنوان کتاب ممکنه گول زننده باشه و تصور یک کتاب زرد و مبتذل رو ایجاد کنه اما اصلا اینجوری نیست
عکس روی جلد و عنوان کتاب ممکنه گول زننده باشه و تصور یک کتاب زرد و مبتذل رو ایجاد کنه اما اصلا اینجوری نیست
November 23, 2017
Kind of reminds me of a David Deida book chapter, that gets exploded into a whole book. I guess I do feel the points are valid, but it also feels like looking at a festering wound too long. Eventually all the looking wont help it. My analogy is bad, but you'll get what I mean if you read the book. If it is the first time you have encountered this notion of testing, you'll find it insightful.
May 8, 2020
Overall, just ok. Ended up taking away something that wasn't even the main message of the book.
People with strong frames look inside to see if they're on the right path, whereas those who don't look outside as they try to do things as right and perfect as they can. And when they do look inward, all they see are the mistakes they're making and the things that need fixing.
People with strong frames look inside to see if they're on the right path, whereas those who don't look outside as they try to do things as right and perfect as they can. And when they do look inward, all they see are the mistakes they're making and the things that need fixing.
December 9, 2015
Success determined by your prior preparation
Make no doubt about it, all women will test your masculinity and strength! This book will help you understand when these tests occur and will ultimately allow you to grow and become more with each interaction with the opposite sex.
Make no doubt about it, all women will test your masculinity and strength! This book will help you understand when these tests occur and will ultimately allow you to grow and become more with each interaction with the opposite sex.
June 6, 2016
Dad Advice
This is one of the books that I am giving my teenage sons, as I believe it will make their lives better.
It has the typical grammatical errors that most ebooks do, but its concise and filled with examples at the same time.
This is one of the books that I am giving my teenage sons, as I believe it will make their lives better.
It has the typical grammatical errors that most ebooks do, but its concise and filled with examples at the same time.
January 20, 2018
Another Classic
I recommend this book because it not only empowers you but it makes you look at the world in a new light on having respect first for yourself, and making others respect you as well.
I recommend this book because it not only empowers you but it makes you look at the world in a new light on having respect first for yourself, and making others respect you as well.
July 9, 2016
Best Self Help Book
The author really opened my eyes to a lot of the female intentions and subconscious thought processes It was very revealing.
The author really opened my eyes to a lot of the female intentions and subconscious thought processes It was very revealing.
July 26, 2016
Pretty solid read. Very practical advice for any man in a relationship.
November 27, 2016
Thought it was a very good and insightful book.
He has a lot of good points and gave me a good amount to think on how to deal with the drama 'out of nowhere' that I run into in relationships.
He has a lot of good points and gave me a good amount to think on how to deal with the drama 'out of nowhere' that I run into in relationships.
January 20, 2017
Good stuff
Filled with insight and valuable information. But some what repetitive and lengthy. Would recommend to any guy interested in more healthy relationships with women
Filled with insight and valuable information. But some what repetitive and lengthy. Would recommend to any guy interested in more healthy relationships with women
July 24, 2017
Worth the read
Very good information delivered in this book. Took some of the steps covered in the book and noticed a change in response.
Very good information delivered in this book. Took some of the steps covered in the book and noticed a change in response.
February 27, 2026
This book offers a thought-provoking look into a topic that many men quietly struggle to understand: why women “test” the men they are involved with. Rather than portraying these moments as manipulative or irrational, Bruce Bryan frames them as instinctive behaviors rooted in attraction, emotional security, and evolutionary psychology.
One of the strongest aspects of the book is its clarity. It explains that these so-called tests are often subconscious ways women assess strength, confidence, emotional stability, and congruence. Instead of encouraging men to “pass” tests through tactics or clever lines, Bryan emphasizes something more foundational: self-respect. Standing firm, remaining composed, and responding with grounded confidence is presented not as a performance, but as an authentic expression of masculinity.
The book also makes an important distinction. It is not about dominating or outmaneuvering a partner. It is about maintaining your frame while still offering understanding and emotional steadiness. That balance between strength and empathy is where genuine attraction and respect are built. When a man can stay centered without becoming reactive, defensive, or approval-seeking, he naturally commands deeper admiration.
What makes this book particularly useful is that it encourages internal growth. Rather than obsessing over women’s behavior, it redirects focus back to the reader. The underlying message is simple but powerful: build yourself into a man who does not crumble under pressure, who does not chase validation, and who can remain calm in emotional turbulence. When that foundation is solid, “tests” lose their intimidation factor.
At times, some readers may find the perspective somewhat generalized in its portrayal of gender dynamics. However, taken as a lens rather than a rigid rulebook, it provides practical insight into relationship patterns that many men experience but struggle to articulate.
Overall, What Women Want When They Test Men is an insightful and confidence-building read. It helps demystify a confusing dynamic while reinforcing the importance of strength, congruence, and emotional composure. For men seeking clarity in dating and relationships, this book offers a structured way to understand those moments of uncertainty and respond with grounded self-assurance rather than doubt.
One of the strongest aspects of the book is its clarity. It explains that these so-called tests are often subconscious ways women assess strength, confidence, emotional stability, and congruence. Instead of encouraging men to “pass” tests through tactics or clever lines, Bryan emphasizes something more foundational: self-respect. Standing firm, remaining composed, and responding with grounded confidence is presented not as a performance, but as an authentic expression of masculinity.
The book also makes an important distinction. It is not about dominating or outmaneuvering a partner. It is about maintaining your frame while still offering understanding and emotional steadiness. That balance between strength and empathy is where genuine attraction and respect are built. When a man can stay centered without becoming reactive, defensive, or approval-seeking, he naturally commands deeper admiration.
What makes this book particularly useful is that it encourages internal growth. Rather than obsessing over women’s behavior, it redirects focus back to the reader. The underlying message is simple but powerful: build yourself into a man who does not crumble under pressure, who does not chase validation, and who can remain calm in emotional turbulence. When that foundation is solid, “tests” lose their intimidation factor.
At times, some readers may find the perspective somewhat generalized in its portrayal of gender dynamics. However, taken as a lens rather than a rigid rulebook, it provides practical insight into relationship patterns that many men experience but struggle to articulate.
Overall, What Women Want When They Test Men is an insightful and confidence-building read. It helps demystify a confusing dynamic while reinforcing the importance of strength, congruence, and emotional composure. For men seeking clarity in dating and relationships, this book offers a structured way to understand those moments of uncertainty and respond with grounded self-assurance rather than doubt.
May 17, 2023
Women who are victims of domestic violence may see this book as worrisome.
The premise is that normal, neuro typical men are reading this book
That is not statistically accurate.
A large portion of the male population are not the just "uneducated about women, aka every man" but fall under the category of "other".
That's is what this book fails to address.
Because there are so many mentally, spiritually, emotionally and physically abusive men out there that this book worries me a bit.
Dont get me wrong, ideally, this book is
awesome. There isnt a woman alive who wouldn't sex kitten. submit to fall over serving and be forever faithful loyal to the man you are training mr everyman to be.
But you are ignoring facts about a large percentage of men. You are ignoring domestic abuse, which can effect men but is largely perpetrated by men towards women and children
If a man is twisted in his outlook towards himself and women, he is self deceived and actually thinks he is the everyman from this book, then this book will seem like it validates his thoughts bc he thinks hes ok.
.
If you had advised your readers the basic character or nature of many men is abusive and to go get help if anything the wife says sounds like
"You are hurting me. You are abusing me physically or verbally, you are hurting the children" then she is legitimately upset for a reason and is not just being a manipulative bitch, or testing then I would feel a bit better about this book.
I feel if you had started the book out with a domestic abuse and mental health statistics and what it looks like compared to what you are actually saying then it would adjust the optics a bit.
Mean men think they are ok. It's up to other men to show them they are not.
Please include a forward or a chapter to address this issue.
I think you would find women more accepting of this book in general if you did.
Sorry for all the type o's. Typing on my phone.
The premise is that normal, neuro typical men are reading this book
That is not statistically accurate.
A large portion of the male population are not the just "uneducated about women, aka every man" but fall under the category of "other".
That's is what this book fails to address.
Because there are so many mentally, spiritually, emotionally and physically abusive men out there that this book worries me a bit.
Dont get me wrong, ideally, this book is
awesome. There isnt a woman alive who wouldn't sex kitten. submit to fall over serving and be forever faithful loyal to the man you are training mr everyman to be.
But you are ignoring facts about a large percentage of men. You are ignoring domestic abuse, which can effect men but is largely perpetrated by men towards women and children
If a man is twisted in his outlook towards himself and women, he is self deceived and actually thinks he is the everyman from this book, then this book will seem like it validates his thoughts bc he thinks hes ok.
.
If you had advised your readers the basic character or nature of many men is abusive and to go get help if anything the wife says sounds like
"You are hurting me. You are abusing me physically or verbally, you are hurting the children" then she is legitimately upset for a reason and is not just being a manipulative bitch, or testing then I would feel a bit better about this book.
I feel if you had started the book out with a domestic abuse and mental health statistics and what it looks like compared to what you are actually saying then it would adjust the optics a bit.
Mean men think they are ok. It's up to other men to show them they are not.
Please include a forward or a chapter to address this issue.
I think you would find women more accepting of this book in general if you did.
Sorry for all the type o's. Typing on my phone.
January 21, 2019
I wish I had this book many years ago. No matter what, women will test men throughout their lives. Be it subtle or overt. But most of the time it is subtle. Many of the interactions with women I had in the past, were actually tests. A woman *will* continue to test you, and this is not restricted to the courtship stage; it will happen throughout one's life and -- though the frequency of these tests may go down -- test she will! As men, the mistake we often make is that we try to understand women using the same frame of reference that we use for judging other men and that's a recipe for disaster. Women are emotional being and men are rational being. Men and women are different in their traits, and this is what makes our lives on this planet so much more fun, if we were only to embrace these differences rather than fight them. A man can't put his rational judgement when interacting with a woman. The author did a great job by going deeper into the core of women nature and explains the different kinds of tests women throw at men from courtship to intimate relationship stage. When a woman get attracted to a man she will test. A woman would not have tested a man if she was not interested in the first place.
Highly recommended.
Highly recommended.
January 12, 2023
- Men think rationally while women think emotionally. Thus, most of the women's communication is through acting out (which is how emotion communicate). The trouble with men interpreting it using rational thought would be wrong since it's the wrong communication method
- Therefore - the author believes that it's wrong for men to lash out to women who communicate emotionally (the author think if a man think this way, he should be single for the rest of the life)
- Instead, the better method would be for men to understand, and communicate with women to understand her true intention. Men should learn more emotionally, and women should learn more rationally to reach a balance
- Without the compromise of the balance, woman would either lose interest in the man, or believing that the man doesn't have interest in her thus she should move on
- Therefore - the author believes that it's wrong for men to lash out to women who communicate emotionally (the author think if a man think this way, he should be single for the rest of the life)
- Instead, the better method would be for men to understand, and communicate with women to understand her true intention. Men should learn more emotionally, and women should learn more rationally to reach a balance
- Without the compromise of the balance, woman would either lose interest in the man, or believing that the man doesn't have interest in her thus she should move on
July 15, 2020
Brilliant insight into navigatting through a woman's emotions
This was a much needed book for me. I would keep reading my girlfriend's emotions towards my behavior completely wrong, and I would easily get triggered. I maintained a steady pace, read 1 chapter a day, absorbed it's contents, really reflected on what was written, and lived the advice. It turns out, Bruce is right, and the words in this book has made my relationship a lot more fun and, my girlfriend and I are a lot more connected. Must read for every man who aims to be in a happy and peaceful relationship.
This was a much needed book for me. I would keep reading my girlfriend's emotions towards my behavior completely wrong, and I would easily get triggered. I maintained a steady pace, read 1 chapter a day, absorbed it's contents, really reflected on what was written, and lived the advice. It turns out, Bruce is right, and the words in this book has made my relationship a lot more fun and, my girlfriend and I are a lot more connected. Must read for every man who aims to be in a happy and peaceful relationship.
December 22, 2022
Reading this book was hard, because I initially had some knee jerk reactions but when I really began to consider what the author was sharing I was able to identify the behaviors he spoke of. It helped me understand my past relationships from a different angle and see some of the ways that a man can get tested and not even realize it. It gave me some deep food for thought on how I can be better grounded and aware of myself, and be less of a so-called nice guy.
January 1, 2023
Informative Thesis Defended with convincing cases
I like how the author works relevance into this entire book. It scientifically presents subtypes of verbal games for example that put together two variables at a time (like tone and appropriateness of requests). It gives plausible situations with simple answers that should work for Americans to hope to live better lives. It's a worthy read to inspire normal thoughts on par with existing in the US.
I like how the author works relevance into this entire book. It scientifically presents subtypes of verbal games for example that put together two variables at a time (like tone and appropriateness of requests). It gives plausible situations with simple answers that should work for Americans to hope to live better lives. It's a worthy read to inspire normal thoughts on par with existing in the US.
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September 22, 2023This is REAL advice.
So, just like anyone looking at reading this book, I am too having trouble at home. Have been for a couple years. Being a busy guy with a new home and a 13 month old boy at home, it took me a week to finish. About halfway through, my girlfriend was asking, "Why do you seem different?". And not in a bad way. Bruce Bryans advice definitely worked for me, and I will be recommending this book in the future, I'm sure!
So, just like anyone looking at reading this book, I am too having trouble at home. Have been for a couple years. Being a busy guy with a new home and a 13 month old boy at home, it took me a week to finish. About halfway through, my girlfriend was asking, "Why do you seem different?". And not in a bad way. Bruce Bryans advice definitely worked for me, and I will be recommending this book in the future, I'm sure!
March 27, 2025
What women want when they test men...
Inciteful, fairly goid read and ties into being a spiritual being living a human existence and finding the integrity that's in a man's DNA.
Thanks for giving me back something to read that backs and supports my position. A man must stand for something or falls for everything! And he doesn't have to be backed in a corner by the beliefs of an insecure women.
Inciteful, fairly goid read and ties into being a spiritual being living a human existence and finding the integrity that's in a man's DNA.
Thanks for giving me back something to read that backs and supports my position. A man must stand for something or falls for everything! And he doesn't have to be backed in a corner by the beliefs of an insecure women.
May 3, 2025
"Great book. I’ve learned that a man must lead with compassion and love with passion. Stand up for yourself, stay grounded, honor your boundaries and core values — and respect your woman.
One powerful quote from the book captures its essence: 'Women want to be loved by a man who leads.' Any attempt to seduce or win her heart with romance will backfire if she doesn’t already respect you as a man."
One powerful quote from the book captures its essence: 'Women want to be loved by a man who leads.' Any attempt to seduce or win her heart with romance will backfire if she doesn’t already respect you as a man."
March 10, 2019
Tags: relationships, gender roles
Comments: some good ideas about the difference between being domineering in a relationship and standing up for yourself when your partner is behaving inconsistent with principles you value. Does have some spelling errors which are distracting and diminish credibility
Comments: some good ideas about the difference between being domineering in a relationship and standing up for yourself when your partner is behaving inconsistent with principles you value. Does have some spelling errors which are distracting and diminish credibility
April 21, 2020
This was amazing. It rings absolutely true and I see it in the actions of my father and the long term relationships I've had. Indeed I saw how I interacted with a gentleman I just met not realizing I was testing him. I know I can follow these guidelines and be a 'modern' woman. It took so long to read because I took it is small pieces and re-read a lot of it. I appreciate the author's candor!
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