This is a great book for understanding and healing birth trauma. Highly recommended if you are in the birth world. The author @campionmaureen writes that you may know your birth story is unresolved if you- become emotionally overwhelmed talking about your birth - avoid hearing other women's birth stories - dismiss your own feelings about your birth and have to keep telling yourself that you're "fine" - shut down when the topic of birth comes up - obsess about the details of your birth and find it intruding on your thoughts.
"Healing your birth trauma means taking space to experience the overwhelming feelings that weren't available during the actual birth. Expressing these big emotions, rather than suppressing or hiding or denying them, is a powerful tool in working through full self-expression of your birth story."
"Birth requires us to be in touch with our bodies, accept enormous vulnerability, assert our needs powerfully, and build trusting, healthy relationships with our care providers. These are complicated tasks. Even if you have no history of previous trauma, it is likely that at least one of these was a challenge as you prepared for your birth."
"Healing does not mean that the birth becomes something good or that you necessarily feel at peace with your birth. Healing does not mean that you get amnesia. You know that your healing is going well when you notice that it has been a series of good days in a row. You might find yourself thinking about your birth differently or being able to experience the wonderful pieces of the story. Healing means moving your birth story from the present where it is raw and intense and unpredictable to the past where it is over and complete and perhaps sad, perhaps frustrating. You know that you are on the right path when you stop defining yourself by your story."
If you are wanting to heal your own birth story, depending where you are at in your journey, reading this book while going to therapy could be helpful- because diving deeper into your story could create some triggers and trauma reactions.