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The Fountain of Age - Revolutionises Our Ideas About Age and How We Live Our Lives
Struggling to hold on to the illusion of youth, Friedan wrote, we have denied the reality and evaded the new triumphs of growing older. We have seen age only as decline. In this powerful and very personal book, Betty Friedan charted her own voyage of discovery, and that of others, into a different kind of aging.Friedan found ordinary men and women, moving into their fifties, sixties, seventies, discovering extraordinary new possibilities of intimacy and purpose. In their surprising experiences, Friedan first glimpsed, then embraced, the idea that one can grow and evolve throughout life in a style that dramatically mitigates the expectation of decline and opens the way to a further dimension of "personhood."The Fountain of Age suggests new possibilities for every one of us, all founded on a solid body of startling but little-known scientific evidence. It demolishes those myths that have constrained us for too long and offers compelling alternatives for living one's age as a unique, exuberant time of life, on its own authentic terms.
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Betty Friedan
31 books627 followersAmerican feminist Betty Naomi Friedan (née Bettye Naomi Goldstein) wrote
The Feminine Mystique
in 1963 and cofounded the National Organization for Women in 1966. This book started the "second wave" of feminism.
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March 7, 2014
This is a book which, intrigued by the title, I picked up some years ago but didn't read beyond the preface. Now, facing mandatory retirement, I picked it up again and found it inspirational. While carefully researched with many interactions with gerontologists and other "professionals" of age, the book is essentially a personal odyssey, an exploration of dealing with aging and the opening up of a whole new range of possibilities through generativity. The latter term is not a familiar one but essentially involves drawing from the fountain of age to work with and through other generations to build something new and whole. Ms Friedan draws parallels with her work on the feminine mystique emphasizing a similar need to break through barriers but in a less confrontational way.
The book follows a logical progression, initially dealing with issues of denial and fear of aging, the loss of intimacy, hurdles of retirement and death of loved ones. But there is always hope and often discovery and renewal together with an increasing sense of comfort in being oneself. I found her adventures in Going Beyond on an Outward Bound wilderness survival expedition a little extreme for my taste! but could still appreciate why older people wanted to do something like that and the sense of achievement when accomplished. Ms Friedan continuously militates against the perception of age in terms of requirements for care and shows convincingly how greater involvement in the community and mutual looking out for each other by peers can result in a much more satisfying life.
This is not a book to read in a hurry. Each chapter offers much for reflection and should be savoured. Ms Friedan put her findings and the understanding she gained though the research for this book to good use in her own life, remaining active and involved with her work and community into her eighties. We would be well-advised to follow suit and this book can help us on the journey.
The book follows a logical progression, initially dealing with issues of denial and fear of aging, the loss of intimacy, hurdles of retirement and death of loved ones. But there is always hope and often discovery and renewal together with an increasing sense of comfort in being oneself. I found her adventures in Going Beyond on an Outward Bound wilderness survival expedition a little extreme for my taste! but could still appreciate why older people wanted to do something like that and the sense of achievement when accomplished. Ms Friedan continuously militates against the perception of age in terms of requirements for care and shows convincingly how greater involvement in the community and mutual looking out for each other by peers can result in a much more satisfying life.
This is not a book to read in a hurry. Each chapter offers much for reflection and should be savoured. Ms Friedan put her findings and the understanding she gained though the research for this book to good use in her own life, remaining active and involved with her work and community into her eighties. We would be well-advised to follow suit and this book can help us on the journey.
August 10, 2019
The lengthy interview quotes made this book more interesting, but also choppy and long. I’m always interested to hear how people changed throughout their lives and to learn more about what is important to them now vs. what was important to them then.
I’ve often wondered why there aren’t more older celebrity women sharing the wisdom they’ve gained over the years. Thirty years after The Feminine Mystique, Betty Friedan wrote this book. Now I’m starting to think that the wisdom is out there, it’s just not something people tend to become famous for.
I’ve often wondered why there aren’t more older celebrity women sharing the wisdom they’ve gained over the years. Thirty years after The Feminine Mystique, Betty Friedan wrote this book. Now I’m starting to think that the wisdom is out there, it’s just not something people tend to become famous for.
June 22, 2008
Friedan was always ahead of the curve. Her discussion of how difficult it was to find research on aging that did not involve the 'problems.' She included interesting stories from people actually trying to negotiate aging in a society that values youth.
November 1, 2015
When I read Atul Gawande's On Being Mortal and What Matters in the End, I thought it was a life-changing book in that he gave so much insight into how our growing older population should be treated and valued as they make decisions about the remaining part of their lives. Little did I know at the time that Betty Friedan (of legendary Feminine Mystique status) twenty year BEFORE Gawande and brought up some of the very same ideas and more. This book should be required reading for anyone post-fifty as Friedan takes on every facet of aging (from sex to creativity to housing choices to women living eight years longer than men and countless other topics). With incredibly in-depth scholarly research and a seemingly infinite amount of interviews, she challenges so many conventionally held ideas about aging (e.g.,losing brain cells as we age) and shows how aging can be freeing of the inner depths of who we are. It is a really long book (almost 650 books), and it is hard to read it fast since each page contains fascinating material that I have not seen elsewhere. . . so I would advise people to take their time but make it from cover to cover. If you do, this is the gem you will come across by the end: "There will not have to be such dread and denial . . .in living their age if we use our own age in new adventures, breaking the old rules and inhibitions, changing the patterns and possibilities of love and work, learning and play, worship and creation, discovery and political responsibility, and resolving the seeming irreconcilable conflicts between them." I may not be able to go on an Outward Bound rafting trip when I am 65, like Friedan describes going on, but I sure hope that I am still writing book at least have as good as this one around the same age.
December 3, 2021
Very meaningful book for me. It really did change my perspective on retirement and progressive physical losses. Example:
“The group that had not broken down in age seemed to focus on aspects of themselves that were‘continuous or evolving’ rather than those they had lost….”they were able to substitute a new set of achievable gratifications and sources of pride to replace old ones which were no longer available to them.”
I did not give it five stars because the author did a wonderful job supporting her thesis with lots of research. Many people will find that hard to wade through. Just the length of the book will prevent many people from picking it up. I can’t recommend it to my book club since they prefer shorter books.
However, If you are getting older, (pause for laugh) this on is well worth your time.
“The group that had not broken down in age seemed to focus on aspects of themselves that were‘continuous or evolving’ rather than those they had lost….”they were able to substitute a new set of achievable gratifications and sources of pride to replace old ones which were no longer available to them.”
I did not give it five stars because the author did a wonderful job supporting her thesis with lots of research. Many people will find that hard to wade through. Just the length of the book will prevent many people from picking it up. I can’t recommend it to my book club since they prefer shorter books.
However, If you are getting older, (pause for laugh) this on is well worth your time.
August 26, 2014
Friedan takes on a worthy project: dispelling the myth that aging means decline, detachment and decay. She's right to challenge the ageism pervasive in our society. We too often objectify older adults, even when we seek to take good care of them. We end up infantalizing them, robbing them of their personhood.
The aim of her book is a 5/5 star rating. The execution is 3/5.
She is plagued by three problems: 1) She's long winded (636 pages!). She gives an avalanche of evidence for each major claim, to the point where she often repeats herself. 2) She's immersed in class privilege. Many of her stories talk about attorneys, film directors, business executives, doctors, lawyers and artists tackling aging challenges with travel, building fancy homes, starting not-for-profits, etc. 3) Hyperbole. She forces some of her data into her major claim.
But I can almost forgive this because so much of the mainstream press uses hyperbole to describe the losses of age. (And there are some real losses, but we can gain spiritual insight in response and find new opportunities in the wake of loss.)
It's a powerful book. I just wish she had made it 300 pages instead.
Here are her chapter titles:
1. Denial and the "Problem" of Age
2. The Two Faces of Age
3. The Youth Short Circuit
4. Why Do Women Age Longer and Better than Men?
5. Beyond the Masculinity of Youth
6. The Retirement Paradox
7. Chosen Human Work
8. Intimacy Beyond the Dreams of Youth
9. Going Beyond
10. Coming into a New Place
11. To Move or to Stay
12. At Home in a New Place
13. A Paradigm Shift from "Cure"
14. Beyond Symptoms and Disease
15. The New Menopause Brouhaha
16. The Nursing Home Specter
17. Dying with Life
18. Age as Adventure
19. Generativity
The aim of her book is a 5/5 star rating. The execution is 3/5.
She is plagued by three problems: 1) She's long winded (636 pages!). She gives an avalanche of evidence for each major claim, to the point where she often repeats herself. 2) She's immersed in class privilege. Many of her stories talk about attorneys, film directors, business executives, doctors, lawyers and artists tackling aging challenges with travel, building fancy homes, starting not-for-profits, etc. 3) Hyperbole. She forces some of her data into her major claim.
But I can almost forgive this because so much of the mainstream press uses hyperbole to describe the losses of age. (And there are some real losses, but we can gain spiritual insight in response and find new opportunities in the wake of loss.)
It's a powerful book. I just wish she had made it 300 pages instead.
Here are her chapter titles:
1. Denial and the "Problem" of Age
2. The Two Faces of Age
3. The Youth Short Circuit
4. Why Do Women Age Longer and Better than Men?
5. Beyond the Masculinity of Youth
6. The Retirement Paradox
7. Chosen Human Work
8. Intimacy Beyond the Dreams of Youth
9. Going Beyond
10. Coming into a New Place
11. To Move or to Stay
12. At Home in a New Place
13. A Paradigm Shift from "Cure"
14. Beyond Symptoms and Disease
15. The New Menopause Brouhaha
16. The Nursing Home Specter
17. Dying with Life
18. Age as Adventure
19. Generativity
June 10, 2025
Getting close to retirement, this book was helpful in seeing our potential when we reach the "Third Age" of our lives and what a joy it can be. We grow up thinking "oh geez"...getting old will be the end...may as well just curl up in a ball and wait for the inevitable. Or lately I've been pondering "should I get Long Term Health Insurance" for when I go into a nursing home because of course this is what is going to happen because society instills this idea in us that this will inevitably be the case. But is it or is it just another way for corporations to make another buck by praying on our fears of getting old and being alone and being sick? The Third Age doesn't have to spell the end, but the beginning of something new. I'm grateful I took the time to read this book. Although it can get a bit scientific at times, it really opened my eyes to the simple fact I should stop worrying about needing all this care as I get older. Just get out and enjoy life, speak my mind, and just be present.
March 3, 2018
I hate to admit this, but I skimmed most of this book. It is a bit dated, having been published in 2001. I think I would have stopped reading it early in the book, but I kept thinking there would be some momentously sage advice or pronouncement. The narrative style mixed in with the descriptions of Aging and Care of Aged didn't hold my attention. . . until the part where the author went on an Outward Bound excursion. I can relate to Outward Bound because it used to be based in my area, so reading about Betty Friedan rappelling off the side of Table Rock Mountain (which is in my backyard) was very interesting! Too bad the rest of the book wasn't.
September 30, 2021
I.m a 70 year old woman and read this book with my cousin who is a little younger. We loved it and especially the feeling of age as an adventure! Very validating. Lots of positive information about aging at home with family. A reassuring read if you are trying to face aging creatively!
November 4, 2013
Tedious to read
September 6, 2025
CAN AGE BE A ‘POSITIVE’ FORCE, AND NOT SIMPLY MEAN DEGENERATION AND DEBILITY?
Betty Friedan (1921-2006) was one of the earliest ‘founders’ of the modern women’s movement. She co-founded the National Organization for Women (NOW) and was its first president. She also was one of the founders of the National Women’s Political Caucus (NWPC).
She wrote in the ‘Author’s Note’ to this 1993 book, “I started this search in what I thought was merely theoretical excitement when I saw that first clue that didn’t fit the accepted truth about women on the brink of age---those women who ‘didn’t have menopause.’ I pursued that clue in growing personal dread, because in my fifties I didn’t even want to think about age. I was locked in my own denial. I had to break out of my personal denial before I could truly take in and exult over the stories of surprisingly many women, and also men, whom I found in their sixties, seventies, eighties, and even nineties continuing to grow, and living with vitality to a different kind of age…
“As with ‘The Feminine Mystique,’ I made this search into the strange discrepancy between the dread image of age and the vital reality of these women and men simply as a writer on the track of a story, using my own combination of personal truth and hunch… of journalistic observation and investigative research, drawing on my training as a psychologist and a social scientist to follow clues where they led me in the massive controlled research of gerontology… My own dread of age and personal denial became more acute at first as I plunged into the gerontological research. But this dread gave way to growing excitement as I found in many studies implications for a new truth about age that belied its definition only as decline and deterioration from youth.” (Pg. 9-10)
She adds in the Preface, “The few ‘career women’ to be found in America thirty years ago… were likely to be ‘freaks’ who had not married or had children. Women who combined professions with motherhood were not numerous enough in any city to constitute a pattern… They were older, in their fifties most of them, but I had noticed something about the way they looked… [They] seemed somehow more vibrant, more alive than those … frustrated younger suburban housewives I had been interviewing for ‘The Feminine Mystique.’ When I asked them… about their menopause, one after another said, ‘I didn’t have menopause’… they had, in fact, stopped menstruating, though they weren’t sure exactly when, because they had been so busy with their jobs and their teenage kids. But they simply hadn’t suffered any of the dreaded debilitating symptoms that were expected to accompany that supposed ‘end of life as a woman.’” (Pg. 14)
She continues, “Back in the 1960s, women, myself included, were moving beyond that definition of ourselves solely in terms of our biological sexual role… women were taking steps to change their lives---going back to school, getting up the courage to look for jobs, asserting their own personhood…. And I began to wonder: When women grow beyond the limits of their biological role and find new purposes for their lives, could that larger human dimension change the very biology of the aging process?” (Pg. 15)
She recounts, “I needed some new questions to work on myself. Not that I was particularly interested in age. Not that the problems of women which had absorbed my energy and passions for twenty years had all been solved. Not that the women’s movement was all over. But I now saw it as only the first stage of a revolution---not a war of women against men but an evolutionary breakthrough freeing us from those polarized masculine and feminine sex roles… that were now getting in everyone’s way… Come to think of it, what had really caused the women’s movement was the additional years of human life. At the turn of the century, women’s life expectancy was forty-six; now it was nearly eighty… Career vs. childrearing wasn’t the question any more. But there was no model for living those new years of life in either the man’s or the woman’s sex role. Was the very transcending of those sex roles an evolutionary breakthrough?” (Pg. 16-17)
She goes on, “I kept stumbling on more surprises---like studies of the trauma of retirement in men or widowhood or the ‘empty nest’ in women where, in fact, the expected symptoms never materialized in many of those studied… Another fact … when a man’s wife dies, he is more likely to die within the next two years than other men his age---unless he remarries, at which point his life expectancy goes back to normal. But if her husband dies, a woman… is not as likely to die within the next two years.” (Pg. 18)
She adds, “epidemiologists and psychologists wondered whether mental health might not necessarily deteriorate with age at all. But then they … saw that the improvement had taken place only among women. Women in their forties and fifties, even in their sixties, were now enjoying mental health as good as or better than that of women in their twenties and thirties. In fact, the younger women today were showing more signs of stress… Men showed no such improvement… Studies were showing men now suffering greater ‘empty nest’ crises than their wives… All around me, men my age and older were leaving their wives of thirty and forty years to start new families with young wives… Some of the discarded, older wives … were suddenly letting that … jet black hair grow out white, and moving on to projects of their own that they hadn’t dared to try before.” (Pg. 19)
She continues, “Could a woman, released from her previous feminine role, find strengths in herself she had sought before from men; could a man discover and/or develop sensitivities in himself that he had once sought only in women? Is integration of our masculine and feminine qualities a possible stage of development in age? And finally, might a new dimension of our humanity emerge with age?” (Pg. 19)
She adds, “I myself shrank from the polite or almost sneering tone of voice … when people heard I was doing research on age. ‘I’m not really interested in age,’ I insisted. ‘Just what keeps some women and men growing and developing past sixty while others deteriorate… It’s not the fountain of youth… And it’s not living forever… It’s something else that can happen in age---if you let it… but it’s not holding on to youth.’ [Seventy-year-old Mike suggested to her, "The fountain of age?’” (Pg. 27)
She summarizes, “I have discovered that there is a crucial difference between society’s image of old people, and ‘us’ as we know and feel ourselves to be. There are truly fearful realities reflected----and imposed---by that image. To break through that image, we must first understand why, how, and by whom it is perpetuated We must also glimpse some new possibilities and new directions, both as individuals and as a society, that belie that image. I have found… that there are choices we can make along the journey we all, sooner or later, must take that truly open surprising new possibilities.” (Pg. 31)
She concludes, “I began this quest with my own denial and fear of age. It ends with acceptance, affirmation, and celebration. Somewhere along the way, I recognized… my liberation from the power politics of the women’s movement. I recognized my own compelling need now to transcend the war between the sexes, the no-win battles of women as a whole sex, oppressed victims, against men as a whole sex, the oppressors. I recognized that my need to reconcile feminism and families comes from my own generativity, my personal truth as mother to my children, and my commitment to the future of the women’s movement… I have never felt so free.” (Pg. 638)
There is a LOT of interesting research in this book; but it interested me mostly to see the continuing development of Ms. Friedan, one of the ‘pioneers’ of the women’s movement.
Betty Friedan (1921-2006) was one of the earliest ‘founders’ of the modern women’s movement. She co-founded the National Organization for Women (NOW) and was its first president. She also was one of the founders of the National Women’s Political Caucus (NWPC).
She wrote in the ‘Author’s Note’ to this 1993 book, “I started this search in what I thought was merely theoretical excitement when I saw that first clue that didn’t fit the accepted truth about women on the brink of age---those women who ‘didn’t have menopause.’ I pursued that clue in growing personal dread, because in my fifties I didn’t even want to think about age. I was locked in my own denial. I had to break out of my personal denial before I could truly take in and exult over the stories of surprisingly many women, and also men, whom I found in their sixties, seventies, eighties, and even nineties continuing to grow, and living with vitality to a different kind of age…
“As with ‘The Feminine Mystique,’ I made this search into the strange discrepancy between the dread image of age and the vital reality of these women and men simply as a writer on the track of a story, using my own combination of personal truth and hunch… of journalistic observation and investigative research, drawing on my training as a psychologist and a social scientist to follow clues where they led me in the massive controlled research of gerontology… My own dread of age and personal denial became more acute at first as I plunged into the gerontological research. But this dread gave way to growing excitement as I found in many studies implications for a new truth about age that belied its definition only as decline and deterioration from youth.” (Pg. 9-10)
She adds in the Preface, “The few ‘career women’ to be found in America thirty years ago… were likely to be ‘freaks’ who had not married or had children. Women who combined professions with motherhood were not numerous enough in any city to constitute a pattern… They were older, in their fifties most of them, but I had noticed something about the way they looked… [They] seemed somehow more vibrant, more alive than those … frustrated younger suburban housewives I had been interviewing for ‘The Feminine Mystique.’ When I asked them… about their menopause, one after another said, ‘I didn’t have menopause’… they had, in fact, stopped menstruating, though they weren’t sure exactly when, because they had been so busy with their jobs and their teenage kids. But they simply hadn’t suffered any of the dreaded debilitating symptoms that were expected to accompany that supposed ‘end of life as a woman.’” (Pg. 14)
She continues, “Back in the 1960s, women, myself included, were moving beyond that definition of ourselves solely in terms of our biological sexual role… women were taking steps to change their lives---going back to school, getting up the courage to look for jobs, asserting their own personhood…. And I began to wonder: When women grow beyond the limits of their biological role and find new purposes for their lives, could that larger human dimension change the very biology of the aging process?” (Pg. 15)
She recounts, “I needed some new questions to work on myself. Not that I was particularly interested in age. Not that the problems of women which had absorbed my energy and passions for twenty years had all been solved. Not that the women’s movement was all over. But I now saw it as only the first stage of a revolution---not a war of women against men but an evolutionary breakthrough freeing us from those polarized masculine and feminine sex roles… that were now getting in everyone’s way… Come to think of it, what had really caused the women’s movement was the additional years of human life. At the turn of the century, women’s life expectancy was forty-six; now it was nearly eighty… Career vs. childrearing wasn’t the question any more. But there was no model for living those new years of life in either the man’s or the woman’s sex role. Was the very transcending of those sex roles an evolutionary breakthrough?” (Pg. 16-17)
She goes on, “I kept stumbling on more surprises---like studies of the trauma of retirement in men or widowhood or the ‘empty nest’ in women where, in fact, the expected symptoms never materialized in many of those studied… Another fact … when a man’s wife dies, he is more likely to die within the next two years than other men his age---unless he remarries, at which point his life expectancy goes back to normal. But if her husband dies, a woman… is not as likely to die within the next two years.” (Pg. 18)
She adds, “epidemiologists and psychologists wondered whether mental health might not necessarily deteriorate with age at all. But then they … saw that the improvement had taken place only among women. Women in their forties and fifties, even in their sixties, were now enjoying mental health as good as or better than that of women in their twenties and thirties. In fact, the younger women today were showing more signs of stress… Men showed no such improvement… Studies were showing men now suffering greater ‘empty nest’ crises than their wives… All around me, men my age and older were leaving their wives of thirty and forty years to start new families with young wives… Some of the discarded, older wives … were suddenly letting that … jet black hair grow out white, and moving on to projects of their own that they hadn’t dared to try before.” (Pg. 19)
She continues, “Could a woman, released from her previous feminine role, find strengths in herself she had sought before from men; could a man discover and/or develop sensitivities in himself that he had once sought only in women? Is integration of our masculine and feminine qualities a possible stage of development in age? And finally, might a new dimension of our humanity emerge with age?” (Pg. 19)
She adds, “I myself shrank from the polite or almost sneering tone of voice … when people heard I was doing research on age. ‘I’m not really interested in age,’ I insisted. ‘Just what keeps some women and men growing and developing past sixty while others deteriorate… It’s not the fountain of youth… And it’s not living forever… It’s something else that can happen in age---if you let it… but it’s not holding on to youth.’ [Seventy-year-old Mike suggested to her, "The fountain of age?’” (Pg. 27)
She summarizes, “I have discovered that there is a crucial difference between society’s image of old people, and ‘us’ as we know and feel ourselves to be. There are truly fearful realities reflected----and imposed---by that image. To break through that image, we must first understand why, how, and by whom it is perpetuated We must also glimpse some new possibilities and new directions, both as individuals and as a society, that belie that image. I have found… that there are choices we can make along the journey we all, sooner or later, must take that truly open surprising new possibilities.” (Pg. 31)
She concludes, “I began this quest with my own denial and fear of age. It ends with acceptance, affirmation, and celebration. Somewhere along the way, I recognized… my liberation from the power politics of the women’s movement. I recognized my own compelling need now to transcend the war between the sexes, the no-win battles of women as a whole sex, oppressed victims, against men as a whole sex, the oppressors. I recognized that my need to reconcile feminism and families comes from my own generativity, my personal truth as mother to my children, and my commitment to the future of the women’s movement… I have never felt so free.” (Pg. 638)
There is a LOT of interesting research in this book; but it interested me mostly to see the continuing development of Ms. Friedan, one of the ‘pioneers’ of the women’s movement.
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June 24, 2019Nobody prepared me to become a mother. Therefore nobody prepared me to become OLD!!! OK, just my husband’s friend, since high school, is allowed to call me “the old one”!!!
My examples of old age were both of my grandmothers having white, wrinkled skin (they were protecting themselves from the sun, while working the field, with scarves and thick tights) but in my mind, they were lovely. My aunts, some of them sophisticated enough to smoke and drink (my mother was vehemently against it), and others were mindful with the food they were eating and how much they moved.
My mother, charming in her youth, she called herself old when she was forty years old. So, as a good daughter, I started calling myself old, even younger than forty years old!!!
That is why I choose to read Betty Friedan so I can understand a valid point of view about getting old.
http://www.exlibrismeis.com/en/2019/0...
My examples of old age were both of my grandmothers having white, wrinkled skin (they were protecting themselves from the sun, while working the field, with scarves and thick tights) but in my mind, they were lovely. My aunts, some of them sophisticated enough to smoke and drink (my mother was vehemently against it), and others were mindful with the food they were eating and how much they moved.
My mother, charming in her youth, she called herself old when she was forty years old. So, as a good daughter, I started calling myself old, even younger than forty years old!!!
That is why I choose to read Betty Friedan so I can understand a valid point of view about getting old.
http://www.exlibrismeis.com/en/2019/0...
June 11, 2010
I like this path of thought. Just say no to medicare drugs. You are only as old as you feel and don't let anyone tell you what you are suppose to feel. It's your life, make the most of it. Age is nothing but mind over matter, if you don't mind, it doesn't matter.
April 6, 2011
Okay. Some worthwhile insights from a fully lived life.
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August 28, 2011thought provoking; now that I'm turning 60, I should read it again.
March 23, 2012
I was disappointed by this book. It was intended to be groundbreaking but it wasn't. Also, same old elitist point of view from Friedan. (See my review of Feminine Mystique.)
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September 10, 2023A solution oriented book. "Admitting there is no way to insure ourselves against terminal age and death, I sensed that instead of spending too much time and energy worrying about that dreaded terminal 0r what we must do - the only thing we can do is to make the changes we need to make in own lives to give them meaning to the very end. That is the best insurance for our vital aging and for dying with life." p. 548 "Psychologist David Ogilvic found that, for middle income people finances and even marriage and health, 'account for a trivial degree of people's satisfaction with their lives after retirement,' compared to how much time they can spend doing things 'which give them satisfaction and allow them to express most fully who they consider themselves to be.' He found that on average, people's opportunity to spend time in meaningful activities was three to four times as powerful as a predictor of satisfaction with life than health was! p. 589
August 30, 2020
I absolutely love this book! It's way ahead of it's time. Reading it for the second time now and I feel this book this book captures research as well as personal stories very beautifully. The writer has combined research, personal experience and a lens that explores age from a very nuanced perspective.
September 5, 2018
Very relevant today with the ageing population. I may read it again!
May 1, 2020
This is a 1993 book (and a tome at that), so lots of the research she summarizes is dated, but many of her insights are spot on and helpful and still relevant.
August 4, 2024
Found this to be too long and repetitive to read at my age. Maybe when I was younger.
September 4, 2016
Feminist Betty Friedan debunks many myths about old age as she shifts then rejuvenates our perspective about what "the third age of life" might mean if we approached it with curiosity, engagement and a sense of utility. Contrary to the constant rhetoric and the general consensus, most of us will not get Alzheimer's or end up in nursing homes so what are we to do with our final years? Though published in 1993, this tome (600+ pages) has much wisdom to impart that doesn't show the wear and tear of time.
October 9, 2013
Listened to this one on tape.
Nice look at what to do about our weird obsession with not dying.
I particularly liked her call for elder care physicians to approach dying less like a disease to be cured or postponed, and more like an eventually to be managed.
Pointed out the cost issue, and the dangers of controlling costs through care, but also the necessity of this. Would like to read more on this particular part of the problem.
Nice look at what to do about our weird obsession with not dying.
I particularly liked her call for elder care physicians to approach dying less like a disease to be cured or postponed, and more like an eventually to be managed.
Pointed out the cost issue, and the dangers of controlling costs through care, but also the necessity of this. Would like to read more on this particular part of the problem.
May 17, 2008
Amazing book. A must read for those interested in thoughtful discussion on our youth-obsessed culture
December 11, 2008
Friedan does not disappoint in this intriguing perspective on aging.
August 11, 2010
Very interesting look at the evolving mind of Betty Friedan. Very long book. Took forever to finish. Lots of interesting ideas on aging to contemplate.
September 21, 2012
Long book with some interesting topics on aging.
June 13, 2014
This is a must-read for anyone over 50. It's long and academic, but it is one of the most useful on aging and the good or bad choices that need to be made.
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June 6, 2013got what I needed
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