As a companion to the Kurt Cobain documentary of the same name, this book was satisfying. I vaguely remember checking it out from the library, right after I first watched the film, but most of the information in this book was new to me, so I must’ve just skimmed (or my memory has faded — it’s been ten years, after all).
I read this in one sitting, and while it was overwhelming, it was impossible to set aside. Kurt’s story, as told by seven of his closest friends and family, tumbles out at a heady speed, painting a very messy and pretty contradictory picture. I have no idea if everything said in this book, or in the documentary, is true — I’d wager that it isn’t. Kurt’s parents definitely have conflicting reports on his childhood, and Courtney Love and Krist Novoselic also share different impressions. But I don’t get the sense that some great deception is at play. If Kurt was anything, it was very complicated, and he showed different sides of himself to different people. Add that to time, grief, and in Love’s case, addiction, and you get a tangled web of information.
I preferred the experience of watching the movie to reading this book, which is probably to be expected. This is supplemental material, not the real meat and potatoes. The movie brought Kurt to life, using his music and artwork to literally paint a picture of his life. It wasn’t hopeful, per se, but it was illuminating, and didn’t leave me feeling depressed. This book, however, did. Everyone in Kurt’s life failed him at some point, but the person who failed him the most was himself. The descriptions of his addiction, not to mention the defensive statements from his father and stepmother (I have more than a few questions for them) left me feeling very dark. Surely Kurt experienced light and joy in his life. But there isn’t much to be found in this book. It’s worth a read if you’re a super-fan, or if you want a truly fascinating case study on selective memory. But don’t expect much light at the end of this tunnel.
On a random note, I’m so glad Krist Novoselic was the band mate they interviewed. Dave Grohl already talks ways too much.