When You Discover You're Not Who You Think You Are (an audio review)
The premise of this book was fascinating. DNA is all the rage these days with people giving up their spit and their rights to privacy in order to gain some kind of understanding of where they come from.
It sounds simple, right? A little saliva and a few weeks later, you get the information. Twice, though, in the near-past, men were arrested and accused of being multiple murderers because of DNA. But not THEIR DNA. Distant relatives had submitted a sample and the police were able to track down suspects. By picking up discarded garbage with DNA from the suspects, the forensic techs were able to confirm DNA matches. It turns out the men had never even been on the police’s radar as potential suspects.
Is this fair?
Well, their DNA was on the murder victims when they died, so the men need to be looked at, potentially charged, and definitely have their day in court.
And those relatives who inadvertently reveal their relatives as killers? Well, they’ll either feel guilt at being responsible or quiet acceptance that a killer is off the streets.
When Lisa, the protagonist in ‘The Appearance of Truth’, discovers she is not who she has always believed herself to be, that is a massive shock. She met Pete at a cemetery, and after time, they became friends. At a pub one night, they bet each other on who can find out more about their genealogy.
Lisa wins, but also loses.
Watching her make discovery after discovery is painful. Why? Because very quickly, she discovers her entire life is a lie.
Now, I’m adopted, so maybe this affected me even more than most. I was lucky enough to always know I was adopted and my parents almost always made me believe I was good enough, that I was special because they chose me.
That being said, when was18, I began my search. I was 28 when I finally met my biological mother and I’m glad I was older than I had been at the beginning of the search. I was mature enough to handle meeting the woman who gave birth to me, her parents (my grandparents), and my half-siblings. I won’t lie – it was a life-altering experience.
So I am very empathetic to Lisa…to a point. At times, though, I wanted to shake some sense into her. Her treatment of Pete, on occasion, hurt my heart. He couldn’t have been a nicer guy and was, I think, almost too understanding.
That being said, I adored Pete. To hold the hand of someone going through such upheaval, to be so kind and generous – he is the guy that women like me would love to find.
Lisa’s discoveries are paralleled by her ‘parents’ story, the narrative slipping from present (which is written in third person past tense) and the past (which is written in first person present tense). We also got the point-of-view of several characters other than Pete and Lisa. This could have been confusing, but I was never lost.
As Lisa’s story unfolded, she was blessed by having people who entered her life and enfolded her into their lives, accepting and embracing her. It turns out that Lisa isn’t the only one with a tragic past. Eventually, Pete’s is revealed and it was as tragic as I had imagined.
I won’t give away too many details, but I was rooting for Lisa and was happy with her ending.
Regan Boggs is a great narrator and did an admirable job. It took a bit of time for me to discern the setting of the book because Ms. Boggs spoke in an American accent while Lisa and Pete are British and there are a number of characters from Australia as well. Better to not attempt an accent rather than do it badly. I can think of several British narrators who would have done a good job, however, I think Ms. Boggs was a good choice.
Finally, I want to encourage people to listen to this book. Although Ancestry DNA screening programs were only in their infancy when Ms. Kind wrote the book in 2007, she was almost prescient in the questions she raised. These are questions that readers might ask themselves before giving away all their genetic secrets.
Oh, and when Lisa referred to Pete as her ‘little truffle pig’ who snores gently? My heart melted.