How To Be With His ADHD: What You Can Do To Rescue Your Relationship When Your Partner Has Adult ADHD

by Mark Julian

There is no cure for ADHD, per se, but there is freedom from it. Awareness flows through the brain, but thought traps us in it. The secret is simple, dis-identify with thought which pulls you into narrow perspectives where life is experienced entirely through the thinking brain. Simple, right? Well, simple doesn’t always mean easy, and we humans have habits and conditioning that can make things seem obscure and complex. In other words, I use the word simple the same way that the reality TV host introduces his wilderness survival show by saying, “Survival is simple, just don’t die.” It can be analogous to dis-identify with simple, don’t think so much. Sounds easy, but there’s some essential unlearning and some new learning to do. In that sense, you can think of me as your wilderness survivalist instructor introducing you to your own abilities, teaching you to survive and thrive in your own inner wilderness. Thriving, rather than just surviving, will of course be entirely up to you.This little book is about relationships and how ADHD magnifies the fundamental challenge to every relationship - the relationship within each of us, to ourselves. It’s written as a guide to the spouse or partner of someone with ADHD and presents an introduction to first surviving; then thriving. All the while including practical modeling, as the title suggests, of being more aware within. Each chapter concludes with an activity and questions that the reader can bring to their own personal experience.In intimate relationships, the felt sense of isolation and the tyranny of the ego’s manifestations become, as mentioned, magnified and its effects proceed exponentially. One partner is frequently withdrawn while the other is left feeling helpless as to what they can do. How to Be With His ADHD is a guide to help readers get their own metaphorical “oxygen mask” in place, then begin assisting their spouse.

64 pages, Kindle Edition

First published October 4, 2015

Reviews

[Joshua Kai · Rating 5 out of 5]

Personal and insightful perspective on life with ADHD!

Author Mark Julian takes us on a journey into the world of personal relationships as experienced through the lens of ADHD. He systematically demystifies many aspects of ADHD and what its like to live with and be a partner to someone with ADHD in a thoughtful and straightforward conversation with the reader.

Mark cleverly and graciously provides a practical framework with which to engage and explore our own perceptions and interpretations through a series of exercises. These exercises help build a fuller understanding of our own personal leadership role in modeling constructively within the context of how we relate to others and ourselves.

After reading this book, I felt like I had developed a great working relationship with the author as a personal coach. Mark is easy to relate to and clearly in touch with his own deep sense of self-awareness. I highly recommend the book as well as his exercises and other offerings, which he invites us to explore.

Dr. Joshua Kai, author of “The Quantum Prayer: An Inspiring Guide to Love, Healing, and Creating the Best Life Possible”