A few months ago my partner and I binge-watched both seasons of "One Mississippi". It is hilarious! We were disappointed that it was cancelled after two seasons and were left wanting more.
I hadn't been interested in reading Tig Notaro's memoir when it was published a few years ago but wanting more of her dry and acerbic wit, I decided to download this book.
It's depressing.
Now, it is mainly about the year Tig: 1) lost her mother, 2) contracted C. Dif, and 3) discovered she had breast cancer, necessitating a double mastectomy. This is not funny stuff. It is depressing and it was a horrific time for Tig. Going through just one of those would be distressing. Having all three shoved into one year? Not something any of us would want to suffer through.
Because the show is also about this horrendous year, it was repetitive. Also, unlike the show, it wasn't presented in a funny way. No one should be expected to make light of such suffering and I am amazed Tig was able to make comedy out of this terrible year of her life. I think I'd have curled up in a ball and waited for death.
Instead, she used her suffering in her comedy and I somehow expected more of the same in this book. I feel guilty for that. Like, how can I expect anyone to entertain me with their hardships?
But having watched the show so recently, I hope I can be excused for thinking this book would at least make me smile. The book's blurb calls it "darkly funny" so that's my other excuse.
I think if you're going through any of these things it might be cathartic to read. The blurb did get it right about the book being "emotionally raw". Perhaps at another time I would have appreciated this book more, but reading it in the month leading up to what is probably America's most important election ever and in the midst of a pandemic, I didn't need depressing material. Sorry, Tig.
It was sweet to read the end, about how she and her now wife met and fell in love. I could relate so much because, like Tig, until I met my partner, I didn't see myself ever finding someone I wanted to spend my life with. A few dates was always enough. I deplore small talk and if I don't immediately click with someone, I don't want to waste my time.
Tig's description of meeting Stephanie and everything changing in the blink of an eye and immediately finding herself wanting to spend the rest of her life with this woman was exactly how it was for me with my partner. There was just something that made me know, She's the one I want to spend all of my days with.
Thankfully I made the right choice. I can't imagine going through this year, almost constantly quarantined in our apartment, with someone I don't love, respect, am interested in, and enjoy spending a lot of time with. Sorry everyone else, but I think she's the only person in the world I could go through quarantine with.
The other thing I really appreciated about this book is the chapter about how narcissistic praying seems to non-believers. It made me laugh and nod my head. This was a short chapter unfortunately.
I'm Just a Person is an okay read but if you're looking for laughs, I'd recommend watching Tig's show "One Mississippi" over reading the book.