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646 pages, Paperback
First published January 1, 2003
Example of the vibe: “Her eyes… the green of water lilies after the rain.”
Another representative flourish: “His voice… like ocean” and “I floated on the dark water of sorrow.”
"wisdom, in one sense, is the opposite of love. Love survives in us precisely because it isn’t wise."
"The truth is a bully we all pretend to like."
"What we call cowardice is often just another name for being taken by surprise, and courage is seldom any better than simply being well prepared."
"And I'd learned, the hard way, that sometimes, even with the purest intentions, we make things worse when we do our best to make things better."
"the cost of knowing love, is sometimes greater than any heart would willingly pay."
"I think wisdom is very overrated. Wisdom is just cleverness, with all the guts kicked out of it."
"I was too young, then, to know that dead lovers are the toughest rivals."
"Guilt is the hilt of the knife that we use on ourselves, and love is often the blade; but it's worry that keeps the knife sharp, and worry that gets most of us, in the end."
"It's isn't a secret, unless keeping it hurts."
"Hate is a very resilient thing, you know. Hate is a survivor."
"it's impossible to despise someone you honestly pity, and to shun someone you truly love."
"People haven't stopped believing in love. They haven't stopped wanting to be in love. They just don't believe in a happy ending anymore. They still believe in love, and falling in love, but they know now that... they know that romances almost never end as well as they begin."
"It's a fact of being in love that we often pay no attention whatsoever to the substance of what a lover says, while being intoxicated to ecstasy by the way it's said."
"love cannot be tested. Honesty can be tested and loyalty. But there is not test for love. Love goes on forever, once it begins, even if we come to hate the one we love."
"'Sometimes it is necessary to do the wrong thing for the right reasons. The important thing is to be sure that our reasons are right, and that we admit the wrong-that we do not lie to ourselves, and convince ourselves that what we do is right."
"You can't kill love. You can't even kill it with hate. You can kill in-love, and loving, and even loveliness. You can kill them all, or numb them into dense, leaden regret, but you can't kill love itself. Love is the passionate search for a truth other than your own; and once you feel it, honestly and completely, love is forever. Every act of love, every moment of the heart reaching out, is a part of the universal good: it's a part of God, or what we call God, and it can never die."
"Love is a one-way street. Love, like respect isn't something you get; it's something you give."
"It's bad, loving someone you can't forgive."