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Transforming Homosexuality: What the Bible Says about Sexual Orientation and Change
Embrace the Bible's Hope for Profound Personal ChangeIs same-sex attraction sinful, even if it’s not acted on? Bible-believing Christians have personal and pastoral reasons to answer this question well, since our answer will shape how we counsel and encourage our brothers and sisters. What does it mean for homosexuality to be transformed? Denny Burk and Heath Lambert challenge misconceptions on all sides as they present biblical answers on sexual orientation and change. Ultimately, hope rests not in heterosexuality, human effort, or willpower, but in Christ.“A clear, compassionate, and thought-provoking book. . . . Essential reading for every pastor and for any seeking to bless and minister to those with same-sex attraction in our churches.”—Sam Allberry, Author, Is God Anti-Gay?“[Many] have adopted the position that homosexual desire may in some sense be ‘normal.’ . . . Denny Burk and Heath Lambert address that idea with biblical clarity and godly wisdom. This is an important book about an issue that has overwhelmed our culture.”—John MacArthur, Pastor and Teacher, Grace Community Church, Sun Valley, California“A bold and provocative book. . . . But predominantly a loving book that seeks to help people with unwanted homosexual desires be transformed by the full knowledge that God’s grace for us in Christ is sufficient for all our various struggles.”—Rosaria Butterfield, Author, The Secret Thoughts of an Unlikely ConvertDenny Burk (PhD, The Southern Baptist Theological Seminary [SBTS]) is professor of biblical studies at Boyce College and has served as the editor of The Journal for Biblical Manhood & Womanhood. He blogs at dennyburk.com.Heath Lambert (PhD, SBTS) is executive director of the Association of Certified Biblical Counselors and professor of biblical counseling at SBTS and Boyce College.
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Denny Burk
23 books14 followersDenny Burk (PhD, The Southern Baptist Theological Seminary) is professor of biblical studies at Boyce College, the undergraduate arm of the Southern Baptist Theological Seminary. He also serves as associate pastor at Kenwood Baptist Church in Louisville, Kentucky. Burk edits The Journal for Biblical Manhood & Womanhood and speaks and writes extensively about gender and sexuality. He keeps a popular blog at DennyBurk.com.
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June 23, 2023
A clear and concise presentation of homosexuality that is bold and biblical. Readers are challenged to reach homosexuals with the saving message of the gospel of Jesus Christ.
January 21, 2021
This book is a great resource for understanding the issue of "same-sex attraction." The authors demonstrate that the term does not fit with the biblical understanding of man. They also provide sufficient biblical exegesis to demonstrate that homosexual desire is sinful and the solution is repentance and faith in Jesus Christ. The final chapter addresses how the church should minister to brothers and sisters who are struggling with these sinful desires.
February 24, 2022
I was pleasantly surprised by how instructive, truth-filled, helpful, and compassionate this book was. It is a much more biblical discussion of this topic than Washed and Waiting by Wesley Hill.
October 16, 2015
I received an advance PDF copy of this book in exchange for an honest review.
This is an excellent book. Burk and Lambert have served the church well by adding this to the conversation about homosexuality, ethics, and ministry. Several things stand out:
First, I love the fact that this book is split equally into a discussion of ethics (Part 1) and ministry (Part 2). The authors argue passionately and rightly that the church has done much harm by speaking only of the ethics of homosexuality (i.e., it's sinful) without speaking equally, or even more, of how the gospel of Jesus transforms sexual sinners of all kinds. Ch. 5 of this book, which describes the path of change for sexual sinners, was practical and helpful - though I think an entire book could be written on that topic alone!
Second, Burk and Lambert bring needed clarity to the discussion of sexual orientation and same-sex attraction (SSA). In short, they argue that desire for sin is itself sin. Thus sexual desire for person of the same sex is sin, whether or not one acts on that sin. But they are also careful to point out that this is not more sinful than a heterosexual desire for sexual fulfillment outside of marriage.
It still seems that some pastoral and theological work needs to be done here to help believers who struggle with SSA to think clearly about the direction of their sexual desires. Perhaps this is because the church too easily believes the cultural lie that heterosexual lust is basically "healthy, men being men," which then fosters the lie that SSA is "unhealthy" and makes heterosexual sinners a little less needy for Christ's grace than a SSA struggler. Burk and Lambert do address this, but I think it deserves to be said regularly.
Lastly, I thought this book did an excellent job of addressing believers who struggle with this area directly and compassionately. It did not talk about "them," but spoke to us: all brothers and sisters in Christ who struggle with sexual sins.
This is an excellent book. Burk and Lambert have served the church well by adding this to the conversation about homosexuality, ethics, and ministry. Several things stand out:
First, I love the fact that this book is split equally into a discussion of ethics (Part 1) and ministry (Part 2). The authors argue passionately and rightly that the church has done much harm by speaking only of the ethics of homosexuality (i.e., it's sinful) without speaking equally, or even more, of how the gospel of Jesus transforms sexual sinners of all kinds. Ch. 5 of this book, which describes the path of change for sexual sinners, was practical and helpful - though I think an entire book could be written on that topic alone!
Second, Burk and Lambert bring needed clarity to the discussion of sexual orientation and same-sex attraction (SSA). In short, they argue that desire for sin is itself sin. Thus sexual desire for person of the same sex is sin, whether or not one acts on that sin. But they are also careful to point out that this is not more sinful than a heterosexual desire for sexual fulfillment outside of marriage.
It still seems that some pastoral and theological work needs to be done here to help believers who struggle with SSA to think clearly about the direction of their sexual desires. Perhaps this is because the church too easily believes the cultural lie that heterosexual lust is basically "healthy, men being men," which then fosters the lie that SSA is "unhealthy" and makes heterosexual sinners a little less needy for Christ's grace than a SSA struggler. Burk and Lambert do address this, but I think it deserves to be said regularly.
Lastly, I thought this book did an excellent job of addressing believers who struggle with this area directly and compassionately. It did not talk about "them," but spoke to us: all brothers and sisters in Christ who struggle with sexual sins.
October 9, 2019
3.5 stars. Some helpful things, but some false dichotomies, and a strange appeal to Augustine's doctrine of concupiscence to support their case against the "neo-traditionalists." If you've read De Bono Conjugali you know that for Augustine, even sexual desire within marriage is sinful (venial sin) but not as sinful as adultery (mortal sin). Sanctification for married people means having less sex: "“the better persons they are, the earlier they begin by mutual consent to abstain from carnal union” (III.3). I don't think either of these authors would affirm that, so it's strange that they appeal to Augustine here to argue against someone like Wesley Hill.
I appreciated some things about the book, but overall my sympathies are still with the neo-traditionalists.
I appreciated some things about the book, but overall my sympathies are still with the neo-traditionalists.
March 4, 2016
These preachers are liars.
October 14, 2015
I was given an advanced copy (without page numbers) of this book in exchange for an honest and voluntary review on Goodreads. “Footnote” citations do not explicitly include chapter number; in actually, they are endnotes, which was somewhat aggravating, if understandable, for me. Also, I have put in boldface where I mention each chapter. Quotations are to be understood to belong to their respective chapters, unless otherwise explicitly cited.
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Denny Burk and Heath Lambert wrote Transforming Homosexuality: What the Bible Says about Sexual Orientation and Change “to consider the ethics of homosexual desire, often referred to as homosexual orientation” (ch 1, “Why Do We Need This Book?”), and not on homosexual behavior, which is assumed for this book. The book is organized into two parts: The Ethics of Desires (Part 1, chs 1–3) and The Path of Transformation (Part 2, chs 4–6). In short, homosexual desire is wrong because the thing desired is itself sinful and Jesus Christ can gift his people with transformation through his transformative power (and that the Bible cares not only about ethics but about active ministry by the church).
In ch 2, “What Is Same-Sex Attraction?”, Burk & Lambert survey what they consider four broad views on Christians and homosexuality, very helpfully citing the APA’s definition of sexual orientation and representative works from each of the four approaches—namely
Burk & Lambert then go on to evaluate the three components of same-sex orientation (SSO) in the APA’s definition of sexual orientation: sexual attraction, emotional/romantic attraction, and identity. Sexual attraction, when it is disordered and out of accord with God’s intention for humanity, is therefore sinful, even if one is unable to control it. The authors discuss the Bible’s and the Church’s (Augustinian) view of humanity and sin in general, showing that we are in bondage to it and that sin extends beyond one’s external behaviors, seeing that SSA (seeing SSA and same-sex desire as synonymous, cf. note 15; and that one should not be dogmatic about it with respect to the nature vs. nurture debate on the causes of homosexuality, cf. note 18) is but a subset of sin in general.
The authors continue to discuss issues of identity and argue that sexual or erotic feeling is incompatible with a robust Christian anthropology; it is not fundamental to one’s identity. Also, there are many queer theorists, such as Hanne Blank, cited in note 29, who contest the equation of sexual orientation with human identity.
The authors now turn to the question, “Is Same-Sex Attraction Sinful?” in ch 3. It should be no surprise how the authors will answer the question. Nevertheless, to the question they turn (even if it feels like they have already answered it, at least in part). Here Burk & Lambert discuss two polarizing sides for Christians. On one side, SSO is “an unchosen, immutable attribute that has no more moral dimension to it than does skin-color or eye-color.” On the other extreme, there is the belief that SSO is always chosen and the notion that SSO even exists is “to concede too much to the sexual revolutionaries.”
Another group that does not fit neatly on this arbitrary scale is the Neo-Traditional group in ch 2, which insist that homosexual behavior is wrong but who are unsure if SSA itself is sinful. They do not want to commit the sin of Matt 23:4 and overburden their brothers and sisters in Christ by seemingly confusing mere temptation with sin. At any rate, Burk & Lambert are right to point out that the issue is about the “pre-behavioral components of sexual sin,” with the question having profound and immediately pressing application to how we invite people of SSO to Christ and how we help them walk with Christ.
The authors discuss the difference between sexual desire that is sinful and sexual desire that need not be sinful. After surveying Augustine and then Jesus on this topic, they conclude that sexual desire is proper only when it is “ordered to the covenant of marriage,” something that neither same-sex desire or adulterous heterosexual desire can claim. Burk & Lambert then go to discuss Jesus’s impeccability and his inability to sin, which is why Christians can affirm that not all temptation was sinful (or else we must conclude that Jesus sinned!) and yet affirm that “[w]e experience a level of internalization that Jesus’ impeccability never allowed.” Here the authors distinguish between the testing of temptation and temptation itself, where being tested is something external (and not sinful), and internalizing such the “testing” of temptation is itself sinful.
To apply it to those with SSO, to the extent that it includes sexual desire, “emotional/romantic attractions that brim with erotic possibility,” and constitute one’s own identity, then it is sinful. That said, such things are shared by all people and are not exclusive to those with SSO. Burk & Lambert insist that we all have a common sinful orientation “by nature and by choice.” My summary will end here, but my “brevity” (ha!) in no way detracts from the clear pastoral warmth in this chapter.
In ch 4, “Myths about Change,” Burk & Lambert talk about the necessity of both ethics and ministry (biblical knowledge is necessary but is woefully insufficient for true change), and sexual change is not impossible. Christians must listen to everyone’s testimony, both those who found it impossible to change and those who have found it possible. Other myths tackled are that change is harmful and that it requires heterosexual desire. Trading homosexual lust for heterosexual lust is not an improvement at all “What the Bible commands, therefore, is not heterosexuality, but holiness” (ch 1, emphasis mine). The final myth is that change can happen without repentance; instead, it is the only path to change.
Chapter 5 charts “A Biblical Path to Change” in line with the convictions of the authors that the Bible is not only about ethics but also about ministry and redemption over large and debilitating sins, be it suicidal despair, anxiety, or homosexuality. Nothing is too large for the Gospel. But, in line with the last myth listed in ch 4, it requires repentance and a willingness to turn to our heavenly Father in our sanctification. This chapter is intensely biblical and brimming with warm pastoral care.
The final chapter is on “How Evangelicals Can Change.” This chapter helpfully includes evangelical Christians as also needing to change in how they have (not) welcomed those struggling with SSA. Burk & Lambert wade through a false dichotomy of (bigoted) intolerance (of homosexuality and homosexual persons) and (full) tolerance (and full affirmation of not only the person but also the lifestyle) and argue for the only biblical option, to speak the truth in love. They go on to expound what humble speaking of truth in love ought to look like for Christians.
Overall, Burk & Lambert have clearly and consistently laid out their position and their concerns for the church, and their chapters have commendably answered the questions set forth in their respective chapter titles. Also, they have chosen to write concisely and succinctly, given the length of this booklet (approx. 94 pages, if the page count on my copy is representative of the final published work), in stark contrast to this review (sorry!). There are a few questions at the end of each chapter that may help foster discussion and self-reflection.
The sources cited at the end of the book are also helpful for all who wish to orient themselves to the debate on homosexuality and the Church/Bible and to be informed of the different perspectives on the issue.
Concerning the reception of this book and to whom it is addressed, I have the following to say:
To those who may align most closely with the first two categories of approaching Scripture and Homosexuality, Liberal and Revisionist, as defined by Burk & Lambert, one must not therefore be surprised by the authors’s insistence on putting their view of what Scripture teaches above anyone’s perceived experiences and thoughts. At least they are upfront about it, something I find quite helpful. If one is not prepared to engage with a clear (and winsome) exposition espousing the Traditional view, then this book is not for you. If one seeks to understand why traditional Christians believe that even homosexual orientation is sinful and/or wish to familiarize him- or herself with biblically-faithful lines of argumentation, then this book is for you.
The issue of homosexuality is a controversial and debated topic for all people who wish to claim the label Christian, and it generates much heat in social media and elsewhere. For those who wish to seek light, to seek charity and clarity and understand why many Christians believe both that homosexuality is sinful (including orientation) and that there are no other biblical alternatives (though the authors express clear sympathy to the Neo-Traditional position), this book is an excellent, well-written (brief) resource. Transforming Homosexuality is a firm but uncombative book that paints a broad and clear vision of why they view SSA/SSO as sinful and how the Church and those struggling with SSA/SSO can and ought to seek continual (if extremely difficult) growth in holiness in the grace of Christ’s transformative power. This book will be extremely helpful and clarifying if you are willing to extend charity to and humbly learn about a position clearly stated on homosexuality that many in the Western world (unfairly, in my opinion) find repugnant or bigoted. Otherwise, this book will likely be a huge disappointment to you, particularly if you do not share the convictions of the authors.
I apologize if this review is as long as the book. Given the touchy nature of this thorny topic for many, I wished to reflect as best as I could the clarity I have found in this book, at the possible expense of concision. Even if one should disagree with the authors and/or the “Traditional” perspective on homosexuality, it is generally best to interact fairly with some of the best in this position (such as these authors) so that this important discussion can move forward in respect, charity, and integrity.
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Denny Burk and Heath Lambert wrote Transforming Homosexuality: What the Bible Says about Sexual Orientation and Change “to consider the ethics of homosexual desire, often referred to as homosexual orientation” (ch 1, “Why Do We Need This Book?”), and not on homosexual behavior, which is assumed for this book. The book is organized into two parts: The Ethics of Desires (Part 1, chs 1–3) and The Path of Transformation (Part 2, chs 4–6). In short, homosexual desire is wrong because the thing desired is itself sinful and Jesus Christ can gift his people with transformation through his transformative power (and that the Bible cares not only about ethics but about active ministry by the church).
In ch 2, “What Is Same-Sex Attraction?”, Burk & Lambert survey what they consider four broad views on Christians and homosexuality, very helpfully citing the APA’s definition of sexual orientation and representative works from each of the four approaches—namely
1. Liberal: Scripture is against homosexuality, but experience tells us otherwise,
2. Revisionist: Scripture is against homosexual excess, not homosexuality itself,
3. Neo-Traditional: chaste homosexual orientation is not necessarily sinful in itself, and
4. Traditional (the approach this book adopts): those struggling with same-sex attraction (SSA) can and must seek to mortify homosexual desire through the transformative power of Christ and his Spirit.
Burk & Lambert then go on to evaluate the three components of same-sex orientation (SSO) in the APA’s definition of sexual orientation: sexual attraction, emotional/romantic attraction, and identity. Sexual attraction, when it is disordered and out of accord with God’s intention for humanity, is therefore sinful, even if one is unable to control it. The authors discuss the Bible’s and the Church’s (Augustinian) view of humanity and sin in general, showing that we are in bondage to it and that sin extends beyond one’s external behaviors, seeing that SSA (seeing SSA and same-sex desire as synonymous, cf. note 15; and that one should not be dogmatic about it with respect to the nature vs. nurture debate on the causes of homosexuality, cf. note 18) is but a subset of sin in general.
The authors continue to discuss issues of identity and argue that sexual or erotic feeling is incompatible with a robust Christian anthropology; it is not fundamental to one’s identity. Also, there are many queer theorists, such as Hanne Blank, cited in note 29, who contest the equation of sexual orientation with human identity.
The authors now turn to the question, “Is Same-Sex Attraction Sinful?” in ch 3. It should be no surprise how the authors will answer the question. Nevertheless, to the question they turn (even if it feels like they have already answered it, at least in part). Here Burk & Lambert discuss two polarizing sides for Christians. On one side, SSO is “an unchosen, immutable attribute that has no more moral dimension to it than does skin-color or eye-color.” On the other extreme, there is the belief that SSO is always chosen and the notion that SSO even exists is “to concede too much to the sexual revolutionaries.”
Another group that does not fit neatly on this arbitrary scale is the Neo-Traditional group in ch 2, which insist that homosexual behavior is wrong but who are unsure if SSA itself is sinful. They do not want to commit the sin of Matt 23:4 and overburden their brothers and sisters in Christ by seemingly confusing mere temptation with sin. At any rate, Burk & Lambert are right to point out that the issue is about the “pre-behavioral components of sexual sin,” with the question having profound and immediately pressing application to how we invite people of SSO to Christ and how we help them walk with Christ.
The authors discuss the difference between sexual desire that is sinful and sexual desire that need not be sinful. After surveying Augustine and then Jesus on this topic, they conclude that sexual desire is proper only when it is “ordered to the covenant of marriage,” something that neither same-sex desire or adulterous heterosexual desire can claim. Burk & Lambert then go to discuss Jesus’s impeccability and his inability to sin, which is why Christians can affirm that not all temptation was sinful (or else we must conclude that Jesus sinned!) and yet affirm that “[w]e experience a level of internalization that Jesus’ impeccability never allowed.” Here the authors distinguish between the testing of temptation and temptation itself, where being tested is something external (and not sinful), and internalizing such the “testing” of temptation is itself sinful.
To apply it to those with SSO, to the extent that it includes sexual desire, “emotional/romantic attractions that brim with erotic possibility,” and constitute one’s own identity, then it is sinful. That said, such things are shared by all people and are not exclusive to those with SSO. Burk & Lambert insist that we all have a common sinful orientation “by nature and by choice.” My summary will end here, but my “brevity” (ha!) in no way detracts from the clear pastoral warmth in this chapter.
In ch 4, “Myths about Change,” Burk & Lambert talk about the necessity of both ethics and ministry (biblical knowledge is necessary but is woefully insufficient for true change), and sexual change is not impossible. Christians must listen to everyone’s testimony, both those who found it impossible to change and those who have found it possible. Other myths tackled are that change is harmful and that it requires heterosexual desire. Trading homosexual lust for heterosexual lust is not an improvement at all “What the Bible commands, therefore, is not heterosexuality, but holiness” (ch 1, emphasis mine). The final myth is that change can happen without repentance; instead, it is the only path to change.
Chapter 5 charts “A Biblical Path to Change” in line with the convictions of the authors that the Bible is not only about ethics but also about ministry and redemption over large and debilitating sins, be it suicidal despair, anxiety, or homosexuality. Nothing is too large for the Gospel. But, in line with the last myth listed in ch 4, it requires repentance and a willingness to turn to our heavenly Father in our sanctification. This chapter is intensely biblical and brimming with warm pastoral care.
The final chapter is on “How Evangelicals Can Change.” This chapter helpfully includes evangelical Christians as also needing to change in how they have (not) welcomed those struggling with SSA. Burk & Lambert wade through a false dichotomy of (bigoted) intolerance (of homosexuality and homosexual persons) and (full) tolerance (and full affirmation of not only the person but also the lifestyle) and argue for the only biblical option, to speak the truth in love. They go on to expound what humble speaking of truth in love ought to look like for Christians.
Overall, Burk & Lambert have clearly and consistently laid out their position and their concerns for the church, and their chapters have commendably answered the questions set forth in their respective chapter titles. Also, they have chosen to write concisely and succinctly, given the length of this booklet (approx. 94 pages, if the page count on my copy is representative of the final published work), in stark contrast to this review (sorry!). There are a few questions at the end of each chapter that may help foster discussion and self-reflection.
The sources cited at the end of the book are also helpful for all who wish to orient themselves to the debate on homosexuality and the Church/Bible and to be informed of the different perspectives on the issue.
Concerning the reception of this book and to whom it is addressed, I have the following to say:
To those who may align most closely with the first two categories of approaching Scripture and Homosexuality, Liberal and Revisionist, as defined by Burk & Lambert, one must not therefore be surprised by the authors’s insistence on putting their view of what Scripture teaches above anyone’s perceived experiences and thoughts. At least they are upfront about it, something I find quite helpful. If one is not prepared to engage with a clear (and winsome) exposition espousing the Traditional view, then this book is not for you. If one seeks to understand why traditional Christians believe that even homosexual orientation is sinful and/or wish to familiarize him- or herself with biblically-faithful lines of argumentation, then this book is for you.
The issue of homosexuality is a controversial and debated topic for all people who wish to claim the label Christian, and it generates much heat in social media and elsewhere. For those who wish to seek light, to seek charity and clarity and understand why many Christians believe both that homosexuality is sinful (including orientation) and that there are no other biblical alternatives (though the authors express clear sympathy to the Neo-Traditional position), this book is an excellent, well-written (brief) resource. Transforming Homosexuality is a firm but uncombative book that paints a broad and clear vision of why they view SSA/SSO as sinful and how the Church and those struggling with SSA/SSO can and ought to seek continual (if extremely difficult) growth in holiness in the grace of Christ’s transformative power. This book will be extremely helpful and clarifying if you are willing to extend charity to and humbly learn about a position clearly stated on homosexuality that many in the Western world (unfairly, in my opinion) find repugnant or bigoted. Otherwise, this book will likely be a huge disappointment to you, particularly if you do not share the convictions of the authors.
I apologize if this review is as long as the book. Given the touchy nature of this thorny topic for many, I wished to reflect as best as I could the clarity I have found in this book, at the possible expense of concision. Even if one should disagree with the authors and/or the “Traditional” perspective on homosexuality, it is generally best to interact fairly with some of the best in this position (such as these authors) so that this important discussion can move forward in respect, charity, and integrity.
May 9, 2022
A great book about a difficult subject
January 30, 2025
Really great book that explains everything very thoroughly and has Biblical backing
January 21, 2021
This is a book all pastors and churches should read through and utilize. Very helpful. I appreciate the approach Burk and Lambert take in exploring the context of pastoral ministry in the local church. Praising God for His great grace!
July 4, 2016
This book is a little differing from other Christian books on homosexuality. The goal of this book is not to deal with the topic of homosexual behavior and what the Bible says about its sinfulness. Instead, the book is divided into two sections: 1) The Ethics of Desire, which tackles the issue of homosexual desires and whether or not the desires themselves are sinful, and 2) Christian Discipleship and Transformation, which reminds the reader of the fundamental transformative nature of the gospel.
Burk and Lambert's discussion on the ethics of desire, especially as it pertains to sexual attraction and sexual orientation are an important addition to the discussion on Christianity and homosexuality--although they might have tried to do too much in the chapter (historical perspective, Jesus' perspective, Jesus' temptations, discussion ἐπιθυμία, insights from James 1, and more). Furthermore, they rightly point out the risks and futility of "reparative therapy," and dismiss it as a viable option from a biblical point of view.
The book closes with a plea for evangelical Christians to change in the way they think about, and interact with those who experience same-sex attraction. Overall, a helpful book with unique contributions.
Burk and Lambert's discussion on the ethics of desire, especially as it pertains to sexual attraction and sexual orientation are an important addition to the discussion on Christianity and homosexuality--although they might have tried to do too much in the chapter (historical perspective, Jesus' perspective, Jesus' temptations, discussion ἐπιθυμία, insights from James 1, and more). Furthermore, they rightly point out the risks and futility of "reparative therapy," and dismiss it as a viable option from a biblical point of view.
The book closes with a plea for evangelical Christians to change in the way they think about, and interact with those who experience same-sex attraction. Overall, a helpful book with unique contributions.
April 2, 2020
Since the Supreme Court's Obergefell decision in 2015 on same sex marriage, the landscape in America has changed drastically. With drag queen story hour taking place in public libraries across the country and young people encouraged to explore their gender identities and sexual orientations like never before, Lambert and Burk provide much needed biblical perspective. Though the book does not aim to trace historical developments, it is extremely helpful in laying out the biblical ethic answering the question of what is same sex desire. Make no mistake, the future of evangelicalism will continue to abound with questions on homosexuality and the nature of same sex desire. A great revolution has already taken place within the past five years alone and this means great relevancy for the church as "new ideas about sexuality are where loyalty to Christ is being tested in our time" (15).
Lambert and Burk give excellent treatment to the prevalent notion of a normalized same sex attraction/orientation. Both authors come to this topic with a firm resolve to build their understanding from Scripture combined with compassion for others. They don't stop at the ethics of homosexuality, but contend for the necessity of doing ministry with others. They rightly debunk the false claim that same sex desire is okay so long as it is not acted upon. This lie has gripped many people and ultimately destroys any hope of change. Lambert and Burke dive into deep waters of theology in this one.
Here are a few of the better quotes:
"A person is not absolved from moral accountability for an immoral sexual desire simply because that seems to follow an enduring pattern-i.e., an orientation. The enduring nature of same-sex desire is an indication not that God approves such desire but that we are intractably sinful apart from grace...A common objection to the foregoing goes like this: "If a person cannot control whether he has same-sex attraction, how can that attraction be considered sinful?" This objection bases moral accountability upon whether one has the ability to choose his proclivities. but this is not how the Bible speaks of sin and judgment. There are all manner of predispositions that we are born with and that we experience as unchosen realities. Nevertheless, the Bible characterizes such realities as sin: pride, anger, anxiety, just to name a few." (29-30).
"Accepting sexual orientation as an identity-defining element of the human condition is foreign to Scripture-except as a feature of human sinfulness. For this reason, the term orientation may be altogether irredeemable for Christians" (37).
"First, to call same-sex orientation sinful does not make same-sex attracted people less like the rest of us...All of us bear the marks of our connection to Adam. All of us are crooked deep down. All of us have thoughts, inclinations, attitudes, and the like that are deeply antithetical to God's law. All of us need a renewal from the inside out that can come only from the grace of Christ" (58).
"We must be clear that if God gives clear commands, he will, over time and by his grace, give the strength to obey those commands" (63).
"Focusing on ethics to the exclusion of the ministry of change both reflects and provides an inaccurate picture that the Bible is all about ethical behavior and not much about how behavior can change" (81).
Lambert and Burk give excellent treatment to the prevalent notion of a normalized same sex attraction/orientation. Both authors come to this topic with a firm resolve to build their understanding from Scripture combined with compassion for others. They don't stop at the ethics of homosexuality, but contend for the necessity of doing ministry with others. They rightly debunk the false claim that same sex desire is okay so long as it is not acted upon. This lie has gripped many people and ultimately destroys any hope of change. Lambert and Burke dive into deep waters of theology in this one.
Here are a few of the better quotes:
"A person is not absolved from moral accountability for an immoral sexual desire simply because that seems to follow an enduring pattern-i.e., an orientation. The enduring nature of same-sex desire is an indication not that God approves such desire but that we are intractably sinful apart from grace...A common objection to the foregoing goes like this: "If a person cannot control whether he has same-sex attraction, how can that attraction be considered sinful?" This objection bases moral accountability upon whether one has the ability to choose his proclivities. but this is not how the Bible speaks of sin and judgment. There are all manner of predispositions that we are born with and that we experience as unchosen realities. Nevertheless, the Bible characterizes such realities as sin: pride, anger, anxiety, just to name a few." (29-30).
"Accepting sexual orientation as an identity-defining element of the human condition is foreign to Scripture-except as a feature of human sinfulness. For this reason, the term orientation may be altogether irredeemable for Christians" (37).
"First, to call same-sex orientation sinful does not make same-sex attracted people less like the rest of us...All of us bear the marks of our connection to Adam. All of us are crooked deep down. All of us have thoughts, inclinations, attitudes, and the like that are deeply antithetical to God's law. All of us need a renewal from the inside out that can come only from the grace of Christ" (58).
"We must be clear that if God gives clear commands, he will, over time and by his grace, give the strength to obey those commands" (63).
"Focusing on ethics to the exclusion of the ministry of change both reflects and provides an inaccurate picture that the Bible is all about ethical behavior and not much about how behavior can change" (81).
May 25, 2024
This book did a great job of unpacking a Biblical view of sinful desires being sinful. It sounds obvious when phrased that way, but our culture has skewed the language around orientation, chosen vs. unchosen sin, nature vs. nurture, etc. so much that a book like this is necessary. The authors spared no words in condemning all sin as sin, and successfully made their stated case that "desires for a sinful act are sinful precisely because the desired act is sinful." They also did a great job explaining how we don't need just to get our ethics correct, we also need to minister to the struggling sinner, and they outlined various Biblical strategies to do just that. The book does not go into detail about how to engage in our broader culture and public sphere, but this was simply beyond the stated scope of the book. While written specifically about transforming homosexuality, all of the tools and tips map on to any other sin.
The exposition of the Scriptures around temptations and sins, especially concerning Jesus's sinless nature, were really helpful. There were no 'clobber' texts, just solid exegesis and gospel-saturated encouragements to be fully conformed to the image of Christ. They dispel various myths surrounding change, summarized with Biblical repentance being the only path to change. They also provide exhortations to the person struggling with indwelling sin, to the Christian who comes alongside, and to the corporate church.
10/10 would recommend for any struggling Christian, parent, or pastor.
The exposition of the Scriptures around temptations and sins, especially concerning Jesus's sinless nature, were really helpful. There were no 'clobber' texts, just solid exegesis and gospel-saturated encouragements to be fully conformed to the image of Christ. They dispel various myths surrounding change, summarized with Biblical repentance being the only path to change. They also provide exhortations to the person struggling with indwelling sin, to the Christian who comes alongside, and to the corporate church.
10/10 would recommend for any struggling Christian, parent, or pastor.
November 16, 2023
A biblically faithful book about a highly contentious topic, especially in our cultural moment. From Scripture, the authors make the case that same-sex desire/attraction/orientation (and not just same-sex behavior) is a sin to be repented from. The authors acknowledge that this message isn't easy and will ruffle many feathers, but they maintain that God has spoken on this issue and the truly sinful thing to do would be to brush it under the rug. When the Bible speaks of sin, it speaks not only in terms of actions, but also of desires/thoughts that, when followed, lead to sinful actions. The strength of this book is that while it calls sin what it is, it does so with kindness, humility, grace, and hope. They remind the reader that God is in the business of saving sinners, regardless of what their sin struggles may be. Heterosexual sinners are just as in need of a Savior as homosexual sinners. The authors admit that the church has not handled this issue well and that it needs to repent and pursue a path where homosexual sin isn't singled out as worse than the other sins we far too often tolerate. Rather than diminishing the sin of homosexuality, the authors remind us that all sin is serious, that it deserves God's holy and righteous wrath, and that Christ has come to save and transform sinners who will turn from their sin and turn to him.
March 23, 2018
Burk and Lambert do a wonderful job of relating the issues of sexual attraction/orientation/desire/activity to the Scriptures in a way that is winsome, deeply theological, and yet thoroughly practical. The most compelling section of the book is Chapter 2, where the reader is confronted with the reality that the nature of desire is a moral function, and therefore cannot be neutral. This is key for understanding the sinfulness of humanity at its root in general, and the sinfulness of same-sex attraction in particular. This book is ideal for anyone looking to understand the proper biblical perspective on homosexuality, whether believer or unbeliever, or struggling with this issue or not. The theological underpinnings of the arguments laid forth in Transforming Homosexuality will help the Christian hold a firmer grasp on, not only what the Bible says about homosexuality, but also how they can minister in a greater way to those living in a same-sex lifestyle, and those struggling with same-sex desires. This book is really a must read.
April 8, 2019
Defining, Discerning, and Dedicated to Hope
Transforming Homosexuality: What the Bible Says about Sexual Orientation and Change by Denny Burk and Heath Lambert deserves a much lengthier review but for now this will have to suffice. What sets this book apart from a growing field of Christian books dealing with LGBTQAIA issues is the author’s determination to actually define same-sex attraction (SSA) and orientation in relation to temptation and sin [Part One: The Ethics of Desire]. They argue convincingly that unholy and immoral desires of any kind are to be confessed and repented of by those who profess to be Christ followers. In seeking to discern whether same-sex attraction is sinful even if it’s not acted upon, the authors help the reader struggle with the core issue that our hearts are in need of radical transformation. How one answers this question impacts the relationship of a wide variety of LGBTQAIA issues to Christ followers and their local congregations.
Whether SSA is sinful or not also directly impacts the second major focus of this book which is how can those who struggle with SSA actually experience transformation at the heart level [Part Two: The Path of Transformation]. Burk and Lambert’s approach is straight forward without being simplistic, scriptural without being strident, and surprising without being strange. They apply principles found in Ephesians 5 to the struggle of SSA in way that offers compassion and hope for anyone struggling with immoral desires.
The book ends with pointing out helpful ways that Christians themselves need to change in their attitudes and approach to loving, understanding, and walking beside those who struggle with this temptation (or any other one for that matter).
What stands out having read this book is how the authors are determined to offer hope for change that is not based on replacing homosexual desires with heterosexual desires but replacing any immoral desire with a heart hungering after the holiness of God in Christ Jesus. They wisely remind the reader that merely preaching biblical sexual ethics does not result in transformation. Rather when biblical sexual ethics are combined with relational ministry to people, then the hope of biblical transformation becomes a real possibility. This book is a must-read for every Christ follower (especially pastors, youth leaders, and parents) as well as anyone looking for hope in dealing with unwanted immoral desires and anyone looking to help those who are struggling.
Rosaria Butterfield, a Christ follower who has struggled with SSA herself, says it well in her review:
Transforming Homosexuality: What the Bible Says about Sexual Orientation and Change by Denny Burk and Heath Lambert deserves a much lengthier review but for now this will have to suffice. What sets this book apart from a growing field of Christian books dealing with LGBTQAIA issues is the author’s determination to actually define same-sex attraction (SSA) and orientation in relation to temptation and sin [Part One: The Ethics of Desire]. They argue convincingly that unholy and immoral desires of any kind are to be confessed and repented of by those who profess to be Christ followers. In seeking to discern whether same-sex attraction is sinful even if it’s not acted upon, the authors help the reader struggle with the core issue that our hearts are in need of radical transformation. How one answers this question impacts the relationship of a wide variety of LGBTQAIA issues to Christ followers and their local congregations.
Whether SSA is sinful or not also directly impacts the second major focus of this book which is how can those who struggle with SSA actually experience transformation at the heart level [Part Two: The Path of Transformation]. Burk and Lambert’s approach is straight forward without being simplistic, scriptural without being strident, and surprising without being strange. They apply principles found in Ephesians 5 to the struggle of SSA in way that offers compassion and hope for anyone struggling with immoral desires.
The book ends with pointing out helpful ways that Christians themselves need to change in their attitudes and approach to loving, understanding, and walking beside those who struggle with this temptation (or any other one for that matter).
What stands out having read this book is how the authors are determined to offer hope for change that is not based on replacing homosexual desires with heterosexual desires but replacing any immoral desire with a heart hungering after the holiness of God in Christ Jesus. They wisely remind the reader that merely preaching biblical sexual ethics does not result in transformation. Rather when biblical sexual ethics are combined with relational ministry to people, then the hope of biblical transformation becomes a real possibility. This book is a must-read for every Christ follower (especially pastors, youth leaders, and parents) as well as anyone looking for hope in dealing with unwanted immoral desires and anyone looking to help those who are struggling.
Rosaria Butterfield, a Christ follower who has struggled with SSA herself, says it well in her review:
In Principles of Conduct, John Murray reminds us that 'the line of demarcation between virtue and vice is not a chasm but a razor's edge.' In Transforming Homosexuality, Denny Burk and Heath Lambert shine scholarly and pastoral light on that razor's edge, helping Christians to discern the difference between sexual temptation and sexual lust as it bears on same-sex attraction. This is a bold and provocative book. It will also likely be a controversial book. But it is predominantly a loving book that seeks to help people with unwanted homosexual desires be transformed by the full knowledge that God's grace for us in Christ is sufficient for all our various struggles and sins.
June 5, 2022
Really good Biblical treatment of the topic of homosexuality. What's special about this book is that it focuses on the question of same-sex attraction and whether such desires are inherently sinful or not.
The book maps out three perspectives on homosexuality: progressive, neo-traditional, and traditional. The book is a few years old, I think probably neo-traditional would be similar to what is now called "Side B."
The book effectively defends a traditional view, and is generous in spirit towards the neo-trads, though not pulling any punches in its critique of it.
The book also does some honest self-critique of how churches have treated gays in the past, and gives meaningful guidance for gospel-centered ministry to them.
This will be a 'go to' resource for me, and it should be for you too.
The book maps out three perspectives on homosexuality: progressive, neo-traditional, and traditional. The book is a few years old, I think probably neo-traditional would be similar to what is now called "Side B."
The book effectively defends a traditional view, and is generous in spirit towards the neo-trads, though not pulling any punches in its critique of it.
The book also does some honest self-critique of how churches have treated gays in the past, and gives meaningful guidance for gospel-centered ministry to them.
This will be a 'go to' resource for me, and it should be for you too.
April 23, 2020
This is a solid book. Written from the Biblocal Counseling perspective it deals well with the topic of homosexual orientation. They argue that the desire for homosexuality is sinful. They do a good job of arguing biblically that this is true while also critiquing and condemning conversion therapy. They offer hope but strongly warn you from thinking that only the act of homosexual behavior is wrong. There are a few places where nuance was needed. But, on the whole it was very strong. It ended on a good note of balanced correction to evangelicals. We need humility and love but at the same time a recommitment to the truths found in Scriptute on this topic.
January 30, 2022
This book offers a solid, biblical understanding of sexual orientation and what the Bible has to say about it. I appreciated the authors addressing the need for change in a loving, yet unwavering way. This is something that is not often touched in books on the topic of homosexuality and I appreciated hearing a biblical response.
I also appreciated the addressing of the “Side B” community (this was the main reason I picked up this book), I heard answers to many arguments I’ve been presented in years past that I didn’t really have an answer for.
Solid book on the topic of homosexuality that offers hope in the form of Jesus Christ, the Savior who desires to make you more like Him.
I also appreciated the addressing of the “Side B” community (this was the main reason I picked up this book), I heard answers to many arguments I’ve been presented in years past that I didn’t really have an answer for.
Solid book on the topic of homosexuality that offers hope in the form of Jesus Christ, the Savior who desires to make you more like Him.
December 30, 2017
Recommended Book #7
Very helpful, biblical exposition unraveling the predominant messages of our times, like: "You can be the real you!" or "It's not sin, if you never act upon it." And even better than this, you'll come away with a greater appreciation for the temptations Christ went through on your behalf - after all, no one has ever been tempted to the degree and severity he has. This is why Christ truly is the empathetic high priest.
Faithful to Scripture but not technical; brief but thorough; prepared to be challenged whatever your prior conceptions about these topics are.
Very helpful, biblical exposition unraveling the predominant messages of our times, like: "You can be the real you!" or "It's not sin, if you never act upon it." And even better than this, you'll come away with a greater appreciation for the temptations Christ went through on your behalf - after all, no one has ever been tempted to the degree and severity he has. This is why Christ truly is the empathetic high priest.
Faithful to Scripture but not technical; brief but thorough; prepared to be challenged whatever your prior conceptions about these topics are.
April 29, 2019
Great book! Totally balanced out some of the other works I have been reading lately. Still struggling with how to approach SSA...is it a sinful act to have this desire but not give in? Wasn’t Jesus tempted? But a desire that is disordered like SSA is by its nature disordered but if one does not give in does that still equal sin? These are the questions I am still working though. This book is helping! Highest recommendation
February 7, 2018
So helpful
The "hot topic" of homosexuality is addressed in a loving, compassionate, and biblical way. The authors stress that we all need to walk in repentance that transforms us to Christ-likeness.
The "hot topic" of homosexuality is addressed in a loving, compassionate, and biblical way. The authors stress that we all need to walk in repentance that transforms us to Christ-likeness.
August 3, 2021
Overall this was a good book. The best part of the book was its discussion on the issues of orientation, and temptation. I have a few problems with some of their arguments but they were minimal compared to the overall content. Recommended.
September 23, 2019
It was a really good and different read.
January 22, 2020
Helpful, simple, biblical, and profound.
September 15, 2022
VERY GOOD BOOK ON UNDERSTANING BIBICAL TRUTH ON DEALING WITH HOMOSEXUALITY. IT ALOS GIVES YOU AN UNFERSTAND OF CHRISTIAN MEN THE DEAL WITH SAME SEX ATTRACTION.
October 11, 2022
hated it for obvious reasons. Also dry writing !
June 1, 2023
A clear and concise defense of the Biblical testimony of sexual sin (both in act and desire) and the transforming power of the gospel of Christ - which we ALL need!
April 4, 2025
Very biblical, very clear
February 6, 2017
Some parts of this were excellent. The first section in particular where he makes clear that same-sex desire/orientation/attraction is a sin. I would word a few things differently, but overall he hit the mark in this area. Some of his quotes of Wesley Hill were disconcerting. I found myself disagreeing with Hill pretty strongly in certain areas. Burk disagreed as well, but not as strongly as I did. If this first section were it, I would give it five stars.
The second part of the book was not as convincing. He is clear that homosexuals can change, which I agree with. But at times he was too vague as to how that happens. Most notably he left out public worship as part of that change. There are some helpful parts, but it felt too generic. That may be just a drawback of the type of book.
Also I felt the chapter on how evangelicals can change was typical, but unnecessary.
Overall a helpful book, even if I think he could have been stronger and clearer in certain areas.
My Rating System
1 Star-Terrible book and dangerous. Burn it in the streets.
2 Stars-Really bad book, would not recommend, probably has some dangerous ideas in it or could just be so poorly written/researched that it is not worth reading. Few books I read are 1 or 2 stars because I am careful about what I read.
3 Stars-Either I disagree with it at too many points to recommend it or it is just not a good book on the subject or for the genre. Would not read it again, reference it, or recommend it. But it is not necessarily dangerous except as a time waster.
4 Stars-Solid book on the subject or for the genre. This does not mean I agree with everything in it. I would recommend this book to others and would probably read it again or reference it. Most books fall in this category because I try not to read books I don’t think will be good. There is a quite a variety here. 3.6 is pretty far from 4.5.
5 Stars-Excellent book. Classic in the genre or top of the line for the subject. I might also put a book in here that impacted me personally at the time I read it. I would highly recommend this book, even if I do not agree with all that it says.
The second part of the book was not as convincing. He is clear that homosexuals can change, which I agree with. But at times he was too vague as to how that happens. Most notably he left out public worship as part of that change. There are some helpful parts, but it felt too generic. That may be just a drawback of the type of book.
Also I felt the chapter on how evangelicals can change was typical, but unnecessary.
Overall a helpful book, even if I think he could have been stronger and clearer in certain areas.
My Rating System
1 Star-Terrible book and dangerous. Burn it in the streets.
2 Stars-Really bad book, would not recommend, probably has some dangerous ideas in it or could just be so poorly written/researched that it is not worth reading. Few books I read are 1 or 2 stars because I am careful about what I read.
3 Stars-Either I disagree with it at too many points to recommend it or it is just not a good book on the subject or for the genre. Would not read it again, reference it, or recommend it. But it is not necessarily dangerous except as a time waster.
4 Stars-Solid book on the subject or for the genre. This does not mean I agree with everything in it. I would recommend this book to others and would probably read it again or reference it. Most books fall in this category because I try not to read books I don’t think will be good. There is a quite a variety here. 3.6 is pretty far from 4.5.
5 Stars-Excellent book. Classic in the genre or top of the line for the subject. I might also put a book in here that impacted me personally at the time I read it. I would highly recommend this book, even if I do not agree with all that it says.
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