New Game +: The Geek's Guide to Love, Sex, & Dating

by Harris O'Malley

Ever wish dating came with an instruction manual? Now it does. New Game + is the book that every geeky guy wishes he had. If you've been struggling with dating, then it's time to start again and get it right this time. Whether you're looking for that one special relationship, something more casual or simply want to get better at meeting incredible women, dating and relationship expert Harris O'Malley (AKA Dr. NerdLove) shows you the way, from the first "hello" to the knock out kiss. New Game + helps you break through the anxiety of meeting new amazing women, helps demystify the rules of relationships, teaches you what to say and when, and helps you generate the chemistry that makes you irresistible. No tricks. No cheesy gimmicks. No creepy manipulative tactics. New Game + is your guide to becoming the man you always wished you could be.

Genres: Personal Growth, Relationships, Nonfiction

354 pages, Paperback

First published October 20, 2015

Reviews

[Marco · Rating 5 out of 5]

I must admit i am a big fan of drnerdlove. Nevertheless his blog and now the book have had a significant impact on my life. I was hung up in what Hollywood or bad english pop songs sold me as dating advices, even the occasionally pick up artists world view got stuck in my head. But the Doc got it right. Dating and women are not the enemy. Your are usually in your on way to improve and this book is the manual on how and what to change.
It's no magic, it no transformation that works the next day, it is hard work, a lot of practive and a lot of failures and setbacks but it will payback! I have started 2 years ago with the help of his blog and i've made tremendous improvements with women so far. I am more confident, funnier, sexier, and even get approched myself. Women became partners, friends and lovers for the mutual benefit.

I love the positive verbalism of the book. It is full of energy and never hurts or blames anyone or anything. It is a book that encourages love, & dating and sex. And has several Star Wars references in it.

[Marina · Rating 2 out of 5]

"Just getting a girlfriend or a lover isn’t the end; it’s the beginning. Relationships, whether romantic or platonic, purely sexual or completely chaste, don’t exist without work or effort. Similarly, working to improve yourself and building your new life doesn’t stop just because you’ve reached your goals. There will always be more to learn, more to work on, more to strive for and more to improve."

God, I really thought I'd like this one way more than I actually did. To start with, I love Paging Dr. Nerdlove. Not as much as I love Captain Awkward, but love nonetheless. Which is why I don't feel like this was written by the same author, at all. It's been out since 2015., and I've been reading the blog since 2017. Maybe the author changed and grew, and I'm just getting a glimpse of the previous version. But, alas, the book was just ok.

Don't get me wrong. In terms of dating/self-help books, this should be around 3-4/5 mark. The only reason I gave it 2/5 ("it was ok"), is because... I was expecting more from the author I know.

It's geared HEAVILY towards men dating women. Also, as the quote above states, getting a girlfriend is just a beginning, not the end. However, the book drags you, chapter by chapter, through the pre-relationship stuff. I always felt that Dr. Nerdlove shines in letters about relationship stuff. There's barely anything here about that. Maybe we'll get a sequel? The book also follows the same pattern of ready-set-go that I saw in other dating books, mainly:

1. Prepare yourself to be a person other people want to date;
2. Do these things to make other people want to date you;
3. Maybe get a girlfriend? What happens then? Oh, wait, the end of the book!

Maybe I'm being too harsh. I think I'll just stick to the blog. I do think he's an excellent as Dr. Nerdlove and I wish him all the best.

[Junior Kric · Rating 5 out of 5]

good book

[Judi Fruen · Rating 5 out of 5]

Mostly good advice, but there were moments I felt like I was looking at aliens courting, as the hypothetical scenarios were so unlike anything I've ever experienced. Living in a rural area, and probably being autistic, might explain this.