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Wild Mama: One Woman's Quest to Live Her Best Life, Escape Traditional Parenthood, and Travel the World
When Carrie Visintainer became a mother at the age of thirty-two, she worried it was all over, that her adventurous life was done. World travel? Adios. Solo explorations in the mountains? Ciao. Creative outlets? She wondered, are diapers my new white canvas? Immersed in a whirlwind of sleeplessness and spit-up, she was madly in love with her new baby, yet also felt her adventurous spirit and core identity crumbling.So Carrie laced up her boots and set out on a soul-searching journey, with revelations near and far. Inside a local Walmart, she realized that new motherhood is like traveling to a foreign country, with a new vocabulary, unknowable customs, and extreme jetlag. Lying in a yurt in the Colorado forest, she came to terms with her postpartum depression. While sailing on a gullet off the coast of Turkey, she examined feelings of guilt about leaving her child in pursuit of adventure. And then, while perched in a handsome stranger’s motorcycle sidecar in the Mexican jungle, she found herself face-to-face with her central Domesticity vs. Wanderlust.Finally, she discovered she could—and should—have both.
265 pages, Kindle Edition
First published November 3, 2015
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November 15, 2015
Love this book! This is my new go-to baby shower gift, which every expectant-mother friend of mine will be getting from this day forward! I know SO many women who fear that their identity as adventurer, artist, writer, traveler, (or fill-in-the-blank) will be threatened by becoming a mother.... and this is a very valid fear. Quite often, we see women giving up their unique, creative identities once their kids are born, unfortunately.
But as Carrie Visintainer shows us in her inspiring memoir, there can be another way! Women can creatively pursue their passions while being loving mothers. Carrie shares her own journey to this realization in the beautifully written WILD MAMA. She is our sensitive, honest, witty, and bold guide into this ground-breaking territory. She shares with us her own vulnerabilities and triumphs in a relatable, engaging, and moving narrative... she makes us feel a sense of camaraderie, a sense of determination that we, too, can design our lives in a way that honors our own passions. Highly recommended!
But as Carrie Visintainer shows us in her inspiring memoir, there can be another way! Women can creatively pursue their passions while being loving mothers. Carrie shares her own journey to this realization in the beautifully written WILD MAMA. She is our sensitive, honest, witty, and bold guide into this ground-breaking territory. She shares with us her own vulnerabilities and triumphs in a relatable, engaging, and moving narrative... she makes us feel a sense of camaraderie, a sense of determination that we, too, can design our lives in a way that honors our own passions. Highly recommended!
April 8, 2025
Resonated so much with me! Inspired me in so many ways. You can be a Mama and ...name your thing!
February 29, 2024
As a recently turned mother of 2, I had high hopes for this book to open up a world of possibilities that my traveling days aren’t over now that I have two kiddos at home. It reads slightly out of touch - the author lives in a pretty remote spot in Colorado, and has the financial means to take international vacations/journeys that seem hard to reach for middle class families - especially those with partners that are inflexible with working options or pets at home. This reads like a book that was very therapeutic for the author to write, but perhaps wasn’t meant for the masses. I wouldn’t recommend this to mothers as I think this isn’t the motivating read I was seeking.
Being from Minnesota myself, I was with the author until she mentioned “porcupine mountains in Minnesota”. I was so excited I put the book down and googled right away! Turns out those mountains are in Michigan, and then I wondered what else about the book she had fabricated or misremembered. She completely lost me.
That said, the lessons I took from this book were notable. Find what makes you happy and fills your cup, then find ways to incorporate more of that into your life. Maybe that’s a travel blog, or reading more books about travel, watching documentaries, etc. trips will be possible when the kids are older. For me, it’s taking trips and prioritizing outside time and projects that make our yard more enjoyable to be in. It’s reading more self-help books, it’s planning my next family vacation or solo trip (or outing). It’s having a global network I communicate with, and finding friends that have things in common that are also mom’s, not simply moms that have kids the same age.
Being from Minnesota myself, I was with the author until she mentioned “porcupine mountains in Minnesota”. I was so excited I put the book down and googled right away! Turns out those mountains are in Michigan, and then I wondered what else about the book she had fabricated or misremembered. She completely lost me.
That said, the lessons I took from this book were notable. Find what makes you happy and fills your cup, then find ways to incorporate more of that into your life. Maybe that’s a travel blog, or reading more books about travel, watching documentaries, etc. trips will be possible when the kids are older. For me, it’s taking trips and prioritizing outside time and projects that make our yard more enjoyable to be in. It’s reading more self-help books, it’s planning my next family vacation or solo trip (or outing). It’s having a global network I communicate with, and finding friends that have things in common that are also mom’s, not simply moms that have kids the same age.
April 25, 2017
Why I read this book:
I won a copy of Carrie Visintainer's first novel Wild Mama through the Tales of Mountain Mama's blog. Her blog is my go to for gear and activity suggestions for enjoying the outdoors with small children.
My one sentence summary:
Motherhood is about embracing change without giving up who you are.
Kudos:
My own transition to motherhood at the age of 37 was one of the more traumatic experiences of my life. Although I don't share Visintainer's wanderlust, I can relate to her need to preserve those individual qualities that make us who we are before baby. I found reassurance in her struggles to redefine herself post-baby. I enjoyed reading about her solo adventures and the push-pull if motherhood against individuality.
Quibbles:
My only quibble is that the sections jump in time, which was disorientating. The chapters felt more like a collection of essays rather than a cohesive work.
Final verdict:
High recommend to any outdoors mama's who need a pep talk on the value and importance of finding a way to hold on to what makes them a person. As Visintainer says, being kids respect their parents for being individuals.
I won a copy of Carrie Visintainer's first novel Wild Mama through the Tales of Mountain Mama's blog. Her blog is my go to for gear and activity suggestions for enjoying the outdoors with small children.
My one sentence summary:
Motherhood is about embracing change without giving up who you are.
Kudos:
My own transition to motherhood at the age of 37 was one of the more traumatic experiences of my life. Although I don't share Visintainer's wanderlust, I can relate to her need to preserve those individual qualities that make us who we are before baby. I found reassurance in her struggles to redefine herself post-baby. I enjoyed reading about her solo adventures and the push-pull if motherhood against individuality.
Quibbles:
My only quibble is that the sections jump in time, which was disorientating. The chapters felt more like a collection of essays rather than a cohesive work.
Final verdict:
High recommend to any outdoors mama's who need a pep talk on the value and importance of finding a way to hold on to what makes them a person. As Visintainer says, being kids respect their parents for being individuals.
October 14, 2015
Full disclosure: I know Carrie personally, and that's how I got an advance copy of this book. But I don't know her THAT well (we met at a writing retreat about a year ago), so it says a lot that I'd take the time to write a review here. I was nervous picking the book up, hoping I'd like it. Luckily, I loved it.
Her descriptions of the early days of motherhood were gripping and poignant. I kept rooting for her to succeed, and laughing along with her at her failures. As an adventurous woman pondering myself whether to have kids, this is exactly the kind of inside look at those emotional struggles that I was looking for. I've wanted to hand it to at least half a dozen friends since I finished it last month.
Her descriptions of the early days of motherhood were gripping and poignant. I kept rooting for her to succeed, and laughing along with her at her failures. As an adventurous woman pondering myself whether to have kids, this is exactly the kind of inside look at those emotional struggles that I was looking for. I've wanted to hand it to at least half a dozen friends since I finished it last month.
August 14, 2017
Unfortunately, it just wasn't great. All of the topics and instances that the author wrote about where so briefly mentioned that the only ones I could really identify with were the ones that mirrored my own experiences... but that wouldn't really help with a new mama who is anxious about beginning parenthood.
One thing I can mention though, is that it struck me as very useful: The author would bring her notebook, her journal, when she would go to all of these different destinations, even in the deep jungle. He was able to take field notes in the depths of motherhood, where maybe your thoughts are hazy but you can make notes and go back to regroup when the haze has cleared.
One thing I can mention though, is that it struck me as very useful: The author would bring her notebook, her journal, when she would go to all of these different destinations, even in the deep jungle. He was able to take field notes in the depths of motherhood, where maybe your thoughts are hazy but you can make notes and go back to regroup when the haze has cleared.
December 5, 2016
Great book for all women struggling with the tug-of-war between desire and guilt. This book encourages women to invest in all parts of who make them unique: individual, wife, and mother.
Punctuated by Carrie's stories that will make you laugh and cry, this book will inspire you to dare to dream!
Punctuated by Carrie's stories that will make you laugh and cry, this book will inspire you to dare to dream!
January 6, 2017
I loved this book so much because it resonated with a lot of my fears being pregnant during medical school, especially with how my identity was changing and feeling pressured to conform in areas I did not want to compromise.
December 18, 2016
Wonderful. She captures a side of motherhood that isn't as widely talked about- the mother's identity outside her child.
January 6, 2019
I guess I was expecting someone who was more wild and had more zing.... she was pretty "ploddy" and whined a lot in my opinion.
June 8, 2020
I get what some reviewers said about it being repetitive, but I still enjoyed this book. It is well written and full of adventure and gave me a few of my own “ah-ha” moments while reading.
March 7, 2019
I found this book at the guesthouse I'm staying at in Yelapa and was excited to read it. I was a bit disappointed since it seems like she's a pretty standard north american mom who goes on more backpacking trips and international vacations than average. I guess I was expecting something a little crazier and "wilder". That being said, it was fun to read and I could relate to a lot of her experiences as a mother with small children, and especially fun because I'm in Yelapa.
June 4, 2021
daha çok annelik üzerine bir kitap okuyacağımı düşünmüştüm ve kitap çok da iyi/gerçekçi başladı fakat ilerledikçe başka bi konuya evrildi: yazarın eşiyle nasıl tanıştığı, anne olmadan önce de seyahat etmeyi ne kadar çok sevdiği ve hayat tutkusunun neden/ne şekilde seyahat etmek olduğu, eşiyle nasıl uyumlu oldukları, eşinin geçmişi, çocuklar hk. fikirleri vs. ısınamadım. yazarın bir blogu varmış ve kitabı da blog takipçileri için yazmış gibi görünüyor.
September 5, 2018
I loved this book. I think it should be required reading for all moms!
October 17, 2025
I found this really interesting and inspiring!
February 21, 2018
One of the best books I've read lately. I truly feel i could have written it myself. Carrie feels like an old friend - the one who tells it like it is, doesn't sugar coat, and can admit her faults when necessary. She truly details the pull of a mother between her love for her children and the loss of her former self. It's also amazing the way she has learned to combine the two ! One of my favourite things to read was Carrie's "self talk". An incredibly relatable memoir!
January 28, 2016
The thing I love most about Wild Mama is that it's a perfect reminder that life is what we make of it. Carrie Visintainer talks about her life as she's created it. It's not perfect. It's not always easy. But she's figured out how to get the most out of the life she's been given. As a mom, the book resonated with me. Motherhood is not easy and no matter what your particular circumstances, we all face the same challenges. But the book transcends motherhood and addresses the struggles we face as women to follow our hearts. Carrie is a mother and an adventurer, and this book illustrates how she's managed to be both. I gave copies of this book to several girlfriends AND to my mother because I believe all women (and men) will find inspiration here for chasing their dreams.
December 2, 2015
Carrie is a woman who wants family, but her wanderlust keeps calling. She finally settles down and with her husband figures out ways to keep having adventures and traveling.
I am inspired by this brave woman who faced some scary situations, but managed to continue living a full life. Not that travel is required for that, she even says find what your passionate about and do that to have a whole life. Even if solo trips camping or overseas aren't my passion, I have things I do solely for me apart from being a mom and wife.
Every adventure she has some doubts and regrets that make her wish she were home with her kids, but she has a sort of mantra that reminds her she chose her path and that lightens her mood and keeps her going.
I am inspired by this brave woman who faced some scary situations, but managed to continue living a full life. Not that travel is required for that, she even says find what your passionate about and do that to have a whole life. Even if solo trips camping or overseas aren't my passion, I have things I do solely for me apart from being a mom and wife.
Every adventure she has some doubts and regrets that make her wish she were home with her kids, but she has a sort of mantra that reminds her she chose her path and that lightens her mood and keeps her going.
January 7, 2016
At first I thought the author was just so relatable, balancing wanderlust with career and family life. I thought, I'm her, I could be her! But then every chapter has the same formula. She encounters some obstacle, and then she has a completely new outlook or self actualisation. It's a bit like, I tripped and fell on my roller blades and when I got up I had a whole new perspective on life. It beats you over the head a little bit. Almost like the end of an episode of Modern Family with a lesson learnt and a voiceover. I think I would've enjoyed the book better if she had omitted the last paragraph of every chapter.
On the other hand, she's a brave soul and writer for exposing her vulnerabilities, and her way of life in definitely inspirational.
On the other hand, she's a brave soul and writer for exposing her vulnerabilities, and her way of life in definitely inspirational.
June 3, 2016
I related to this book on so many levels; from motherhood, to finding creativity, to wanderlust, and the value of staying true to self in chaos. She was able to articulate so beautifully and so unselfishly those early days/years of motherhood and the guilt that we all feel when trying to make our way back to our true selves. Loved this book and found it to be a huge comfort. I hope the author writes more!
December 20, 2015
I revived this book as part of the First Reads program. Carrie is definitely an inspiration to all women! This book wasn't my fav because I do not have children but I can connect with her wild fun loving spirit. Can't wait to pass this one on to a new mama! Perhaps, they will know more about the whole kid thing :)
March 31, 2016
I think I would have liked this more if I had read it prior to having a baby or in his first year; 2.5 years in I have already figured out that I am able to travel and take solo & family trips with a baby to satisfy my wanderlust. A great reminder that you can keep important parts of yourself even with children, whether travel or any other hobbies.
January 7, 2016
I won this book on Goodreads. This book is more enjoyable for new mothers than for people interested in travel. The author has wanderlust but also two small children. Some things annoyed me about the author but she had some good insights about the struggles of new motherhood.
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March 11, 2016
This book resonated strongly, I would recommend to anyone, but especially to any mother who has questioned losing her own identity. It's one point of view, but is a healthy one amidst so much other parenting advice.
January 16, 2016
Not entirely relatable to me, but a good read. Entertaining. Great for super moms who want it all.
February 27, 2016
Loved it! I felt like I was reading my own journal. This story definitely resonated with me as a fellow mama with an adventurous spirit.
July 5, 2018
Highly recommend this book for a mother needing some inspiration, a potential mother worrying about an adventurous life after baby or someone needing a good read. Loved it!
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