Danger: 50 Things You Should Not Do With a Narcissist

by H.G. Tudor

Direct from the straight talking narcissist an invaluable and insightful guide to the 50 things you should not do with a narcissist. The topics covered range from why you should not try to change the narcissist through to why you should not expect to enjoy your holiday with a narcissist in attendance, Delivered in the customary no nonsense style this will provide you with a range of fascinating and helpful observations.

Genres: Self Help, Psychology

202 pages, Kindle Edition

Published November 11, 2015

Reviews

[Andreia Butterfly ❤️Audible listener since 2013 · Rating 5 out of 5]

5 Stars!! Really helpful and outstanding. Never fight with a narcissist ALONE if you are a woman!! Never!!

[Helena · Rating 4 out of 5]

A quick, but interesting read. The author - is his nom de plume a combination of the names H. G. Wells (writer) and the infamous King Henry Tudor VIII? - has a writing style that, for this subject matter, works well. Word choice and analogies are sometimes awkward, grammatical errors and typos frequent, yet the meanings are quite clear. One knows exactly what he is saying - no jargon, case studies or theory is discussed here. Tudor just puts it all out there, one item after the next, neurosis and all, no excuses. As the author says, most people need to be hit over the head before "getting it". I don't want to write much more and spoil the book.

Blunt and often repetitive, there is much truth in this book so read between the lines. Those who've been entangled with a narcissist at work, in the family, socially, or in an intimate relationship will read this book and recognize the cause and effect, trigger and cue, and the high cost of ignoring gut warnings and blazing red flags.

There is a time for firm boundaries, for listening to those gut warnings that something is off. Read and learn the danger signals. Moving into adulthood, one must learn them because narcissist - predators play by different rules, they manipulate, lie and twist.

Tudor's book's offer clear advice - I've read 3 of them including this one. How much of what he writes about himself ( or maybe he is really a she? Who knows?) and reasons for writing these books is anybody's guess. He declares repeatedly that he and all narcissists lie, lie, lie. So his reasons for writing these books is probably something other than what he says. Regardless of the dodgy author, I recommend the book.

The 4 stars ( rather than 5) are for technical reasons- typos, misspells, and page layouts. Sometimes the paragraphs break and continue in strange places that appear to be a Kindle programming or software issue rather than something the author has or hasn't done.

[Debbie · Rating 4 out of 5]

I have read several of Mr. Tudor's book since a narcissist has entered my life. If one can only read one, I would recommend this one for its succinct content.

[Aliya · Rating 4 out of 5]

I have dealt with both male and female narcs, in social, work and family settings. Tudor is a self proclaimed cerebral male narc. His books give off an air of confidence, which I found lacking in female narcs, unless they were the parasite drinking off a physiologically, socially and financially superior co-dependent. In case you are wondering, why on earth would a well bred, well educated, wealthy and good looking man, partner with a socially challenged and ugly narc? well the short answer is these men have mommy issues. In of themselves, the female narc is deeply insecure, bitter and often completely lacking social graces. Their progression to becoming socially charming narcs, is solely dependent on finding male support.

Coming back to the book, the author has written 12-15 books to talk about narcissism, and he hasn't exactly compartmentalized. There is a lot of repetition, re-wording, and one feels confused when choosing amongst his books from Kindle Unlimited. But then that's a narcissist's tool, isn't it? It gets us to borrow all, which get him moolah, so he is disclosing his desire for fuel, to gain even more fuel (money, fame). In that sense he is true to his self :o)

The take home message of this book, is that when you first meet someone, exercise caution and do not let them in your life, and in your heart, till you are sure that they are "safe people." There is a book by that title jointly authored by Cloud and Townsend. The revelation in this book, open our eyes to the need of verifying "safe people," or else we face the danger of psychological, physical, financial and social harm, from opening our hearts and homes to diseased hearts.

[Diane D. Kahl · Rating 5 out of 5]

Death Penalty

You have justified the reason for the death penalty in domestic violence cases. Thank you. Humans have an innate conscience: When they choose to harm others they suffer the consequences and must be eliminated from society for protection of the innocent.

[Debra Vaughn · Rating 5 out of 5]

This is a Must Read

So enlightening. Could not put it down till the end. The end is very empowering! Will read more from this author.

[BKH · Rating 3 out of 5]

Validating and informative

I've read four of H.G. Tudors works. And this one reveals in depth insight into the workings of the narcissistic mindset, ploys,tactics,and convoluted reasoning. Fuel being the narcissist aim despite what it costs another is the ultimate deception. The other manipulations,abuses,are just a means to that end. Truly this is the irony of it all; for they do deserve a bit of pity. They live to strive for what they can gain only from without themselves,revealing the ultimate loss of a lost soul, as the vampire they truly are.

[Ute Weiß · Rating 5 out of 5]

Great book.
If you have ever been abused by a narcissist you know that knowledge is power.
HGTudor is a fountain of knowledge and wisdom. Best source ever.
Three quotes I can relate to very much: „The narc will hurl a metaphorical hand grenade into a situation and then walk away whistling as it explodes.“ - This has happened too many times … and is very disturbing.
„Find all the knowledge you can and absorb it. Knowledge really is power.“ - Yep, and it‘s the only way out.
„Never give up hope“ - yep, never give up hope.
There is a good life waiting for you after an abusive relationship.

[Jake · Rating 4 out of 5]

Good read and a very clear depiction of the Narcissist and what they are capable of.

Tudor outlines very clearly what and who the narc is. And drops very heavy clues how to see who they are and how to avoid them.

Could have done a proper edit though, old chap. Or maybe you regard yourself above that kind of thing?

[CHRISTINE HADLEY · Rating 5 out of 5]

Good to know in your struggle to escape

Nothing has facilitated healing as much as reading the works of this narcissist psychopath. This doesn't go into the science or physiology of the disorder, just no nonsense advice from one who perpetuates your nightmare everyday.

[Tera · Rating 4 out of 5]

Scary

I wish I had this knowledge before. I could have saved myself so much heartache. It has been three months since I extracted myself, but am still dealing with the aftermath.

[Mandy · Rating 5 out of 5]

Briliant

I can not rate any of the Mr.Tudor's book lees than five stars.This book as many priceless advices how to handle a narcissist.

[Kavish · Rating 5 out of 5]

brilliant!

[Ruth · Rating 5 out of 5]

Very, very, very helpful and insightful!! Thanks again, HG!! You are saving a lot of people with all your hard work!!

[Gina Athy · Rating 5 out of 5]

Danger

A must read for anyone dealing with these parasites,H.G.Tudors books have taught me alot!!!!and I will continue to read as many as I possibly can.

[Davis Haguma]

An incredibly insightful even if frightening book. It is an immersion into the narcissist's mind.

[Deborah Bruner · Rating 3 out of 5]

Lots of detail ..

Good blue print ... out lines living with a person like this.. right to the point .. worth reading ..

[Dana Lowe · Rating 2 out of 5]

Not helpful for me. AT ALL. Was up front and honest about being a narcissist. Seemed to be more flaunting how easy it is to be one then actually helping someone deal with one. Which of course is fluffing the authors own feathers and bull shitting the readers, who won't get ensnared (the first tip offered) in the first place.

[mati chi · Rating 4 out of 5]

Really good book. Great advice to follow.

Highly recommend if you want to remain narc free. Author is brutally honest but loses a star for poor editing and typos.

[Miss Deed · Rating 4 out of 5]

Good, funny, soeaks from the narcissist perspective. May see yourself in narcissistic terms