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Kopfsache - Liebe den Introvertierten in dir
Für Introvertierte ist es nicht leicht, in einer Welt zu leben, die extrovertiertes Verhalten belohnt. Viele verfolgen daher dieselbe Strategie: Sie verstellen sich und tun so, als seien sie extrovertiert. Damit geht es ihnen nicht gut, denn sie leben gegen ihre eigene Natur. Doch wer die tiefsten Vorlieben dauerhaft ignoriert, ist bald erschöpft und einsam. Das Selbstwertgefühl sinkt in den Keller. Ein glückliches Leben ist nicht in Sicht.
Mit diesem Buch möchte ich dir zeigen, was in uns Introvertierten steckt und wie wir unsere Eigenschaften im Alltag für uns nutzen können, anstatt sie gegen uns arbeiten zu lassen. Für mehr Erfolg im Beruf und im Privatleben. Aber vor allem für ein besseres Selbstwertgefühl. Mein Ziel ist, dass du lernst, dich als Introvertierten voll und ganz zu akzeptieren – mit allen deinen Stärken und deinen Schwächen. Du allein kannst entscheiden, dich zu lieben, wie du bist. Es ist reine Kopfsache.
Wenn du introvertiert bist, ist dieses Buch genau richtig für dich. Du wirst deine introvertierten Eigenschaften wiedererkennen und kannst die zahlreichen Tipps in deinen Alltag integrieren.
Mit diesem Buch möchte ich dir zeigen, was in uns Introvertierten steckt und wie wir unsere Eigenschaften im Alltag für uns nutzen können, anstatt sie gegen uns arbeiten zu lassen. Für mehr Erfolg im Beruf und im Privatleben. Aber vor allem für ein besseres Selbstwertgefühl. Mein Ziel ist, dass du lernst, dich als Introvertierten voll und ganz zu akzeptieren – mit allen deinen Stärken und deinen Schwächen. Du allein kannst entscheiden, dich zu lieben, wie du bist. Es ist reine Kopfsache.
Wenn du introvertiert bist, ist dieses Buch genau richtig für dich. Du wirst deine introvertierten Eigenschaften wiedererkennen und kannst die zahlreichen Tipps in deinen Alltag integrieren.
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First published September 30, 2014
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December 28, 2017
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Introvertierte Persönlichkeiten fühlen sich häufig unwohl oder unverstanden in einer Welt, die offenbar von Extrovertierten "regiert" wird. Häufig entsteht der Eindruck, nicht "richtig" zu sein, fehl am Platz und sich ändern zu müssen. Dabei bilden Introvertierte eine Balance in einer scheinbar lauten Welt.
Meinung
Mir hat das Buch gefallen. An vielen Stellen verspürte ich den Drang zu nicken und "Ja, stimmt!" zu sagen. Der Autor, selbst introvertiert, erklärt leicht verständlich und gut, mit welchen Schwierigkeiten introvertierte Menschen aufgrund ihrer zurückhaltenden und stillen Persönlichkeit konfrontiert sind. Als Leser/in bekommt man Empfehlungen und Tipps an die Hand - die einen mitunter bereits bekannter als andere -, wie es gelingen kann, in einer lauten Welt zu bestehen und vor allem die eigene Persönlichkeit zu akzeptieren und anzunehmen.
Fazit
Ich empfehle das Buch allen Introvertierten, die mit sich selbst hadern, und allen Extrovertierten, die mehr Verständnis für die stilleren Mitmenschen aufbringen möchten. :) Ich fand das Buch insgesamt sehr interessant, auch wenn mir der ein oder andere Aspekt bereits vorher bekannt waren. Deshalb vergebe ich 4/5 Sterne. :)
Introvertierte Persönlichkeiten fühlen sich häufig unwohl oder unverstanden in einer Welt, die offenbar von Extrovertierten "regiert" wird. Häufig entsteht der Eindruck, nicht "richtig" zu sein, fehl am Platz und sich ändern zu müssen. Dabei bilden Introvertierte eine Balance in einer scheinbar lauten Welt.
Meinung
Mir hat das Buch gefallen. An vielen Stellen verspürte ich den Drang zu nicken und "Ja, stimmt!" zu sagen. Der Autor, selbst introvertiert, erklärt leicht verständlich und gut, mit welchen Schwierigkeiten introvertierte Menschen aufgrund ihrer zurückhaltenden und stillen Persönlichkeit konfrontiert sind. Als Leser/in bekommt man Empfehlungen und Tipps an die Hand - die einen mitunter bereits bekannter als andere -, wie es gelingen kann, in einer lauten Welt zu bestehen und vor allem die eigene Persönlichkeit zu akzeptieren und anzunehmen.
Fazit
Ich empfehle das Buch allen Introvertierten, die mit sich selbst hadern, und allen Extrovertierten, die mehr Verständnis für die stilleren Mitmenschen aufbringen möchten. :) Ich fand das Buch insgesamt sehr interessant, auch wenn mir der ein oder andere Aspekt bereits vorher bekannt waren. Deshalb vergebe ich 4/5 Sterne. :)
January 3, 2015
Ein sehr guter Einblick ins Dasein als Introvertierter und den Umgang mit sich selbst, fundiert, gut geschrieben und mit sehr konkreten Hinweisen fürs praktische Leben.
Ab und zu wird mir der Introvertierte ein bisschen zu sehr als Leidender skizziert, das ist zwar nicht grundsätzlich falsch, aber hat mich persönlich nicht so sehr angesprochen.
Insgesamt aber ein tolles Buch, sein Geld wert und für mich erst mal alles, was ich zum Thema wissen muss.
Ab und zu wird mir der Introvertierte ein bisschen zu sehr als Leidender skizziert, das ist zwar nicht grundsätzlich falsch, aber hat mich persönlich nicht so sehr angesprochen.
Insgesamt aber ein tolles Buch, sein Geld wert und für mich erst mal alles, was ich zum Thema wissen muss.
December 2, 2019
Ich hatte vorher schon englische Bücher zum Thema Introversion gelesen. Patrick arbeitet sich hier eher praktisch heran, was mir durch das gegebene Grundwissen auch sehr gut gefallen hat.
Er erarbeitet Praxis-Tipps, wie man in verschiedenen Lebensbereichen mit Introversion umgehen kann und sie manchmal auch einfach überspielen muss. Sehr gelungen und entgegen meiner Erwartung kein typisches schnelles eBook, das nur Inhalt repliziert, der schon dutzende Male in anderen Büchern durchgekaut wurde.
Er erarbeitet Praxis-Tipps, wie man in verschiedenen Lebensbereichen mit Introversion umgehen kann und sie manchmal auch einfach überspielen muss. Sehr gelungen und entgegen meiner Erwartung kein typisches schnelles eBook, das nur Inhalt repliziert, der schon dutzende Male in anderen Büchern durchgekaut wurde.
February 22, 2015
First off:
I don't want to be called "you" - I am not a buddy of the author's.
More relevant, maybe:
The first third or so is an okay read (else I wouldn't have clicked on "buy the book" at the end of the Amazon pre-read I had downloaded). Although it basically recapitulates, on a subjective level, what Susan Cain has put down more eloquently and scientifically a lot more substantiated (while still a highly interesting, not-at-all-dry read, btw). Although even the order of topics discussed and examples mentioned have been copied by Susan Cain, that's still alright, as it somehow adds another facette to her basic book on the topic, "Quiet: The power of introverts".
But for the other two thirds, I do get back to my introductory comment:
The tone changes from "this is what I, the author, have experienced and which may help you, the introvert reader reflect upon yourself and your experiences too" to "This is what you need to do - just do it my way and you will be a happier person (and be "your best self" - which does not work at all in the German language in which this book has been written and I have read it).
Between completely irrelevant topics such as "eat healthy and do some sports", the immediate marketing of the author's various books, websites and blogs on these "off topics" and the end that treats the reader as a rather stupid teenager, at best ("Sit down and write down all the things you want to change; and start tomorrow"), this 32-year-old has lost me. And my goodwill in reading (let alone: recommending) his book.
Too bad - he was off to a good and intriguing start; and then messed it up completely.
If you don't have to add anything of value to the topic of your book after the first 60 or 70 pages, stop right there and make it a 60-to-70-pages book. Or don't write a book on it at all. But definitely don't go on babbling, just to fill the minimum pages your publisher wants to see.
I don't want to be called "you" - I am not a buddy of the author's.
More relevant, maybe:
The first third or so is an okay read (else I wouldn't have clicked on "buy the book" at the end of the Amazon pre-read I had downloaded). Although it basically recapitulates, on a subjective level, what Susan Cain has put down more eloquently and scientifically a lot more substantiated (while still a highly interesting, not-at-all-dry read, btw). Although even the order of topics discussed and examples mentioned have been copied by Susan Cain, that's still alright, as it somehow adds another facette to her basic book on the topic, "Quiet: The power of introverts".
But for the other two thirds, I do get back to my introductory comment:
The tone changes from "this is what I, the author, have experienced and which may help you, the introvert reader reflect upon yourself and your experiences too" to "This is what you need to do - just do it my way and you will be a happier person (and be "your best self" - which does not work at all in the German language in which this book has been written and I have read it).
Between completely irrelevant topics such as "eat healthy and do some sports", the immediate marketing of the author's various books, websites and blogs on these "off topics" and the end that treats the reader as a rather stupid teenager, at best ("Sit down and write down all the things you want to change; and start tomorrow"), this 32-year-old has lost me. And my goodwill in reading (let alone: recommending) his book.
Too bad - he was off to a good and intriguing start; and then messed it up completely.
If you don't have to add anything of value to the topic of your book after the first 60 or 70 pages, stop right there and make it a 60-to-70-pages book. Or don't write a book on it at all. But definitely don't go on babbling, just to fill the minimum pages your publisher wants to see.
November 22, 2015
I book for People who do not talk much, but prefer reading, writing and doing things without much mouth and much noise. XD
Patrick has written the book in a very personal way. For me as shy introverted socialphob Girl, my heart was going to melt. I had to nod nearly on every page, like "wow, there is a human who feels the same way, wow and even a man, cool, I do not feel alone, there is hope for all of us."
He mixed the book, cause he has written about some introverts properties. He was like "hey, do you have the same Problems? Welcome! I tell you about how shitty my life wents sometimes." It really Needs bowls for a man to write about the things that hurt cause of the disease. But he also wrote about some ideas to get better Connection to other humans, how to unfear urself, how to explain yourself, about daily Problems and Solutions. A fantastic mixture. And THANX that is a softcover, cause Hardcover is sooo expensive sometimes.
Introverted sometimes seem to struggle with the same Problems like a shy or social phobic person. Brotherhood of the mouthless mindstormers. XD
Patrick has written the book in a very personal way. For me as shy introverted socialphob Girl, my heart was going to melt. I had to nod nearly on every page, like "wow, there is a human who feels the same way, wow and even a man, cool, I do not feel alone, there is hope for all of us."
He mixed the book, cause he has written about some introverts properties. He was like "hey, do you have the same Problems? Welcome! I tell you about how shitty my life wents sometimes." It really Needs bowls for a man to write about the things that hurt cause of the disease. But he also wrote about some ideas to get better Connection to other humans, how to unfear urself, how to explain yourself, about daily Problems and Solutions. A fantastic mixture. And THANX that is a softcover, cause Hardcover is sooo expensive sometimes.
Introverted sometimes seem to struggle with the same Problems like a shy or social phobic person. Brotherhood of the mouthless mindstormers. XD
May 3, 2017
I feel like this book is more about the authors personal experiences and feelings about introversion and how to love that introverted part of yourself than scientifically proved facts and tips, but - that's okay! I like learning about how other people feel about certain things, or how they deal with them, and this is a very honest and outright book, so I enjoyed reading it.
I was a bit sceptical at the beginning because I disagreed with quite some things the author said about introverts, like introverts can't be enthusiastic, won't use flowery language, and he also wrote something like "You know these people where you automatically feel comfortable with and you're hanging on whose every word? I'm not one of them and if you're an introvert you're probably neither, sorry." And I strongly disagree with that. I mean, I may be wrong but to me those things have not much to do with introversion but with someones unique personality or circumstances.
But as I read on I felt more like he was switching from "that's how it is" (this part was more about what is introversion in general) to "that's how it is for me" (and this part was more about the how to love and nurture your introverted self) so I wouldn't have to think about if this is true in my opinion anymore.
So, in the second half of the book I found more things I could relate to, and I also liked some of the tips, such as what to do when you're stuck into a carrousel of thoughts.
I especially liked a example he made about what happenes when introverts are trying to be extroverts because being extroverted still is what most people think is "normal" - he said it is much like slipping into a role like into a suit. The suit gives you a feeling of safety, but it never really fits. The suit is too tight, scratchy and the trouser legs are too long. But you stick to it, because without it you would be naked and vulnerable. So he asked: "How much does your suit tweak?" And I think this is really thought provoking.
This book also contains a list with many books he found useful to write this book, mostly books about introversion but also some about other interesting topics.
I wasn't sure if I should rate this with 3 or 4 stars, because like I said, I didn't agree with everything in this book which he wrote like if this were assured facts, but still, it was interesting to read someones opinions about himself being introverted.
Incidentally, this is only available in German language I guess. Probably I should have mentioned this earlier? ^^
I was a bit sceptical at the beginning because I disagreed with quite some things the author said about introverts, like introverts can't be enthusiastic, won't use flowery language, and he also wrote something like "You know these people where you automatically feel comfortable with and you're hanging on whose every word? I'm not one of them and if you're an introvert you're probably neither, sorry." And I strongly disagree with that. I mean, I may be wrong but to me those things have not much to do with introversion but with someones unique personality or circumstances.
But as I read on I felt more like he was switching from "that's how it is" (this part was more about what is introversion in general) to "that's how it is for me" (and this part was more about the how to love and nurture your introverted self) so I wouldn't have to think about if this is true in my opinion anymore.
So, in the second half of the book I found more things I could relate to, and I also liked some of the tips, such as what to do when you're stuck into a carrousel of thoughts.
I especially liked a example he made about what happenes when introverts are trying to be extroverts because being extroverted still is what most people think is "normal" - he said it is much like slipping into a role like into a suit. The suit gives you a feeling of safety, but it never really fits. The suit is too tight, scratchy and the trouser legs are too long. But you stick to it, because without it you would be naked and vulnerable. So he asked: "How much does your suit tweak?" And I think this is really thought provoking.
This book also contains a list with many books he found useful to write this book, mostly books about introversion but also some about other interesting topics.
I wasn't sure if I should rate this with 3 or 4 stars, because like I said, I didn't agree with everything in this book which he wrote like if this were assured facts, but still, it was interesting to read someones opinions about himself being introverted.
Incidentally, this is only available in German language I guess. Probably I should have mentioned this earlier? ^^
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