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Why We Love The Way We Do
Is it possible to tell if it is love or lust? How important is sex in a relationship? Why do break-ups hurt so much? How often should you message a person you fancy? How do you tell if someone is too young or too old for you?
When it comes to relationships, these are the questions that most of us ponder. No matter how young or old we are, we are all looking for ways to make our relationships better. The best way to do that is to understand what makes us behave the way we do.
Why We Love the Way We Do is a collection of essays on relationships based on Preeti Shenoy’s hugely popular columns in a national daily, in which the bestselling novelist discusses some of those issues and questions that people in relationships, or those hoping to be in one, face. The topics range from those particular to our modern, technology-filled world: how to move from an online relationship to a real-life one, how to find and keep love online, whether casual sex is worth the effort; to those immortal issues such as how men and women communicate differently, how to deal with a broken heart and how jealousy ruins a relationship.
Filled with wonderful insights, sharp observations, humour and real-life examples, and written in her trademark lucid style, Preeti Shenoy brings to this book a perceptiveness about love and friendship that has made her the country’s highest-selling woman writer.
When it comes to relationships, these are the questions that most of us ponder. No matter how young or old we are, we are all looking for ways to make our relationships better. The best way to do that is to understand what makes us behave the way we do.
Why We Love the Way We Do is a collection of essays on relationships based on Preeti Shenoy’s hugely popular columns in a national daily, in which the bestselling novelist discusses some of those issues and questions that people in relationships, or those hoping to be in one, face. The topics range from those particular to our modern, technology-filled world: how to move from an online relationship to a real-life one, how to find and keep love online, whether casual sex is worth the effort; to those immortal issues such as how men and women communicate differently, how to deal with a broken heart and how jealousy ruins a relationship.
Filled with wonderful insights, sharp observations, humour and real-life examples, and written in her trademark lucid style, Preeti Shenoy brings to this book a perceptiveness about love and friendship that has made her the country’s highest-selling woman writer.
280 pages, Paperback
First published November 14, 2015
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About the author
Preeti Shenoy
42 books2,452 followersPreeti Shenoy, one of India’s highest-selling authors with over a million books sold, has written seventeen bestselling titles. Known for her accessible style, she explores complex themes such as mental health, gender inequality, and socio-economic divides. Featured on Forbes’ list of influential Indian celebrities, Preeti has represented India at international literature festivals in Birmingham, Sharjah, and Abu Dhabi.
Her work has been featured in major media outlets, including BBC World, Cosmopolitan, The Hindu, and The Times of India. She has received prestigious accolades, such as the Popular Choice Fiction Award (2021) from the Times of India’s AutHer Awards and Amazon India’s Most Popular Self-Help Book of 2021. She was also honoured as Indian of the Year and received the Business Excellence Award from the New Delhi Institute of Management.
Beyond writing, Preeti is a sought-after motivational speaker, having delivered talks at organizations like Walmart, Infosys, ISRO, KPMG, and Accenture. A fitness enthusiast, artist, and traveller, she has had her short stories and poetry featured in Condé Nast and Verve. She also writes a monthly opinion column for The Indian Express and has previously contributed to The Financial Chronicle.
Connect with Preeti:
Website: www.preetishenoy.com
Email: ps@preetishenoy.com
Twitter/X: @Preetishenoy
Blog: blog.preetishenoy.com
Instagram: @Preeti.Shenoy | @Preetishenoyart
Facebook: preeti.io/fb
LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/preetishenoyauthor
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January 14, 2016
I would say that the book is nothing more than a collection of newspaper articles, where every thing is proved with the statistics of some weird surveys (I always wonder who actually has the time to conduct such surveys) . But I must say Preeti had done a lot of home work in collecting such surveys results to make this book. You don't need to read this book in sequence. Just flip the pages and stop where your eyes catch something that interests you.
Why I read this book? Because relationships are something I am always interested in reading about. Also, I think, Preeti really has a good hold on this genre. However, I would say she is better at writing fictions. I found this book really vague with not much conclusions. Everything as I said is based on surveys and few fictional or may be non-fictional stories. To conclude, Preeti has improved her writing in this book, at least I felt so. And I did not find her favorite word 'darn' annoyingly repeated in this book. Read it if you feel so. I doubt if I recommend it to anyone.
Why I read this book? Because relationships are something I am always interested in reading about. Also, I think, Preeti really has a good hold on this genre. However, I would say she is better at writing fictions. I found this book really vague with not much conclusions. Everything as I said is based on surveys and few fictional or may be non-fictional stories. To conclude, Preeti has improved her writing in this book, at least I felt so. And I did not find her favorite word 'darn' annoyingly repeated in this book. Read it if you feel so. I doubt if I recommend it to anyone.
December 1, 2016
A must must must read for people who are looking to start a relationship, for people who are in a relationship which they wanna make it an eternity, for people who are broke up. Every element in a relationship has been covered in this book and the beauty its discussed from both( male & female) point of view. Personally this book has startled me and made me understand myself and at which point I am standing in my relationship.
January 24, 2016
It's the simplest book I have read on Relationships and I say this is a good way. 5 stars because of my interest in the topic "relationships" and I like to read Preeti Shenoy. 3.5/4 as far as content is concerned.
Most of the book is about statistics and facts. As the book progresses it becomes deeper as more serious topics are discussed towards the end.
The best part of the book is that you can read any chapter of your choice in any order you want. In this case reading a paperback is more convenient than reading on kindle.
I will be lying if I say I read and liked all chapters. Some I did not like and some I skipped.
Most of the book is about statistics and facts. As the book progresses it becomes deeper as more serious topics are discussed towards the end.
The best part of the book is that you can read any chapter of your choice in any order you want. In this case reading a paperback is more convenient than reading on kindle.
I will be lying if I say I read and liked all chapters. Some I did not like and some I skipped.
June 26, 2016
I began blogging inspired by Preeti Shenoy. Her blog posts always used to come with advice that I needed at any given moment. So when this book came out I purchased it as I adore both her fiction and non-fiction writing skills.
This book contains many well-researched articles which were earlier published in Financial chronicle under the column titled 'Sex and the City'.
The book is divided into 7 sections where each section deals with a particular aspect of love in relationships. The sections are named 'Finding the one', Getting hitched', 'When things go wrong' and so on.
Recommended if you are facing troubles in your relationships.
This book contains many well-researched articles which were earlier published in Financial chronicle under the column titled 'Sex and the City'.
The book is divided into 7 sections where each section deals with a particular aspect of love in relationships. The sections are named 'Finding the one', Getting hitched', 'When things go wrong' and so on.
Recommended if you are facing troubles in your relationships.
June 3, 2021
Relationship goals
I loved it, it had covered all stages of relationships.. How we should respect each other, how are our expectations affect the partner and so on. Mostly, all of topics are having a reference from movies, paintings and studies published which is is easy to connect and makes it not preaching..
I loved it, it had covered all stages of relationships.. How we should respect each other, how are our expectations affect the partner and so on. Mostly, all of topics are having a reference from movies, paintings and studies published which is is easy to connect and makes it not preaching..
March 27, 2021
Simple columns on various topics, which include a small anecdote and doesn't advice anything substantial. Mainly author's opinion on finding connection of a topic with western couples/music/artworks/movies/celebraties and using it as an example, assuming the reader would automatically know and understand it, is out of my understanding. I don't connect with western philosophies or anything, that's the main reason why I chose to read an Indian Author. But never mind. Considering this book was written in 2015, these type of advices are all over in social media today; although I didn't read anything new, I respect her work and thoughts. The comparison of those times to the digital era was also repeatedly mentioned. Easy and breezy read
December 7, 2015
A simple four lettered word called 'LOVE' which is completely knitted up with complexities, confusions and complications has been put up in nutshell by Preeti Shenoy wonderfully in this book. She has the complied every minute detail so very flawlessly with appropriate examples which makes it even easier to flow with.
This book is a must read for all with no age barriers, after all love is totally irresistible. So go grab yr copy soon!!
This book is a must read for all with no age barriers, after all love is totally irresistible. So go grab yr copy soon!!
January 26, 2016
The most common theme in daily lives is the aspect of love. Preeti Shenoy in this non fiction book of hers has addressed a lot of questions about love and relationships. A nice collection of articles on the subject and what makes it better is that there is a lot of research that has gone into the content of the book. A good read I must say!
December 29, 2015
No matter how young or old we are, we are all looking for ways to make our relationships better. The best way to do that is to understand what makes us behave the way we do.
After reading this u will definitely get to know Why we love the Way we do.. :P
After reading this u will definitely get to know Why we love the Way we do.. :P
December 25, 2020
This is more theory on relationships
April 11, 2019
It is a decent book and Preeti Shenoy had put in a lot of efforts in research and articulation from personal experiences. I loved reading some of the chapters, but some facts (based on surveys) seemed too far fetched. A few chapters were actually boring and I loved reading those that had some real instances or life stories of her readers. Overall, it was worth the time but not great.
Read a detailed review here - https://www.anmolrawat.com/why-we-love-the-way-we-do-book-review/
Read a detailed review here - https://www.anmolrawat.com/why-we-love-the-way-we-do-book-review/
November 28, 2019
Birthday month - got this as a present. Sure they judged me and the title and how I always try to put logical sense into everything even about love. WHY WE LOVE THE WAY WE DO?
This one is a collection of the columns she wrote for a paper. Read this while you are waiting for someone or something and you have nothing better to do cause honestly shuting this book at any goddamn page won’t leave you feeling sorry but thankful.
And if you were looking for something better in the same genre try - Modern Romance by Aziz Ansari. More? Try ‘We learn Nothing’ Tim Kreider.
This one is a collection of the columns she wrote for a paper. Read this while you are waiting for someone or something and you have nothing better to do cause honestly shuting this book at any goddamn page won’t leave you feeling sorry but thankful.
And if you were looking for something better in the same genre try - Modern Romance by Aziz Ansari. More? Try ‘We learn Nothing’ Tim Kreider.
May 22, 2021
It enlights the nuances of the relationship that we might have overlooked. The greatest ruse of our generation is "Survey and Statistics". The book revolves around the perspectives and notions of different people rather than the author. It certainly would be a quick read for someone who wants to tread lightly.
December 28, 2015
Not so good. The topics were too good and I got fascinated but not much content on the topics. It was quite vague and I didn't expect this from Preeti Shenoy.
March 12, 2016
This book is a disappointment, and unlike most of Preeti Shenoy's books.It's fair to say that its a self-improvement book.Does not classify as fiction.
November 16, 2016
An interesting read on different perspectives to relationships. Loved the wit and the satire in most of the essays however the book on the whole the book was nothing memorable.
November 30, 2017
Sorry. But didn't work for me. Nah nah.
January 16, 2023
Why We Love The Way We Do - According to me, it was the most awaited book for Preeti Shenoy fans as it was her 1st Non - Fiction piece of work. Having been hooked onto her fiction books, I could only imagine how good this one would be too.
Love - a feeling which each one of us will experience in more ways than one. We can love our parents, our friends, our spouses, our kids, relatives, etc. But the reason we fall in love is different and how we interact with others when we love them is too. Ever since I read the book, "The Secret Wishlist." I have been literally tied to Preeti's works. I can relate to her books because I may have gone through some of the situations or know someone who has.
It has been 7 years since I have been married and can honestly tell you that I have had to make a lot of adjustments with my better half, my in laws and even with my own family. When I read this book, I felt as if I had been interviewed by Preeti and she had noted down my experiences and had beautifully described them in her own words. From the very first page, I really felt happy reading, "Why We Love The Way We Do." I was hooked onto the book and did not feel like putting it down because I wanted to know what was going to happen in the next chapter.
No matter which chapter of the book I was reading, I could totally relate to the character and what they were going through, because I sure have gone through them. We all want to be loved and we want to love someone, but since we live in such a diversified world, it is not possible to love someone the same way as others do.
I am grateful to Preeti for writing this book because I realized there were lots of things which I was not doing correctly in my relationships and after reading this book, I started implementing some of her advice and it has helped me change as a person in a positive way.
If you have not read this book, then please do, because you will enjoy it and am sure you will read it more than once. This book would be a great gift to someone who just started dating, a newly wed, or even a couple who have been together for ages. We tend to recollect our childhood whenever we listen to an old song or receive a call from a school friend. In the same way, when we read "Why We Love The Way We Do" we tend to take a walk down memory lane and recollect those moments in our relationship, like our first date, our first kiss, Engagement, Courtship, Marriage, etc.
The more and more you read the book, the more and more you will feel as if it has been written about you and your life. So start off the New Year by grabbing this book off the shelf at your favorite book store, or simply by ordering it online. Once you get it, curl up in your favorite reading spot, put everything else behind you and concentrate on this lovely book or relationship guide as I would call it. Learn to love and be loved and also how we as a person can improve our relationships just like the characters in the book have.
Thank you Preeti for another remarkable best seller!
Love - a feeling which each one of us will experience in more ways than one. We can love our parents, our friends, our spouses, our kids, relatives, etc. But the reason we fall in love is different and how we interact with others when we love them is too. Ever since I read the book, "The Secret Wishlist." I have been literally tied to Preeti's works. I can relate to her books because I may have gone through some of the situations or know someone who has.
It has been 7 years since I have been married and can honestly tell you that I have had to make a lot of adjustments with my better half, my in laws and even with my own family. When I read this book, I felt as if I had been interviewed by Preeti and she had noted down my experiences and had beautifully described them in her own words. From the very first page, I really felt happy reading, "Why We Love The Way We Do." I was hooked onto the book and did not feel like putting it down because I wanted to know what was going to happen in the next chapter.
No matter which chapter of the book I was reading, I could totally relate to the character and what they were going through, because I sure have gone through them. We all want to be loved and we want to love someone, but since we live in such a diversified world, it is not possible to love someone the same way as others do.
I am grateful to Preeti for writing this book because I realized there were lots of things which I was not doing correctly in my relationships and after reading this book, I started implementing some of her advice and it has helped me change as a person in a positive way.
If you have not read this book, then please do, because you will enjoy it and am sure you will read it more than once. This book would be a great gift to someone who just started dating, a newly wed, or even a couple who have been together for ages. We tend to recollect our childhood whenever we listen to an old song or receive a call from a school friend. In the same way, when we read "Why We Love The Way We Do" we tend to take a walk down memory lane and recollect those moments in our relationship, like our first date, our first kiss, Engagement, Courtship, Marriage, etc.
The more and more you read the book, the more and more you will feel as if it has been written about you and your life. So start off the New Year by grabbing this book off the shelf at your favorite book store, or simply by ordering it online. Once you get it, curl up in your favorite reading spot, put everything else behind you and concentrate on this lovely book or relationship guide as I would call it. Learn to love and be loved and also how we as a person can improve our relationships just like the characters in the book have.
Thank you Preeti for another remarkable best seller!
January 1, 2020
Wah Wah..!! Oh my gawd , can a book be better than this ??? My favorite genre i my most likable narration and compilation, may be this is what I felt as heaven throught my journey with this book..! Such a masterpiece, and this book had become my first choice to gift someone especially friends..!!
Preeti Shenoy ji, what a talent u are ?
Powerhouse of writing and tremendous expression , power just to impact and influence others, by each and every book that I read and each and every detail I get to know of yours' , I am getting so intimately and emotionally connected to u madam, the admiration and adore I have for u is simply not expressible in words.....! The abstracts u have mentioned in the book and the references u made simply shows how knowledgeable and expertise u are in u r field of passion madam.! Thanks ton.! I am seriously becoming mad such that i either do a internship under u or do a PhD on you madam..!
Thanks a lot madam for giving u r part to the literature and most importantly INDIA is grateful to have u...!!
Preeti Shenoy ji, what a talent u are ?
Powerhouse of writing and tremendous expression , power just to impact and influence others, by each and every book that I read and each and every detail I get to know of yours' , I am getting so intimately and emotionally connected to u madam, the admiration and adore I have for u is simply not expressible in words.....! The abstracts u have mentioned in the book and the references u made simply shows how knowledgeable and expertise u are in u r field of passion madam.! Thanks ton.! I am seriously becoming mad such that i either do a internship under u or do a PhD on you madam..!
Thanks a lot madam for giving u r part to the literature and most importantly INDIA is grateful to have u...!!
May 7, 2024
The book "Why We Love The Way We Do" by @preeti.shenoy is a non- fiction book filled with wonderful insights, sharp observations, humour and real life examples, and written in her trademark lucid style. It's a collection of essays about relationship and love and it discusses some of those issues and questions that people in relationships, or those hoping to be in one, face. The topics range from those particular to our modern, technology-filled world.
When it comes to relationships, these are the questions that most of us ponder. No matter how young or old we are, we are all looking for ways to make our relationships better. The best way to do that is to understand what makes us behave the way we do.
This book contains of 7 chapters and it further classified into 56 essays. The insights from this novel are great based on research and survey and real-life examples.
When it comes to relationships, these are the questions that most of us ponder. No matter how young or old we are, we are all looking for ways to make our relationships better. The best way to do that is to understand what makes us behave the way we do.
This book contains of 7 chapters and it further classified into 56 essays. The insights from this novel are great based on research and survey and real-life examples.
July 30, 2018
This is the first non-fiction book that I've read and It took me very long to finish reading it. I think it's worth mentioning here that I read the book as part of BookTubeAThon 2018 so in accordance to that, it took me longer than expected.
Well, I must say, I have a mixed reaction about this book. Where at one point, I liked the writing style, the topics that were discussed in the book didn't appeal to me . And just because of that, I didn't quite enjoy the book. But it has helped me take a liking towards Non Fiction books so that is definitely a good thing. I can't wait to read more Non Fictions soon!
A detailed review coming soon.
Well, I must say, I have a mixed reaction about this book. Where at one point, I liked the writing style, the topics that were discussed in the book didn't appeal to me . And just because of that, I didn't quite enjoy the book. But it has helped me take a liking towards Non Fiction books so that is definitely a good thing. I can't wait to read more Non Fictions soon!
A detailed review coming soon.
October 29, 2018
Intellectual solutions for the troubles in a relationship.
The book itself is written with a strong support of a deep research. Mostly every aspect of a relationship scenario has been covered. Definite read for someone who is in seek for a relationship advisor. But writing itself is a bit stretchy mostly juggling around with sentences and words back and forth just to increase the word count. In many scenarios the writing itself could have been short and precise rather than stretching it like chewing gum.
The book itself is written with a strong support of a deep research. Mostly every aspect of a relationship scenario has been covered. Definite read for someone who is in seek for a relationship advisor. But writing itself is a bit stretchy mostly juggling around with sentences and words back and forth just to increase the word count. In many scenarios the writing itself could have been short and precise rather than stretching it like chewing gum.
December 24, 2018
Interesting read
I started reading this book just because the name sounded interesting and it was written by Preeti Shenoy.
A few theories are quite interesting and also stand true in today's time. Sometimes it felt repetitive and just gyaan but only for a small time because she would come back with stories about some or the other one which helped in making the connect.
All in all a good read, making me understand the how's and why's of a relationship/love.
I started reading this book just because the name sounded interesting and it was written by Preeti Shenoy.
A few theories are quite interesting and also stand true in today's time. Sometimes it felt repetitive and just gyaan but only for a small time because she would come back with stories about some or the other one which helped in making the connect.
All in all a good read, making me understand the how's and why's of a relationship/love.
January 22, 2024
I found myself skimming through the majority of the book. The book is just a collection of research the author has done on men and women and their relationship together. There is hardly any original content or authors original thoughts. The author draws a lot of its inspiration from art, paintings and sculptures. I only bought this book because I really admire some of the other works of the author and I wanted this book too to sit on my book shelf.
September 29, 2018
I forgot to read that it's a collection of newspaper essays. Feel free to read whatever fancies you. No need to read it in sequence.
Writing is fluid in each articles, ample examples are there with facts and humour in each article.
Content wise, it's not a very conclusive in most chapters but just provides space to think or provokes thinking.
Writing is fluid in each articles, ample examples are there with facts and humour in each article.
Content wise, it's not a very conclusive in most chapters but just provides space to think or provokes thinking.
September 11, 2020
The book is great. If you are the who wanna know about relationships, know how to make relationships work or anything related to relationships, this is a great read. Backed by psychological, scientific and practical research and results (not boring) and author's personal opinions, with great examples - this book is a great read.
March 24, 2023
Heard this one as an audio book, Had to do with lot of cliche references we all have heard time and again above love and life, but nevertheless worth the read as sometimes no matter we have heard zillion times on what should be done, we are less likely to follow it. You never know this could be the set you on the right path book as well
June 27, 2018
The book in relationships, love, sex, infatuation etc. The books is the collection of articles the author had written in the newspaper. The book
Is great and there are lot of advises and tips given on relationships.
Is great and there are lot of advises and tips given on relationships.
December 20, 2018
It's not bad but there's also nothing special in this book. It's like a collection of studies, excerpts from some legendary love stories and statistics, just put together in a pleasing writing style.
November 15, 2020
A good book which provides lot of anecdotal evidence regarding interpersonal and intrapersonal relations. Someone looking for answers on any aspect about the stated relations should consider reading it.
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