Is This Your Man?

by Colin Tate

Author and relationship coach, Colin Tate, is pleased to announce the release of his book: Is This Your Man? The interesting stories in the book are all the results of candid interviews with Real Men Telling Real Stories. In the book, Colin explains why men cheat, why they refuse to explain reasons for a breakup, why they avoid marriage and why they send mixed signals. Is This Your Man is both entertaining and informative; answering questions women may not even know to ask.

Is This Your Man is designed to help women spot the wrong man a mile away. Tate identifies six types of men: the Total Package, the Online Player, the Baby Boy, the B.S.er, the CEO and the Chameleon as the Men that Women should avoid dating if they want a healthy, sustainable relationship that leads to marriage.

“This book will enable you to recognize which type of man you are dating and, more specifically, who you should not date,” says Tate. “Sadly, I’ve had some of my own family and friends ask me to hold off from writing this book for fear their games, tricks and lies would be exposed”. Is This Your Man will help you decipher which men are keepers and which are simply time wasters.”

314 pages, Paperback

First published October 1, 2015

About the author

Colin Tate is an author and relationship coach who is passionate about helping women conquer bad relationship obstacles. He is a sought after motivational speaker, who excels in providing practical life lessons related to relationships. For over a decade, Colin has counseled and coached women of all ages and backgrounds. He has helped them to gain a better understanding of their struggle with finding true love. Colin G. Tate holds a Bachelor’s Degree in Business Administration with an emphasis in Psychology. Colin is married to his lovely wife Gloria and resides in Atlanta, GA.

Reviews

[Deneale Williams · Rating 5 out of 5]

Ordinarily when I receive and or buy a book, I usually go to my devices and make sure that it came through. Than sometimes I take a glimpse at the book, just to see what it is I am getting myself into. I kind of have a line of how I want to do things, and sometimes I have interviews I am awaiting on their return from Authors. Regardless, sometimes things sit here moving along slowly. But I do have a way a that I like to do things, and I often feel bad when I drop everything when a book comes in, and I can’t put it down, and ruin my plans.

Why am I mentioning this to you now?

Because this book, “Is This Your Man?” blew my whole scenario out of the water, the instant I picked it up. I only glanced at it, when Colin sent me a message through facebook. I informed him the price he quoted me was wrong, it was in fact lower on Amazon, and not because of my Unlimited. So we talked, and I agreed that I wanted to read the book, and I ask if he wanted to be interviewed. He had no problems being interviewed. So I purchased the book, and from there I couldn’t put it down.

I have never read a book that was so spot on, that I could visualize every scenario that he went through. I have dated, and I watched my Children also date. And we all know, each and every single one of us, is different.

He tells us about the six types of men there are in the field of dating. And then he defines them for us in the easiest way to understand, plain simple English.

1. “Baby boy- Grown ass man that refuses to grow up. (not to be confused with the Mama’s boy!)”
2. “Online Player-Uses social media and any other internet tools to play his woman.”
3. “Total Package- The man that has you doing things that you normally wouldn’t do.”
4. “B.S.er- The King of Bullshit and empty promises.”
5. “C.E.O.- The man that will abuse you physically, emotionally, sexually, verbally or financially.”
6. “Chameleon-The man that can be all things to all women just for S-E-X.”

Now don’t think because I have told you here these six types- that's all you need to know, because trust me, there is so much more to this book! You need to read it cover to cover and understand everything!

Colin tells you how to see, and figure out, and escape these things, and how to understand the relationship you are in. He also helps you to move on, and see that you are worthy of more that what you think you are.

Most of the problem today, and what Colin says is the truth, and I quote “Physical/ Emotional Insecurity is defined as a person having a very flawed character trait as a result from low confidence and low self-esteem, often due to rejection or a humiliating experience as a child…” A lot of people, not just women have issues with the way they were brought up. This could also be why the man has decided to become the way “he” is. Everything and every way we are, all stems from the way we were raised, and then stems from who we decide to be now.

I truly fell in love with this book, and so much of it, was so life like. I shared it with my daughter, pieces and part, not that she took any of it in. Love is stubborn, and love is blind. I remember being young and in love. I remember my parents always slamming on me, and telling me how stupid I was. They wanted me with someone else, all because he was in the Military, they expected him to retire in the Service. They didn’t care that I wasn’t in love, they wanted me financially stable. Here I am thirty five years later, the man never spent his life in the Military, married like five times over, and I have been happy and faithfully married for thirty years. Did I do the right thing? I’m happy, I think that’s what counts, sure it wasn’t perfection in the beginning and it still isn’t perfection, but the choices I could have had, to me, were not the wiser- the choices they were trying to force on me. The grass is not always greener on the other side. And money is not the answer to happiness.

Dating is not easy, it never is. Especially now of days, with diseases, and criminals, and everything. I could no way in hell, date in today’s world.

But reading Colin’s book, it was so eye opening, I wish I would have had this book when I was younger. I want everyone to read it. I truly think they should. Especially if you think you are in a bad marriage, or relationship, you need to read it. You need to find out, if “This is your Man?” Because this book can guide you in so many ways. There is eight hundred numbers within it to call if you need help, guidance, and suggestions to lead you in the right direction. This is what you need to succeed. And it is so hard to believe that this book is written by a man, because it is so true and on point, but it does prove that there is such a thing as honesty upon men.

I give this book five very, very big stars. More if I could. It definitely needs a bigger star scale, it deserves it. This book is utterly amazing. I have never been so pleased and fascinated with a book in all of my life. I read this book in less than an hour. I was totally impressed, and I couldn’t stop bothering Colin through the messenger as I read it. I am truly honored to have done this review, and interview. This was the most impressive, open and honest thing I have ever read in quite some time. If you have any kind of issues in your relationships, or know of anyone that does, and you give relationship advice, I suggest you buy this book immediately!

[Cryssy Dee · Rating 4 out of 5]

This book was very interesting. I liked how it didn't forcibly categorize all men into these 6 types but offered more of a personal and direct behavioral pattern of certain men. I loved the advice about seeking closure because a lot of women can't seem to move on from relationships and/or situations without having that man provide her with verbal confirmation even though his actions already have. But more importantly, I loved the part about the warning signs of escalating abuse. I observed the common thread linking each type together was the fact that they all had another man in their life enabling their destructive behaviors. I've always said that "you are your friends" so if a man is close with another man that has no problems disrespecting women then that's also a red flag!

[Ganelle Carriere · Rating 5 out of 5]

Must read book for all single women

Oh my goodness was this book so good!! It really explains from a man's perspective the type of men who are out there what games they'll play to get what they want and how as women we must protect ourselves and look out for our fellow sisters.

[Maxine M. · Rating 5 out of 5]

Good Book to learn why your relationships fail. Colin tells it like it is with choosing the wrong men and give samples of six men that are bad news for all women.