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Beyond Flight or Fight: A Compassionate Guide for Working with Fearful Dogs

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Is your dog afraid of noises, objects, or you? Whether you have taken a fearful dog into your home or you work professionally to save timid dogs' lives, Beyond Flight or Fight is an indispensable tool. See through fearful dogs' eyes as you read anecdotal stories about real saved dogs. Discover how to help dogs that have been neglected, abused, or are genetically timid. Learn unique approaches and how to help your shy companion face life in a human world. Develop the close bond that only trust can bring.

Fearful dogs can be saved and have quality lives, free of anxiety. Beyond Flight or Fight will give you practical, easy-to-understand tips that will ease your frustration, guilt, or confusion. This book will help 1) you grow in compassion, 2) your pup find peace, and 3) bring both of you to a warm appreciation for each other.

Beyond Flight or Fight: A Compassionate Guide for Working with Fearful Dog has won the following awards:

First Place in the Colorado Independent Publishers (CIPA) EVVY Book Awards in the "How To" Category

Certificate of Excellence in the Dog Writers of America Association Book Awards in the "Shelter/Rescue" Category

210 pages, Paperback

Published November 11, 2015

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Sunny Weber

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Sunny Weber has over 30 years of experience in animal welfare advocacy. She has experience in rescue, fostering, medical care, service and therapy dog evaluation and training, shelter and sanctuary work and specializes in the rehabilitation of fearful animals. Sunny has rehabilitated then re-homed hundreds of dogs, cats and horses.

A professional humane educator, Sunny consults with animal welfare professionals as well as adopters and has developed educational programs that address all ages regarding the need for compassion and care of domestic and wild animals. She writes extensively on animal issues in news, fiction, non-fiction, investigative reporting, public relations, fundraising, and blogs.

Sunny lives with dogs, cats and parakeets. Their yard is a Certified Backyard Habitat for birds, squirrels, rabbits, pollinators, and any other creature with fur or feathers who wanders in.

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618 reviews31 followers
December 6, 2022
I received an advance review copy for free and am leaving this review voluntarily. Thank you Sunny Weber and iRead Book Tours. I'm excited to be a part of this tour.

When I saw this tour, I jumped at the chance to read and review this book. I live in an urban area with a lot of loud noises. As a result, my nearly two-year-old, Jack Russell/Chihuahua mix is often fearful of the noises. She literally jumps at everything – dogs barking, loud noises, holiday decorations, sirens, the wind – to name a few. Despite taking her to puppy school and walking her often to expose and normalize our daily walks, nothing seemed to be working.

I enjoyed this book; it is well written and full of helpful hints that have helped my dog become less fearful. The author nicely lays out the methods and steps to take when training a fearful dog. Despite having taken Mabel to puppy school, I learned several new tips and tricks from this book.

The author is knowledgeable, and the short chapters make this a quick read. The book is also broken into sections which can be used a reference moving forward. I recommend this book to anyone who is considering adoption or has just adopted, it is full of information designed to help your new family member adjust.
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February 21, 2016

I received this as a Good Reads First Read Giveaway book; and it was GREAT! I used to work at a humane society and Ms Weber knows what she is talking about. There were things in here I learnt from her in addition to the things I had already learnt. I would recommend this book to everyone that adopts a shelter pet. If everyone would read this before or shortly after they receive their new family member then they could understand and help them all adjust instead of just returning them within a day or two due to behaviors or 'they aren't doing what we wanted'. Animals are like us, it takes them adjustment time especially if they haven't had a good start in life. This book is written in short chapters with sections so if you don't have a lot of time to sit and read you can still read this in short time frames
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February 5, 2019
My fearful Border Collie

I have adopted a fearful dog. He is noise phobic particularly to large truck engines. Before I read this book, I didn't know how to deal with this.Was I doing the right thing or were my methods just making him worse. The author layed everything out for the reader and I learned much about the training of fearful dogs. She also taught me to look at situations from my dog's point of view. I would recommend this book for anyone who is thinking of adopting a fearful dog. I don't know if I can overcome my dog's fear of noise,but I hope to lessen his fears so he doesn't get us up at 6:00am when the traffic picks up on our street. I will use the knowledge I read about and hope for the best.
5 reviews
March 31, 2017
Must read if you have a fearful, timid, or abused dog!

We acquired, by a deceitful person, a 2.4# emaciated puppy mill Chihuahua. At first at a complete loss, this author provided concise and on-target methods with rationale that has allowed our little Chica to progress well. It certainly is NOT easy, but is so rewarding. Six months later, at 6#, she has learned to trust us and is a sweet and energetic part of our family. We continue to have successes and failures, and move forward.
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May 19, 2022
This is one of those books that I have very mixed feelings about after reading. While it contains some sound advice about helping fearful dogs feel safe around their new owner/foster and environment that I would absolutely give 5 stars to, there's also some advice that really doesn't fit the "compassionate" part of the book title, or my own experiences and understandings of dog behavior. For example, this book does advocate the use of certain aversives, like static (shock) mats, sonic bark collars, and negative verbal markers. Definitely not force-free, nor anything I would ever consider using on any dog, but especially on a fearful rescue. There's also quite a lot of imagined "getting inside a dog's head" as far as what a dog perceives and how they think and feel about a given situation, which I'm not really a big fan of (mostly because it can lead to misunderstandings of a dog's behavior).

A few other examples include the following quotes from the book:

"Your dog will learn to observe your own reaction to what frightened her. If she sees no panic in you, she will process the lack of reaction in her “leader” and calm herself. If there is another resident dog who is less reactive, the fearful dog will absorb the behavior of the “leader dog” before depending on a human guide."

IME this only happens with situations/things that are only mildly concerning to the dog, but not fear inducing. In other words, it will only work if you stay sub-threshold. If you push the dog too far, it will react as a fearful dog reacts, regardless of your state of mind. It also presumes on the outdated "pack leadership" theory. Not all new fearful dogs will look to their housemates (or you, at least initially and before you establish rapport as being trustworthy and safe) for guidance on how to react in certain situations, especially if it involves a greater degree of fear. Some may, but some dogs are also naturally very independent or may be emotionally detatched to either dogs/people or both. It's definitely not a set-in-stone thing, and, for me, calls to mind Cesar Milan type methodology.

"Because dogs are dependent on social interaction, behavior that does not result in attention will be abandoned. Ignored behavior will eventually become extinguished."

I've made a LOT of mistakes with this rule, as it used to be taught by a lot of trainers as gospel when actually it's only sort of half-true. What I've learned is that ignoring a behavior will only make it go away if the behavior is being reinforced by your attention in the first place. But a lot of behaviors are actually self-reinforcing (like chasing, barking, scavenging, chewing, etc.) and ignoring them actually increases the likelihood of them happening in the future because practicing them makes them more deeply ingrained as a behavior. A better way to get rid of self-reinforcing behaviors is to interrupt them in a non-intimidating way and redirect to an appropriate behavior that you can then reward, coupled with proper management to prevent them from practicing the bad behavior in the first place. This is actually how the author approaches some behaviors in a different sections of the book, which is great.

"Fearful dogs are not only afraid of things, people, and situations, they are afraid to make decisions about their own behavior"

I've rescued and worked with dogs on opposite ends of the fear spectrum, both dogs that shut down or hide, and fear-aggressive dogs that over react to most everything and can't handle too much pressure. IME fearful dogs will react instinctively and immediately from their own experiences and emotions, and the only time I've seen any hesitation to act is due to previous punishment/abuse.

"Reinforcement will encourage a behavior to continue. Positive reinforcement is the arrival of good consequences—food, play, praise. Negative reinforcement is the removal of a bad consequence—for example, the elimination of the high-pitched squeal of an anti-barking device when a vocalizing dog quiets. Types of punishment can also be considered positive or negative but punishment does not work humanely, especially with fearful dogs."

In the dog training world, positive and negative forms of punishment and reinforcement are collectively referred to as "quadrants". The author does a great job explaining positive and negative reinforcement, but things get a bit muddy with punishment. Brushing off both negative and positive punishment as inhumane, but then advocating the use of negative reinforcement (the removal of a punishing stimulus) seems to be contradictory. Positive punishment (adding something unpleasant to reduce a behavior) and negative punishment (removing something pleasant to reduce a behavior) are quite different from eachother. Punitive trainers (those who use any form of force, pain, and intimidation) use a combination of negative reinforcement and positive punishment, meaning they add something unpleasant to stop a behavior, and remove the unpleasant thing to reward the dog once the behavior has stopped. Positive trainers use the opposite quadrants- positive reinforcement and negative punishment -by withholding whatever is reinforcing an unwanted behavior (negative punishment) until the dog does what we ask them to, which we then reinforce by giving them the desired reward (positive reinforcement). In fact, forms of negative punishment are recommended throughout the book, such as ignoring attention-seeking behaviors, etc.

So, bottom line... there's a bit of confusion and iffy
(in my own opinion) advice on punishment (though in the author's defence she adamantly speaks against hitting or intimidating the dog) and some recommendations for certain aversive tools which I would never use myself. But the book is really good at trying to get readers to realize how much fearful dogs need us to be patient, calm, consistent, and empathetic with them, which I do love! So, for all of the above reasons, I found this book a bit of a toss-up, but still a worthwhile read for anyone interested in rescue and behavioral training.
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July 23, 2019
Great for anyone working with rescue dogs or timid dogs. Aim of it is repetitive but if you aren't patient enough to get through the book you wont be patient enough to help a fearful dog. Not a training guide necessarily but gives good rules of thumb to help you understand dogs fear and how to advocate for them. This booked help me feel more confident in decision making with my rescue dog. It also provides good language for explaining to others why you want them to stop approaching your dog when she is fearful and how to approach properly.
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February 5, 2019
A process that works...

I have had many dogs in my life, and the process of dealing with fearful dogs that is described here is one that works. Many of the techniques are ones I have found through trial and error over the years, but it is good to have a book that lays it all out in a clear and concise form. I currently have a large, Labrador-Mastiff-chow rescue dog, and this book has helped me help him. Thank you!
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5,259 reviews43 followers
October 22, 2018
Beyond Flight or Fight: A Compassionate Guide for Working with Fearful Dogs by Sunny Weber was a great read by the author. I loved reading this great book with tips and tricks to working with a dog who is fearful. This is a must read for any dog owner especially if they have anxieties.
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December 11, 2015
A terrific resource for anyone who adopts a shelter pet. I learned some great tips on how to deal with my pup's separation anxiety.
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1,762 reviews20 followers
October 19, 2016
Very helpful information for working with my rescue dog.
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July 15, 2017
This book had many helpful ideas.
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October 20, 2017
Great book with personal examples to apply to training a fearful dog.
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December 15, 2022
Beyond Flight or Fight is Very Informative and Realistic. This book holds a lot of information and insights for readers. From understanding some of the social/psychological aspects of fear in dogs to learning valuable techniques for humans to use in interactions with fearful dogs to being realistic in accepting when the human/dog relationship is not beneficial, or the dog's fear-driven behavior cannot be corrected. The author writes this book in a very informative tone--but is also very realistic in setting readers' expectations toward successes and potential failures with fearful dogs.

Beyond Flight or Fight is Not a Training Guide. The author shares a variety of options and possibilities along with many stories and situations encountered by shelters, rescues, and trainers. I think the most significant takeaways and reminders for me were the need for patience, compassion, and acceptance. Life with a fearful dog is not an easy one. Interactions can be time-consuming and exhausting--and even those with the best intentions may not find success in certain situations. The author gives various resources, tips, ideas, and experiences--but keeps it realistic in that there is no one-method-works-for-all-dogs training guide.  

Would I Recommend Beyond Flight or Fight by Sunny Weber? I currently have an elderly dog who has lived with me since he was a tiny puppy. He has gone blind and deaf in the past year, and learning to help him trust me and overcome fears is a daily challenge in so many ways. Much of the book is written for those adopting or fostering from rescue groups and shelters. This book offers a lot of helpful information--and a lot of tips to help you adjust both human and animal behaviors (and expectations). I am not a fan of punishment-type training methods--so there were segments of the book that I didn't feel applied to my or my situation with my dog--but the author does give readers a variety of options and ideas for consideration. 

I received a copy of this book from the author or publisher for use in a blog review. All opinions are my own.
6,156 reviews
November 23, 2022
As a dog owner myself and often dog sit for his female litter mate, Bella. She is the sweetest and most lovable dog with her owners and my family. However, she is quite nervous, anxious and shows some signs of aggression toward others. I was excited to get my hands on Sunny Weber’s Beyond Flight or Fight: A Compassionate Guide for Working with Fearful Dogs. The author gives some good pointers that Bella’s parents and my family could use to help her and allow her to show everyone else how special she truly is. The book is quite helpful in putting into words for me to understand and the best way to deal with her fear and anxiety. I am looking forward to using the author’s advice on what could possibly bring out Bella’s trust in others, as well as, understanding why she feels the way she does. I will most definitely be passing on my copy to her parents to see if we all can come up with a better plan for her.

I am giving Beyond Flight or Fight: A Compassionate Guide for Working with Fearful Dogs a very well deserved five plus stars. Readers who are having some issues with their canines would greatly benefit from reading this book. I will definitely be looking out for more books like this one from Sunny Weber in the future.

I received a paperback copy of Beyond Flight or Fight: A Compassionate Guide for Working with Fearful Dogs from the publisher, but was not required to write a positive review. This review is one hundred percent my own honest opinion.
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September 9, 2023
From theory to actual what to do, it is very informative book. I adopted a dog who happened to be not socialized and fearful on pretty much everything in outside of the house. Instinctively I was able to understand that gradual socialization was the only way to go but I needed to understand that basics and what to do and not to do to promote the process.
We have just passed the one month marker. As he shows sign of settling in further, it made me realize he is still adjusting to me and my home. The book giving me a loose estimate of 3 months which is great so I can be patient and also look forward to where we will be in 3 months.
Rationally, I'm thinking that 1.5 years of lack of socialization will take a year or more to undo. The books give realistic expectation and hope/support at the same time.
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March 2, 2024
An interesting read for anyone who works with or lives with dogs. You can always learn something new.

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Is your dog fearful, acting out, or just not fitting in?Maybe your dog is stuck in flight or fight mode. Whether you have taken a fearful dog into your home, or you work professionally to save dog lives, Beyond Flight or Fight will give you the tools to help you gently move your dog beyond flight or fight to a life free of anxiety and filled with what we all want them to dog joy. Use your understanding of how fear works to guide your dog in moving beyond it. Help your dog think and solve problem behavior. Launch a fulfilling dog-human relationship.Fearful dogs can be saved and have quality lives, free of anxiety and filled with peace.
8 reviews
October 9, 2022
"Is your dog afraid of noises, objects, or you? See through fearful dog's eyes in anecdotal stories about real saved dogs. Discover how to help dogs that have been neglected, abused, or are genetically timid. Learn unique approaches and how to help your shy companion face life in a human world. Develop the close bond that only trust can bring. Fearful dogs can be saved and have quality lives, free of anxiety. Beyond Flight or Fight will give you practical, easy-to-understand tips that will ease your frustration, guilt, or confusion. This book will help (1) you grow in compassion, (2) your pup find peace, and (3) bring both of you to a warm appreciation for each other." -Cover
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682 reviews27 followers
April 7, 2023
I loved this well written book about dogs who need a little extra love and how to give it to them. I had no idea about so many things I have been doing wrong on my quest to train my dog. Some very heartbreaking stories in here too. This author really knows what she is talking about. Thank you for all the great tips to having a better dog.
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May 2, 2020
I'm a strong believer in positive reinforcement when interacting with any animal, and have found it a particularly useful with dogs. This book orovided actual examples of real dogs for whom routine, reinforcement, consistency, and love worked superbly.
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July 10, 2019
Why

I was expecting to get more advice then the book have to help my fearful dog. It was ok book
2 reviews
December 2, 2024
Great information, I adopted a dog who wad "beyond flight or fight". This book helped me understand Remi.
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