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Accept No Trash Talk: Overcoming the Odds
Librarian Note: Alternate Cover Edition for ASIN: B00L5ENIG8.
What's keeping you from being happy? A lifetime of trauma and limitations may lead some of us to believe we are not worthy. It keeps us from moving forward to a life of achievements and self-satisfaction. The most devastating form of criticism is still what we whisper to ourselves.
Accept No Trash Talk: Overcoming the Odds is about overcoming the effects of being held back by many types of negativity including bullying, physical restrictions, and low expectations. The author cites examples from her own life as well as the lives of prominent figures. It is a book that inspires and motivates, and shows you how these negativities are holding you back from the happiness you deserve.
Please note that this self-help manual is only meant as a mood booster and a method of empowerment. The author is not a medical or mental health professional. Please seek expert advice for deep, ongoing concerns.
What's keeping you from being happy? A lifetime of trauma and limitations may lead some of us to believe we are not worthy. It keeps us from moving forward to a life of achievements and self-satisfaction. The most devastating form of criticism is still what we whisper to ourselves.
Accept No Trash Talk: Overcoming the Odds is about overcoming the effects of being held back by many types of negativity including bullying, physical restrictions, and low expectations. The author cites examples from her own life as well as the lives of prominent figures. It is a book that inspires and motivates, and shows you how these negativities are holding you back from the happiness you deserve.
Please note that this self-help manual is only meant as a mood booster and a method of empowerment. The author is not a medical or mental health professional. Please seek expert advice for deep, ongoing concerns.
142 pages, Kindle Edition
First published June 19, 2014
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Traci Lawrence
1 book22 followersI have a life-long love of reading and learning. I seem to always have a book in my hand. I enjoy mystery novels, self-help books. biographies, and classics most of all. I have always had a passion for history.
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April 5, 2015
Traci Lawrence’s book is for those who feel “marginalised” because they do not match up to society’s expectations of them. She does not claim to be an expert, but the book is based upon her own personal experiences and research. Traci Lawrence makes the reader think and question their opinions and ideas about others. She illustrates her points using examples of people, both famous and not so famous who made it against all odds because they did not believe in giving up.
This gem of a book should be in everyone’s library for moments when we don’t feel good enough or when we question our own abilities. It reinforces our basic human rights to exist without being judged no matter what our belief systems or cultural backgrounds. There is honesty in the way the author shares her own “limitations” that might not match up to society’s “norm”. I love books that encourage positivity and self belief and Traci Lawrence’s book certainly did that!
This gem of a book should be in everyone’s library for moments when we don’t feel good enough or when we question our own abilities. It reinforces our basic human rights to exist without being judged no matter what our belief systems or cultural backgrounds. There is honesty in the way the author shares her own “limitations” that might not match up to society’s “norm”. I love books that encourage positivity and self belief and Traci Lawrence’s book certainly did that!
October 21, 2014
This book is written from a personal perspective and does not fail in helping the reader to connect with real life situations. The pain of the author who has experienced bullying and negative talk (trash talk) comes through the pages which makes this book readable. The solutions offered to this pain are abundant and possible if we follow the authors lead to change our way of thinking, acting, listening, and receiving the lies that are spoken over us. I particularly like the idea of the Tonka Truck where we can fill it with the trash talk and move on.
The power to change and break the bondage of generational trash talk and actions are in our hands as the author rightly states. We however, must be prepared to challenge the words and actions by changing our receptors and learning to forgive. Not an easy task, but one that is necessary if we are to be healed and prepared to grow and move on to a better life.
If you want a book that is written from the heart about how negative words and actions damage people and their lives, then this is the one for you. But be prepared to be challenged if you want to break the chains and move on to a more healthy lifestyle, especially if you participate in trash talk.
The power to change and break the bondage of generational trash talk and actions are in our hands as the author rightly states. We however, must be prepared to challenge the words and actions by changing our receptors and learning to forgive. Not an easy task, but one that is necessary if we are to be healed and prepared to grow and move on to a better life.
If you want a book that is written from the heart about how negative words and actions damage people and their lives, then this is the one for you. But be prepared to be challenged if you want to break the chains and move on to a more healthy lifestyle, especially if you participate in trash talk.
February 22, 2015
It’s an eye-opener
‘Accept No Trash Talk’ is a beautifully written book, which has to move every reader. Traci Lawrence leads the reader through the various scenarios, in which the “bad attitude” of individuals, organizations, and hypothetical but unrealistic ideals damage our society, because as this attitude damages the individual, many of these individuals feel prompted to “strike back”. Traci does a fine job in showing how the effects of the various forms of trash talk are even passed on through generations and keep doing damage, even after the original offender may have passed away (e.g. abused children, who keeping abusing their children). Quite outstanding is that the book offers scenarios from a wide range of situations, at home, at the work place, sports camps, schools,… every reader is bound to be reminded how he or she experienced the same or a very similar situation. Traci Lawrence even goes that far to tell us about similarities from history, e.g. Caesar’s treatment of the Celts and the fears of Japanese civilians after WWII.
The sections, which deal with professional work situations should be a must read for every HR person. In the end the customers notice what’s going on and not addressing certain situations does not help a company. Of course, people might say, “but we have rules at our workplace”. That’s where Traci’s honest, well written, and eye opening stories come in, they tell what’s really going on and every reader knows it.
Strongly suggesting that the author publishes this book also in paperback to give employees the opportunity to buy ‘Accept No Trash Talk’ and send it anonymously to the offenders. [Hint: wear plastic gloves when doing that]
‘Accept No Trash Talk’ does not only list “trash talk situations” but also includes helpful advice like a chapter about “Ways in which to diffuse a trash talk situation” and “How to set up Emotional Boundaries”.
The importance of working through this and dealing with the topic is best illustrated when we read Traci Lawrence’s encouraging words,
“ … My life has not been a sterling example of anything, except the refusal to quit. Because I refused to quit I was able to accomplish my lifelong goal of becoming an author. This book is the absolute proof that anyone can overcome a background that may be characterized as disadvantaged.”
Highly recommended to everybody over the age of 15.
Gisela Hausmann, author & blogger
‘Accept No Trash Talk’ is a beautifully written book, which has to move every reader. Traci Lawrence leads the reader through the various scenarios, in which the “bad attitude” of individuals, organizations, and hypothetical but unrealistic ideals damage our society, because as this attitude damages the individual, many of these individuals feel prompted to “strike back”. Traci does a fine job in showing how the effects of the various forms of trash talk are even passed on through generations and keep doing damage, even after the original offender may have passed away (e.g. abused children, who keeping abusing their children). Quite outstanding is that the book offers scenarios from a wide range of situations, at home, at the work place, sports camps, schools,… every reader is bound to be reminded how he or she experienced the same or a very similar situation. Traci Lawrence even goes that far to tell us about similarities from history, e.g. Caesar’s treatment of the Celts and the fears of Japanese civilians after WWII.
The sections, which deal with professional work situations should be a must read for every HR person. In the end the customers notice what’s going on and not addressing certain situations does not help a company. Of course, people might say, “but we have rules at our workplace”. That’s where Traci’s honest, well written, and eye opening stories come in, they tell what’s really going on and every reader knows it.
Strongly suggesting that the author publishes this book also in paperback to give employees the opportunity to buy ‘Accept No Trash Talk’ and send it anonymously to the offenders. [Hint: wear plastic gloves when doing that]
‘Accept No Trash Talk’ does not only list “trash talk situations” but also includes helpful advice like a chapter about “Ways in which to diffuse a trash talk situation” and “How to set up Emotional Boundaries”.
The importance of working through this and dealing with the topic is best illustrated when we read Traci Lawrence’s encouraging words,
“ … My life has not been a sterling example of anything, except the refusal to quit. Because I refused to quit I was able to accomplish my lifelong goal of becoming an author. This book is the absolute proof that anyone can overcome a background that may be characterized as disadvantaged.”
Highly recommended to everybody over the age of 15.
Gisela Hausmann, author & blogger
May 9, 2015
This book brings to the fore an issue that everyone has encountered in at least some form - negative, demeaning, or abusive talk from others. And deservedly so. Without even thinking, many people lash out at others with hurtful words that can wound. Often these words are aimed at those most vulnerable and least able to fight back - children, subordinates, the passive and unassertive. What is entertainment or frustration-reliving venting to some can inflict deep and lasting emotional damage to those on the receiving end. This book also puts the spotlight on the critic, that creature who makes it their mission to set the world and everyone but themselves to rights. Truly, to be a critic one must hate a little. Trici Lawrence's book brings the pain caused by verbal bullying, demeaning talk and negative criticism into the light. A straight foreword, practical book that addresses this major but often overlooked issue.
October 1, 2014
What I like about this book the most - and what I find most compelling - is that Traci Lawrence uses many of the struggles that have afflicted her own life to inform her opinion, so rather than being just another self-help book it feels more of a memoir, thus making it considerably more readable (and believable) than many of the other 'how-to' books that are out there. I also liked many of the examples that Traci used to support her points - I learned something! Ultimately, I found this book to be very easy to read and I would definitely read more books by Traci, particularly those that focus upon her (often interesting) life ... very much a recommended read!
April 3, 2015
As a mom to a high-functioning autistic daughter, I found this book particularly encouraging and inspiring. Everyone has strengths and everyone has challenges. We all receive a hurtful comment from time to time in our lives. For some, however, - some like my daughter - bullying and negativity are all to common an experience in their lives. The simple, common-sense approach this author offers is well-written, well thought-out, and easily understood. I thank Ms. Lawrence for sharing her own experiences and offering hope, direction, and practical advice to others struggling with "trash talk".
November 25, 2014
An uplifting and honest look at how every person can over come the limitations put on them by others. This book is articulate and heart felt and offers practical and easy to follows tips on how to improve your self esteem and how to stand up and be counted. The Author uses relatable examples that make the book easy to follow and understand. I would definitely recommend this book to anyone who has felt overlooked either professionally or personally.
March 29, 2015
This book articulates the need for positivity in our lives and highlights the damaging effects of negative behaviour towards others and ourselves. The author puts together many examples from her life and those from history and popular culture to get her inspirational message across. A well written, inspirational book.*Copy received in exchange for an honest review*
December 3, 2014
Traci’s book looks at the difficulties people face who have limitations, or who are more sensitive than others, or who struggle to make themselves heard against those with stronger personalities. The limitations may be physical or mental disabilities, or health problems. The one struggling may be part of a minority, someone who’s brought up in an abusive family, or someone living currently in an abusive situation. Traci’s book applies to any of these and more.
It also looks a great deal at bullies and controlling people.
One of the lines that really struck home to me was: Controlling people do not like to be controlled. Controlling people do not like to have their agendas obstructed. I’ve found this true in my own life too. I know several controlling people: they usually have positions of authority and can abuse that authority, often without realising it. I’ve even been guilty of being a bit of a control freak at times myself, so in a sense I know it from both sides. Controllers don’t like to be confronted about their behaviour, however. Mainly, I think, it’s because they don’t see it at the time, and perhaps don’t even believe they’re doing it.
I’ve found that some of them eventually come to understand they’re controllers, but the behaviour is so habitual that controlling usually happens before they can deal with it. They have to eat humble pie afterwards. Still, better to eat humble pie than never to acknowledge it.
Traci makes a point about bullying: I think that the overarching reason for the bullying...can be condensed down to the fact that many of these people [are] self-righteous. Self-righteousness can be loosely defined as the attitude of a person who feels that he is superior to people who don’t think, look, act, talk, or believe as he does. The parable of the Pharisee and the tax collector immediately comes to mind! [Luke 18:9-14]
The self-righteous often don’t see their own behaviour. I had experience of corporate bullying in the last three years of my working life. I wasn’t directly in the line of fire, but my immediate boss was. The self-righteous bully eventually closed down our office because he felt he was right about his views. And unfortunately, as is often the case with such bullies, there were also cronies and yes-men surrounding him who endorsed his self-righteousness. Standing up to such people is an enormous, energy-draining task, as my boss found.
This is a personal book, and Traci discusses her own successes and failures honestly. She also gives credit to those who've helped her, and in one passage talks about her husband who saw her potential, affirmed her, encouraged her and validated her. ‘Since he believes in me,’ she writes, ‘I believe in myself.’
In spite of the difficulties of Traci’s life she has managed to build up a positive attitude. I like this paragraph from her book: When one door closes, a new door to a better life usually opens. Sometimes, we just have to be patient. At first, newly-opened doors may not always look like fresh opportunities. Opportunities may not always manifest themselves immediately. In fact, opportunities may first present themselves as unexpected, undesired challenges. The good news is that those challenges are what prepare us for new levels in life.
There’s a lot more packed in that paragraph than I realised when I first noted it.
This is a book that will encourage those who struggle, whatever their situation. It will also make you stop and think: am I guilty of this kind of behaviour?
It also looks a great deal at bullies and controlling people.
One of the lines that really struck home to me was: Controlling people do not like to be controlled. Controlling people do not like to have their agendas obstructed. I’ve found this true in my own life too. I know several controlling people: they usually have positions of authority and can abuse that authority, often without realising it. I’ve even been guilty of being a bit of a control freak at times myself, so in a sense I know it from both sides. Controllers don’t like to be confronted about their behaviour, however. Mainly, I think, it’s because they don’t see it at the time, and perhaps don’t even believe they’re doing it.
I’ve found that some of them eventually come to understand they’re controllers, but the behaviour is so habitual that controlling usually happens before they can deal with it. They have to eat humble pie afterwards. Still, better to eat humble pie than never to acknowledge it.
Traci makes a point about bullying: I think that the overarching reason for the bullying...can be condensed down to the fact that many of these people [are] self-righteous. Self-righteousness can be loosely defined as the attitude of a person who feels that he is superior to people who don’t think, look, act, talk, or believe as he does. The parable of the Pharisee and the tax collector immediately comes to mind! [Luke 18:9-14]
The self-righteous often don’t see their own behaviour. I had experience of corporate bullying in the last three years of my working life. I wasn’t directly in the line of fire, but my immediate boss was. The self-righteous bully eventually closed down our office because he felt he was right about his views. And unfortunately, as is often the case with such bullies, there were also cronies and yes-men surrounding him who endorsed his self-righteousness. Standing up to such people is an enormous, energy-draining task, as my boss found.
This is a personal book, and Traci discusses her own successes and failures honestly. She also gives credit to those who've helped her, and in one passage talks about her husband who saw her potential, affirmed her, encouraged her and validated her. ‘Since he believes in me,’ she writes, ‘I believe in myself.’
In spite of the difficulties of Traci’s life she has managed to build up a positive attitude. I like this paragraph from her book: When one door closes, a new door to a better life usually opens. Sometimes, we just have to be patient. At first, newly-opened doors may not always look like fresh opportunities. Opportunities may not always manifest themselves immediately. In fact, opportunities may first present themselves as unexpected, undesired challenges. The good news is that those challenges are what prepare us for new levels in life.
There’s a lot more packed in that paragraph than I realised when I first noted it.
This is a book that will encourage those who struggle, whatever their situation. It will also make you stop and think: am I guilty of this kind of behaviour?
March 19, 2015
Traci Lawrence hits on a few, well thought out and researched points with this book. The comparisons drawn by examples of celebrity life, her own and that of others, shows clearly how the process is applicable to just about everyone. The book is written very clearly, without rambling and without the 'preachy' or 'oracle' feelings one sometimes get from reading inspirational and motivational books.
I was hesitant to read it at first, as so many authors write this kind of book with the best of intentions, and it ends up becoming exactly that which they are trying to caution against.
With Traci's book, this was not the case - for that, I cannot give it less than full hit-points on the scoreboard. The book is easy to follow, and I found myself with a few 'A-ha' moments on a personal level. I enjoyed the comfortable, warm buzz it left in my head after reading. It is hard at times to make habitual changes more permanent, and this book will stay on my shelf as a 'Go-to' on the days when I need to remind myself of the things that can be done better.
Traci, I loved that you did this, I loved that you have shown yourself and your workings in such a positive manner. I have mentally re-named your last chapter to the "We can-" Chapter *chuckles* By far this is my favourite and will get thumbed a lot.
"We choose what goes into our minds the same way we choose what goes into our bodies." - I chose this book and I will forever be grateful for the opportunity to have read it.
To those hesitant about reading it: This is not your typical work of empowerment, it is a genuine game changer for anyone who are willing to simply read and absorb it - at least that is how I responded to it. I would encourage you to read it, not only if you are the receiver of negative communication, but also if you think you've never given negative output. The book creates an awareness, a mindfulness that helps you understand and come to grips with practical direction and steps.
Thank you again Traci, for this fantastic read.
Adri.
I was hesitant to read it at first, as so many authors write this kind of book with the best of intentions, and it ends up becoming exactly that which they are trying to caution against.
With Traci's book, this was not the case - for that, I cannot give it less than full hit-points on the scoreboard. The book is easy to follow, and I found myself with a few 'A-ha' moments on a personal level. I enjoyed the comfortable, warm buzz it left in my head after reading. It is hard at times to make habitual changes more permanent, and this book will stay on my shelf as a 'Go-to' on the days when I need to remind myself of the things that can be done better.
Traci, I loved that you did this, I loved that you have shown yourself and your workings in such a positive manner. I have mentally re-named your last chapter to the "We can-" Chapter *chuckles* By far this is my favourite and will get thumbed a lot.
"We choose what goes into our minds the same way we choose what goes into our bodies." - I chose this book and I will forever be grateful for the opportunity to have read it.
To those hesitant about reading it: This is not your typical work of empowerment, it is a genuine game changer for anyone who are willing to simply read and absorb it - at least that is how I responded to it. I would encourage you to read it, not only if you are the receiver of negative communication, but also if you think you've never given negative output. The book creates an awareness, a mindfulness that helps you understand and come to grips with practical direction and steps.
Thank you again Traci, for this fantastic read.
Adri.
January 31, 2015
Chock-full of wisdom and advice for people who have been bullied, harassed, disrespected and dehumanized simply because they did not fit in with the view of someone else as to how things should be, this book written by Traci Lawrence tackles these issues head-on and offers those scarred by these abuses, ways of looking at things differently and with forgiveness. The book is an antidote for the poison they have taken on board as a result of the prejudices, non-acceptance and intolerance of other people.
Traci has been at the coal-face all of her life facing the lack of acceptance, discrimination and cruelty of others, simply because she was different.
Some of her differences were: her short stature; her membership of a marginalized Christian denomination; and her intolerance to gluten (diagnosed later in life) which impacted on her physical health and slowed down the functions of her brain. So, most of her life she has been on the receiving end of put-downs and trash talk from ignorant and intolerant people.
Her book is a fount of uncommon common sense and wisdom, borne of experience and covers a broad range of issues and ways of understanding and addressing them.
e.g. People act out of their own pain, and we all have pain. Some people are likely to inflict their pain on other people.
This self-help book is very well written in clear and straight-forward language.
Whether you are a discriminator or someone who is discriminated against, a bully or a bullee, a victimizer or a victim, or someone in between, there is plenty to be learned from Traci Lawrence as expressed in her book.
I highly recommend it to all.
Traci has been at the coal-face all of her life facing the lack of acceptance, discrimination and cruelty of others, simply because she was different.
Some of her differences were: her short stature; her membership of a marginalized Christian denomination; and her intolerance to gluten (diagnosed later in life) which impacted on her physical health and slowed down the functions of her brain. So, most of her life she has been on the receiving end of put-downs and trash talk from ignorant and intolerant people.
Her book is a fount of uncommon common sense and wisdom, borne of experience and covers a broad range of issues and ways of understanding and addressing them.
e.g. People act out of their own pain, and we all have pain. Some people are likely to inflict their pain on other people.
This self-help book is very well written in clear and straight-forward language.
Whether you are a discriminator or someone who is discriminated against, a bully or a bullee, a victimizer or a victim, or someone in between, there is plenty to be learned from Traci Lawrence as expressed in her book.
I highly recommend it to all.
January 15, 2015
Accept No Trash Talk is both inspirational and motivational, clearly a must read for everyone. Have you ever been criticized, bullied, lied about, or verbally abused? Need a little help with an attitude adjustment?
I feel that today's market is well saturated with countless volumes that we simply call "self-help" books. It seems that people everywhere are looking for a personal instruction guide to help solve all their problems. I will always maintain that the Holy Bible, the inspired word of God, should be on anyone's #1 list. However, may I tell you about a motivational new book that I just finished reading?
Accept No Trash Talk by Traci Lawrence may not be able to solve all your problems (that's entirely up to you), but if you desire a few suggestions to help develop a better you, listen up. I definitely recommend her new book for anyone who wants to bring change into their lives.
Just what is "trash talk"? The author defines it as "any negative words that seem to make a person feel like they need to defend themselves." If you find yourself with a "Don't get mad, get even" type of attitude, you definitely need to read this book. Ms Lawrence has gone to great lengths to include many of her personal experiences to illustrate each and every point she makes.
I personally like her book because it was written by someone who had lived and been through everything she writes about. You will not be disappointed if you choose to take the time to read this one. It may just help to change your life quite a bit. Would that be so bad?
I feel that today's market is well saturated with countless volumes that we simply call "self-help" books. It seems that people everywhere are looking for a personal instruction guide to help solve all their problems. I will always maintain that the Holy Bible, the inspired word of God, should be on anyone's #1 list. However, may I tell you about a motivational new book that I just finished reading?
Accept No Trash Talk by Traci Lawrence may not be able to solve all your problems (that's entirely up to you), but if you desire a few suggestions to help develop a better you, listen up. I definitely recommend her new book for anyone who wants to bring change into their lives.
Just what is "trash talk"? The author defines it as "any negative words that seem to make a person feel like they need to defend themselves." If you find yourself with a "Don't get mad, get even" type of attitude, you definitely need to read this book. Ms Lawrence has gone to great lengths to include many of her personal experiences to illustrate each and every point she makes.
I personally like her book because it was written by someone who had lived and been through everything she writes about. You will not be disappointed if you choose to take the time to read this one. It may just help to change your life quite a bit. Would that be so bad?
February 22, 2015
In succinct, clear prose, Traci Lawrence the author of Accept No Trash Talk, tackles an important problem in today’s society. And unfortunately it is a problem that is growing, fuelled in a lot of cases by social media.
With examples from the lives of famous people and from her own life, Lawrence guides us through understanding this phenomenon and how to overcome it. The book is divided into five sections. Chapter 1 is Rising Above Low Expectations. Chapter 2 Excuses That Aggressors Use to Vicitimise People. Chapter 3 A Deeper Exploration of Trash Talk. Chapter 4 - the very important - Setting Up Emotional Boundaries and Chapter 5 Conclusion.
Lawrence writes that words are important. Words can definitely wound another individual. As an Australian I am immediately struck by the term Trash Talk. Trash Talk is not an expression we use in this country. To me the term seems a slightly demeaning, unimportant thing. Whereas when I read about the situations where Trash Talk has been inflicted on another person, I quickly realised it is what we Australians know as verbal abuse - a very serious situation and not to be tolerated.
It is sad to think that a lot of people conduct themselves in such a fashion that they regularly verbally abuse others and think that this behaviour is okay. Lawrence helps us understand the situation on both sides - not just from the victim’s point of view but with insights as to why the perpetrators act as they do. This is a very important and insightful book and I highly recommend it to those who are battling against such abuse.
With examples from the lives of famous people and from her own life, Lawrence guides us through understanding this phenomenon and how to overcome it. The book is divided into five sections. Chapter 1 is Rising Above Low Expectations. Chapter 2 Excuses That Aggressors Use to Vicitimise People. Chapter 3 A Deeper Exploration of Trash Talk. Chapter 4 - the very important - Setting Up Emotional Boundaries and Chapter 5 Conclusion.
Lawrence writes that words are important. Words can definitely wound another individual. As an Australian I am immediately struck by the term Trash Talk. Trash Talk is not an expression we use in this country. To me the term seems a slightly demeaning, unimportant thing. Whereas when I read about the situations where Trash Talk has been inflicted on another person, I quickly realised it is what we Australians know as verbal abuse - a very serious situation and not to be tolerated.
It is sad to think that a lot of people conduct themselves in such a fashion that they regularly verbally abuse others and think that this behaviour is okay. Lawrence helps us understand the situation on both sides - not just from the victim’s point of view but with insights as to why the perpetrators act as they do. This is a very important and insightful book and I highly recommend it to those who are battling against such abuse.
February 11, 2015
Book Delivers What It Promises
I was drawn in by this title and the message this author wanted to send. It delivers what it promises. What I really liked about it is the research she did to provide concrete examples of those who have overcome the odds and how: in different settings of culture, history, and walks of life. I also appreciated that she allowed for different possibilities, even trying to grace herself inside the mind of why bullies can act the way that they do.
Her own personal stories lent credence to what she had to share, and I felt that I walked away with practical advice and confirmation of how to set healthy boundaries and why. So much of my own personal crusade resonates with what this author has to say. My personal self-help go-to is the Holy Bible, and I believe I overcome not in my own strength but through faith in Christ strengthening me, but her themes of why letting negative talk stick with us is unhealthy and how forgiveness is more about us than the one forgiven (even if they don't ask) match my own beliefs.
I started this book and finished in two sittings because I felt like I was receiving solid advice that served as a good reminder that we have a choice about what we allow to influence us and soak into our minds. Thank you to the author for being so vulnerable with us. I think many can relate to feeling very marginalized. You put it in understandable, helpful context. Such a gift to us!
I was drawn in by this title and the message this author wanted to send. It delivers what it promises. What I really liked about it is the research she did to provide concrete examples of those who have overcome the odds and how: in different settings of culture, history, and walks of life. I also appreciated that she allowed for different possibilities, even trying to grace herself inside the mind of why bullies can act the way that they do.
Her own personal stories lent credence to what she had to share, and I felt that I walked away with practical advice and confirmation of how to set healthy boundaries and why. So much of my own personal crusade resonates with what this author has to say. My personal self-help go-to is the Holy Bible, and I believe I overcome not in my own strength but through faith in Christ strengthening me, but her themes of why letting negative talk stick with us is unhealthy and how forgiveness is more about us than the one forgiven (even if they don't ask) match my own beliefs.
I started this book and finished in two sittings because I felt like I was receiving solid advice that served as a good reminder that we have a choice about what we allow to influence us and soak into our minds. Thank you to the author for being so vulnerable with us. I think many can relate to feeling very marginalized. You put it in understandable, helpful context. Such a gift to us!
October 14, 2015
“Accept No Trash Talk: Overcoming the Odds” is a solid self-help book focusing on eliminating negative thoughts, dealing with past bullying and denigration and forming a more positive attitude on life. Chocked full of examples from the author’s personal experience and past and present famous people, it’s written in a straightforward and easy to read style. The author makes no claims to be a medical or psychiatric expert and her down-to-earth layperson’s style makes a nice change from drier more clinical series.
I did have a few issues however. One was the book’s treatment of mental health issues. Far too often, it holds them up as negative, rather than positive, examples. The book’s philosophy will also do little to help those suffering from clinical depression, post-traumatic stress disorder or similar issues. Telling a truly depressed person they can control the negativity in their thoughts like flipping off a light switch may do more harm to them than good.
While not overtly religious, the book does occasionally refer to a person’s “divine rights.” This may turn off a staunch atheists. And, as a proud Canadian, I do have to dispute the US having “won” the War of 1812.
Overall, I think this is a good book. For those who are dealing with past bullying issues or just carrying some negative baggage, it could certainly be of value. For those with more serious mental health issues, it is best saved for when one is well into the recovery process.
I did have a few issues however. One was the book’s treatment of mental health issues. Far too often, it holds them up as negative, rather than positive, examples. The book’s philosophy will also do little to help those suffering from clinical depression, post-traumatic stress disorder or similar issues. Telling a truly depressed person they can control the negativity in their thoughts like flipping off a light switch may do more harm to them than good.
While not overtly religious, the book does occasionally refer to a person’s “divine rights.” This may turn off a staunch atheists. And, as a proud Canadian, I do have to dispute the US having “won” the War of 1812.
Overall, I think this is a good book. For those who are dealing with past bullying issues or just carrying some negative baggage, it could certainly be of value. For those with more serious mental health issues, it is best saved for when one is well into the recovery process.
November 10, 2014
Accept No Trash Talk, by Traci Lawrence, has come along at the perfect time now that bullying is finally being taken seriously in American culture. Ms. Lawrence shows tremendous courage by using what must have been painful experiences from her own life to inspire and encourage others. Although she is not a mental health expert, the author seeks to help us comprehend the value of nurturing the mind as well as the spirit. Less judgment and more understanding is needed for solving most of life’s problems. Although she had been on the receiving end of threats and intimidation often in her life, Lawrence still takes the time to help the reader understand how and why people become bullies. Her style is simple and straight forward, using examples of popular culture from a variety of generations to draw in readers of all ages. I believe this book would be of tremendous value to teachers, students, administrators, human resources professionals and other individuals who work in a position of authority over others. It is a useful resource that can help us to evaluate our own interactions with colleagues and identify problematic relationships between other people in our professional and personal circles.
March 6, 2015
This is another one of those books where the title speaks for itself; no trash talk. In other words, find alternative words or alternative ways and solutions to your problems. The author Traci Lawrence is a substitute teacher but just from reading this book alone, I think she would make a wonderful life teacher. In the book, she explains the ways we need to take in order to confront our problems in life and how to handle them by performing solutions that fit well with society. In other words; stay away from trash talk and stay away from the solutions that involve violence. Think of it this way; does the use of obscenities or violence ever solve anything? Our parents should have told us this when we were younger; it just makes it worse. Luckily, Traci Lawrence is here to remind us of that important lesson by telling it to us in her great book.
October 28, 2014
This is the heart-felt journey through life of one woman whose inner strength and self-awareness has been her guiding light. She has overcome great odds and dealt with a lot of adversity, as I have in my own life. I gained a lot of insight and knowledge from her experiences and the countless examples that she gave on others who overcame great adversity. This is more than just overcoming prejudices, being bullied and stereotyped, and judged negatively based on the "perceived shortcomings" others have of you. It's about making the best of your situation, being your own best friend and therapist, and moving forward in life no matter what the odds are. Thank you, Tracy.
June 1, 2015
What a wonderful find! This book has positively influenced my life, in many different ways. Even within the first few pages, I was touched by a much needed reminder, that it is my own self talk which creates many of the problems in my life. I so agree. As much as I believe this and have improved my life repeatedly with this understanding, this book made me face the truth that I still have a lot of work to do. It is the voices in my head that create self doubt and prove that my life, as faith based as I believe it is, is also still shackled with doubt and fear. Words of encouraging wisdom continued through each chapter. There is a part in the book that mentions "unabated negative self talk." This also spoke right to me. I consider myself a strong spiritual person and yet negative self talk still bombards me all the time and if it bombards me, I imagine it is a struggle for most. Ms. Lawrence shows that the key is in the word “unabated.” These negative tirades do not have to be accepted…we can choose to discipline our minds and control our own thoughts and words…we can choose not to follow these voices, not to succumb to these temptations. Ms. Lawrence cites numerous examples of real people who achieved this. They each faced incredible obstacles, yet overcame them all, though persistence. They never gave up changing whatever needed to change and they never stopped fighting against the negative forces they faced. What set them apart was not some great intellect or mysterious good fortune but perseverance, and if we follow their examples, we too, can achieve our heart’s desire. From beginning to end, this book, more than exceeded my expectations and it is a book, I will cherish forever.
August 7, 2015
I was given a free copy of Accept No Trash Talk for an honest review, and I sat down to read it with reservations. Most books with a title like this often preach to you, and I really hate that. But from the moment the author introduced the book, you can tell that this one is different. It is a book with both feet firmly rooted on the ground. It discusses many of the issues that keep us from realizing our own potentials and the author does this by giving examples based on her own personal experience and from the life stories of regular and famous people. Got a lot of interesting trivia from those examples.
It's a mind opening read and I loved it cause the author's words are all true. They are not concepts, dogma or philosophies, but truths which will help many people realize why they are not reaching their own potential. What are the reasons? Are they even aware of these reasons and how they may be reacting to it?
As a non-fiction author, I strive for my books to have the same mind changing effect to my readers. I'd have to say that Traci Lawrence did a good job with Accept No Trash Talk. If you've had enough of the negativity in your life and you want to make a positive change, this book will clear away those cobwebs in your head. Like she said, the moment that you can start conceiving the possibility of change, then you're on the road to achieving it. Highly Recommended.
It's a mind opening read and I loved it cause the author's words are all true. They are not concepts, dogma or philosophies, but truths which will help many people realize why they are not reaching their own potential. What are the reasons? Are they even aware of these reasons and how they may be reacting to it?
As a non-fiction author, I strive for my books to have the same mind changing effect to my readers. I'd have to say that Traci Lawrence did a good job with Accept No Trash Talk. If you've had enough of the negativity in your life and you want to make a positive change, this book will clear away those cobwebs in your head. Like she said, the moment that you can start conceiving the possibility of change, then you're on the road to achieving it. Highly Recommended.
March 2, 2015
Great book for everyone who has ever listened to the Negative Nellies in their life. Or those who were the Negative Nellies. It doesn't matter if you've been a bully or victim of a bully, this book can help you. Traci Lawrence gives real life experiences of not just famous people, but everyday people like you and me. People you admire and people you can truly relate to, including herself. She shows both sides, those who have succumbed to the trash talk and accepted it AND those who have overcome it. Her guidance, though to some may seem basic common sense, is something we all need a reminder of at times.
June 16, 2015
“Accept No Trash Talk” is an inspiring book which hits on all possible aspects related to building and maintaining a healthy self-esteem. Author gives various examples to highlight the importance of building boundaries and not letting someone erode on your self-esteem. It is a very motivating, easy to read book and I couldn’t agree more with the issues brought about in this inspirational book.
September 30, 2015
What makes this book stand apart from other books about boundaries is the real examples she provides, as well as the insight based on personal experience. The author presents the information in a way to equip readers with the tools they need to handle a difficult situation. A must read for those experiencing these issues in life.
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