Positive Parenting - Stop Yelling And Love Me More, Please Mom. Positive Parenting Is Easier Than You Think. ( Parenting books for moms)

by Jennifer N. Smith

We can not raise a happy child if we are constantly screaming threats at them. No parent sets out to hurt their child, but this type of parenting does just that.To raise a happy child that wants to behave, you need to retrain yourself first. You need to change the way you think and react to their behavior. You need to understand your triggers and heal yourself. Only then you can begin to heal your relationship with your children.Making the decision to be a positive parent will benefit your whole family. You will find that your children want to behave and follow your rules. You will be less stressed out by the end of the day. Your house will not feel like a battle zone. Instead, you can create a home full of peace and love for the whole family.This book will show you why strict and permissive parenting do not work. You will learn just how easy it is to embrace a positive parenting style. While learning how to be a positive parent, you will not only heal the relationship with your children but heal yourself along the way.

Genres: Parenting, Nonfiction, Audiobook, Self Help

48 pages, Kindle Edition

Published November 27, 2015

Reviews

[Brooke · Rating 2 out of 5]

This book could have been written as a bullet point handout. There is a lot of high level advice:


-Don’t yell
-Be happy as happy parents have happy kids
-Talk to your kids (Using open ended questions)
-Build their self esteem
-Keep communication open
-Be consistent
-Love them

That’s about it. If you are the type of parent that has sense enough to pick up a book on positive parenting, you probably already knew all of this and were looking for tips on how to execute these ideas. This book doesn’t have that. No actual advice on how to talk to you kids when they aren’t listening. No advice on how to keep communication open. No advice on how to build their self esteem.

This book is a great starting point for ideas, but doesn’t go beyond an outline.

[Evan Jarvis · Rating 2 out of 5]

Ok, I know I'm not a mom, I must have missed that part of the title when I borrowed it; but, why does it have to be specific to moms? That's my biggest issue. As a father who desperately wants to yell less and find better methods, I feel it's unfair to segregate us.

I felt a lot of the information was very redundant, and the author couldn't decide on a pronoun. When giving examples.of.children it was often, "she" or "he" which, again, I feel sends a specific message as to which child you may turn that advise to. Just say, "they" or "them".

The advice is mostly useful. It was a quick read, I haven't yelled in 3 days (fingers crossed I make some actual change), I guess I just feel this book echoes what 1,000 others have said before it.

[Silvia Keller · Rating 1 out of 5]

The only redeeming thing about this book is that it was short. Otherwise, let’s talk about a guilt trip. “You’ll seriously mess up your child if you raise your voice once,” is basically the message I received. But there’s little to no advice on constructive alternatives and strategies for dealing with difficult situations, not to mention how not to raise a spoiled, entitled child.

[Rajat Sharma · Rating 5 out of 5]

Great book


Learned a lot about how to be calm and understand child with clear mindset. Everything is good to learn after all its our family.

[Becca da Romance Queen · Rating 4 out of 5]

Um yes I know I'm not a parent yet, but this book caught my attention because I'm supposed to be reading a self help book and...well, this title relates to my life sometimes. My mom isn't strict, but she only allows me to check out ONE BOOK at a time at the library, so ya know. There's that. OKAY OKAY BUT THAT MAKES ME SAD 😔 I literally go there and kidnap books in my tiny backpack SHH 🤫 Anywho! This book almost made me fall asleep listening to it, but it gave decent advice. It's more for parents of younger children. However, there are a few chapters on older kids. As a teen, I think this book gives insightful information on how to raise your kids and I know from experience that some of the parents I've seen haven't read this book. Like why would you let your children do whatever they want? I've seen kids get things handed to them and I kind of despise them. It's hard not to when so many of those spoiled brats discuss going to the mall every weekend and failing their classes. (Not that failing is a bad thing, but I'm really touching on people who fail because they don't care enough for the class) I'm sorry, but those people are not for me, hence why I'm friendless in the real world. But it's okay, because now I know how to be a good enough parent!

[Katie Inabnit Bell · Rating 1 out of 5]

Dumb.

[Adina Johnston · Rating 4 out of 5]

Every parent or teacher should read this. Kids need patience and understanding.

[Maria Gambill · Rating 5 out of 5]

I plan to read number two. This is perfect. Nothing else can be said.

[Amy · Rating 3 out of 5]

There are tips that I appreciate and plan to follow, but there’s advice I feel is truly dangerous for their future.

Telling people not to punish their kids is a minefield. The author expresses the need for parents to inform their preteens/ adolescent children of the consequences of risky behavior, but how will they understand what consequences are if they haven’t experienced them in the younger years? How is this preparing them for school? If kids don’t understand consequences, they won’t be able to adjust well to real life. You can’t pat an adult on the head and say “it’s ok, just return what you stole and it’ll be fine.” Making reparation isn’t the full scope.

Another guideline was that you shouldn’t tell them to apologize. My kids apologize to each other all the time and they have a great bond. It’s all in how you handle that. If you have the loving relationship the author is seeking to help instill, then you’d be able to tell your child(ren) to apologize when it’s needed. (As the author also stated, it’s vital that you model that.)

Maybe these rules or guidelines aren’t a one- size- fits- all. I felt the lists at the end could be helpful, but those two pieces of advice (no punishments and no apologies) will not play out well in the future.

[John Gates · Rating 1 out of 5]

Just another hollow parenting book.
The only discussion of yelling is in the first chapter, otherwise it is another book of generalizations.
A: "Why shouldn't you yell at children? "
B: "It can cause low self-esteem."
A: "Yes, but why?"
B: "Um..."
A: "Is all yelling bad?"
B: "Um... I guess I will continue making generalizations for people who already understand."
A: "Okay. I think I'm going to write a book, too. Why not, right? If I put Positive Parenting on the cover, at least a handful of people will read it and I will get paid."

The introduction to The Anger Trap by Dr. Les Carter is more helpful than this waste of bookshelf space... (Sorry, Jen)

[Linh · Rating 3 out of 5]

Decent points but it was repetitive. I also saw someone else’s reviews about how this book could have been done in bullets.

I did enjoy reading about the different stages of development and things to try. I will keep the book for that.

However, one thing that ruined it for me was spelling and grammatical errors. For example, the author used “threw” instead of “through”. I totally understand just jotting down points and I make a million mistakes even when I write a paragraph. But by the time a piece of writing is published into a book, one would hope the editor would have caught the mistakes.

[Brooke Eckenroth · Rating 3 out of 5]

While it has some good general parenting advice and best practices it was definitely not as helpful as I had hoped. Biggest positive was it affirmed me in some ways.. that while I have so many things I can be doing better, I am doing many of the things suggested already and on a regular basis. However, to be blatantly honest, I did not walk away with any new information or advice that I don’t already read / see on parenting reels on Instagram.

[Melisa Cano · Rating 5 out of 5]

Easy and informative read!

This was a very easy read and well laid out. I didn't feel like I had to take copious notes, it will be easy to look back at the many key points. I connected with the description of the "yelling" parent and I'm hopeful that these techniques and methods will work for me and my family.

[Michael · Rating 3 out of 5]

Good macro view poor executional advice

The book outlines the general concepts fairly well but leaves out executional details which tend to be the hardest part. It talks about setting limits, praising good behavior, and avoiding punishments, but doesn’t explain how you can set the limit without a punishment.

[Mazie Lynn · Rating 4 out of 5]

I actually listened to this book though I cannot find the audio edition listed on Goodreads. It offered clear, concise and actionable ideas for gentle/positive parenting. Felt like a cliff notes version of other longer parenting books, which I appreciated given the constraints on time rendered while parenting young children.

[Maria Lucia · Rating 4 out of 5]

Práctico y concreto

Es un libro con enseñanzas y guías practicas sobte crianza positiva para diferentes momentos o edades de nuestros hijos. Nos recuerda como manejar emociones fuertes como padres para sanar nuestro niño interior al mismo tiempo que manejamos una crianza sana con nuestros hijos.

[Bookstagram_goodreads · Rating 1 out of 5]

Waste of time. This should be called, don’t yell, here are the stages of childhood development. And then a list of should and should nots for each stage. It literally tells you to have “the talk”, which yes, is a good thing but does it fall under the “positive parenting” umbrella?
Just a list of bullet points.

[Baylan Meganck · Rating 5 out of 5]

Great quick read

This is a quick and easy read. I feel like this book is just an introduction to this style of parenting. It has opened my eyes and I'm ready to lean more about peaceful parenting and positive discipline.

[sirinrat sunthong · Rating 5 out of 5]

Parent need it!

My son is 5 year old. I want to stop yelling at him and help him doing better! This book is help to guide you! What are you should do with your love one! Very helpful!

[Holli Keel · Rating 2 out of 5]

I was really hoping for an excellent book with this one. But it was just okay. I liked some of the suggestions and advice, but the book didn’t give enough information on *how* to carry out its suggestions.

[Erin Adwell Teague · Rating 2 out of 5]

Let me put it this way: The fact that you are on Goodreads reading reviews means you are not the intended audience for this book. The audience for this book is parents who’ve never read a single parenting book before, not someone who reads one or more a month. If you’re here, pass on this one.

[Luc they, them · Rating 3 out of 5]

Decent intro into what active/positive parenting looks like. Things I have learned but always good to have a refresher.
I do hate that when talking about kids the author bounces back and forth between he and she.

[Athena · Rating 4 out of 5]

Parents probably already know some points mentioned in this book. For me, it was a subtle reminder to be better listener and be better parent. I also like the fact that the author reminds parents/caregivers that you also need to take care of yourself above all.

[Kimberly Dunn · Rating 3 out of 5]

Helpful-ish

I felt like this book was a brush over the topic. I was looking for helpful tools to guide me on a better journey. There was a lot of just do it information. It was a good message but I think I was looking for something more in depth.

[Maegan Robertson · Rating 5 out of 5]

Just what I needed

I was raised in a strict home and my husband was raised in a passive home. This gives us a happy medium to establish in our home and form better relationships with our kids.

[Radwa El-Derwy · Rating 3 out of 5]

It is a good book if it is your first read on the subject. It gives you an overview on how to act in different parenting stages. However, if you read a lot in this topic you'll find the book pretty shallow. It is a good recap though.

[Tanya · Rating 3 out of 5]

I was reading an article that recommended this book. So I decided to give it a go. It's a good reminder to keep cool when you can and to look at things differently so that we are parents can have a different perspective. A good read.

[Angela · Rating 4 out of 5]

Quick little read. Was looking for some helpful tips to deal with my two year old. It was a little helpful with some suggestions which I already knew just helped to reinforce and guide me more along my way.

[Justin · Rating 2 out of 5]

Popped it on since it was only an hour long audio book. Can’t say it was awful, it had some good information, but was almost like someone was reading a parent blog article to me. Audio quality was sub-par as well

[Courtney Owens · Rating 3 out of 5]

Super quick read, strait to the point, and gave some good advice. I feel like a lot of it is common sense that we already know, but it was good to have a refresher. I did like that she split up the age groups and gave developmental stages and how to handle each stage.