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Enough To Make You Blush
Erotic humiliation goes far beyond the “Lick my boots!” stereotype. Princess Kali, a famous former Dominatrix and world-renowned Humiliatrix, throws open the dungeon doors to explore the complex desires that fuel this kind of psychological play for both dominants and submissives.
Using both personal experience and extensive interviews she shares advice and detailed ideas for a broad range of embarrassing, humiliating, and degrading ways to enjoy consensual kinky fun. Also covered are important concepts such as communication, negotiation, consent, triggers, aftercare, and so much
Using both personal experience and extensive interviews she shares advice and detailed ideas for a broad range of embarrassing, humiliating, and degrading ways to enjoy consensual kinky fun. Also covered are important concepts such as communication, negotiation, consent, triggers, aftercare, and so much
207 pages, Kindle Edition
Published November 24, 2015
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August 30, 2016
Very instructive
I crave humiliation and I used to fantasized on submitting to the author of this book when she was producing femdom videos. So I had no other choice but to purchase this book and read it.
It is very instructive, it helped me understand my needs for humiliation and how to safely enact these fantasies. There are very few non fictional books on sexual humiliation, this is actually the only one known to me. And a good one at that.
I wish the author would one day release a femdom humiliation story, she has got talent and she fully understand the subject. It would just make a phenomenal story.
I crave humiliation and I used to fantasized on submitting to the author of this book when she was producing femdom videos. So I had no other choice but to purchase this book and read it.
It is very instructive, it helped me understand my needs for humiliation and how to safely enact these fantasies. There are very few non fictional books on sexual humiliation, this is actually the only one known to me. And a good one at that.
I wish the author would one day release a femdom humiliation story, she has got talent and she fully understand the subject. It would just make a phenomenal story.
January 28, 2016
In May of this year I was fortunate enough to attend a BDSM convention that Princess Kali was presenting her Erotic Humiliation class. During her class she mentioned that she was writing a book about the topic and that it would be out soon. As she presented her class I became more and more excited for what the book might contain. Her knowledge and story-telling is very engaging and I hoped that her book would be just as fascinating. So when Enough to Make You Blush: Exploring Erotica Humiliation came out I was well rewarded. Let me tell you about this wonderful book!
Not only does it read like one of her wonderful intensive classes, but it has a lot of first hand accounts from other people in the lifestyle that she surveyed for the book. It’s great for beginners and experienced players in humiliation and it covers so many different forms of humiliation; many I wasn’t even aware of. I was so thrilled that some of the stories of Princess Kali’s Pro Domme days were in there and they are hilarious and entertaining.
The first sections of be book are the basics of what erotic humiliation is, why people like it and how to start negotiating it with your partner. If you unclear about erotic humiliation, start with the definition from the book;
Erotic humiliation is about taking a “real world thing/word/action which we commonly understand as “humiliating” and re-contextualizing it as erotic play by adding a layer of acceptance, appreciation, and mutual enjoyment. [...] Erotic Humiliation plays on concepts like misogyny, gender roles, and the “ick factor” to create an experience that is ultimately pleasurable, rather than offensive, injurious, or disgusting. (pg. 11)
I really appreciate a book that can take survey responses and use them in a way that moves the information along and provides even more experience and added benefit. Princess Kali does a fantastic job of making the survey responses work for her in sharing the important terms and teaching the nuances to this often tricky play activity. You can’t beat the added true stories either!
Some of the more common humiliation activities have entire chapters devoted to them. If you’ve ever had an interest in erotic humiliation in context of foot fetish, objectification and dehumanization, chastity and orgasm games, sissification and forced feminization, nudity or body function and fluids then you’ll love the in-depth information and personal stories to help fill out your dreams, ideas and play repertoire. I was especially excited about the objectification and orgasm games personally and was not disappointed. A couple ideas are now a part of our play!
Erotic humiliation finally has a resource guide that every kinky person will want to own! Well-known presenter and Humiliatrix, Kali Williams, teaches you how to embrace the moments of embarrassment and pleasure to deepen scenes and relationships. Her candid and humorous true stories are the perfect compliment to the necessary safety information you must have to make erotic humiliation spark for you. She provides you with plenty of deliciously devious ideas, creative verbal assaults, subtle public play and hot displays of embarrassment and erotic shame that will leave you squirming in your seat. Enough to Make You Blush gives you a powerful item in your SM armory to bring your most secret “embarrassing” fantasies to life. And when you think you’ve had just enough mental foreplay for your own exchanges she gives you the tools to make it safer, more exciting and fun!
Not only does it read like one of her wonderful intensive classes, but it has a lot of first hand accounts from other people in the lifestyle that she surveyed for the book. It’s great for beginners and experienced players in humiliation and it covers so many different forms of humiliation; many I wasn’t even aware of. I was so thrilled that some of the stories of Princess Kali’s Pro Domme days were in there and they are hilarious and entertaining.
The first sections of be book are the basics of what erotic humiliation is, why people like it and how to start negotiating it with your partner. If you unclear about erotic humiliation, start with the definition from the book;
Erotic humiliation is about taking a “real world thing/word/action which we commonly understand as “humiliating” and re-contextualizing it as erotic play by adding a layer of acceptance, appreciation, and mutual enjoyment. [...] Erotic Humiliation plays on concepts like misogyny, gender roles, and the “ick factor” to create an experience that is ultimately pleasurable, rather than offensive, injurious, or disgusting. (pg. 11)
I really appreciate a book that can take survey responses and use them in a way that moves the information along and provides even more experience and added benefit. Princess Kali does a fantastic job of making the survey responses work for her in sharing the important terms and teaching the nuances to this often tricky play activity. You can’t beat the added true stories either!
Some of the more common humiliation activities have entire chapters devoted to them. If you’ve ever had an interest in erotic humiliation in context of foot fetish, objectification and dehumanization, chastity and orgasm games, sissification and forced feminization, nudity or body function and fluids then you’ll love the in-depth information and personal stories to help fill out your dreams, ideas and play repertoire. I was especially excited about the objectification and orgasm games personally and was not disappointed. A couple ideas are now a part of our play!
Erotic humiliation finally has a resource guide that every kinky person will want to own! Well-known presenter and Humiliatrix, Kali Williams, teaches you how to embrace the moments of embarrassment and pleasure to deepen scenes and relationships. Her candid and humorous true stories are the perfect compliment to the necessary safety information you must have to make erotic humiliation spark for you. She provides you with plenty of deliciously devious ideas, creative verbal assaults, subtle public play and hot displays of embarrassment and erotic shame that will leave you squirming in your seat. Enough to Make You Blush gives you a powerful item in your SM armory to bring your most secret “embarrassing” fantasies to life. And when you think you’ve had just enough mental foreplay for your own exchanges she gives you the tools to make it safer, more exciting and fun!
June 17, 2022
No complex and multilayered discussion of the subject, but it works well as a straightforward, accessible and reasonable introduction to the practice.
December 27, 2017
After dragging my feet all year, I finally got to purchasing my copy of Enough to Make You Blush by Princess Kali. Princess Kali is a former dominatrix who published this book as a comprehensive guide for erotic humiliation in its various forms and how to incorporate that into your life whether it is through play scenes or just something to try in the bedroom with a romantic partner. As someone involved in kink for several years it is a great reference to inform you on how to negotiate boundaries and safety plans with a play partner to ensure both of you are protected in the case of unintended harm or crises during a scene. I also like how she breaks down different forms of humiliation, with embarrassment being on the lighter side of the spectrum while degradation is on the more extreme side.
What I did want to highlight for the embarrassment lovers are the chapters she dedicates to nudity. I'm currently working on another Immodest Collection anthology and hit a wall recently with one story. Enough to Make You Blush breaks down all the ways you can incorporate nudity with humiliation and dives into the psychological elements, such as the difference between the presence or absence of an audience with nudity as well as the power dynamics when someone nude is paired with someone who is clothed. When you rope (no pun intended) this in with her other chapters on humiliation such as verbal play, teasing, financial domination, or even chastity play, this book is an excellent source for different forms of embarrassing situations to help you think outside the box.
Despite talking about shame and embarrassment, this book does a great job of normalizing erotic humiliation as a kink. It does not act as a gatekeeper for what is and is not acceptable and contains personal accounts from other kinksters' experiences with erotic humiliation. I know personally for me when I identified "embarrassed nude females" as a kink I did struggle with it as I felt like I was twisted or abnormal in some way. I also wanted to know what it was about this kink that clicked for me. Most of the introspection and processing was done on my own, but I would have loved this book had it been around because I needed to hear that I'm not the only one who finds erotic humiliation sexy. I've recently had followers talk with me about their interest in exploring embarrassment and have asked me where they could find more information. Unfortunately there isn't much out there beyond deviant art and a few specific forums. Enough to Make You Blush is a much needed blessing and while it doesn't specifically cover "embarrassed nude females," it is still a key text that you should check out as you explore your own relationship with erotic embarrassment.
What I did want to highlight for the embarrassment lovers are the chapters she dedicates to nudity. I'm currently working on another Immodest Collection anthology and hit a wall recently with one story. Enough to Make You Blush breaks down all the ways you can incorporate nudity with humiliation and dives into the psychological elements, such as the difference between the presence or absence of an audience with nudity as well as the power dynamics when someone nude is paired with someone who is clothed. When you rope (no pun intended) this in with her other chapters on humiliation such as verbal play, teasing, financial domination, or even chastity play, this book is an excellent source for different forms of embarrassing situations to help you think outside the box.
Despite talking about shame and embarrassment, this book does a great job of normalizing erotic humiliation as a kink. It does not act as a gatekeeper for what is and is not acceptable and contains personal accounts from other kinksters' experiences with erotic humiliation. I know personally for me when I identified "embarrassed nude females" as a kink I did struggle with it as I felt like I was twisted or abnormal in some way. I also wanted to know what it was about this kink that clicked for me. Most of the introspection and processing was done on my own, but I would have loved this book had it been around because I needed to hear that I'm not the only one who finds erotic humiliation sexy. I've recently had followers talk with me about their interest in exploring embarrassment and have asked me where they could find more information. Unfortunately there isn't much out there beyond deviant art and a few specific forums. Enough to Make You Blush is a much needed blessing and while it doesn't specifically cover "embarrassed nude females," it is still a key text that you should check out as you explore your own relationship with erotic embarrassment.
October 10, 2019
I never expected I'd read a book about erotic humiliation. As far as kinks go, I prefer to be the degradER rather than the degradEE. This helped me understand humiliation and degredation in an entirely new way. Not only to understand WHY my partner enjoys being degraded, but also why I might be so twisted as to enjoy doing it. This book covers the more mental or psychological aspects of BDSM rather than the physical. That's right up my alley! I love the "WHY" question.
This book explores Intentionally setting up situations with a partner that make us or them feel embarrassed (in the way they enjoy) or "knocked down a peg" so to speak. These can be cathartic experiences that take us out of our egos and into the present moment. Helps us explore emotions such as shame and guilt and process them in a safe environment that is both pleasurable and loving.
The book also dives into all the different types of humiliation play, from psychological and mental games, to dirty talk and verbal degredation, to piss play and other messy kinks. The quotes from the contributors are also really helpful and placed throughout the book at a good pace.
It was also kind of fun to read this book in public, even if nobody knew I was reading it. For someone that hangs out more in the mental, spiritual, and emotional realms - humiliation play tends to be for more brainy or cerebral types. I got a lot out of this book and recommend it to anyone who wants to understand WHY people are into taboo kinks in general.
This book explores Intentionally setting up situations with a partner that make us or them feel embarrassed (in the way they enjoy) or "knocked down a peg" so to speak. These can be cathartic experiences that take us out of our egos and into the present moment. Helps us explore emotions such as shame and guilt and process them in a safe environment that is both pleasurable and loving.
The book also dives into all the different types of humiliation play, from psychological and mental games, to dirty talk and verbal degredation, to piss play and other messy kinks. The quotes from the contributors are also really helpful and placed throughout the book at a good pace.
It was also kind of fun to read this book in public, even if nobody knew I was reading it. For someone that hangs out more in the mental, spiritual, and emotional realms - humiliation play tends to be for more brainy or cerebral types. I got a lot out of this book and recommend it to anyone who wants to understand WHY people are into taboo kinks in general.
March 11, 2016
Enough to make you blush by Princess Kali is an excellent book on the often misunderstood topic of erotic humiliation play that will be extremely beneficial to both beginners and seasoned practitioners.
In simple straightforward language, the author explains the psychology behind humiliation play, the importance of communication and the various different styles of play. She dispels many of the myths around humiliation play. Overall it's an invaluable source of information for anybody who wishes to learn more.
In simple straightforward language, the author explains the psychology behind humiliation play, the importance of communication and the various different styles of play. She dispels many of the myths around humiliation play. Overall it's an invaluable source of information for anybody who wishes to learn more.
September 23, 2025
Great for someone first getting into exploring this, but not good for experienced players. Princess Kali had an interesting view point that all types of emotional play fell under humiliation, and I disagree with that. Humiliation is a type of play, while objectification, degradation, dehumanization are their own different types of play. Basically Humiliation is not an umbrella term for the above, each kind is it's own umbrella term.
January 29, 2016
Fascinating subject and beyond informative! Survey input and real life experiences on the part of Princess Kali make this a must-own for anyone intrigued by the subject of erotic humiliation, regardless of level of interest or intent to practice. This book would probably make for an excellent resource for professionals aiming to understand their clients and their kinks better as well.
September 5, 2023
Very insightful to deeper understand the variety and depth of erotic humiliation. I learned new ways of thinking about my own kinks, and how to communicate about them in a better way, making it all the more clear and mutually consensual!
August 16, 2018
Good stuff. Inspiring, no judgement, fun to read.
September 9, 2018
Cross posted from my blog
Sex education can be confusing enough on it's own. Enter the world of BDSM and one can become completely lost in the leather, whips, and chains. Of all the dangers in our dark and intimidating culture, psychological play is often overlooked as it causes no physical damage, and yet it requires training like any other tool we use. This type of play is tricky to discuss as it is highly personal and complex; it varies in width and breadth as well as by individual. Despite this, the risks are often underestimated even with the potential to cause as much damage as an untrained single-tail strike. That is why it's so wonderful when one happens upon a gem of a guide such as Princess Kali's book Enough To Make You Blush: Exploring Erotic Humiliation. Princess Kali tackles a myriad of fetishes with apparent ease, imparting wisdom while maintaining a sense of humor.
I first encountered this book while searching for information on frequently requested fetishes that didn't seem to be as popular with the lifestyle crowd, such as financial domination and podophilia. I fell in love with the chapter titles ("This Little Piggy Went to Market, This Little Piggy Sucked Toes: Foot Fetish" and "I Think Your Lampshade is Crying: Objectification & Dehumanization" being my favorites) and knew this was something I needed to read. To me, reading a good book is like eating soul food. Enough To Make You Blush is a soft and chewy chocolate chip cookie. The whole book is delicious, even the beginning and technical parts, and the second half with the individual fetishes is the chewy center. Sprinkled throughout like chocolate chips, Princess Kali has anecdotes, ideas, and suggestions. Also, it's good enough even the vanillas would enjoy.
I jest, but the section on verbal humiliation is worth the read alone. Princess Kali is a former stripper and professional dominatrix--her book is full of advice on how to keep a situation erotically charged even if you have no desire to turn your lover into coat rack. How to tease, play long distance, and various sexual games are included throughout that can be enjoyed by kinksters and vanillas alike. Also, skills that are often untaught in conservative circles are included in the beginning of the book such as negotiation, communication, how to prepare for if things go wrong, and aftercare--all essential no matter how you get off.
For the more adventurous or BDSM crowd, Princess Kali covers titilating topics such as humiliation during sex & masturbation; chastity & orgasm control; sissification & forced feminization; nudity; biological play with bodily fluids and functions; servitude & cleaning; punishment & protocol; and (safely) playing in public. All of those points are covered succinctly, yet with care, providing explanation, instruction, and inspiration. Prior to my life as a ProDomme, I enjoyed reading such subject matter as a fascinating look at the type of eroticism others enjoyed. If you're interested in studying sex from an educational standpoint such as I, you're in for a treat; Princess Kali conveys the pleasurable essence of each theme into every chapter. At the end of the book, for added inspiration and clarity, there's a glossary, activities list, vocabulary list, and additional resources.
Enough To Make You Blush is an excellent read for anyone who's looking to add something to their game from the mild soccer mom to the wild Mommy Domme (fun fact: I just read this for my FemDom bookclub!). Your first step into erotic humiliation is acquiring the book.
Sex education can be confusing enough on it's own. Enter the world of BDSM and one can become completely lost in the leather, whips, and chains. Of all the dangers in our dark and intimidating culture, psychological play is often overlooked as it causes no physical damage, and yet it requires training like any other tool we use. This type of play is tricky to discuss as it is highly personal and complex; it varies in width and breadth as well as by individual. Despite this, the risks are often underestimated even with the potential to cause as much damage as an untrained single-tail strike. That is why it's so wonderful when one happens upon a gem of a guide such as Princess Kali's book Enough To Make You Blush: Exploring Erotic Humiliation. Princess Kali tackles a myriad of fetishes with apparent ease, imparting wisdom while maintaining a sense of humor.
I first encountered this book while searching for information on frequently requested fetishes that didn't seem to be as popular with the lifestyle crowd, such as financial domination and podophilia. I fell in love with the chapter titles ("This Little Piggy Went to Market, This Little Piggy Sucked Toes: Foot Fetish" and "I Think Your Lampshade is Crying: Objectification & Dehumanization" being my favorites) and knew this was something I needed to read. To me, reading a good book is like eating soul food. Enough To Make You Blush is a soft and chewy chocolate chip cookie. The whole book is delicious, even the beginning and technical parts, and the second half with the individual fetishes is the chewy center. Sprinkled throughout like chocolate chips, Princess Kali has anecdotes, ideas, and suggestions. Also, it's good enough even the vanillas would enjoy.
I jest, but the section on verbal humiliation is worth the read alone. Princess Kali is a former stripper and professional dominatrix--her book is full of advice on how to keep a situation erotically charged even if you have no desire to turn your lover into coat rack. How to tease, play long distance, and various sexual games are included throughout that can be enjoyed by kinksters and vanillas alike. Also, skills that are often untaught in conservative circles are included in the beginning of the book such as negotiation, communication, how to prepare for if things go wrong, and aftercare--all essential no matter how you get off.
For the more adventurous or BDSM crowd, Princess Kali covers titilating topics such as humiliation during sex & masturbation; chastity & orgasm control; sissification & forced feminization; nudity; biological play with bodily fluids and functions; servitude & cleaning; punishment & protocol; and (safely) playing in public. All of those points are covered succinctly, yet with care, providing explanation, instruction, and inspiration. Prior to my life as a ProDomme, I enjoyed reading such subject matter as a fascinating look at the type of eroticism others enjoyed. If you're interested in studying sex from an educational standpoint such as I, you're in for a treat; Princess Kali conveys the pleasurable essence of each theme into every chapter. At the end of the book, for added inspiration and clarity, there's a glossary, activities list, vocabulary list, and additional resources.
Enough To Make You Blush is an excellent read for anyone who's looking to add something to their game from the mild soccer mom to the wild Mommy Domme (fun fact: I just read this for my FemDom bookclub!). Your first step into erotic humiliation is acquiring the book.
August 10, 2023
Dla niektórych seks to przeżycie przede wszystkim fizyczne, dla innych najlepszy seks,to ten, który dzieje się w ich głowie. Ta pozycja kierowana jest zdecydowanie do tej drugiej grupy. Autorka, z ogromnym doświadczeniem, na około 200 stronach zmieściła informacje zarówno o absolutnych podstawach (świadoma zgoda, odpowiednia ocena ryzyka, bezwzględna konieczność negocjacji wcześniejszych warunków zabawy), kontekście i zaufaniu, ale przedstawiła także konkretne scenariusze scen, które można wypróbować. Mówi o stopniowaniu zabaw i o tym, że nie ma gotowych rozwiązań, które zadowoliłyby wszystkich. W pełni przyjmuje także absurdalność (w pozytywnym sensie) tego typu aktywności, podkreślając jednocześnie, że dla niektórych tego mogą miec wartość terapeutyczną (ale w żadnym wypadku nie są terapią).
Mam wrażenie jednak, że niektóre rozdziały prześlizgują się dość mocno po powierzchni i przydałoby im się delikatne rozbudowanie.
Mam wrażenie jednak, że niektóre rozdziały prześlizgują się dość mocno po powierzchni i przydałoby im się delikatne rozbudowanie.
November 20, 2023
Princess Kali's ideas about how to engage in public humiliation are incompatible with what I consider ethical and acceptable behavior in front of non-consenting parties. I find it odd that she acknowledges that it is wrong to engage in such acts, but then gleefully describes a scenario in Las Vegas where a sub is walked on a leash like a dog, and a pair of passerby's asks if it is a sexual act. Clearly, this goes against Princess Kali's own suggestions about not doing anything explicitly sexual in front of uninvolved passerby's. What an odd thing to be inconsistent about. There are so many other ways to publicly humiliate someone, and Princess Kali failed to prioritize featuring acts that fall into RACK guidelines.
March 11, 2025
Great book!
Approachable for newcomers and those looking to expand their horizons, full of ideas to pick and choose from, and the anecdotes were presented in an empathetic way (sometimes with these topics I’ve seen anecdotes presented in a mocking tone, kink-shaming like, “get a load of this weirdo - can you imagine?” and this was definitely not it.)
I skipped over the basic parts, but overall I learned a lot, just what I was looking for!
Approachable for newcomers and those looking to expand their horizons, full of ideas to pick and choose from, and the anecdotes were presented in an empathetic way (sometimes with these topics I’ve seen anecdotes presented in a mocking tone, kink-shaming like, “get a load of this weirdo - can you imagine?” and this was definitely not it.)
I skipped over the basic parts, but overall I learned a lot, just what I was looking for!
March 21, 2019
Lots of great ideas
If you're very experienced then this probably isn't the book for you. Much of what is in this book will have already been done by someone in the lifestyle for a while. However, if you're like my wife and me and new to this or just want to expand your horizons into it then this book is great. Lots of great ideas and tips for every ideas she introduces.
If you're very experienced then this probably isn't the book for you. Much of what is in this book will have already been done by someone in the lifestyle for a while. However, if you're like my wife and me and new to this or just want to expand your horizons into it then this book is great. Lots of great ideas and tips for every ideas she introduces.
January 24, 2023
For those of us already familiar with kink or those who are curious this book offers a lot of insight and touches on the subject we might overlook or forget all together. This book has definitely taught me new and improved ways about kink of itself.
March 21, 2025
Very thorough, engaging, with loads of creative practical ideas, which is rather rare when it comes to psychological play. Addresses what can go wrong, too, which is important and often left unadressed.
August 8, 2019
Great discriptive work about humiliation with the humor from Kali.
June 11, 2020
Fun to read and super informative!
August 17, 2021
Really helpful, we got everything from 101 basics to more advanced ideas to play. A book ready to take notes and keep it close to refence.
November 10, 2022
A very interesting and insightful look into the art and science of erotic humiliation. Worth a read for the sexually curious out there.
March 24, 2024
This is a helpful and well written book on helping a top or domme with humiliation.
I have to admit to not finishing it though. My sub decided, humiliation is not his things after all, 😆
On to the next book. But I still recommend this as a helpful resource if you want to investigate humiliation more throughly.
I have to admit to not finishing it though. My sub decided, humiliation is not his things after all, 😆
On to the next book. But I still recommend this as a helpful resource if you want to investigate humiliation more throughly.
December 30, 2023
Part of it is fun, like 20% of the book which is related to the psychology of erotic humiliation and verbal and mental play. The remaining, and I am not kink shaming anyone, is just disgusting and ewww anyone who feels the need for that needs to visits a therapist asap.
June 30, 2024
Truly excellent introduction and overview of erotic humilitation. Princess Kali has such an approachable and clear writing style.
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