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Fuel : What Makes the Narcissist Function?
Are you involved with someone whose behaviour makes no sense to you? Does this person treat you with kindness one moment and spiteful hatred the next? Does this individual flirt with others despite being in a relationship with you? Is he or she boastful, arrogant and always fishing for compliments? Does this person seem to revel in provoking other people, angering them or upsetting them, yet you cannot work out why this person acts in this way? The answers lie in this book. The driving force behind these strange and upsetting behaviours all comes down to fuel. Read about what fuel is, how it makes that person feel, why they need it, how they get it and what your role is in supplying them with fuel. Learn all about fuel and you will question his or her behaviour no longer and you will be armed with information to do something about it and protect yourself and those you care about.
107 pages, Kindle Edition
Published December 2, 2015
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June 2, 2017
Thanks for sharing.
A very valuable resource for empaths who want to fix the narcissist. We realize quickly how foolish that line of thinking is with a toxic evil doer.
A very valuable resource for empaths who want to fix the narcissist. We realize quickly how foolish that line of thinking is with a toxic evil doer.
February 12, 2017
I gave this five stars not because the content is so lovely and wonderful, but because it is so spot-on concerning how a narcissist thinks. I have offered a more detailed rating on my Amazon account, but I will say here that the only thing I had against all of the books I read by this author is he assumes that everyone is victim if they are not a narcissist. I don't quite agree.
I'm sure that as it is possible to provide a narcissist with the 'fuel' they require to function, whether you intended to or not, the difference in being a victim and someone who has simply contributed to their fuel intake is whether or not the person being de-fueled is aware and not affected by the process. Someone might draw 'fuel' from you in a given day or situation, but if you can help yourself come to a place of wholeness, then the fuel that is taken from you doesn't have to be fuel that is non-replaceable.
This book is incredibly informative, but...definitely not for the faint of heart. Be prepared for some hard truths, but let it drive you (if you are the co-dependent) to wholeness and not despair. There IS hope. Whether this author admits to it or not.
I'm sure that as it is possible to provide a narcissist with the 'fuel' they require to function, whether you intended to or not, the difference in being a victim and someone who has simply contributed to their fuel intake is whether or not the person being de-fueled is aware and not affected by the process. Someone might draw 'fuel' from you in a given day or situation, but if you can help yourself come to a place of wholeness, then the fuel that is taken from you doesn't have to be fuel that is non-replaceable.
This book is incredibly informative, but...definitely not for the faint of heart. Be prepared for some hard truths, but let it drive you (if you are the co-dependent) to wholeness and not despair. There IS hope. Whether this author admits to it or not.
September 1, 2018
A highly informative book that explains how the narcissist functions, and what motivates their behavior the most.
March 11, 2017
I feel sick from reading this book. Why would anyone want to live this way? Peace onto everyone.
November 8, 2017
What is a narcissist?
Who are them?
How are them?
Do they behave in any particular fashion?
Is there anything wrong with them?
Why do they screw up with with absolutely ANYONE they get involved with?
And more importandly,
WHY EVERYONE LOOKS AT ME SO PUZZLED WHEN I TELL THEM HOW MY EX BEHAVED?!
I loathe narcs, however, HG Tudor is the only narc I respect. He shrewedly decided to make a profitable hobby of sharing his insights right from the heart of Evil with everyone who was ever abused, manipulated, lied to or simply fooled by the insidious mask of a narc. Being a sociopath himself, HG Tudor is a keen observer of his kind and is able to recognise (and expose) all patterns of behaviour, speech, 'catchy phrasing' and net of lies narcissists have at display. Highly recommended.
Who are them?
How are them?
Do they behave in any particular fashion?
Is there anything wrong with them?
Why do they screw up with with absolutely ANYONE they get involved with?
And more importandly,
WHY EVERYONE LOOKS AT ME SO PUZZLED WHEN I TELL THEM HOW MY EX BEHAVED?!
I loathe narcs, however, HG Tudor is the only narc I respect. He shrewedly decided to make a profitable hobby of sharing his insights right from the heart of Evil with everyone who was ever abused, manipulated, lied to or simply fooled by the insidious mask of a narc. Being a sociopath himself, HG Tudor is a keen observer of his kind and is able to recognise (and expose) all patterns of behaviour, speech, 'catchy phrasing' and net of lies narcissists have at display. Highly recommended.
February 20, 2021
A book about narcissism written by a narcissist; you can imagine the amount of insight but also the amount of ego-boosting and repetition that makes it at points difficult to get through. Nevertheless, worth the read.
July 26, 2016
Have you ever wondered why petty tyrants do what they do? By that I mean, strangers or acquaintances who act out for no reason, or distant relatives whom you only meet at weddings, how they engage in relational aggression out of nowhere?
relational aggression = trying to diminish you in in some way.
One can understand the jealousy or envy of someone close, but its hard to fathom the relational aggression of strangers.
At the heart of all of that is a feeling of inferiority and a desire for gaining the upper hand by becoming petty tyrants!
Petty, is the key word.
People whose stature is a few inches, can feel like giants, when they gain vulgar delights by engaging in relational aggression. If you read this book, you'd be amazed, how big these relational aggression gestures, make the diseased heart/s feel.
Because diseased hearts can't part with money, ever, so they can never know the blessings that comes from giving, sharing and caring. Blessings, which would increase their miniscule stature manifold! Instead, these diseased hearts satisfy themselves with momentary cheap thrills and vulgar delights.
relational aggression = trying to diminish you in in some way.
One can understand the jealousy or envy of someone close, but its hard to fathom the relational aggression of strangers.
At the heart of all of that is a feeling of inferiority and a desire for gaining the upper hand by becoming petty tyrants!
Petty, is the key word.
People whose stature is a few inches, can feel like giants, when they gain vulgar delights by engaging in relational aggression. If you read this book, you'd be amazed, how big these relational aggression gestures, make the diseased heart/s feel.
Because diseased hearts can't part with money, ever, so they can never know the blessings that comes from giving, sharing and caring. Blessings, which would increase their miniscule stature manifold! Instead, these diseased hearts satisfy themselves with momentary cheap thrills and vulgar delights.
December 5, 2020
I wish I had this book when my first male friend started to turn into completely another being after confessing his feelings to me. This could have prevented so many years of misery, not to mention saving the money spent on therapy.
December 31, 2017
Excellent Read
Very interesting book. Makes you question your entire relationship with this type of a person. I plan to read more of this author's book. So far he is the best I have read on this topic.
Very interesting book. Makes you question your entire relationship with this type of a person. I plan to read more of this author's book. So far he is the best I have read on this topic.
October 2, 2019
Brilliant !!
Brilliant and enlightening! This is an excellent read. Written from his perspective, gives an insight that could not be fathomed by my kind until I read this. Will read more work by the author!
Brilliant and enlightening! This is an excellent read. Written from his perspective, gives an insight that could not be fathomed by my kind until I read this. Will read more work by the author!
July 5, 2024
Un libro muy interesante para entender un poco del funcionamiento de la mente de un narcisista.
El autor, bajo el seudónimo de H.G. Tudor, desgloza punto por punto el concepto de "suministro narcisista", tratado en el libre simplemente como "combustible". Con ejemplos de su vida cotidiana; tablas de valores, muy novedosas, por cierto; e incluso discusiones propias con su psicólogo, dentro de la cual, no deja de buscar su "combustible" en ningún momento.
He estado leyendo por las reseñas que mucha gente se siente mal leyendo este libro. Y los entiendo en verdad, la manera de escribir del autor, tan impasible frente a varias aberraciones que narra y que serían un martirio para toda persona mínimamente """empática""". Aún así, no entiendo las críticas que se siguen cuestionando las razones de la forma de actuar del narcisista, cuando el autor las contesta en varios pasajes de este mismo libro que reseñan. En fin.
Seguiré leyendo más del autor. Abrazo.
El autor, bajo el seudónimo de H.G. Tudor, desgloza punto por punto el concepto de "suministro narcisista", tratado en el libre simplemente como "combustible". Con ejemplos de su vida cotidiana; tablas de valores, muy novedosas, por cierto; e incluso discusiones propias con su psicólogo, dentro de la cual, no deja de buscar su "combustible" en ningún momento.
He estado leyendo por las reseñas que mucha gente se siente mal leyendo este libro. Y los entiendo en verdad, la manera de escribir del autor, tan impasible frente a varias aberraciones que narra y que serían un martirio para toda persona mínimamente """empática""". Aún así, no entiendo las críticas que se siguen cuestionando las razones de la forma de actuar del narcisista, cuando el autor las contesta en varios pasajes de este mismo libro que reseñan. En fin.
Seguiré leyendo más del autor. Abrazo.
August 2, 2021
De lectura muy recomendada, dada la gran cantidad de información que arroja a cerca de estas personalidades que pueden convertir tu vida en un infierno. Su autor, HG Tudor, quién se define como narcicista nos desvelará y ayudará a entender su funcionamiento, el modo que tienen de obtener su sustento, dándonos las claves para lograr identificarlos, distanciarnos y escapar de su perverso comportamiento.
August 31, 2023
I really needed to understand what I was dealing with.
This book helped me make the nightmare end.
This book helped me make the nightmare end.
October 6, 2023
A fascinating break down of what makes a human with a psychological makeup wholly different from mine to function. Indispensable for knowing the narcissist!
June 21, 2024
Spot on!
April 20, 2026
A look into the mindset of a narcissist, told by a narcissist. I found this book very insightful, though definitely a little off-putting in its writing and the way the author refers to fellow narcissists as “his kind and him” and to other people occasionally as appliances. Though the writing choices plus the immense amount of typos are what make me feel confident I’m probably getting the real deal in reading this book.
So like a lot of people who’ve picked up this book I’m sure, I’ve been on my little healing kick, trying to work out my confusion and stirring thoughts and feelings after an emotionally abusive relationship. This is the third book I’ve read for that. I started with Lundy Bancroft’s Why Does He Do That?, followed by Emma Rose Byham’s Was It Even Abuse?, and now this one. And let me tell you, I don’t think I could’ve picked a better order to read these in if I tried. Bancroft’s book was definitely what I needed for the biggest shot of clarity and working out what happened in the beginning, and Byham’s helped ground my thoughts in the present and on myself. But still I was left with this lingering feeling of, okay, I get generally why he did that, but what the hell was actually running through his mind in the moment? Because some of that shit just felt like more trouble than it could’ve possibly been worth, right? I felt like there was some part of the puzzle that I was still missing. But this book really put it all into place for me, and 9 points from a 1 proximity source to Tudor because this shit was exactly what I needed when I needed it, and I gotta thank the author for putting it into words. I’ve been watching tiktoks from other diagnosed narcissists to get the idea, but this book really knocked it out of the park way further than any of the videos I’ve seen before.
Would recommend for anyone else with those lingering questions who suspects someone in their life may be a narcissist, or is just interested in how narcissists think in general (or at least this one, or at least how he claims narcissist think — there’s not much psychology to prove the claims, but at the very least it gives something to think about). I’m putting an asterisk to that for abuse survivors though because, due to the previously mentioned uncomfortable and de-humanizing tone, I wouldn’t suggest this as a very ~first~ read, but as a second or third. Again, is it true to every narcissists’ experience? Maybe not, but this book might at least help some people stop ruminating so much, as it did for me.
Originally reviewed April 2024, edited grammar + later thoughts April 2026
So like a lot of people who’ve picked up this book I’m sure, I’ve been on my little healing kick, trying to work out my confusion and stirring thoughts and feelings after an emotionally abusive relationship. This is the third book I’ve read for that. I started with Lundy Bancroft’s Why Does He Do That?, followed by Emma Rose Byham’s Was It Even Abuse?, and now this one. And let me tell you, I don’t think I could’ve picked a better order to read these in if I tried. Bancroft’s book was definitely what I needed for the biggest shot of clarity and working out what happened in the beginning, and Byham’s helped ground my thoughts in the present and on myself. But still I was left with this lingering feeling of, okay, I get generally why he did that, but what the hell was actually running through his mind in the moment? Because some of that shit just felt like more trouble than it could’ve possibly been worth, right? I felt like there was some part of the puzzle that I was still missing. But this book really put it all into place for me, and 9 points from a 1 proximity source to Tudor because this shit was exactly what I needed when I needed it, and I gotta thank the author for putting it into words. I’ve been watching tiktoks from other diagnosed narcissists to get the idea, but this book really knocked it out of the park way further than any of the videos I’ve seen before.
Would recommend for anyone else with those lingering questions who suspects someone in their life may be a narcissist, or is just interested in how narcissists think in general (or at least this one, or at least how he claims narcissist think — there’s not much psychology to prove the claims, but at the very least it gives something to think about). I’m putting an asterisk to that for abuse survivors though because, due to the previously mentioned uncomfortable and de-humanizing tone, I wouldn’t suggest this as a very ~first~ read, but as a second or third. Again, is it true to every narcissists’ experience? Maybe not, but this book might at least help some people stop ruminating so much, as it did for me.
Originally reviewed April 2024, edited grammar + later thoughts April 2026
August 1, 2023
Brilliant!
Takes you inside the mind of the predator.After reading this book,predators won't be a mystery to you.Once you understand the mind of the predator you will be able to handle them a lot better.Because If you know the enemy and know yourself, you need not fear the result of a hundred battles. If you know yourself but not the enemy, for every victory gained you will also suffer a defeat. If you know neither the enemy nor yourself, you will succumb in every battle.
a must read!
Takes you inside the mind of the predator.After reading this book,predators won't be a mystery to you.Once you understand the mind of the predator you will be able to handle them a lot better.Because If you know the enemy and know yourself, you need not fear the result of a hundred battles. If you know yourself but not the enemy, for every victory gained you will also suffer a defeat. If you know neither the enemy nor yourself, you will succumb in every battle.
a must read!
April 27, 2021
Deeply valuable insights.
It's scary how narcissists have no caring for others' well-being whatsoever, and only use them for fuel to the extreme extent that they do.
This book is extremely valuable to read.
It's scary how narcissists have no caring for others' well-being whatsoever, and only use them for fuel to the extreme extent that they do.
This book is extremely valuable to read.
December 3, 2021
AMAZING
This book truly gives the insight. My ex was textbook, and this book triggered flashbacks of what he would do when HG was giving examples or explaining. Truly amazing.
This book truly gives the insight. My ex was textbook, and this book triggered flashbacks of what he would do when HG was giving examples or explaining. Truly amazing.
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