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Stop Reacting and Start Responding: 108 Ways to Discipline Consciously and Become the Parent You Want to Be
Stop Reacting and Start Responding is a no-nonsense, reality-based book written so parents can easily locate the situation they're facing, read the suggested new perspective and method, then immediately take action to address whatever situation is unfolding. The book takes an honest, realistic look at the emotions produced for both parent and child as they face the every day events that happen when raising young children. The new perspective outlined in this book inspires the calmness and clarity needed to create the boundaries necessary to teach children about their behavior."
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236 pages, Paperback
First published January 1, 2011
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January 4, 2012
I read around in this and I like some of the ideas, but I think it will be more useful in another year or two. I plan to come back to it.
September 24, 2015
should be great
April 5, 2016
Some great ideas to try. Might be better for younger kids but I'll give her approach a try! I already used her tip for lying and how to get to the truth and it worked magically.
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August 8, 2024I knew that I was destined to be a mommy, but also realized that this little baby was pretty complex and hadn’t come with an instruction manual! So I’ve been reading all kinds of books and magazines on parenting, babies, kids, so on and so forth, ever since.
Of all the hot button parenting topics, I think that discipline is one of the hottest! Everyone has their way of doing it and thinks that they’re right–even when it’s obviously not working! I myself have been blessed with two very wonderful, VERY different children. Amber is my sweet, easy, tenderhearted cuddlebug. Tyler is my loud, crazy, temper filled, enthusiastic, energetic bundle of fire.
Especially with Tyler I’m willing to get any discipline tips that I can find, so I was particularly interested in reading Stop Reacting and Start Responding. This is an excellent book! Our family is extremely conservative and fairly strict, so I was worried that the book might be filled with new age-y solutions and suggestions that I couldn’t or wouldn’t apply to our family. This is not the case at all!
Although there were a select few points I didn’t agree with, the overwhelming majority of the book was either things I absolutely agree with and already do, or great suggestions I can’t wait to try! I especially loved the “either…..or” statements. With both Tyler and Amber I tend to either over lecture about something or send them to punishment without making sure they know what it’s for–assuming that they should. I used the either….or on Amber all day yesterday and it worked wonders! I thought it would be above Tyler’s level but he even listened and responded about half of the times I used it for him. For example I told him, “Either you need to stop yelling for your food or you can wait for it longer.” He quieted up right away! I like it for me too, as hearing myself say it reinforces the wrong doing and the correction, which then calls for immediate follow through.
For Amber I caught her running through the house (right after I’d told her that if she wanted to she needed to go do it in her room) I made her stop and asked her, “What were you just doing?” She answered, “Running” I then asked, “What did I tell you about that?” She said, “That I had to do it in my room.” I asked, “So were you obeying me?” She then said, “No.” I was great to see *her* coming to the realization of what had happened and admit that she had been doing wrong. It was like I could see those little wheels in her head turning. And we didn’t have a problem with it for the rest of the night!
I will most definitely be recommending this book to all my mommy friends! I have seen several of them spinning their wheels and following the exact patterns layed out in the book and I’m excited to have something to point them towards. I love how you can use the suggestions and make them work for however you are raising your family!
Of all the hot button parenting topics, I think that discipline is one of the hottest! Everyone has their way of doing it and thinks that they’re right–even when it’s obviously not working! I myself have been blessed with two very wonderful, VERY different children. Amber is my sweet, easy, tenderhearted cuddlebug. Tyler is my loud, crazy, temper filled, enthusiastic, energetic bundle of fire.
Especially with Tyler I’m willing to get any discipline tips that I can find, so I was particularly interested in reading Stop Reacting and Start Responding. This is an excellent book! Our family is extremely conservative and fairly strict, so I was worried that the book might be filled with new age-y solutions and suggestions that I couldn’t or wouldn’t apply to our family. This is not the case at all!
Although there were a select few points I didn’t agree with, the overwhelming majority of the book was either things I absolutely agree with and already do, or great suggestions I can’t wait to try! I especially loved the “either…..or” statements. With both Tyler and Amber I tend to either over lecture about something or send them to punishment without making sure they know what it’s for–assuming that they should. I used the either….or on Amber all day yesterday and it worked wonders! I thought it would be above Tyler’s level but he even listened and responded about half of the times I used it for him. For example I told him, “Either you need to stop yelling for your food or you can wait for it longer.” He quieted up right away! I like it for me too, as hearing myself say it reinforces the wrong doing and the correction, which then calls for immediate follow through.
For Amber I caught her running through the house (right after I’d told her that if she wanted to she needed to go do it in her room) I made her stop and asked her, “What were you just doing?” She answered, “Running” I then asked, “What did I tell you about that?” She said, “That I had to do it in my room.” I asked, “So were you obeying me?” She then said, “No.” I was great to see *her* coming to the realization of what had happened and admit that she had been doing wrong. It was like I could see those little wheels in her head turning. And we didn’t have a problem with it for the rest of the night!
I will most definitely be recommending this book to all my mommy friends! I have seen several of them spinning their wheels and following the exact patterns layed out in the book and I’m excited to have something to point them towards. I love how you can use the suggestions and make them work for however you are raising your family!
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