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Dealing with Relatives: Your Guide to Successful Family Relationships

Name: Dealing with Relatives: Your Guide to Successful Family Relationships
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Rick Brinkman, Rick Kirschner

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You can admit it: whether you love your relatives or hate them, they can really push your buttons. Holidays and get-togethers can be stressful, even painful. Imagine if you could change things. Yes you can!

The experts behind the international bestselling book (25 languages and over 2 million copies) Dealing with People You Can't Stand are here, and they know how to deal with any kind of relative, no matter how things have been in the past. With their great advice and good humor, Drs. Rick and Rick will teach you how to prevent showing up from turning into a showdown.

Recognize someone?
* The Meddler
* The General
* The Martyr
* The Rebel
* The Judge
* The VIP
* The Pleaser
* The Mystery

...they're all here, and Drs. Rick and Rick have done the impossible: they've figured them out!

In their fun-to-read lighthearted style you will find sections filled with insights, anecdotes, and cartoons, you'll not only find out what's behind your relatives difficult behavior, but how to respond effectively. You'll feel the weight lift from your shoulders as you turn excruciating into an exhilarating visit.

In Dealing with Relatives you will learn:
• 8 proven strategies to change your reactions and defuse your triggers to anybody and anything
• The Rules of Non-Engagement for family gatherings
• The Obligation Checklist to free yourself from obligation and resentment
• The 4 strategies to disrupt Guilt trips, how to; Strip it, Flip it, Snip it and Nip it in the bud
• How to defuse explosive situations and avoid conflict when relatives trigger strong emotions
• To be a Kung-Gu Master at deflecting criticism
• The Art of the Apology, how get someone to finally let go of the past and move on
• Clarify your Magic Numbers of Geography, Frequency and Time
• How to get relatives to stop meddling
• Deal with one-ups-manship
• The 10 qualities of a great relative so you can be one yourself.

You will also get specific step-by-step proven strategies to deal the top 8 difficult behaviors.
• The General: When the General feels responsible, then like it or not, commands are issued and compliance is expected
• The Judge: The Judge sets a standard that no one can meet, then pronounces judgment along with a running commentary of criticism.
• The Pleaser: The helpful and pleasant Pleaser, often smiling on the outside while hurting on the inside, attends to everyone’s needs to the neglect of their own.
• The VIP: The V(ery) I(nsecure) P(erson) boasts, brags and belittles when needing to feel special.
• The Meddler: The Meddler thinks they know what’s best for you. So they use unwanted questions and advice, to try to manage your life.
• The Martyr: The Martyr is a needy giver, giving gifts whether you want them or not. Each one comes with an obligation.
• The Rebel: The Rebel holds others responsible for their own feelings of insignificance and explosiveness.
• The Mystery Person: When someone feeling like an outsider gets far enough outside, they become a Mystery to those on the inside.

Dealing With Relatives arms you with the skills you need to turn any family occasion into one you'll want to remember.

In printed form this book is 287 pages of strategies, tips and techniques presented in the easy to read light-hearted manner for which these authors are famous.

Dr. Rick Brinkman and Dr. Rick Kirschner are authors and speakers who have performed over 4000 programs in 18 countries.

GenresSelf Help

402 pages, Kindle Edition

First published October 17, 2002