Sassy, Single, and Satisfied: Secrets to Loving the Life You're Living

by Michelle McKinney Hammond

Written especially for single women, this user–friendly devotional helps individuals searching to understand their place in the world draw closer to the true Lover of their soul. Beststelling author Michelle McKinney Hammond combines usable scriptural principles for daily living with inspirational stories, quotes, and personal experiences of life, love, and men. Readers will find assurance that their singleness is to be embraced, celebrated, and used as a time to grow closer to the Lord. They will also discover how to... With her humorous, tell–it–like–it–is style, Michelle connects with readers and shares the fulfillment she has found in Christ.

Genres: Christian, Self Help, Christianity, Nonfiction, Relationships

176 pages, Paperback

First published January 1, 2003

About the author

From her official website:

As a bestselling author, speaker, singer and television co-host, Michelle has authored over 30 books (selling over one million copies worldwide), including best-selling titles The Diva Principle, Sassy, Single and Satisfied, 101 Ways to Get and Keep His Attention, and Secrets of an Irresistible Woman. A gifted vocalist, Michelle has recorded two CD’s, It’s Amazing and Let’s Go In and co-hosted the Emmy Award-winning television talk show Aspiring Women.

She has appeared on countless television shows including Bill Maher’s Politically Incorrect, E Channel’s “Soap Talk,” NBC’s The Other Half, The 700 Club, and BET’s Oh Drama! as well as a regular relationship segment on WGN Morning News. She has graced the cover of magazines such as Today’s Christian Woman Precious Times, The Plain Truth and Gospel Today. She has been a contributing writer for Spirit Led Woman, Discipleship Journal and has been featured in articles in Shine, Essence, Ebony, Jet, Black Enterprise Magazine, The Chicago Tribune, The Associated Press and The New York Times.

Following several successful years in an award-winning advertising career as an art director/writer/producer (her clients included Coca-Cola USA, McDonald’s, Procter and Gamble, GMC and Ford Motor Company), Michelle suffered a devastating leg injury after being hit by a car. For her the accident was a spiritual turning point, a wake up call to embrace her purpose and fulfill her destiny. These bedridden months gave birth to her first bestseller, “What to Do Until Love Finds You.” Since then Michelle has emerged as a highly-respected author, speaker and singer, reaching a diverse audience nationally and internationally. Crossing denominational lines, addressing secular audiences, as well as addressing men and women from every walk of life, Michelle is known for “keeping it real.” She addresses real-life issues with candor and wit, and the hard questions with sensitivity and empathy. This merits her reputation as a relationship and life empowerment coach, crossing the great divide and sharing keys that lead to reconciliation between the sexes.

Michelle’s underlying message is “get yourself in spiritual order and your natural life will come together.” Her passion is to give relevant and workable solutions to people’s questions based in timeless spiritual truths. Sharing solid, effective principles that will help her audience to navigate through the journey of life and reach the ultimate destination of living and loving to their fullest potential.

Reviews

[Jennifer Tse · Rating 5 out of 5]

This is the best Christian single book I read so far!!! Michelle is so funny and tell you all about Christian singleness for women in a gentle, creative, and direct way. I feel like she is my friend and sister in Christ after reading this book! :-) She explains why having God as the Lover of our Souls is enough while we are single.

Each chapter is only about 2 pages with 65 chapters. I finished reading this in 3 days. Extremely creative chapters are "The Menu of Life," which explains life choices in a real menu that actually looks like a menu: appetizers, entrees, dessert, beverages, and side dishes. It also include "Love Notes from God," which every single Christian lady should read.

My Favorite Quote:
"Love is not a feeling, it is a decision...
It is not love that makes relationships last.
Rather, it is commitment to the commitment we've made.
Therefore, give thought to making promises, lest you break them, and destroy the work of your own hands..." P.94

"What You Want: Someone godly, handsome, charismatic, successful, intelligent, a good sense of humor, romantic, and interesting.

What You Need: Someone who love, hears, and obeys God. Someone honest and sensitive. Someone responsible. Someone consistent. Someone hardworking. Someone who wants to be a husband and a family man. Someone who loves and cherishes you above everything but God."

[Laura · Rating 1 out of 5]

I think maybe I am satisfied being single and I don't really put my life on hold waiting for my husband. So reading through this book kind of irritated me. I kept thinking it'd get better or more interesting, so I skimmed the last 1/3.

[Crystal Miller · Rating 1 out of 5]

Truly Inspirational, Practical but Lacks Biblical Context and Actual Biblical Advice.

What I Loved:
🔴 Simplicity in reading, not to hard to understand what the author is trying to convey to the reader.

🔴The Prompts were simple to read.

What I Hated:
🔴I tried to finish this book, I really did! I wanted to like it, because of the great reviews and prompts from the book. But the day by day scriptures and prompts lacked biblical context that's EXTREMELY necessary when giving biblical advice to Christian Single Women and Non Religious Single Women.

🔴Not giving scripture that actually has to do with the prompt of choice, but instead are giving "what I think this scripture says" or "this is what God stated to me in secret" or "the inspirational lesson to take from this", leads to heresy, false doctrine, frustration, exploitation, unbiblical and unfruitful works and advice that will work for one woman, but not work for All Women, because it's YOUR OWN ADVICE and not what scripture says to specifically give to encourage, edify, and strengthen Single Christian Woman.


Closing Thoughts:

🔴This is kinda no different than Benny Hinn giving his advice in books on how to get rich from being "inspired" by scripture and writing a book to those who are poor or in debt. Mr. Hinn says "this worked for me and other Christians, therefore it'll work for you! Just follow my instructions that I was inspired by from scripture and the Holy Spirit". Mr. Hinn is not actually going into scripture and giving what the Bible in context says what to do if in debt. He's giving what HE, BENNY HINN believes is going to work for you by his own EXPERIENCE and TESTIMONY from other Christians that followed it.

🔴So many Christians and non religious people have been harmed or turned away from Christianity from being given inspirational advice, but not actual advice that stems from scripture.

🔴 Scripture points out that even if a person who proclaims they come from God, gives you advice, performs miracles and your blessed from it, but they aren't teaching, preaching, or believing God's words and encouraging you to sin, and follow what their doing. ITS NOT GOD NOR FROM GOD. Its Satan and Demons performing those miracles to keep you decived. We are test every person to see if their from God, because not every person who says their from God are genuinely from Him. We are to renew our mind by scripture, so we know and obey God's word.

🔴I would encourage NO CHRISTIAN SINGLE MEN OR WOMEN OR NON RELIGIOUS SINGLE MEN OR WOMEN to read this book. It's to reliant on personal experience, opinion, and not on specifically what the scripture text, in it's context is actually saying.

[Onyealilam Priscilla · Rating 2 out of 5]

This book is definitely an inspiration from God. I don't read books but this one just kept on calling me. I actually saw it at a friends house, went through the introduction and that was all I became hungry and thirsty over the book. I'm not done reading it yet but I'm drowned in the book. I've never been into any relationship and I'm 21. Friends keep telling me I won't get married if I don't get entangled and sometimes I feel like I'm doing the wrong thing by being single. But this book has made me know I'm on the right track. Its my first and definitely my best book. God bless you Michelle.

[Kimron · Rating 4 out of 5]

If you're single and in desperation of significant other. Perhaps it is the feeling of loneliness you're experiencing. Then this book is for you. In "Sassy, Single and Satisfied" Michelle provides effective and truthful experiences of her single life curated and formed in methods. These methods are very spiritual and 100% down to earth. You will learn how to be content with Gods plans for you. By the time you're done reading this book you will what it means to be sassy, single and satisfied.

[Sabrina Sims Foster · Rating 5 out of 5]

Her Gifts & Purpose are superbly presented in every work she's written and every show and event she's done. I went to one of her speaking/book signing events and hearing her speaking voice made all of her books seem Audible! Her "Spoken Word" segments are sooo verrry moving, passionate, funny, and Always richly thought provoking.

[Dana · Rating 5 out of 5]

Spiritual Sass

Great read! I would recommend this book to all women especially those that are single. The author keeps it real and provides the blue print to live a satisfied, joyful life.

[Karrah Epperson · Rating 5 out of 5]

I highly recommend this book to all my fellow followers of Christ, male as well as female. At times the information is mind blowing. The long and short of it is, get your life and relationship with Christ where it needs to be. That is the only way to have a full and satisfying life. God bless.

[Bonnie Smith · Rating 5 out of 5]

I simply Love this book!!!

[Tolu Areje · Rating 5 out of 5]

Love this

Great book, loved the fact that the Bible was used as a reference to start every chapter. This book is a great guide to being a Single, Sassy and Satisfied woman.

[Emily · Rating 5 out of 5]

I love this book and finished it in 3 days! It was such an easy read and I loved her writing style! Definitely recommend! This is a book that I will be passing onto my friends.

[Raquel Lynne · Rating 5 out of 5]

Loved

A must read. I feel better having read this. All biblically based, a true blessing. Thank you for the word!

[Denise Reed · Rating 4 out of 5]

Short chapters reminded me of a devotional. Offered good advice on how to be happy while single. I wish chapters were combined in a section or longer

[Maria Lonty · Rating 5 out of 5]

It was such a great read,I finished reading this book feeling fulfilled with so much joy and excited to know God more as a lover.

[Shauna · Rating 5 out of 5]

Devotions are not too long and they are perfect for singles.

[Adedoyin Adesanya · Rating 5 out of 5]

Valuable Lessons
She placed emphasis on: Setting your priorities here
• Having a good relationship with God: Learn how to personalize the word for yourself in order to get instruction from it. to be a happy person is to have contentment, thou we all have standards we want to attain or achieve in life, but all those that seem to have it all are still miserable, because after all is said and done, our relationship with God and the Trust we have in his promises are what truly sustains us. Through the good, the bad and the ugly. His word is the foundation of our peace and fulfillment
• Loving yourself: A woman at peace with God, content with life, full of love and free of desperation attracts a good man. It starts and ends with us. Most of us just go to work, church and home. That is not living life. That’s going through the motions of an empty existence, break your normal routine. Don’t wait for anyone else. Get a life, be a pioneer. Get out there and live it up.
• Defining what love is: Love is not an emotion but a decision. Love is a commitment to stand firm and endure, support, nurture and cover the object of our affections no matter what. Even when the feelings have dies, the commitment to love remains.
• It takes a man that is committed to God to be committed to you: What we want; someone godly, handsome and charismatic, successful, intelligent, with a good sense of humor, romantic, and interesting. What you need; someone who loves hears and obeys God, honest and sensitive, responsible, consistent, hardworking, who wants to be a husband and a family man and someone who loves and cherishes you above everything about God.Want to keep a man? Keep the garden gate locked until he has committed in the sight of witnesses to tending all that the garden holds. You are bound to whomever your body belongs to and indulging in sexual intimacy is your choice, you do damage to yourself. You are not alone in the house called your body.
• Don’t Compromise your values for a man: Make up your mind not to be bound to any man until he has made the commitment to be bonded to you in marriage. UNTIL THEN WALK LIKE A WELL-KEPT WOMAN WHO UNDERSTANDS THAT HER BODY BELONGS TO A KING AND KNOWS NO ONE IS DESERVING OF HER CROWN JEWELS UNTIL THEY HAVE PAID THE PRICE.

[Brittany · Rating 4 out of 5]

I was quite reluctant to read this book. I didn't want to read a book that was going to make me more anxious about being single. I wanted to read a book that was going to encourage me to be content single, not settle, and focus on serving God. That's exactly what this book did. Her other titles were questionable to me, which is why I thought this was going to be a typical Christian dating book, but for some reason I felt compelled read it. I'm glad I did! The overall theme was to serve God and enjoy it in this season. It's a quick read with 1-2 page, I finished in 2 days! It confirmed everything I believe God has been instilling in me while single. I highlighted so many things in this book, here are a few:
"First things first, ladies. Your God given purpose will not be reliant on another person. You are called to build a good life complete in Christ. Then you will know God's rich blessings in your life- whatever they may be."

"If you are not busy fulfilling the purpose you were created for, why do you need a partner?"

"God has recognized your beauty and worth first. He first loved you vas you receive and bask in his love and admiration, others will have to line up with His opinion of you."

I would recommend this for all single women who are not trying to figure out when she's going to be married, but truly just want to be content with God and God only.

[Lena Tumasyan · Rating 2 out of 5]

I got this book as a present from a friend. At first I wanted to turn it away because it's very religious but I decided to read it anyway, trying to keep and open mind. I disagreed with some of the religious stuff , and some of the points the author was making were very repetitive, but overall the book made some good points. She bascially said that you might not have someone in your life RIGHT NOW, but that's OKAY because you should work on improving yourself and the world around you and take full advantage of the time you have as a SINGLE individual. When you're with a partner or married it's harder to do the things you want to do. So you should take advantage of EVERY DAY and Every opportunity that comes your way.
She also brought up stuff we already know, like you have to BE interesting for others to be interested in YOU, and you need your own happiness 1st bc a boyfriend/husband won't fill that hole for you. I wish the book was more organized, less repetitive and not as religious, but overall it makes you feel a little better, so that's a plus.

[Kat · Rating 4 out of 5]

Wow I read this book in 2 days! After buying "What to do until love finds you" and hating it with a passion, I decided to give Hammond another try with this book by checking it out from the library. I was not sure at first because I did not like the title. It reminded me too much of the whole "independent woman, don't need no man, just fall in love with Jesus" stuff.

But boy was I surprised. I loved this book! It could be read as a daily devotional. I honestly wanted to share so much with my single christian girlfriends. So much knowledge and wisdom in this book! It was packed with everything for women in every stage of their singleness whether you are learning to love yourself, learning to put God first, or preparing for marriage. I really wish I would've bought this book and not "what to do until love finds you." It sucks that I have to return it to the library. I would definitely read it again and recommend it to friends!

[Patrice Tyler · Rating 3 out of 5]

The seems to be a single woman's movement going on about how the church has virtually ignored the single women. This "movement" is concerned that the single woman's need to have a husband is not being addressed by the church when historically, the (church) family helped single women fulfill this God-given position in her life.

Ms. McKinney-Hammond, hit on one point I feel needs to be emphasized to all single women: Your primary relationship, above all others, is with God. No other relationship will or can compare to it. Your destiny and your true self lies in your relationship with God...pursue that first;, nuture that first; fulfill that first. Not with the hopes that if you throw some crumbs to God that He will send your husband, but He and He Only is your satisfaction. All other relationships pale in comparason. When you do get married, you will see.

[Briana · Rating 4 out of 5]

As a college student it's so easy to get wrapped up in the wordly view that you need to be dating somebody & while I didn't subscribe to it, I wasn't truly embracing my singlehood either. I came across Sassy, Single & Satisfied when I was searching for an inspirational book for a friend and got it for myself. It's opened my eyes to so much & has definitely strengthened my walk both in Christ and in singleness. It gives readers a completely new perspective on singleness and all that it has to offer. So many times we're worried about a future mate when we should be taking the time out to appreciate and take advantage of some of the perks that come with being single. Definitely worth reading!

[Connie Laster · Rating 5 out of 5]

The author of this book finds away to encourage and uplift those who are living a single and separated life from the worlds way of living. This book has a way of helping you see that you can live a happy life and be satified at the same time. Really be content and live for God.She is an inspiration to all who reads this book.

[J. · Rating 4 out of 5]

This was an interesting read. I admire the author's approach and delivery. She definitely has a way with words. Several jewels were dropped in this book and I am happy to say that I grasped all of them.

[Lisa · Rating 4 out of 5]

The title says it all! If your single by choice or waiting for the right one to come along you should Definitly read!

[Call me Bacce · Rating 1 out of 5]

buku penuntun..penghibur..buat para wanita lajang yang nyaris hopeless.
lumayan buat panduan aja.tapiii..be ur self dah...
gak perlu ngikutin saran mbak michelle 100%.
yang penting still fun.

[Dee Washington · Rating 4 out of 5]

This was an inspirational book, which validated most of the things I already knew (but maybe wasn't practicing) and introduced some new biblical based concepts about single-dom.

[Roberta · Rating 4 out of 5]

This book helped me to appreciate the gift of being single when that was what God wanted for me.

[Yuki · Rating 5 out of 5]

This book is great for those women who are struggling with being single. I advise all single women to read this book. This author, Ms. McKinney Hammond gets straight to the point.

[Taylor · Rating 5 out of 5]

A must read. I passed it on. It's worth the read.

[Lisa · Rating 5 out of 5]

All single christian should read this book in my opinion.