In this time of change many people believe that the word “No” is, shall we say, a less than positive word, and shouldn’t be used with children. Everything should be positive. It is becoming a “Yes” world but maybe “No” still has its place.
الأم مش بتحب ترفض بصراحة طلبات بنتها.. بتوافق بس بتحط شروط. البنت شايفة إنها لو رفضت من الأول كان يبقى أحسن على الأقل متتعشمش. زينا كده كأمهات لما نقول ربنا يسهل أو إن شاء الله فالعيال تعرف إننا مش موافقين.
"No," sometimes, is the most suitable way to express your rejection. Sometimes we need to hear it in a clear and direct way, instead of false hope that possesses us at the beginning.
This book talks about a girl named Sophia who really wanted to do a lot of stuff in school and with her friends. But, her mom is a little bit indecisive about saying that word "no". So, Sophia kind of misunderstood some of the things her mom told her like when she asked her if she could ride the bus with her friends. Her mom said, "Yes you can ride the bus next week but I'll walk with you to school for the first week." When she could've simply said "No" Another incident is when Sophia asked her mom if she could join the school band and play the flute. Sophia's mom said yes but only if she's going to play the tuba like she did when she was her age. Again, she hesitated to say the word "no" to Sophia.
"No" has a negative connotation since the beginning of time. But, saying "No" is not necessarily a bad thing if you are going to use it in a respectful manner and if you're going to explain the reason afterwards. We should begin teaching people around us that "no" is not as bad as they think.