"She was not-so-plain Flo to her family and 'Flossie the Fluss' to the chorus. She was 'Kittens' to Stanford White, 'Evie' to John Barrymore, and 'Boofuls' to Harry Thaw. She was 'Mrs. Thaw the younger' in London, 'Le Bébé' in France, and 'Mrs. Harry' when in Pittsburgh. Schoolgirl. Florodora girl. Gibson girl. 'Angel-child'. 'Snake-charmer'. Vixen. Victim. The ur-Lolita. The very first 'It' girl before anyone knew what 'It' was. She could be what anyone wanted her to be. And inevitably was, even if it wasn't what she wanted."
4,5/5!
In American Eve, Paula Uruburu tells the story of Evelyn Nesbit, one of the most famous and notorious women of the early years of the 20th century in America. She was a model and an actress, a woman whose beauty was seen as unparalleled and near unearthly, and the unwilling rope in the years-long tug of war between the man who became her husband, Harry Thaw, and Stanford White, her abuser and lover – a rivalry which ended in murder and made all three of them household names for decades.
I had not heard of the murder of Stanford White (or of Stanford White the man – the millionaire architect in charge of so many iconic New York landmarks) or Evelyn Nesbit before picking this book up randomly one day in a store because a) I have recently been getting more into criminal history and the cover promised to cover "the crime of the century" and b) I was in a nonfiction mood and wanted to read about something completely new to me. I am so glad I decided to give this book a chance because I ended up really enjoying and becoming rather captivated by Evelyn Nesbit's peculiar, wild life. I liked how the book always kept its focus on her, her feelings, her experiences and what all that happened was for her. Uruburu depicted her not simply as "the cause of it all" (the reason Thaw murdered White) or a beautiful face, but as a complex woman, a human. She is one of those women who seems more myth than reality because of just how unbelievably dramatic and cinematic her life was, but she was, underneath all the glamor and drama when all this happened, just a young woman, first a teen and then barely an adult. I liked how Uruburu dismantles this romantic notion of her life as some kind of Cinderella story: hers was a much darker tale than that.
I felt like I got to know Evelyn quite well when reading this book, even though, obviously, a nonfiction book can never really capture the nuances of its subject (that's impossible). What helped me to connect with Evelyn when reading was not just Uruburu's impressive research and captivating writing style but also the fact that, because Evelyn wrote two biographies and tons of letters, and because court transcripts were published, Uruburu is able to give the reader Evelyn's own words, direct thoughts and musings about everything. It was so fascinating to read exactly what she said at court and what was asked of her. Evelyn's own voice made the book and Evelyn herself feel alive. I grew to, in a way, care about this young woman who was an active, curious child who loved reading and performing, who mesmerised everyone who met her, and who struggled with intense poverty after the sudden death of her father, worked from a young age, became a model sensation at 14 and an actress not much later. The quotes from her memoirs and letters also revealed her to be witty, clever and someone with a rather dry sense of humour. Her comments often made me laugh. And then of course there are the pictures: time and time again, the reader is faced with Evelyn in different poses, guises and roles. Considering how important her looks were to her life and the way people treated her (it seemed no one, truly no one, could resist her) it made sense that the book is brimming with her enigmatic eyes and smiles.
The book focuses a lot on the two men who shaped her life: Stanford White, the genius architect serial predator, and Harry Thaw, a mentally unstable rich boy with an obsession with White and a tendency to get violent. Uruburu described Thaw in one memorable sentence as: "– a zigzaffing contradiction, part gentleman, part boor, part prude, part playboy (it is alleged that he was the person for whom the term as we know it was coined). He could be charming and tyrannical, sincere and pretentious, solicitous and sadistic." Evelyn herself, on the other hand, referred to White as "a benevolent vampire". These two men both sickened me. The way they both used such similar (and still uncomfortably familiar) tactics to lure and manipulate Evelyn, to make themselves integral to her life and well-being (they funded her and her family, kept them from the poverty they had fought so hard to escape) and then used the power they had gained to assault and violate her was so, so horrifying. One of the central reasons as to why Thaw ended up killing Stanford was that he had raped Evelyn when she was 16 (and he in his 50s) and he couldn't get over it (or fully "forgive" her for letting it happen), and Evelyn's testimony regarding what Stanford White did to her (though she remained his lover after the assault and even referred to him, later on, as the only man she ever truly loved) was one of the most talked of moments of the two-year long trial. Thaw depicted himself as his wife's defender, and a champion of girls and women and purity, but in reality, he too raped Evelyn and brutalised her in his anger (he beat, whipped and hurt many people over the years without consequences because, surprise surprise, he and his fam could buy his way out of near anything). I became so angry reading about both him and Stanford, about how Evelyn was forced to recount her trauma in court and in front of the whole world, and how shamelessly both men took and took from her.
I think Uruburu handled these touching subjects with sincerity, honesty and a lack of sensationalising, letting Evelyn herself express her own thoughts and feelings in many occasions – she, for example, says of White: "He dominated me by his kindness and by his authority. He abused the sacred trust which had been put into his hands. Nothing else matters." Uruburu doesn't try and make Evelyn a simple, easily understood victim. She does not judge Evelyn for staying as White's lover or marrying Thaw after he assaulted her on their trip to Europe. She explores, with empathy, just how without support Evelyn was, how dependent she was on these men, how she feared poverty deeply due to her childhood and how insidiously our culture's tendency to blame women for the crimes done to them wormed its way into her mind and made her doubt whether she had somehow been to blame for what happened. And, as she stated many times in her memoirs, she did love both men, despite what they did. It is baffling to think how she could, but people are complex and cases of sexual violence can be extremely nuanced and hard to grasp from the outside. Uruburu never judges her, even when she makes decisions that would be easy to judge, and I appreciated that.
So much of this book and of Evelyn's life felt acutely, uncomfortably familiar to me and modern (American) society. Rich people use their wealth and status to avoid consequences for their heinous actions (rape, abuse, grooming and so on) and bitter, angry people resort to gun violence to solve their personal vendettas and issues. Groomers and sexual predators still use the same "tricks" (they isolate their victim from others, swear them to secrecy, make them feel like they are special, refer to teen girls as "mature for their age" and as temptresses who bewitch innocent men and so on). Evelyn's mother used her daughter and pushed her to White in hopes of money (she was not the first or last show business parent to live off of their child and not protect them from the world they cannot yet hope to understand). What was especially familiar was the way young teenage Evelyn was treated by the public and the people around her: she was made into a commodity (yes, she wanted to model and act, but it all became something so much bigger than she could ever have hoped to control). She was oversexualised from the get-go, made into this sexy and mystical figure whose pictures covered everything from ads to postcards to calendars and people revelled in reading about her scandalous life, her trauma and her fall from grace. The fact that she was referred to as a snake was especially familiar: whenever, say, a female pop star ends up in any kind of scandal, minor or major, someone, I bet, will call them a snake. Evelyn said later in life that becoming so famous so young was not a happy time and this is also something many former child-stars still talk about. Her worries about having somehow made Harry assault her or at least aggravated him to that point, and the way she kept what he and White did to her quiet, out of shame and fear for her reputation, is also something that many, I hate to say, can relate to to this day. Evelyn Nesbit's story is not just a story of scandal in the Gilded Age; it's a story that continues to haunt our modern world.
I know the basic beats of the early 20th century but I had never read a book this focused on this turning point between old Victorian sensibilities and the wild new age of technological development, industry and new moral codes, this changing of centuries that many saw as the beginning of a hopeful new future. I loved the exploration of this tumultuous time and the way Evelyn's story was tied to it, how she became something of a face for the wild early years of the new century. The trial also reflected interestingly how divided people were between the "proper old ways" and the more modern sensibilities: the prosecutor, for example, tried to make Evelyn seem suspicious by highlighting her past as an actress and model, her friendships with "theatre folk" and even the fact that she had once been to a café where people danced a certain type of dance popular in black communities. It was intriguing how Uruburu explored the way the murder of Thaw fuelled the already ongoing re-evaluation of class dynamics in America. This case gave the less fortunate even more reason to mistrust the rich and the powerful, and it was seen as evidence that financial and social superiority, having a fancy family name, did not mean moral superiority. The time period's stigma against mental illness also played a key role in the trial. Thaw, clearly a mentally ill man, had suffered from all kinds of tics, seizures and irrational, violent behaviour ever since childhood, but his family fought for a long time to avoid the label of "insane" because, well, at that point mental illness was understood even less than it is now. It was seen as shameful, a stain upon a family's reputation.
The final chapters following Evelyn's life after all of this was quite surprising. I was not taken aback by her struggling with addiction and even making attempts on her life because, well, what she went through with White and Thaw and the trial was near inhumanly painful and she was so young and alone when it all happened, but I was happily surprised that she ended up living until 82 and spending, after some attempts at rekindling an acting and modelling career, launching cosmetic lines and so on, a decade of peace and quiet as a ceramics teacher and sculptor while living with her son and his family. Even though she was put through so much horror, she survived and lived a long life. I hope she found contentment and peace, even if she didn't quite end up living the grand show biz life she dreamed of when she was young.
I would recommend American Eve to anyone interested in the American Gilded Age, criminal history, Evelyn Nesbit's life story or reading a well-written biography of a truly fascinating woman whose wild, often painful life, acts as an intriguing mirror to her time, its values and its desires. This is not always an easy book to read – I had to put it down a few times in the chapters were Uruburu focused on the sexual violence she experienced – but it is worth the read.
Here are some interesting facts from the book:
- Harry Thaw was the first car owner who ended up in the papers for driving, on purpose, through a shop window.
- Thaw hated Stanford White before either met Evelyn: he saw White as a sex pest (true) and the reason why he never truly made it in New York society.
- Pittsburgh had, in the late 19th century, the dubious honor of being known as the dirtiest city in America.
- In the early 1900s women's genitalia had many "fun" nicknames such as Daisy Den, Bluebeard's Closet (kill me) and Cupid's Crown.
- President McKinley, assassinated in 1901, did not die of the gunshot wound itself but because of the botched medical operation right after it: he died of gangrene.
- Evelyn's short-time boyfriend, John "Jack" Barrymore, a scion of the famous actor family, is Drew Barrymore's grandpa!
- Evelyn's mom lied about her daughter's age so many times over the years whenever it was "necessary" so that Evelyn didn't know her exact birth-year.
- One of the biggest sexual morality debates of the time surrounded the Diana statue on top of the tower of Madison Square Garden: Anthony Comstock, this grumpy morality leader and Civil War general, hated it because the statue was nude and wanted it taken down. Stanford White, designer of the Garden, eventually made sure it was lit at night so it was always visible.
- Theodore Roosevelt, president after McKinley, wanted to ban the printing and selling of court transcripts because he worried that people would become demoralised because of the Thaw/Stanford-case and because he worried their preoccupation with the murder kept them from their jobs.
- Evelyn's mother provided information to the prosecutor, against Thaw and her daughter, but even after this (and so many other abandonments and arguments over the years) Evelyn and her mom eventually reconciled. Her mom was quite the character and someone I wanted to shake a lot of the time for just how carelessly she acted with young Evelyn and lived off of her.
- Up until his death, Harry Thaw denied being Russel Thaw's father.
- Alienists (aka early psychiatrists) were referred to as "bug-doctors".
- Thaw had countless spies he used to keep track of Evelyn's movements before and after they got married. He was not just violent, but also controlling to the max.
- During the trial, in 1907, postcards of Evelyn sold like hot cakes – about half a million in a month.
- Thaw, upset that his family had, in the 2nd trial, pleaded insanity, spent seven years trying to get the insanity verdict removed (something Evelyn fought against) and eventually succeeded.
- Harry, jealous that White had "perfected" Evelyn by paying for her dentist appointments, sent her to a dentist once and had the doctor, without informing her, take away all that White's money had bought and then fix it all back up again: this way he was her beneficiary, not him. This caused permanent issues for Evelyn's teeth.