#loneliness: The Virus of the Modern Age

by Tony Jeton Selimi

So connected, yet desperately alone. We have become accustomed to a new way of being alone together in a technological cocoon that covers up our real pain. Our true essence is hidden behind facades that we show to the world from the fear of being judged, criticized, and rejected. This is what brings us out of a natural state of healthy balance, is the root cause of disease, and what creates the segregation experienced worldwide. #Loneliness is a global call for people to redefine themselves in the face of life's greatest challenges. Comforting, moving, and spiritually practical, this book is a guide to help people break through their apparent loneliness, and shift them toward crowd-nurtured world peace and the next stage in our evolution. "This masterpiece is a must-read book if you are yearning for a complete new way at looking, understanding, and loving the true nature of your essence." -Dr. Sc. Todorche Stamenov "The worldview developed here transcends science, dogma, and belief, giving readers a new way to reconnect with their truth, hearts, and Divine within." -Mike Markovski, Self-Esteem Coach "Tony reveals how inner discord creates our deceptive loneliness, which is spontaneously appearing around the world in the form of war, illness, high divorce rates, financial crisis, and so much more. A life manual that shows us how to extract wisdom from every life adversity to become more balanced, mindful, and heart centered. " -Laurie Cagno, Singer-Songwriter

Genres: Nonfiction

197 pages, Hardcover

Published January 7, 2016

About the author

Tony J. Selimi is a globally recognised transformational life strategist specialising in human behaviour, a business growth expert, and an award-winning author of multiple international bestsellers, including Climb Greater Heights, The Unfakeable Code®, A Path to Wisdom, #Loneliness: The Virus of the Modern Age, and A Path to Excellence.

From surviving war and homelessness to graduating with honours from one of the UK's top universities—University College London—Tony built a successful technology career before dedicating his life to coaching individuals from all walks of life, including A-list celebrities, politicians, lawyers, tech billionaires, Fortune 500 CEOs, and leaders across industries. His journey is nothing short of inspirational.

A TEDx speaker, co-creator of the award-winning documentary Living My Illusion, and executive producer of The Truth About Reading, Tony's work has been featured on ABC, NBC, CBS, FOX, and over 1,000 media outlets worldwide, reaching more than 100 million people.

Through his signature methodologies, Tony helps people break through addictions, anxiety, fears, depression, impostor syndrome, and other emotionally induced conditions, while empowering them to grow their professions or scale their businesses, monetise their wisdom, do what they love, and build lasting legacies of significance.

He is often referred to as the “DIOR” of personal and professional development, leaving people feeling peaceful, inspired, and worthy of love and all that life has to offer them.

Reviews

[Paul McMonagle · Rating 5 out of 5]

I found this to be a heart wrenching read, as I read through each chapter it felt like the book was pulling me in willing me to learn more about myself and my Loneliness.

Tony is an outstanding, amazing, humble human being his book truly touched my Soul and I felt a murmuring and awakening within my Heart at times while reading it. Tony story is phenomenal, of how despite all the adversity he has had throughout his life, somehow he has managed to overcome it all and achieve so much that many can truly only dream of.

At times tears streamed down my face as this book awakened me to the dangers of the 'Absolute Solitude' I had placed myself in for over 20 years through suffering from Multitude of Mental Health Illnesses from my teenage years. During this time my entire being was to afraid to talk of any of this because of the guilt and shame I not only felt but lived with also for these 20 plus years.

1 year on since I initially read Loneliness, I am now aware more so than ever of how unhealthy my entire way of being, feeling, acting was not only for me but for all around me. This would never have occurred had I not read this touching book and it's true, Loneliness is a virus that spreads though greatly unseen by most. I wonder how many people are lonely in there thoughts to afraid to speak just like I once was? Are unaware of the detrimental effects not only for themselves but community, society, humanity at large.

It's a must read especially if your lonely and your unaware like I once was of the impact Loneliness truly has on your Physical, Emotional and Mental Health. It has allowed me to see how as a society we are falling into a state of silent slumber, coma like almost through our use of technology yet we in the main remain blissfully unaware of this and its possible devastating effects for our future and our children's future.

Reading Loneliness made me realise a very important thing about my life, that thing being how unauthentic my life had become. It has enabled me to begin a journey to rediscover my true, authentic self and being which I am pleased to say a year on I find to be most healthy for me and for all around me.

Paul McMonagle

[Please Pass the Books · Rating 4 out of 5]

#Loneliness: The Virus of the Modern Age by Tony Jeton Selimi begins with the memoirs of its author, born in the former, pre-war Yugoslavia. He shares an upbringing that encompasses everything we fear a child might experience, but pray they will not—physical disabilities and sexual abuse. As a teenager, he is front and center during the war and subsequent dissolution of Yugoslavia, resulting in his emigration to the United Kingdom. After a rocky start inflamed by homelessness and financial difficulty, and an unfortunate marriage where an inner conflict of sexual identity rages, Selimi finds his feet—and his voice—making a bold professional and personal move that alters everything. Readers are then versed in the scientific evolution of loneliness, a breakdown of how and what impacts it, and where we can make proactive, positive changes that not only help us individually, but have wide-reaching global impact.

When I first picked up #Loneliness: The Virus of the Modern Age by Tony Jeton Selimi, I was expecting little more than a run-of-the-mill self-help tutorial. This presumption was further aided by the first twelve pages, which consist solely of praise for the book. As a lay reader wanting to get to the meat, I powered through and was thoroughly rewarded by what came next. First of all, Selimi's story is heartbreaking. It is powerful and poignant enough to be a stand-alone book, but is fundamental to the theories he presents afterward. The struggles and the situations he rises from—which feel desperately hopeless—lend to his credibility far more than any educational acronym found after the names of most self-help authors. When the story is told, the subsequent theories are supported by facts and evidence, in addition to Selimi's applied knowledge. This is done with a clear desire to reach the reader on a human level, and feels more like a conversation with a friend. I recommend #Loneliness: The Virus of the Modern Age to anyone who has experienced any form of loneliness, and/or has been sucked into "Facebook envy" or other feelings of unworthiness fueled by the artificial, manipulative world we find ourselves in today.

This review was written for Readers' Favorite.

[Lara · Rating 1 out of 5]

When I discovered this book I got my hopes up. It sounded interesting and I've recently read a lot about problems of modern society and I study psychology so I'm usually interested in topics like loneliness. I knew this wasn't a scientific approach to the topic but instead a rather spiritual one but still, could have been interesting.

Now, I started reading the foreword but it got too much. The author was starting to annoy me with that repetitive, trying too hard to inspire way of his. Also kind of too much spirituality for me.
But well I hoped the main part would get better.
It didn't. He told us the story - oh the pain, the suffering - of his life. I'm sorry to say this but the way it was told was just annoying. He remembered being in pain as a little baby - come on, seriously?! I couldn't help feeling more and more annoyed. I just don't like reading a book where it feels like the author is talking down to the reader, making you feel inferior and unknowing. Okay I get it you suffered and got through it all and know you're incredibly happy and in tune with your soul and your best possible self etc etc. I just guess I'm going to find my own way without trying your wonderful one, thank you very much.

So I don't know if it's okay for me to rate this book cause I didn't finish reading it. I wasted about half an hour on it, trying to skim through it and finding parts where it got better until I finally gave up. It just wasn't what I was expecting or looking for I guess.

[Pietro Garbelli · Rating 5 out of 5]

📘 #Loneliness: The Virus of the Modern Age
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A Brave, Healing Journey Back to Wholeness
In a hyperconnected world, loneliness is the silent epidemic—and Tony names it, faces it, and helps us heal it. #Loneliness is a profound exploration of the emotional void so many of us carry, yet rarely speak about. Through his compassionate voice, Tony invites us to acknowledge every part of ourselves—the light and the shadow—and reconnect with the richness of life. This book helped me understand my own emotional isolation and gave me tools to thrive in every area of life. It’s a lifeline for the disconnected soul.

[Shar Walker · Rating 1 out of 5]

I have a professional interest in the subject so acquired the book with high hopes. Unfortunately I stuck with it up until chapter 12 then could do no more. The narrator drove me nuts with her sickly sweet voice. I found the book chopped and changed and I was unable to follow. I gave up. I tackled this as an audio book.

[فرآمرز · Rating 2 out of 5]

هرچند نکاتی که درباره تنهایی در این کتاب بیان شد، از ریشه هاش گرفته تا اثراتی که بر بخش های مختلف زندگی می ذاره، جالب توجه بودن؛ اما راه حل های ارائه شده برای مقابله و مبارزه با تنهایی چیزی جز جملاتی نبود که در کلام بزرگان مشاهده میشه. واینکه کلام نویسنده، با تبلیغ و تمجید بیش از حد از خودش و کتاباش و راه و رسم زندگیش حالم رو گرفت!

[Tony Selimi · Rating 5 out of 5]

Brian Tracy – Author – The Power of Self Confidence quotes: “This warm, insightful book gives you a clear roadmap to overcome the loneliness that you will experience at different times in your life.”