An old, but easy to read book filled with relatable stories and some pretty relevant recommendations at the end.
Burnout stems from having unrealistic expectations and demands, and not being able to achieve them. The ways out are: to build closeness with those around us, and generally to round out our lives, reducing the all encompassing focus over a specific area of our lives, whether work, relationships, or otherwise.
When it comes to rounding out our lives the author suggests we: balance our personal needs with our goals, through being assertive, or through relaxing our expectations of success and our ideals. This second specific recommendation I think is pretty hard to swallow and in my case I feel like if my values and ideals aren’t being satisfied perhaps it’s time for a change.
He also suggests that we be kind to ourselves, reflecting back our previous insecurities and transforming them into positive messages and encouragement we’d tell our younger selves.
Another part that stuck with me is that he mentions that the larger the organization you are in the less likely you are to be in a position where you control your own destiny, and thus the greater the potential for burnout, and striving to push for perfectionism, ideals, and production, while not making any forward progress. Another way to look at this challenge is by thinking back to farmers who worked in coop groups of 3-4 where they each participated and shared in the tangible success of the group, and assisted others in times of need.
Lastly, the biggest learning he provided me was the idea that you have your own values and goals, and society has its own values and goals, some will align, and some won’t. He suggests we find ways to be defensive and protect our values in a way that doesn’t drive us insane while living in a society where those values differ. He mentions Emerson’s “Self-Reliance” as a way of framing this important lifelong challenge.