Managing in the Gray: Five Timeless Questions for Resolving Your Toughest Problems at Work

by Joseph L. Badaracco Jr.

How to Resolve the Really Hard Problems

Every manager makes tough calls—it comes with the job. And the hardest decisions are the “gray areas”—situations where you and your team have worked hard to find an answer, you’ve done the best analysis you can, and you still don’t know what to do. But you have to make a decision. You have to choose, commit, act, and live with the consequences and persuade others to follow your lead. Gray areas test your skills as a manager, your judgment, and even your humanity. How do you get these decisions right?

In Managing in the Gray , Joseph Badaracco offers a powerful, practical, and even radical way to resolve these problems. Picking up where conventional tools of analysis leave off, this book provides tools for judgment in the form of five revealing questions. Asking yourself these five questions provides a simple yet profound way to broaden your thinking, sharpen your judgment, and develop a fresh perspective. What makes these questions so valuable is that they have truly stood the test of time—they’ve guided countless men and women, across many centuries and cultures, to resolve the hardest questions of work, responsibility, and life.

You can use the five-question framework on your own or with others on your team to help you cut through complexities, understand critical trade-offs, and develop workable solutions for even the grayest issues.

Genres: Leadership, Business, Nonfiction, Management

208 pages, Hardcover

First published September 1, 2016

Reviews

[Bailey L. · Rating 3 out of 5]

Recommended by a close friend and mentor, I found the 5 questions to be practical and thought-provoking. Some of what this book relies on has me a bit skeptical though -- pragmatism and humanism both carry flawed philosophical foundations that I don't agree with as a believer. Namely, that we can create our own morals based on what we want to believe.

The five questions are:
What are the net, net consequences? What are my core obligations? What will work in the world as it is? Who are we? What can we live with?

Nonetheless, this is what I am taking away from this book and the 5 questions:
-Many problems are incorrectly defined.
-Decisions are made not based on what we know about the problem but who we are - our intelligence, feelings, imagination, life experience, and sense of what really matters.
-Management is viewed as a second-class citizen to leadership but it should not be. All great leaders were effective managers who got the process right.
-New word -- bossthink - where we go on autopilot and just agree with our bosses.
-Values need to be really considered as to what they mean, e.g. integrity and quality, and we need to see that our actions reflect (or don't) what we value.
-Ben Franklin said in Poor Richard's Almanac, "There are 3 things extremely hard: steel, a diamond, and to know one's self." The last chapter, again, had some swerving logic and philosophical missteps, but the importance of knowing oneself and the deception we endure from one's own self is a key part of the whole book's message.
-When making a decision, we need to "Get off the merry go round" which means to slow down, and really just spend time doing nothing but thinking. [Thinking is the hardest work there is, that's why so few engage in it. - Henry Ford] He also suggested writing and used 2 good quotes I loved: "Writing is thinking. To write well is to think clearly. That's why it's so hard." - David McCullough. and "Dark words on white paper bare the soul." Guy de Maupassant

This book also brought in some aspects of what I have learned in the past, including but not limited to: values based decision making, design thinking, empathetic decision making, that stakeholder based decision making is not comprehensive, group versus group (the inner ring), intent vs. impact of your words, situational leadership, stories as a means of communicating what we value (to sell is human).

All in all, his last page delineated that it's not enough to be a pragmatist, but one must be an ethically sensitive pragmatist. I wrote in the margin to think on the separation between these two. As the word ethics again brings into question what THAT word really means, I'm not totally buying into this. Looking forward to discussing this book with others who have read it soon to grapple with these ideas.

[Sherri Anderson · Rating 3 out of 5]

Most of the guidance seemed very common sense, nothing too revolutionary. Reads like an ethics class essay that was fluffed up with a bunch of quotes to make it longer.

[Darren · Rating 4 out of 5]

Sounds simple, doesn’t it. Master five timeless questions to help resolve the toughest problems in your workplace, getting a handle on grey areas that often test a manager’s patience and skills.

The author believes that his five-question framework will redress the balance of being an analytical manager with that of a “human” manager, providing a way to fill the gap when analytics just don’t cut it. Five questions: What are the net consequences? What are my core obligations? What will work in the world as it is? What do we really stand for? and What is my best judgment and best self? If you can answer them, the future might be a lot brighter!

The book itself was interesting and the concept engaging. On a personal level this reviewer had a difficulty engaging with it, but sometimes books are like that; they are a very personal thing and through no fault of the author there is just a “bad connection” going on. There was no feeling of wasting time by looking at this book and maybe some of its knowledge will stick in this reviewer’s subconscious in the future. The price might be a bit on the high side if you are not so sure, but it wouldn’t hurt to check it out in a bookstore or something. You might really get it and fall in love with it.

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[Justin Hairston · Rating 2 out of 5]

The author is clearly very smart, and the essential framework seems like it could be extremely useful. However, the book is largely humanist (and self-admittedly so), and the author's own ideas about religion and humanity pervade the more universally applicable ideas, almost tainting them in the process. I'll likely refer to the framework presented here, but it wasn't enjoyable to read.

[Steven Thomas · Rating 4 out of 5]

I was assigned this book as a text for my graduate course in business ethics. “Managing in the Gray” by Joseph L. Badaracco is designed and written to offer a practical framework for navigating complex, ambiguous decisions—those that don’t have clear right or wrong answers. These “gray area” problems are common in leadership and management, where facts may be incomplete, values may conflict, and outcomes are uncertain.
Essentially, the author has taken all sorts of nuggets from thousands of pages of dozens of books and treatises on ethics to come up with a very consumable and practical guide to managing in “gray areas.” Going into this book, my view of ethics in business was making the best effort to exercise balanced situational judgement that will be the most fair to all stakeholders. Simple, right? No, not really as I’ve learned – and this book helps to understand why,
At the heart of the book are five timeless questions that help leaders make thoughtful, ethical, and effective decisions. I love the fact that it does this. I also love the situational examples that I will not spoil here.
1. What are the net, net consequences?
This question urges you to think deeply and broadly about the full impact of your decision—not just the measurable outcomes, but also the emotional, social, and long-term effects. Consider all stakeholders. Go beyond financial metrics to include human values like dignity, safety, and trust. Avoid oversimplifying complex trade-offs.
2. What are my core obligations?
This question asks you to reflect on your fundamental responsibilities—legal, ethical, professional, and personal. What do you owe your team, your organization, your customers, and society? What promises or duties must you honor? How do your values and principles guide your actions?
3. What will work in the world as it is?
This is a realism check. It challenges you to consider what is actually feasible given the current environment, constraints, and power dynamics. Avoid idealism or wishful thinking. Ask: What will actually work here and now? Consider resilience—of your plan and of yourself.
4. Who are we?
This question focuses on organizational identity and culture. What values define your team or company? How will your decision reflect or shape that identity? Will your choice align with or contradict your shared purpose?
5. What can I live with?
This is the most personal and ethical question. What decision can you stand behind with integrity? What will allow you to sleep at night? How will you explain your choice to others—and to yourself?
These questions are not a checklist but a deliberative process. Badaracco emphasizes that they complement and challenge each other, helping leaders move from analysis to judgment with clarity and conscience. 197 pages with 18 pages of end notes and a 12 page index due to all the references. You could read 20+ books on philosophy and ethics to gain this knowledge, or instead, save time and money and spend 3-5 hours on a weekend as Badaracco has done the work for you.

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[Phuongvu · Rating 4 out of 5]

Làm thế nào để giải quyết những vấn đề hóc búa và đưa ra quyết định trong vùng xám?

Chúng ta àm việc cật lực và đã phân tích những dữ liệu tốt nhất, nhưng vẫn không thể tìm ra đáp án cho các vấn đề. Là lãnh đạo chúng ta phải đưa ra quyết định, bắt buộc phải hành động, cam kết và thuyết phục mọi người đi theo lựa chọn của mình.

“Vùng xám là nơi không phải chỉ có màu trắng hay màu đen, là nơi không dễ dàng để phán xét điều đó đúng hay sai”. Khi ở trong Vùng xám nghĩa là chúng ta đang phải đối mặt với những điều đầy rủi ro, thách thức, và biến động không ngừng. Đặc biệt, chúng ta sẽ không thể giải quyết chúng bằng việc phân định đúng – sai.

Đây là một quyển sách không hề dễ học. Tác giả của quyển sách là Josseph Badaracco, ông là Giám đốc của trường nội trú thuộc Harvard College và là chủ tịch Uỷ ban Tư vấn Đại học Harvard. Cuốn sách gồm 6 mục lớn, chứa đựng 5 câu hỏi.

Quyển sách nằm trong bộ sách 5 cuốn của Harvard Business Review.

Tác giả Badaracco tin rằng, Vùng xám là nơi để kiểm tra khả năng lãnh đạo, những suy xét và ngay cả tính nhân văn của người quản lý.

5 câu hỏi này đã được minh định bởi vô số người lãnh đạo trong nhiều thế kỷ và ở nhiều nền văn hoá khác nhau.
1. Công cụ để đánh giá
2. Hệ quả thuần của vấn đề là gì?
3. Trách nhiệm cơ bản của tôi là gì?
4. Kế hoạch hành động nào phù hợp với tình hình thực tế?
5. Chúng ta là ai?
5. Liệu có thể sống chung với quyết định này không?

5 câu hỏi này có thể áp dụng để tự vấn bản thân, khai mở tư duy và mở rộng góc nhìn.

HN, ngày 08.10.2021

[Janka H. · Rating 4 out of 5]

Interesting, almost philosophical (in the best meaning) and also pragmatical (also, at its best meaning) approach to the difficult managerial problems. How to proceed in the unsure, difficult situations?

Mr Badaracco offers the 5 questions approach:
What are the net, net consequences? What are my core obligations? What will work in the world as it is? Who are we? What can we live with?

Some of the questions are ethical, some are pragmatical.
And I find them quite useful.

Well, everyone operates on the music of their own drums, so to say. I can attest to the more emotional approach in my case, so i definitely need to add the question " What will work in the world as it is?" into my deciding process!

The book also contains some useful techniques and tips on how to operate on these questions.

While I could think about more and/or different questions (and examples), I find this attitude of mixing the ratio and the ethos into one decision "bag" quite refreshing and insightful.
Sure, don´t take that book as a Bible. But to broaden one´s way of thinking and approach is useful.

[Sara (onourshelves) · Rating 4 out of 5]

This is a fine, basic moral framework that I think is a good one, but also is likely more suited as an introduction to business morals, for example at a business school. The questions are:
1. What are the net, net consequences? (sidenote I am still so confused why there are two nets)
2. What are my core obligations?
3. What will work in the world as it is?
4. Who are we?
5. What can I live with?

[Dustin · Rating 3 out of 5]

Badaracco offers a humanist approach to grappling with decision points in the gray. Overall, difficult to argue with many of the points. However, he is very repetitive and his constant devil's advocate statements (while good in being honest) seem to undercut his arguments at points. Seems like further editing would have been helpful.

[Mukesh Sharma · Rating 4 out of 5]

This book truly gives a sense to making tough decisions. Yes, it depends and changes from person to person, but one can still refer to these questions when get stuck in a conundrum or dilemma.
Gray decisions are not easy to make and they need to be solved within a time frame else they lose their essence.
A good book to read.

[Alfonso · Rating 5 out of 5]

Mi ha fatto riflettere. Magari le osservazioni possono sembrare semplicistiche, ma in realtà stimolano il pensiero e la riflessione. Una utile lettura.

[Holly Yu · Rating 5 out of 5]

随想：灰度决策归根是理性与感性怎么平衡，理性重分析、重细节、重结果，感性重内心、重品性、重我是什么人，最终的决策因人而异，是因为每个人有不同的品性，决策最后之于每一个不是的人，理性分析是基础，最终需要和每个人的内心去和达成和谐，最终拍板定音的还是感性。:)

[Lauren Kelly · Rating 2 out of 5]

Read this for my Library Administration & Management course. Very meh. The five questions were somewhat valuable, I guess, but the underlying rationale made me not buy in to the ideas. There were too many assumptions made about "human nature," "core responsibilities" and what counts as a "good life." Overall, I was skeptical and annoyed at the underlying foundation that informed this book (humanism). It's just not how think of the world and approach it. It was also repetitive and doesn't seem to be based on hard science.

[Greg Hawod · Rating 5 out of 5]

The core task of managers is that what we call gray areas. These are the challenges whose answers are not easy. Managers face these kinds of problems every day. Will you promote someone who has a stellar record but cannot work with his colleagues well? Will you fire someone who is underperforming despite the fact that he is friends with the owner of the company? What will you do if your subordinate messed up pretty badly by following your orders?

Many questions harder than these surrounds managers every day. Thankfully, this book gives us the 5 questions that we should ask to help deal with those gray areas.

These 5 questions should all be considered whenever one is faced with the gray challenge.

This book does a good job of explaining each of the questions. The meaning is deep. The explanations are easy to understand and at the same time goes deep into human psyche.

Another remarkable thing about this is that each questions are not considered in isolation. The author explains or reviews the previously discussed questions in relation to the current one. This makes the message solid and clear: You've got to consider all the 5 questions to help you get the right perspective in your problem. Otherwise, one will end of making a decision he or she will regret doing.

[Theodore Kinni · Rating 5 out of 5]

An ethical, responsible process for thinking thru tough decisions with no right answers--managers should read this.

[Rick-Phil · Rating 2 out of 5]

Good book for mangers and those not too familiar with ethical study.

[Tern · Rating 4 out of 5]

The book is not logically rigorous but provides a set of useful tools for decision-making.

[DBC · Rating 3 out of 5]

本以为是一本平平无奇的工具类书籍，没想到是带点哲学和宗教味道的书籍。

作者从道德、哲学以及人文主义角度分析了遇到非黑即白的问题时应该如何处理，没有明确的答案，需要的是关注过程以及过程中对价值观的全方位考虑：利他、悲悯、利我、利我们、承诺五项原则。

另外，可能是翻译的原因，很多长句读起来有点晦涩和生硬。

[Mills College Library]

658.403 B132 2016