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Stop Being Lonely: Three Simple Steps to Developing Close Friendships and Deep Relationships
Loneliness Has an The Feeling of ClosenessLoneliness isn’t something that happens only when we are physically alone. It can also happen when we are with people. Online friends, followers, or “likers” don’t necessarily add up to much when you crave fulfilling interaction, and satisfying, long-term relationships are not a mystery to be left up to chance (or technology). The good news is that, according to relationship coach Kira Asatryan, loneliness has a reliable the feeling of closeness. We can and should cultivate closeness in our relationships using the steps outlined in this knowing, caring, and mastering closeness.Whether with romantic partners, friends, family members, or business colleagues, these techniques will help you establish true closeness with others. The simple and straightforward actions Asatryan presents in this wonderfully practical book will guide you toward better relationships and less loneliness in all social contexts.
280 pages, Kindle Edition
First published February 9, 2016
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Kira Asatryan
2 books17 followersKira Asatryan, a certified relationship coach and mediator, lives in San Francisco with her husband, a Silicon Valley entrepreneur.
She maintains a private coaching practice where she helps teams, couples, and individuals cultivate closeness in their relationships. She also writes for many popular blogs including Psychology Today, Elite Daily, YourTango, and Quarterlette.
Before becoming a relationship coach, Kira was director of performance marketing for prominent Silicon Valley technology startups and co-founded an online marketing consultancy.
She has a unique passion for those who feel lonely in this world and draws upon her own struggle with loneliness to help others escape feelings of isolation.
She maintains a private coaching practice where she helps teams, couples, and individuals cultivate closeness in their relationships. She also writes for many popular blogs including Psychology Today, Elite Daily, YourTango, and Quarterlette.
Before becoming a relationship coach, Kira was director of performance marketing for prominent Silicon Valley technology startups and co-founded an online marketing consultancy.
She has a unique passion for those who feel lonely in this world and draws upon her own struggle with loneliness to help others escape feelings of isolation.
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January 1, 2022
نبذة عن الكتاب:
الكتاب يتحدث عن كسر الوحدة وعن الطرق اساسية في بناء علاقة وطيدة او ذات عمق داخلي مع شخص اخر ، لكل شخص يشعر بالوحدة يشعر بعدم التواصل عدم الانتماء التناغم لايهم كنت انطوائي او اجتماعي فشعور الوحدة يأتي للاثنين عليك بشيئين اساسيين لبناء علاقة عميقة مع شخص اخر وهي (معرفته بالشكل صحيح والاهتمام به بالشكل صحيح) ويتحدث الكتاب بالتفصيل عنها .
تقييمي للكتاب:
الكتاب كا موضوع وطرق عملية ممتاز جداً فهو يعطيك اشياء تسويها انت بشكل لاواعي وممكن تصيب او تخطي فيها والحلو الكاتبه هنا تشرح لك الموضوع بشكل مفصل بكيفية البناء الصحيح للعلاقة (مهما كانت الطرق صحيحة مو شرط تضبط دايماً حطها قاعده بذهنك) بشكل عام تقييمي للموضوع والطرق العملية اعطيه ١٠/٩
وتقييمي لترجمة فالترجمة حقته سيئة جداً وبشكل مبالغ فيه وكاتقييم رقمي اعطي الترجمة ٢/١٠
* نصيحتي لك كا شخص يريد التواصل وبناء علاقات بأن تفهم ذاتك وشخصيتك وفيه عدة تحليلات بعلم النفس تساعدك اشهر اثنين MBTI و البوصلة الشخصية تساعدكك بشكل كبير على معرفة شخصيتك و نقاط قوتها وضعفها ومعرفة شخصيات الناس لمعرفة التعامل معهم (قد يكون الموضوع بالبداية متعب ومجهد لكنه يستحق العناء) ثم انصح بكتاب كيف تؤثر ع الناس لان الطرق التي ذكرها ديل كارينجي تجعلك تبني علاقات وطيدة ولكن ليست عميقة فالافضل معرفة شخصيتك ثم قراءة كتاب كيف تؤثر على الناس ثم قراءة كتاب توقف عن البقاء وحيداً ، ان كانت شخصيتك ذات ثقة او تقدير ذاتي ضعيف انصحك بكتاب الشخصية القوية للمؤلف الغني عن التعريف ياسر الحزيمي وان كانت شخصيتك ذات ثقة وتقدير جميل وتنقصك المهارات انصحك بكتاب قوانين الكاريزما لكتساب مهارات ذات تأثير جميل لشخصيتك .
الكتاب يتحدث عن كسر الوحدة وعن الطرق اساسية في بناء علاقة وطيدة او ذات عمق داخلي مع شخص اخر ، لكل شخص يشعر بالوحدة يشعر بعدم التواصل عدم الانتماء التناغم لايهم كنت انطوائي او اجتماعي فشعور الوحدة يأتي للاثنين عليك بشيئين اساسيين لبناء علاقة عميقة مع شخص اخر وهي (معرفته بالشكل صحيح والاهتمام به بالشكل صحيح) ويتحدث الكتاب بالتفصيل عنها .
تقييمي للكتاب:
الكتاب كا موضوع وطرق عملية ممتاز جداً فهو يعطيك اشياء تسويها انت بشكل لاواعي وممكن تصيب او تخطي فيها والحلو الكاتبه هنا تشرح لك الموضوع بشكل مفصل بكيفية البناء الصحيح للعلاقة (مهما كانت الطرق صحيحة مو شرط تضبط دايماً حطها قاعده بذهنك) بشكل عام تقييمي للموضوع والطرق العملية اعطيه ١٠/٩
وتقييمي لترجمة فالترجمة حقته سيئة جداً وبشكل مبالغ فيه وكاتقييم رقمي اعطي الترجمة ٢/١٠
* نصيحتي لك كا شخص يريد التواصل وبناء علاقات بأن تفهم ذاتك وشخصيتك وفيه عدة تحليلات بعلم النفس تساعدك اشهر اثنين MBTI و البوصلة الشخصية تساعدكك بشكل كبير على معرفة شخصيتك و نقاط قوتها وضعفها ومعرفة شخصيات الناس لمعرفة التعامل معهم (قد يكون الموضوع بالبداية متعب ومجهد لكنه يستحق العناء) ثم انصح بكتاب كيف تؤثر ع الناس لان الطرق التي ذكرها ديل كارينجي تجعلك تبني علاقات وطيدة ولكن ليست عميقة فالافضل معرفة شخصيتك ثم قراءة كتاب كيف تؤثر على الناس ثم قراءة كتاب توقف عن البقاء وحيداً ، ان كانت شخصيتك ذات ثقة او تقدير ذاتي ضعيف انصحك بكتاب الشخصية القوية للمؤلف الغني عن التعريف ياسر الحزيمي وان كانت شخصيتك ذات ثقة وتقدير جميل وتنقصك المهارات انصحك بكتاب قوانين الكاريزما لكتساب مهارات ذات تأثير جميل لشخصيتك .
March 26, 2017
I first discovered this book after reading one of Asatryan's articles on Psychology Today. Asatryan defines loneliness as a lack of closeness in our relationships. For starters, this book is about how to develop close relationships as opposed to an examination of loneliness. And I loved how Asatryan cuts past all the psychological technicalities and goes to the heart of the problem: Closeness. She defines closeness as having direct access to another person's inner world. Essentially, to be seen and understood for who you really are. And I'm sure everyone has experienced the pain of being misperceived by those around us, and those we consider loved ones. And I like how Asatryan focuses on all relationships (family, friends, work, significant others), not just romantic ones (as she dispels myths including this one), as having potential for closeness. I did find her chapter on environmental obstacles a bit lacking since it only focused on technology's effect (important, but not the only factor). I'd argue loneliness can also be affected by a myriad of external factors outside of a person's control. While she could've acknowledged this with a passing nod, I get it was beyond the scope of this self-help book focused on what people can control through acquiring skills. This one criticism aside, I liked how the book pretty much covers what a therapist would address with a client, not just in demonstrating it in the therapeutic relationship, but developing these skills to apply to outside relationships. Some techniques such as externalizing the problem (aka loneliness) and reframing used in Narrative Therapy are a great applications. Asatryan breaks it down to developing the arts of knowing, caring, and closeness. It sounds simple enough, but again it takes commitment, intention, and a desire to change. I'm also glad she put the chapter about applying these skills to your relationship with yourself last (since it's important, but often misguided advice if presented early). Overall, this book reminds me relationships are often the heart of our joys and miseries. if we could all develop closeness with others in our lives by being present, empathetic, and caring, life would be more satisfying and meaningful.
August 22, 2022
تأتي الكاتبة هنا لتتمم ما بدأ به الأب جان باول اليسوعي في كتابه "لماذا أخشى أن أقول لك من أنا" وتناقضه في "لماذا أخشى أن أحب"!
تؤكد وأشاركها على أن فكرة الحب هو حل موثوق للوحدة هي أسطورة لأنه ببساطه: الحب هو لغز!
أن أحب لا يعني أنني لا أشعر بالوحده معه! الحل هو بالقُرب والتقارب.. ولا حصر في ذلك على علاقة عاطفية قد تكون قريب من عائلة، من صديق، من زميل عمل...كفيل للتخفيف من هذا الشعور.
قُربك من نفسك أولًا للوصول فيما بعد لقُربك من الآخر؛ فإذا كان توليد الحب بين الناس لا يمكن السيطرة عليه، فأنا أرى أن محاولة توليد الحب داخل نفسك هي أيضًا جهد غير مؤكد.
أجد الوحدة هي جزء من كينونة الإنسان ولا مفر إلا أن الجميل جدًا ختامها بأنه يمكن القضاء على وحدتك دون الحاجة إلى تغيير طبيعتك الأساسيّة فقط أن يكون هناك من يكون لأجلك ويُشعرك أنك مفهوم ومهم ويسمعك بعمق.
تؤكد وأشاركها على أن فكرة الحب هو حل موثوق للوحدة هي أسطورة لأنه ببساطه: الحب هو لغز!
أن أحب لا يعني أنني لا أشعر بالوحده معه! الحل هو بالقُرب والتقارب.. ولا حصر في ذلك على علاقة عاطفية قد تكون قريب من عائلة، من صديق، من زميل عمل...كفيل للتخفيف من هذا الشعور.
قُربك من نفسك أولًا للوصول فيما بعد لقُربك من الآخر؛ فإذا كان توليد الحب بين الناس لا يمكن السيطرة عليه، فأنا أرى أن محاولة توليد الحب داخل نفسك هي أيضًا جهد غير مؤكد.
أجد الوحدة هي جزء من كينونة الإنسان ولا مفر إلا أن الجميل جدًا ختامها بأنه يمكن القضاء على وحدتك دون الحاجة إلى تغيير طبيعتك الأساسيّة فقط أن يكون هناك من يكون لأجلك ويُشعرك أنك مفهوم ومهم ويسمعك بعمق.
March 10, 2018
Worth a shot
I read a lot of books. I try what they say. If they have value to me I recommend them. This book is full of practical techniques. You can try them yourself. In my experience the small sample of tools, have lead to some of the most meaningful conversations I have had in years. These are exchanges with the people I care about most. Give it a try. I recommend it.
I read a lot of books. I try what they say. If they have value to me I recommend them. This book is full of practical techniques. You can try them yourself. In my experience the small sample of tools, have lead to some of the most meaningful conversations I have had in years. These are exchanges with the people I care about most. Give it a try. I recommend it.
February 1, 2019
A really helpful book analyzing the effects of technology on human connections today (kind of like Ten Arguments For Deleting Your Social Media Accounts Right Now, or Deep Work: Rules for Focused Success in a Distracted World in terms of addressing its effects on our productivity).
The author has also worked in tech, and in essence writes that the loneliness epidemic in society is a result of using technological tools as a replacement of face to face interactions instead of enabling more of them. The book also goes into some of the mentality promoted by our economy and work culture and their harm on interpersonal connections, specifically the drive for efficiency (whereas building connections is at its core an inefficient activity, consisting mostly of just sitting around and chatting or whatever is the preferred bonding activity), and the lack of curiosity and reliance on easy "discovery" of what's interesting (Netflix's "You may also like..." or expecting others to present their interesting parts or just writing them off as boring) rather than putting in the hard work to express curiosity about others. In addition to explaining some of the reasons to account for this, the book also also offers good advice on counteracting this epidemic with building closer connections with those in our lives. How many people do we pass by daily? Each life lived has a story, and it's a privilege to hear it. Finally, the author emphasizes that it is important for us to begin by building closeness with ourselves, and get in touch with our own wants and values and feelings, in order to accomplish this with others.
On a side note, I found these advice to be really helpful recently when interviewing applicants to my undergrad. I remember as a 17 year old this process was also harrowing for me and feeling as if I'm being scrutinized and judged, and as an introvert it made me clam up, especially when the alum seemed uninterested in really getting to know me or hear my thoughts and seemed only keen on prattling on about their halcyon days (yes talking about you, Cornell alum). I see it as my job as an interviewer to discover something interesting about the students sitting in front of me, and I got to learn something incredible each time, from the politics of obscure eastern European countries where their family was from, to re-assessing my thoughts on major Shakespearean works (how this student prefers his comedies as more wise and pragmatic than his tragedies, and that Romeo + Juliet has relevance today as an accurate portrayal of the hormone-ridden teenage angsty years as opposed to the sweeping grand love story it's marketed to be).
The author has also worked in tech, and in essence writes that the loneliness epidemic in society is a result of using technological tools as a replacement of face to face interactions instead of enabling more of them. The book also goes into some of the mentality promoted by our economy and work culture and their harm on interpersonal connections, specifically the drive for efficiency (whereas building connections is at its core an inefficient activity, consisting mostly of just sitting around and chatting or whatever is the preferred bonding activity), and the lack of curiosity and reliance on easy "discovery" of what's interesting (Netflix's "You may also like..." or expecting others to present their interesting parts or just writing them off as boring) rather than putting in the hard work to express curiosity about others. In addition to explaining some of the reasons to account for this, the book also also offers good advice on counteracting this epidemic with building closer connections with those in our lives. How many people do we pass by daily? Each life lived has a story, and it's a privilege to hear it. Finally, the author emphasizes that it is important for us to begin by building closeness with ourselves, and get in touch with our own wants and values and feelings, in order to accomplish this with others.
On a side note, I found these advice to be really helpful recently when interviewing applicants to my undergrad. I remember as a 17 year old this process was also harrowing for me and feeling as if I'm being scrutinized and judged, and as an introvert it made me clam up, especially when the alum seemed uninterested in really getting to know me or hear my thoughts and seemed only keen on prattling on about their halcyon days (yes talking about you, Cornell alum). I see it as my job as an interviewer to discover something interesting about the students sitting in front of me, and I got to learn something incredible each time, from the politics of obscure eastern European countries where their family was from, to re-assessing my thoughts on major Shakespearean works (how this student prefers his comedies as more wise and pragmatic than his tragedies, and that Romeo + Juliet has relevance today as an accurate portrayal of the hormone-ridden teenage angsty years as opposed to the sweeping grand love story it's marketed to be).
February 16, 2016
I loved this book.
The first thing Kira Asatryan tells us is that being lonely does not mean that something is inherently wrong with us. Our society is set up in a way that can make it tougher for us to reach out to others. She also fights the myth that having a significant other will solve all our problems. I like how this book focuses on making ALL relationships (romantic, friends, family, and coworkers) whole and satisfying. It makes sense, really. The happier we are in all aspects of our life, the better people we can be to those we love. She really broke things down in a way I had never seen articulated before but that made sense to me on a deeper level when I read it. I had a lot of moments where I would pause and mark a page. She also includes a bunch of practical advice on how to develop and nurture new and old relationships. It’s like having a therapist in book form. I will be returning to this book over and over again.
The first thing Kira Asatryan tells us is that being lonely does not mean that something is inherently wrong with us. Our society is set up in a way that can make it tougher for us to reach out to others. She also fights the myth that having a significant other will solve all our problems. I like how this book focuses on making ALL relationships (romantic, friends, family, and coworkers) whole and satisfying. It makes sense, really. The happier we are in all aspects of our life, the better people we can be to those we love. She really broke things down in a way I had never seen articulated before but that made sense to me on a deeper level when I read it. I had a lot of moments where I would pause and mark a page. She also includes a bunch of practical advice on how to develop and nurture new and old relationships. It’s like having a therapist in book form. I will be returning to this book over and over again.
October 26, 2021
الترجمه سيئه للغايه مع الاسف الكتاب يحاول ان يساعد ولكني كنت انتظر اكثر من هذا لكنه كتاب جيد يفتح امامنا طرق لفهم بعضنا بعضا وان نتعلم كيف نعذر الاخرين من حولنا وان نعطي فرصه للتواصل وبناء علاقات جيده مع الاخرين والهتمام بهم والابتعادقليلا عن وسائل التواصل الاجتماعي والتي في نظري ليست وسيله للتواصل بل لقطع التواصل بشتي الطرق وتقليلها او قطعها نهائيا بشكل سئ اعتذر لمحبي مواقع التواصل الاجتماعي ووسائله لكني ضد التعمق فيه او اعطاىه اولويه اكبر من مكانته
May 14, 2023
It's really embarrassing to admit given that I'm a therapist and it is literally my job to talk to people, but I got SO MUCH out of this book. It's so useful it actually literally feels like a user manual for being human.
The basic premise is that humans, by virtue of being genetically evolved to be social, need closeness to other humans in order to survive. But, by virtue of being humans, we sort-of suck at communicating with each other, which is obviously what needs to happen in order to develop closeness. Just your quintessential catch 22.
Closeness, as she defines it, is knowing the inner world of the person to whom you are close and vice versa. This is very different than just knowing a person and goes a lot deeper than the large majority of typical conversations ever go (thus why you can have a whole bunch of "close" relationships and still feel lonely.) What's great about this is that closeness is demystified. It's not an ineffable magic event that happens when people "click". It's is a concrete practice that ANYONE can get good at by following a series of steps and then exercising the muscles that do them.
Enter this book, the user manual for creating closeness via conversational skills. It covers everything from the skills necessary to be able to develop closeness (open-mindedness, curiosity, ability to take risks) and how to spot these people to how to formulate the best open-ended questions (I never thought about how reactive people are to the question of 'why?' before).
There are a lot of step by step instructions for crafting conversations in order to develop closeness and I've never read anything that breaks down the skill this much. I'm neurotypical so reading social cues comes a lot more naturally to me than it does many others and I found myself wondering how a neurodivergent brain would react to a book like this. My brain leads me to believe that it would be a godsend but I'm waiting for the neurodivergent folks to weigh in.
The other great things about this book is that it breaks down exactly why technology is so incredibly harmful to human interaction (efficiency is the enemy), why so many of the settings in which we normally converse with folks are so inhibitory to this process, and how many misconceptions there are about which types of relationships are supposed to be close and which aren't. This is great because it takes the blame out of it. It isn't that YOU suck at talking to people, it's that we have so many things working against us that we ALL kind-of suck at it.
Something I find myself thinking about very often (which I never thought of before) is the difference between needs and values and how to spot when they're not being met. She argues that complaints are what happens when our needs aren't being met whereas a more hard-to-name malaise is what happens when we aren't living up to our values. I think very differently about complaints nowadays because of this and find myself asking more questions than I did in the past. This is, of course, the point. To be more curious rather than judging something at face value and to ask the questions that need to be asked to really understand another person.
I have really only one complaint about this book, and it's something that others have echoed: terrible title. The title makes it sound like a self-help seminar that's trying to sell you something. That is so NOT what this book is. It's a really straightforward way of explaining and simplifying concepts that are normally over-complicated and breaking down the steps and practices necessary to develop the skills that facilitate conversation. I've read a lot of books about communication, none of them have been anywhere near this accessible.
Because of this, it's a universally recommended read. Get the book, practice the steps, you'll get better at talking to folks. And if there's anything more necessary in a world where people listen less and less and argue more and more I don't know what is.
The basic premise is that humans, by virtue of being genetically evolved to be social, need closeness to other humans in order to survive. But, by virtue of being humans, we sort-of suck at communicating with each other, which is obviously what needs to happen in order to develop closeness. Just your quintessential catch 22.
Closeness, as she defines it, is knowing the inner world of the person to whom you are close and vice versa. This is very different than just knowing a person and goes a lot deeper than the large majority of typical conversations ever go (thus why you can have a whole bunch of "close" relationships and still feel lonely.) What's great about this is that closeness is demystified. It's not an ineffable magic event that happens when people "click". It's is a concrete practice that ANYONE can get good at by following a series of steps and then exercising the muscles that do them.
Enter this book, the user manual for creating closeness via conversational skills. It covers everything from the skills necessary to be able to develop closeness (open-mindedness, curiosity, ability to take risks) and how to spot these people to how to formulate the best open-ended questions (I never thought about how reactive people are to the question of 'why?' before).
There are a lot of step by step instructions for crafting conversations in order to develop closeness and I've never read anything that breaks down the skill this much. I'm neurotypical so reading social cues comes a lot more naturally to me than it does many others and I found myself wondering how a neurodivergent brain would react to a book like this. My brain leads me to believe that it would be a godsend but I'm waiting for the neurodivergent folks to weigh in.
The other great things about this book is that it breaks down exactly why technology is so incredibly harmful to human interaction (efficiency is the enemy), why so many of the settings in which we normally converse with folks are so inhibitory to this process, and how many misconceptions there are about which types of relationships are supposed to be close and which aren't. This is great because it takes the blame out of it. It isn't that YOU suck at talking to people, it's that we have so many things working against us that we ALL kind-of suck at it.
Something I find myself thinking about very often (which I never thought of before) is the difference between needs and values and how to spot when they're not being met. She argues that complaints are what happens when our needs aren't being met whereas a more hard-to-name malaise is what happens when we aren't living up to our values. I think very differently about complaints nowadays because of this and find myself asking more questions than I did in the past. This is, of course, the point. To be more curious rather than judging something at face value and to ask the questions that need to be asked to really understand another person.
I have really only one complaint about this book, and it's something that others have echoed: terrible title. The title makes it sound like a self-help seminar that's trying to sell you something. That is so NOT what this book is. It's a really straightforward way of explaining and simplifying concepts that are normally over-complicated and breaking down the steps and practices necessary to develop the skills that facilitate conversation. I've read a lot of books about communication, none of them have been anywhere near this accessible.
Because of this, it's a universally recommended read. Get the book, practice the steps, you'll get better at talking to folks. And if there's anything more necessary in a world where people listen less and less and argue more and more I don't know what is.
August 27, 2019
Lots of good information about forming and strengthening relationships; defines terms well. The needs of single adults are not addressed.
Statistics reveal that people are increasingly lonely in todays fast-paced world, and the author spells out the reasons why. Despite the onset of social media, the multifaceted and varied layers of communication that have been stripped away in recent decades- by technology- leaving us socially less able than before.
The book is well-written and there are some good ideas. You might find your mind drifting away a little during her very in-depth analysis, however. The value of this work is that it awakens us to the need for focus and effort in our personal relationships. The book has a great take away message. Making and maintaining friendships is a skill that we can all learn and improve upon.
Statistics reveal that people are increasingly lonely in todays fast-paced world, and the author spells out the reasons why. Despite the onset of social media, the multifaceted and varied layers of communication that have been stripped away in recent decades- by technology- leaving us socially less able than before.
The book is well-written and there are some good ideas. You might find your mind drifting away a little during her very in-depth analysis, however. The value of this work is that it awakens us to the need for focus and effort in our personal relationships. The book has a great take away message. Making and maintaining friendships is a skill that we can all learn and improve upon.
February 16, 2020
The premise of this book is that loneliness isn't something that people experience only when one is physically alone, but also when we are around people, especially with the advent of technology and social media. And with that, the author proposes that the antidote to this kind of loneliness is creating and mastering the art of closeness.
This book is a very practical and compassionate approach to creating closeness in any type of relationship (family, friends, romantic partners, professional, etc). I found the sections on asking effective questions and fighting fair especially useful. The author also includes challenge questions in each chapter for self-reflection. Definitely recommended for any person who values creating/maintaining high quality and deeply satisfying relationships.
This book is a very practical and compassionate approach to creating closeness in any type of relationship (family, friends, romantic partners, professional, etc). I found the sections on asking effective questions and fighting fair especially useful. The author also includes challenge questions in each chapter for self-reflection. Definitely recommended for any person who values creating/maintaining high quality and deeply satisfying relationships.
August 18, 2020
I didn’t want this book to be finished. I got this book when I was feeling depressed/lonely after taking high dose of post-surgery painkiller. Well, I felt better as soon as I stopped taking those pills but book stayed with me. I gave it a shot and I’m amazed by how amazing this book is. It mainly focuses on building relationships off-line and last chapter covers how to be close to ourselves using all the previously discussed principles. On top of that, I learned some good American etiquettes about not to offer advice until you are specifically being asked to. ;)
February 14, 2016
Rush it in like four hours. Get interested in this new book after I read this article.
https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/...
The book provided some practical ways to build closeness with others. The content is quite heart-touching that I couldn't help nodding my head while reading. However, the organization needs some improvements.
https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/...
The book provided some practical ways to build closeness with others. The content is quite heart-touching that I couldn't help nodding my head while reading. However, the organization needs some improvements.
January 15, 2023
For some reason, I was reading this book fairly absentmindedly. In the final chapter the author shares her loneliness story, which was really recognizable to me. I almost wanted to start reading the book over again. If you are struggling with loneliness and bought this book, I suggest you start at the end and read the chapter Us and Loneliness first.
April 16, 2022
More like 3.5. I like the basic premise, but the execution could be a bit better. The author tells a personal anecdote about her own journey out of loneliness in the conclusion, and I was like, why wasn't this at the beginning? It also was published in 2016- pre-pandemic, pre-Trump, and it shows.
March 24, 2023
الكتاب جيد بشكل عام ولكن ما أفسده هو الترجمة الركيكة جداً. أنا لم أتخيل أن تكون الترجمة بهذا السوء. في الحقيقة هي أقرب ما تكون إلى ترجمة جوجل حرفية دون أدنى معالجة. شيء مؤسف فعلا
****لا أنصح أحد بقراءة هذه النسخة المعربة ولكن يمكن مشاهدة فيديوهات تلخص المضمون الخاص بهذا الكتاب****
****لا أنصح أحد بقراءة هذه النسخة المعربة ولكن يمكن مشاهدة فيديوهات تلخص المضمون الخاص بهذا الكتاب****
April 3, 2022
محتوي الكتاب لطيف، لكن الترجمة صعبت القراءة شوية بسبب استخدام مصطلحات كتير تقيلة.
يُستحسن تقرأ الكتاب باللغة الأصلية.
يُستحسن تقرأ الكتاب باللغة الأصلية.
May 19, 2022
الكتاب جميل ولطيف وبيحدد أساسيات بناء العلاقات بشكل واقعي بعيدا عن الأوهام او التوقعات الغير متناسبة مع طبيعة الإنسان
ومدي تأثير سرعة الزمن المعاصر ودورها في تعزيز هذة الأوهام
ومدي تأثير سرعة الزمن المعاصر ودورها في تعزيز هذة الأوهام
February 21, 2020
Useless...what about when you already do all of these things yet only have "friends"??? Not everyone who is lonely is incapable of loving and caring for themselves or others. But I do think the majority of the world could learn somethings. I'm someone who makes homemade gifts for people. Remembers random dates to check-in on people. Job interviews, births, tests, illness, etc. Notices people's ways of being and do something kind with their qualities and unique ways. Caring for both humans and animals equally. Spreading loving kindness is literally what I live for and have always lived for. My issue is not being kind and loving, but having people actually care about that. People are quite shallow. Much like Christmas, the majority of this world doesn't realize that you shouldn't need a holiday once a year to remind you to be kind and giving to one another.
December 13, 2020
Don’t let the title fool or dissuade you - it’s a good read to understand fundamental human behavior. Gave me a fresh take on navigating relationships (what types of people to avoid) and what I can do to be intentional about making them better.
Thoroughly enjoyed the breakdown of the psychology of relationships into actionable steps to foster better ones.
Simply put, your ability to foster closeness determines the quality of your relationships. Recommend.
Thoroughly enjoyed the breakdown of the psychology of relationships into actionable steps to foster better ones.
Simply put, your ability to foster closeness determines the quality of your relationships. Recommend.
June 25, 2024
I really loved this book! I think it will stay nearby in my life and I will keep referring back to it. I read the whole thing through, underlining and taking a few notes, but I absolutely am going back through it to do every exercise in my journal and to keep working on the skills. It's so simple and straightforward, like all the best life advice is.
July 22, 2020
It was an okay book. Not too many gems after explaining difference between needs and wants. I think once someone understands what closeness entails, you can safely get off the book cause you've taken home the main point. Not bad, but I struggled with focusing on this one.
June 9, 2023
كتاب جيد ، لكن الترجمة ركيكة جدا غالبا ترجمة google translate
اكتر جزء أعجبني غلاف الكتاب ، و الجزء الاخير " اقترب من نفسك "
" نشعر بالحزن و نعتقد انه لايجب ان نشعر بالحزن، نشعر بأننا لا نستمتع بحزننا ، نقول لأنفسنا : الحزن لايساعد، يجب ان اكون قادر على النظر إلى الجانب الايجابي"
اكتر جزء أعجبني غلاف الكتاب ، و الجزء الاخير " اقترب من نفسك "
" نشعر بالحزن و نعتقد انه لايجب ان نشعر بالحزن، نشعر بأننا لا نستمتع بحزننا ، نقول لأنفسنا : الحزن لايساعد، يجب ان اكون قادر على النظر إلى الجانب الايجابي"
April 25, 2024
Not very applicable for people with a traumatic background/ cptsd or people with attachment problems. The tips in this book can often even be contradictory in that case. Also quite surface level and Americentric
January 29, 2017
A few interesting thoughts about our responsibility to interact with others, by caring and developing relationships with those around us.
August 16, 2017
It has some interesting thoughts, but it's not clear how much is backed up by data or reliable studies, so it's hard to say if it's very accurate.
January 6, 2020
Fantastic book about how to deal with loneliness and how to change your mind about it.
November 29, 2020
I still don't like the title but there are some useful pointers on building closeness in relationships.
December 27, 2022
فكرة الكتاب مميزة ويحوي عدد من النقاط المحورية للتطوير في الموضوع
لكن للأسف ترجمة سيئة جداً، مرهقة في القراءة وتعيق الاستمتاع.
لكن للأسف ترجمة سيئة جداً، مرهقة في القراءة وتعيق الاستمتاع.
March 18, 2023
I give it an average rating.
I liked the part that handles how technology affects our human relationships.
However, for the most part, it didn't add much for me.
I liked the part that handles how technology affects our human relationships.
However, for the most part, it didn't add much for me.
May 7, 2019
Endorsements:
“Kira Asatryan takes you on a step-by-step journey back to where you were meant to be: to the feeling of closeness.”
—Dr. Wendy Walsh, CNN’s human behavior expert and former cohost of The Doctors
“Loneliness is a big struggle for many. In her new book, Kira Asatryan provides us a simple yet brilliant fix.”
—Dr. Charles J. Sophy, medical director for the County of Los Angeles Department of Children and Family Services
“Kira Asatryan’s new book guides us with practical advice and simple steps to build fulfilling, deep connections in all areas of our lives.”
—Christine Hassler, speaker, coach, and bestselling author of Expectation Hangover: Overcoming Disappointment in Work, Love, and Life
“One of the most valuable books I’ve ever read...I recommend you get one copy for yourself and another for a friend or family member.”
—Jed Diamond, PhD, author of The Irritable Male Syndrome: Managing the Four Key Causes of Depression and Aggression
“An absolute must-read for anyone wishing to deepen the quality of their relationships and their life in general.”
—Linda Bloom, LCSW, coauthor of 101 Things I Wish I Knew When I Got Married: Simple Lessons to Make Love Last
“An accessible, soulful, and wise book about making and deepening real connections with the people in your life, including yourself...Highly recommended.”
—Susan Raeburn, PhD, clinical psychologist
“Kira Asatryan takes you on a step-by-step journey back to where you were meant to be: to the feeling of closeness.”
—Dr. Wendy Walsh, CNN’s human behavior expert and former cohost of The Doctors
“Loneliness is a big struggle for many. In her new book, Kira Asatryan provides us a simple yet brilliant fix.”
—Dr. Charles J. Sophy, medical director for the County of Los Angeles Department of Children and Family Services
“Kira Asatryan’s new book guides us with practical advice and simple steps to build fulfilling, deep connections in all areas of our lives.”
—Christine Hassler, speaker, coach, and bestselling author of Expectation Hangover: Overcoming Disappointment in Work, Love, and Life
“One of the most valuable books I’ve ever read...I recommend you get one copy for yourself and another for a friend or family member.”
—Jed Diamond, PhD, author of The Irritable Male Syndrome: Managing the Four Key Causes of Depression and Aggression
“An absolute must-read for anyone wishing to deepen the quality of their relationships and their life in general.”
—Linda Bloom, LCSW, coauthor of 101 Things I Wish I Knew When I Got Married: Simple Lessons to Make Love Last
“An accessible, soulful, and wise book about making and deepening real connections with the people in your life, including yourself...Highly recommended.”
—Susan Raeburn, PhD, clinical psychologist
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