True success and happiness belong to those who master the art of creating their lives rather than getting better at changing their circumstances. It's remarkable that we humans remain quite a mystery to ourselves. While we are learning much about how our bodies and brains function, we are still in search of the why and how of human nature and behavior. The key to a great life starts with the recognition that you and I, all human beings, are creating our lives moment by moment. We are doing so without the slightest recognition of how we are doing it. In If I Can, You Can, David Zelman lays out the Transitions Process, which gives individuals access to themselves. Readers will discover the source of their innate ability to intentionally and committedly generate a future of their own choosing.
Had some good ideas and it might help some people but I really didn't like how the author seemed to take an age to get to the point. The whole first half of the book seems to be about how great this technique is.. without ever really explaining what it is...
The Oxford Dictionary describes transformation as "a thorough or dramatic change in form or appearance." Seems like a rather daunting undertaking -- until one reads "If I Can, You Can - Transformation Made Easy" by David Zelman PhD.
Dr. Zelman believes that a true self is a transformed self. In this book, he describes the Transitions Process and the four steps to transformation. Through the use of client stories and honest, personal stories from his own journey, we learn that by taking ownership of internal conversations, the ones we have 24/7, we can be free of our past and what's holding us back from a transformed future.
It's such an eye-opening awareness to realize how much our past-based conversations (verbally and mentally) affect our actions, our relationships, our careers, and our lives.
There's one part in the book where Dr. Zelman asks: "Do you want to know why you are the way you are? It's because you are the product of the sum of all the conversations you have ever had, plus the ones that are occurring right now!"
"If I Can, You Can" provides tools to achieve transformation. It's a simple, empowering process. And it is life changing.