The Courage to Be in Community, 2nd Edition: A Call for Compassion, Vulnerability, and Authenticity

by Tony Mayo

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Scientific evidence and personal experience tell us that sincere, engaging personal relationships are essential for health and happiness. Yet, little is said about how we might actively nurture such relationships for ourselves and for people near us at home and work.

Executive Coach Tony Mayo drew on the research of Brené Brown, Joseph Campbell, and others to compose this enthusiastically received non-sectarian sermon. Originally delivered to the Unitarian Universalist Church in Reston at their Sunday services on January 26, 2014, it has now has been revised and expanded for publication.

How do we balance the universal human needs of authenticity and acceptance in our personal lives? How might we foster communities where others have the courage to be truly themselves with us? The word courage originally meant “to speak and act from the heart,” or cour in Latin. Courage is required to express our deepest and most authentic selves because we so often fear judgment, rejection and exclusion.

Comments from People Who Heard the Sermon

“I so appreciate your wonderful talk yesterday morning. A great reminder for me to continue to take risks in my life and get out of my comfort zone as well as trusting others. It also reminded me of the importance of meditation in my life.” –Email from church member

“Your message was loud and clear and magically delivered. Thank you.” –Email from church member

“Tony Mayo covers a lot of meaningful ground in a handful of pages - he brings together courage, bravery, belonging, acceptance, compassion and more - and backs it up with insights, experience, AND academic references! I loved it!” –Ron Dimon, author of EPM Done Right (Wiley CIO Series)

“I am moved and inspired. It is absolutely great, challenging, and rich. Plus more adjectives are in me - all superlative, I'm sure. I must listen to it at least 2 more times; there is a lot to grok here.” –Lowell Nerenberg, Executive Coach

“Tony, one of the things I valued most about your sermon is that so few words were wasted. You did not speak just to fill the time; each sentence added to the whole.” –Email from church member

“Thank you, Tony, for such a wonderful message this morning. It was so uplifting and based on feedback, provided many with a transformational experience.” –Email from church member

“Please let me know when you have a written version to share. My life could use more Courage just now, and your talk gave me some ideas that could help.” –Email from church member

“Tony, I have it on good authority that your sermon this last Sunday was about the best ever.” –Email from church member who had been out of town.

“True courage comes from the heart.
“I was fortunate enough to hear this sermon in real life and was glad to see that Tony has put it in writing so it will be easy to share. I love his distinction between courage that comes from the heart and bravery (related to bravado) that is put on like armor to conceal weakness. He encouraged us to live authentic lives, risking vulnerability as we act from our true selves. I need to revisit what he shared with us on that memorable Sunday!” – Laurie Dodd, Attorney

“It’s rare that I find something so uplifting and encouraging. I am not a religious person and usually when I hear the word 'sermon' I run.

84 pages, Kindle Edition

Published January 24, 2016

About the author

Tony Mayo is an experienced executive coach to top executives and their teams. He is a master of analogy and anecdote whose illustrations are as likely to come from his studies of brain science, high energy physics or eastern philosophy as from his years of management and sales in high-technology. Whether speaking from a platform, coaching one-on-one, or facilitating a workshop, Tony maintains a laser focus on his goal of helping people realize their dreams.

Tony earned his MBA from the University of Chicago (now, Booth School of Business) at age twenty-one, after three years each of high school and college. He immediately started a business that he sold in 1982.

Tony has worked with Arthur Andersen & General Electric, founded boot-strap and venture-backed start-ups, and taught at the college, graduate, and executive levels. Tony is the author of The Courage to Be in Community and sole inventor of US Patents 6,678,663 & 7,930,209. His most important activities today are family fun, working with top executives, and total health. All with one unifying purpose: to promote workplaces of humanity and prosperity where people can be productive and satisfied.