7 Cups for the Searching Soul

by 7Cups community

Ready to change your life? Learn simple-yet-powerful concepts from the largest mental health community in the world. CEO, founder and psychologist Dr. Glen Moriarty and the 7 Cups community share what they’ve learned help people most. Feeling stuck? Depressed? Anxious? In this free self-help book, 7 Cups for the Searching Soul, the 7 Cups community and founder and psychologist Glen Moriarty have combined all the knowledge they’ve gained in working with those in need daily, including proven research and healing traditions, into an easy-to-read and implement 7-step program. Learn why you feel the way you do and how to break free from thoughts and emotions that keep you stuck. Improve your relationships and your life in seven steps, or “cups”: Cup 1: Open - Share what’s on your heart Cup 2: Attune - Attune to love Cup 3: Practice - Practice skills to increase calm Cup 4: Live - Sleep, eat, and exercise well Cup 5: Accept - Accept what life brings you Cup 6: Care - Care for others that need support Cup 7: Commit - Live according to what is important “An easy yet very informative and eye-opening read. Some of the information consisted of ideas that had never been explained to me by counselors or doctors. Reasons for your emotions and feelings were outlined as well as ideas to help with ones that feel unpleasant or negative...I know I will refer back to this book often.” - Jimilyn “It does open your eyes to see things in a different light.” -- Theresa S. “It can be a real lifesaver to anyone who reads it.” -- MarkFleshman I have been extremely depressed & was searching for something. Reading this opened me up to possibilities.” -- Renee Jolley Learn the secrets to a more fulfilling life from the world’s largest emotional support network, the 7 Cups community, as told by CEO and Founder Glen Moriarty, PsyD. By the end of 7 Cups for the Searching Soul, you will be empowered to move beyond worry and fear toward the life your heart desires.

Genres: Self Help, Nonfiction, Psychology

148 pages, Kindle Edition

Published February 2, 2016

Reviews

[حماس · Rating 4 out of 5]

الكوب الأول روى لي عطشي
و سكن شعورى بالوحدة بالثاني
الثالث يمنحني حكمة الزخارف القديمة
الرابع ينفي متاعبي ومشاكلي بعيدًا
جسدي يصبح أخف بالخامس
السادس يرسل لي كلمة من الخلود
لكن السابع - آه من الكوب السابع- لو شربتك، فستضرب ريح بأجنحتي
محلقة بي نحو الأرض المقدسة

ترجمة متواضعة لقصيدة سبعة أكواب شاي لـ لو تونج

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الكتاب يصنف من كتب مساعدة الذات
مقسم جزئين الأول عن الإصابة، والإنكار والملهيات
والثاني عن الترياق

فصوله الأربعة الأولى هى المفضلة لي
الفصل الأول عن قصة خيالية طريفة
في نهايتها تصل فكرة صغيرة
أن البشر مخلوقات اجتماعية بطبيعتها
وكلنا في حاجة للمساعدة حتى لو أنكرنا
ونحن حين نحتاج، نطلب المساعدة، فنحصل عليها، ليكون بمقدورنا مساعدة الآخرين، ثم تأتي علينا لحظة حاجة أخرى تدعونا لطلب المساعدة
وهكذا
هى سلسلة طبيعية

الفصل الثاني عن الإنكار
فنحن قد ننكر أننا واقعون في مشكلة دون حتى أن نعى ذلك
وللطفولة تأثير كبير في إنكار بعض المشاعر كالغضب أو الحزن
يتطلب الأمر لإدراك الإنكار وعيًا بالذات ومراقبة للمشاعر والمحفزات

الفصل الثالث وفي نظرى الأهم بينهم جميعا عن الملهيات والمشتتات
من يتصور أن الطعام المصنع من الملهيات!
أو مواقع الانترنت!
أو حتى ألعاب الفيديو!
أضرب مثالًا صغيرًا بكتاب الوجه أو facebook
فهو لا يصبح من الملهيات إلا إذا وجدت نفسك حين تفعل أمرًا
تفعله وأنت تفكر ماذا سيكون رد فعلى متابعىّ حين أكتب منشورًا عن هذا الأمر
تحولت الأمر من فعله لانك تستمتع به أو لأنه واجبك أو لتتخذ عليه أجرًا
أصبحت تفعله لتصوره أو تكتب عنه فتحصل على إعجابات ويشيد الناس بك

أعلم أن كثيرين لا يحبون كتب مساعدة الذات، لكن هذا الفصل ذو أهمية كبيرة للتحرر من قيود هذا العصر

الفصل الرابع عن المشكلات
أمر طبيعي تمامًا أن تزورنا المشكلات بين حين وآخر
لكن ما يهم هو تعاملنا معها، فذلك هو ما يحدد إذا كنا سنقع في شباكها
أم نعانى قليلًا لنتعلم منها في النهاية

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الجزء الثاني المعنون بالترياق
يشمل سبعة أكواب أو فصول
الكوب الأول: انفتح، وشارك ما في قلبك
الكوب الثاني: انسجم مع الحب
الكوب الثالث: مارس بعض المهارات لتبقى هادئً
الكوب الرابع: نم، مارس بعض الرياضة، وكل جيدًا
الكوب الخامس: تقبل ما تأتي به الحياة
الكوب السادس: اهتم بالآخرين الذين في حاجة لبعض الدعم
الكوب السابع: فلتحيا طبقًا لما هو مهم


يمكننى القول أن هذه المراجعة هى كتفصيل لمحتويات الكتاب
الذي على أهميته أعتقد أنني سأعود إليه بين حين وآخر
تمت

[Yomna · Rating 4 out of 5]

I joined 7Cups.com during a difficult time of my life, and I later signed up as a listener as well. It's been an enriching experience, and I'm impressed with the vision of the founders. I received this ebook for free from the website. A smooth and informative read. I'm not a big fan of self-help books, but I enjoyed how this one is so simple, yet based on research. The first 4 chapters are my favourite. The authors did an incredible job taking some of the effective therapeutic theories/techniques and explaining them without any psychological jargon. There's even a quote by Virginia Satire, a famous family therapist! This book is ideal for someone who is trying to be more self-aware, empathic, and make better decisions. I don't think it's helpful for people with more severe issues and mental illnesses. Overall, this was a great read. I ended up highlighting a lot of stuff, and I'm definitely going to use it as a resource with my clients in therapy. I recommend you check out the 7Cups.com website, you can get some help and support, and you can also help thousands of people from all around the world.

[Delaney · Rating 5 out of 5]

I became a member of 7cups.com in November of 2017.
My mom found the site and app as she was searching for online groups/counseling to support me cope with depression and anxiety caused by the abusive relationship I had finally ended.
Currently, I am a listener and intern; allowing me to be of service to others who are struggling.
The book effectively sheds light on denial, distraction, facing our problems, asking for help, why anonymity protects us and enables us to open up and share things we feel embarrassed about, evaluating our relationships, etc...
I think everyone who reads this book will come away with valuable insights.

[Hanna Fathima · Rating 5 out of 5]

This book gave me tremendous hope and supported me through my tough days. definitely recommended!!

[Rikki · Rating 1 out of 5]

I started and largely abandoned this in May 2023. (Can abandonment be partial? I'm likely not going back, and I skimmed the remainder, but it wasn't a close reading after page 32. Perhaps this ought to go under "abandoned.")

It's half-baked at best. The beginning is warm, comforting and a bit promising in the self-help way. I also got the feeling that the author of the introduction did not write the vast majority of the book—pamphlet? booklet? blurb-that-went-on-for-too-long?

I'm writing this several months later, so I'm leaning heavily on the notes I took.

We'd ask you to let go of the past now and consider the start of this book an opportunity to make a fresh start moving forward. Stop and think about that for a second. A fresh start. You starting fresh now. A new chapter. The next page. A brand new direction. [—pg 6]

:)

Growth is challenging. It comes in fits and starts. You'll struggle, you'll have hard times, and sometimes things won't make sense. This has nothing to do with you. This is just life. This is how it is. [—pg 6]

:)?

[some stuff about falling off the "path" and how that's ok, just get back on it, it'll always be there, also this was written by "The 7 Cups Community"]

who?

Overall this introduction part was nice because it set the reader up for being open to self-exploration and participating in what could be some challenging inner dialogue. I figured that's what was coming, at least: some kind of framework for dealing with the stuff that knocks you off your path, that kind of thing.

Instead, we got some typical male egotistical bloviating from the corner of some dude's fragile ego tooted out through what reads like a weird conspiracy theory manifesto typed up on an '00s forum in some dusty part of the internet. Huge vibe shift.

But then shifts again by veering straight back into the realm of self-help. Maybe. Does it?

I'm confused too and wondering if that was part of the point.

The very next page, following the warm welcome from """The 7 Cups Community""" that was probably actually one woman, reads Part I// The Infection - Denial and Distraction—and it baffled me so much that I actually went back to the beginning to review the table of contents in case I'd gotten some bungled version of the book. Lo, here are the contents! [with comments from me in brackets]

Welcome
Part I: The Infection - Denial and Distraction
Chapter 1: A Story
Chapter 2: Denial
Chapter 3: Distractions [oh boy]
Chapter 4: Problems [is this table foreshadowing? because]
Part II: The Antidote - 7 Cups [hmmmmm, smells a bit culty suddenly]
Chapter 5: A Place for You [o____o]
Chapter 6: Cup 1: Open: Share What is on Your Heart [tbh, it's the number of colons]
Chapter 7: Cup 2: Attune: Attune to Love [did anyone else have a problem with that]
Chapter 8: Cup 3: Practice: Practice Skills to Increase Calm [was anadiplosis the goal or am i giving way too much benefit of the doubt here]
Chapter 9: Cup 4: [jesus we're only on the fourth cup] Live: Sleep, Eat, and Exercise Well
Chapter 10: Cup 5: Accept: Accept What Life Brings You [ah, crap, thought maybe we were done with the chanting]
Chapter 11: Cup 6: Care: Care for Others that Need Support [like this document?]
Chapter 12: Cup 7: Commit: Live According to What is Important [i get the feeling it'll be "whatever you decide is what's important is therefore what is important, no ifs ands or buts, unless it's not, in which case it isn't, but ultimately you decide!!"]
Closing Note [really wanted this to continue as ": Note: Noting the Close: A Note in Closing"]

A bit scathing and maybe it's not entirely deserved but I get a bit nasty when sexism shows up, especially where it does the most damage—like in a genre that is typically popular among women and girls.

No, it's not in the ToC, but it shows up quickly enough for me to quit a close reading of the book before I'd read 50 pages.

There are some liberal feminist tells here and there, some performativity meant to check some neoliberal boxes:

• briefly referencing "sexual assault and abuse" without emphasizing its sexist nature (i.e. victims being overwhelmingly female and those who are male are typically coded as female), which furthers the idea that sexual assault and abuse is not a gendered issue, which is very Feminism is About Equality, Not Just W*mxn

• cursorily mentioning gender roles—the ways females and males are socialized on the basis of sex to further the social reproduction of patriarchy: the domination by the male class of the subordinate female class—along the lines of females being discouraged from masculinity and males from femininity but while speaking to an essentialist view of gender here, "The more we ignore these unintegrated pieces of ourselves, the less developed they become. They stay stunted and immature." While I agree that what comprises gender (as discrete from sex) is ultimately all that normatively runs the gamut of human behavior and emotion, I also recognize that gender involves a functional system that parses out certain human behaviors and emotions into two categories: that which must be adopted and performed by females and that which must be adopted and performed by males—and to the extent that we are all convinced that females must be feminine and males must be masculine, otherwise one is not really a woman/girl, man/boy, respectively. I additionally recognize that a core component of this parsing system is to exaggerate certain aspects of gender, of those roles assigned to "femininity" or "masculinity", so that these characteristics are more extreme than they might otherwise be if so many complementary characteristics weren't divvied out to the other category. Men might not be so angry and controlling if they were more emotionally intelligent, less stunted in that development; women might not be so self-abnegating if they weren't gaslit to hell and back for practically everything all their lives. Some understand from this that femininity and masculinity are innate concepts that must be balanced—and, I suppose, yeah? But only if you're considering the typical, normatively developed human traits as being accessible by all normatively developed human beings, with patriarchy being what does the most interruption to what would otherwise be normative development. As soon as you transmutate that concept into "divine femininity and masculinity," which is really just a collection of sexist tropes, the ideal feminine woman and the ideal masculine man, then you've stopped seeing gender as a tool of patriarchy and instead a natural, normal and necessary system that is just out of alignment.

And our author (of this section) here sends just that message: that the solution to sexism is for us all to be balanced in our feminine and masculine traits—not the human traits, but the gendered traits.

Which is impossible, since a gender balance can never be achieved: it requires imbalance (patriarchy) in order to exist.

Dismantling gender (as discrete from sex) is how we achieve a balance between the sexes.

And yeah, sure, perhaps I shouldn't expect a radical perspective from an author of a self-help piece, but actually, no, I should. Each small validation of error as true eventually validates the entire wrong system as right. See also the aforementioned gaslighting. And go ahead and read Oppression by Marilyn Frye.

These were bullets at one point. But hey, if the formatting of this book didn't bother you, this probably won't either.

• discusses in detail, through the endorsement of Robert Bly by quoting a large passage from him, the importance of the feelings of boys and men, not really because of how that implicates the perpetration and facilitation of violence against women and girls or of each other, but because of how that is just so hard for boys and men :'( and male tears are very relevant and important within neoliberal feminism—along with how females, supposedly, do just as much sexist damage to each other as males do. Read about it from this guy, not me [and notes from me in brackets]:

In the language of Jung, these unacceptable parts become a part of "the shadow"; they are the pieces of our self that are not in the light, not in our conscious, hidden below the surface of the iceberg.

Robert Bly (1988) has captured this well:

Let's talk about the personal shadow first. When we were one or two years old we had what we might visualize as a 360-degree personality. Energy radiated out from all parts of our body and all parts of our psyche. [said so confidently, so it's surely true.] A child running is a living globe of energy. We had a ball of energy, all right [we get it, energy]; but one day we noticed that our parents didn't like certain parts of that ball. They said things like: "Can't you be still?" Or "It isn't nice to try and kill your brother." [i would hope parents would discourage murder?? but that's a hurtful thing according to Bly apparently, and the author doing the quoting seems to agree since he doesn't say otherwise.] Behind us we all have an invisible bag, and the part of us our parents don't like, we, to keep our parents' love, put in the bag. ['i had to put away my homicidal tendencies to make sure my parents still loved me and i'm still sad about that'] By the time we go to school our bag is quite large. ['from the sadness, which came quite naturally from having to deny that natural part of myself, Cain'] Then our teachers say: "Good children don't get angry over such little things." So we take our anger and put it in the bag. [where it's in easy reach for taking out later on the women and girls and femininely coded males in your life, nice] By the time my brother and I were twelve in Madison, Minnesota we were known as "the nice Bly boys." Our bags were already a mile long. [moral: being Nice is MEAN!! and HURTS!!!!]

Then we do a lot of bag-stuffing in high school. [*eyes emoji*] This time it's no longer the evil grownups that pressure us, but people our own age. [man, if you saw so many grownups as evil, i'd say you had bigger problems than being told you shouldn't murder your brother] So the student's paranoia about grownups can be misplaced. [ah, none of us would try to fit in with each other if our parents just let us murder our siblings, got it] I lied all through high school automatically to try to be more like the basketball players. [*tiniest violin in the world plays faintly in the background*] Any part of myself that was a little slow went into the bag. [*violin stops*] My sons are going through the process now; I watched my daughters, who were older, experience it. I noticed with dismay how much they put into the bag, but there was nothing their mother or I could do about it. [are you absolutely certain about that] Often my daughters seemed to make their decision on the issue of fashion and collective ideas of beauty[[sic]], and they suffered as much damage from other girls as they did from men. [there it is]

So I maintain that out of a round globe of energy the twenty-year-old ends up with a slice. [it sure is hard work diminishing yourself on a regular basis so you don't rage out constantly and murder all the time]

Bly goes on to talk about how different cultures influence the repressing of different parts of ourselves. In the United States [trying not to speak to universality somehow does the opposite of generalizing /s], females are supposed to deny the more masculine side. They are encouraged to be less directive[sic] and assertive. The "bossy" campaign illustrated this wonderfully. [no citation] Males, on the other hand, shouldn't be too feminine, emotional or tender. [since the latter two aren't a part of the former. /s] The more we ignore these unintegrated pieces of ourselves, the less developed they become. They stay stunted and immature. [like the tendency to murder one's brother]

Then he includes one of the "Thought Spot" blurbs, which are supposed to be prompts for introspection. This one asks, "What are you carrying in your bag?"

Then he continues with what follows below, and truly there is nothing else separating what came before and what's about to come, despite its appearance of incontinuity:

Although these characteristics are very threatening inside of us, [????] we can become very attracted to them when we see them portrayed in the outside world, in books or movies. [maybe he's talking about the "unintegrated pieces" being coded as "threats"?? but if they're "stunted and immature," how are they powerful enough to be threatening? if it's about Bly's bag of crap, weren't those things removed so the love remains? doesn't the removal mean the threat is also removed?] At that safer distance, we can experience these parts of ourselves vicariously, getting a kind of release of the building pressure they create inside of us. This is why movies and books about sex, horror, and violence are so popular. [or, and bear with me here, or—maybe it's Puritanism. which, yes, hinges on making just about everything taboo and therefore relies a lot on repression and the resultant tension, which this guy's talking about, but i get the feeling this author isn't seeing the locus as something external, like Puritanism or patriarchy generally, that requires a systematic dismantling and replacement with its antithesis, but as a vague internal Imbalance that, sure, is caused by something external on a more micro level, like parents being Not Okay with you murdering your brother, but is solvable on individual bases through various arbitrary personal choices and analyses along the lines of "you do you, whatever feels right is best," which implies murdering your brother could be a solution.]

But even with these cultural releases, the split off parts of ourselves do not ever really leave us alone. They keep knocking on our door and asking to be let in. They keep popping up above the surface. They want to be integrated, to become part of who you are. [MURDER!! YOUR!!! BROTHERRR!!!!]

Why do we keep them away? [BECAUSE!! MURDERING!! SUPPOSEDLY!! BAD!!!]

We keep them away because they are scary.[author emboldened, not me]

Why are they scary?

The split off parts of ourselves are scary because when we originally acted in and through them, back when we were small, they caused problems in our relationships with our parents or caregivers. [Freudian psychoanalysis is EVERYTHING!!!!!1!!!!!1!]

[then a bunch of stuff about parents overcorrecting anger in children and that anger then being repressed, but it's a Good Emotion because it "is the emotion of protection" and without anger boundaries are difficult to do, anxiety enters stage left, and we're introduced to the Triangle of Conflict, which is "anger, anxiety, and denial," and the gist is you deny the anxiety to cope with the anxiety that arises from the anger you're told you're not supposed to feel. he tells us these emotional reactions are "unconscious" and "no conscious choice (is being) made." it was learned in childhood and is now reflexive. he then happily tells us that we choose things and people who will help us perpetuate this cycle of misery because it's what's comfortable. there's a lot of truth there but we're not as lacking in autonomy as he claims.]

Anyway, I've spent way too much time on this as it is, so I'll try to start wrapping up by mentioning the things that are more blatantly sexist:

On page 28, in building his case about how we look for means by which to make ourselves feel like we can do things when IRL we feel like we can't, and to this end he described video games as "addictive" because they promote feelings of self-efficacy, he referred to Rayman Origins as Raymond Origins, which was hilarious (meant derisively) and probably had nothing at all to do with sexism. But men find a way: On that same page, he said, "Having a hard time getting a girlfriend? No problem, you are a great warrior on level 5 of the latest adventure game."

... : )

Also on page 28, a popular page for bullshit, apparently, "We are not interested in making a moral argument as to whether or not porn is a good thing." Haha! "Rather, we just want to highlight that the addictive mechanisms are the exact same as the above distraction systems, except that they are much more powerful because they also involve a euphoric release in the form of ejaculation or orgasm. These biological processes release lots and lots of happy chemicals in the brain making porn a particularly potent form of distraction." That's all it is, folks!! A distraction!! Wow!!!!!! Brilliant. And what's the distraction that's keeping your fingers in your ears and the blinders by your eyes?

Note, additionally, the shift from "I" to "we," here. "Don't be mad at me for being a sexist piece of shit, it's the entire community uwu." But he's back to "I" once he mentions his "academic brain."

The pièce de résistance features on page 32 [emphasis in bold by me]:

One last distraction: accomplishments. Some of you smarter folks reading this may have already realized the game of grades, corporate ladder climbing, and money. You may be an independent thinker that is focused on accomplishments. I applaud you. However, a warning, just like with the above distractions, be careful not to get addicted to accomplishments. You do not want to achieve things just for the sake of accomplishing them. It can be easy to think about getting that next notch on your belt, scaling that next mountain, or publishing that next book. You want to make sure that you are focusing on these things because they are meaningful and important. These are also powerful distractions that can keep you in denial.

Honestly, fuck this guy, and I feel sorry for any of the genuinely helpful people at 7 Cups who might've been usurped by this asshole during writing, editing and publication, as well as for anyone who has wasted one's time seriously reading this piece of work. It's also a shameful representation of 7 Cups, which can otherwise be a helpful site and a good tool for people who are struggling.

If your soul is searching, I hope you'll go find a different cup.

[L · Rating 4 out of 5]

Educational, to a degree it was helpful in providing insight.

[Leonardo Tomás Cardillo · Rating 5 out of 5]

https://drive.google.com/file/d/1zWqp...

[Tashia Samarasinghe · Rating 5 out of 5]

Super book

It gives so many tips in different ways and it is as if the book was written for me.

I have had so many trials and tribulations and the book has offered me support in ways of changing the mindset and making my soul better

[Dafne · Rating 5 out of 5]

It’s a really nice book. It may be very helpful <3

[Adrian Rose · Rating 2 out of 5]

This is a book that was offered free on the Amazon site for digital reading, and I am very grateful that I did not have to pay anthing for it. While it is a book that claims to have a new approach to solving problems, it actually does not offer anything new except for the website that it advertises. And that is really all this book is, an advertisement for the website created by the author. The steps that are put forward as things to do to make your life better is just old wisdom rehashed. One of their "cups" to a better life is actually "Eat healthy, get plenty of sleep, and exercise every day." Okay, right.
I have looked at their website, and, while perhaps being started with the best of intentions, it is simply a place where you can go and get in touch with an amateur councellor to talk to about your problems. I call them amateurs because, to become a councellor on this site, all you have to do is pass a course on the site itself, and then make yourself available to listen to other people's problems. There are no credentials, no screenings, and no background checks involved. Therefore, there is no way to know if the person you are pouring your heart out to is actually someone who really cares, or someone who is trying to take advantage of you emotionally, monetarily, or even physically. Call me someone with trust issues, but I would feel more comfortable talking out my problems to my cat than with anyone on this site.
Normally, I try to find something positive to say about a book, but, with this one, it was just impossible. While it was written by a man who genuinely cares about his subject, it still comes across as nothing but a billboard for a product, and not a very good product at that. Sorry 7 Cups, but this is one that even I cannot find anything positive about.

[Jennifer Guindon · Rating 3 out of 5]

Okay book...

I have been struggling with depression lately so thought this book might help. It took me a really long time to finish it, mostly because I couldn't get really engaged. The ideas sounded good & I downloaded the 7 Cups app, excited to see what it entailed. I realized I had downloaded it previously & wasn't impressed, which happened again this time. Perhaps that's why I couldn't really get on board with this book. It just wasn't what I needed but hopefully it can help others.

[Sophia Salinas · Rating 5 out of 5]

I am a volunteer intern at 7 Cups and one of my assignments for the leadership development program that I am part of is to read this book. Already by the introduction, I was moved by how much care the author conveys to the reader. I really enjoyed this aspect, especially since I am going through a tough time right now, particularly with my mental health issues.

I totally recommend this book, especially for those who are going through a tough time. And even if you're not, I still recommend reading this as it will help you grow mentally and spiritually!

[Laiba · Rating 5 out of 5]

I enjoyed reading the book. It provides you with a basic understanding of why you feel the way you do and then provides you with the tools to grow and learn. The book has a compassionate tone to it. I highly recommend giving it a read.

[Preethika · Rating 5 out of 5]

This book was amazing to read through. There were so many real life experiences and lessons that were taught. Each chapter brought me something new and helped me with ways to improve myself as a person. I really enjoyed reading this book!

[Sorrowka · Rating 3 out of 5]

Before jumping into 7cups, i was in stew (by the feeling of failure, agitation, family issue, and such). I found another site beside 7cups that randomly match listener and counselee without any screening at all (sound like omegle or dating site), which didn't turn out good.
I have consulted to psychologists and a counselor, seeking for help. As later i found out on a book saying "We craved to listen yet without knowing listening is a gift we offer to people". it turned me in whim from signing up as a member to listener in 7cups.

the same conveyed in this book.

Need forces you to face your problems and ask for help in solving them. Once you
receive the help, you feel better and want to help others. This is the basic process that
creates healing

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my favorite part is the warm beginning, which the book is not about lecturing us but acknowledge that they don't know the reader personally, yet they still console them.

Most part of the book let the reader involve in psychology materials without having to ground in textbooks, which is more efficient (also just 89 pages of self-reminder, it's a lot better than other psychology/self-improvement books right).
It's equipped with some thought spots in each chapter.

The book may not suit you if you seek in deep material, grounded in specific topic with research.
BUT if you need a reminder, self-healing by self-talk, busy people, get enough by heavy reading, this might suit for you.

[Sirena · Rating 5 out of 5]

An insightful book and easy to read. I like how it broke down each step, each as a new cup of tea. The exercises were interesting and help illustrate the point. Lots of important life lessons, but written in a way that feels like you are getting advised by a friend. A lot of what was written is not new to me. I discovered a long time ago the “helper’s high”, but I enjoyed the perspective the author shared and appreciated the research he included to back up his points. It definitely made me ponder my life and give me hope. It was a good reminder of the tools within us to live a happy life. The importance of gratitude. That everyone is living a life filled with struggles. That love is patient, kind and compassionate.

“If you want others to be happy, practice compassion. If you want to be happy, practice compassion.” - Dalai Lama

I enjoyed all the great quotes in this book.
One of the most valuable lessons for me, was that “we all need rails to live the good life.”

But overall, from the author, “the most important lesson is that it is very important to care for vulnerable people. It helps them, it helps you, and it makes the world a better place.” I completely agree.

[Randi · Rating 5 out of 5]

The book, penned by psychologist Glen Moriarty and insights from the 7 Cups community, adeptly unpacks the cognitive distortions and unconscious biases that often keep us tethered to past hurts or future anxieties. I started to recognize patterns in my thought processes—the automatic negative thoughts, the tendency to catastrophize—and, more importantly, I was given tools to gently challenge them, not with force, but with curiosity.

It touches upon concepts like attachment theory in the context of our relationships, both with ourselves and others, and highlights the crucial role of empathy and active listening in fostering genuine connection. What truly imbued me with hope was its emphasis on our inherent capacity for resilience and growth.

This book, 7 Cups for the Searching Soul, provided me with a framework for self-compassion and a renewed sense of agency over my emotional landscape. I finished the book feeling not just understood, but equipped with practical strategies to navigate the inevitable ups and downs of life with greater awareness and a belief in my own capacity for healing and happiness.

[abigail · Rating 5 out of 5]

I've been procrastinating this review for a while, since I just don't know what to say. In fact, I still don't really know what to say. So I guess I'll just state the facts: this book and 7 Cups are kind of amazing and, quite literally, life-changing. Even if you don't read self-help books, like me, give this book a shot. And even if you don't think you need online therapy / counseling, join 7 Cups as a listener, like I did. I swear that joining 7 Cups was one of the best decisions I've ever made -- right up there with re-starting my book blog and joining Goodreads! So what are you still here for?

[Vidi_M · Rating 5 out of 5]

This is an amazing book over all. I came across this book when I visited the 7 cups website and I have never read a more concise, relevant and practical book before that we can also finish in a day or two while sipping a cup of tea. The book has a lot of mini stories in between to give us a third person perspective on some issues and I absolutely loved it. It is written in a simple language that is good for native as well as non-native English speakers and yet doesn't fail to communicate the big points.
The 7 cups refer to 7 different steps or qualities and it was great to see how all the steps relate and connect to each other. Highly recommended. If you have some spare time on some evening and really want to enjoy a good book to be your companion, give it a shot.

[Healing Soul · Rating 5 out of 5]

I recently had the opportunity to read '7 Cups for the Searching Soul' and I must say it was a truly enlightening and transformative experience. The book offers insightful perspectives on navigating life's challenges and finding inner peace through self-reflection and mindfulness. Each chapter is thoughtfully crafted, filled with practical advice and inspiring anecdotes that resonate deeply with readers. Whether you're seeking guidance on relationships, personal growth, or overcoming adversity, this book serves as a valuable companion on your journey to self-discovery. I highly recommend '7 Cups for the Searching Soul' to anyone looking to cultivate resilience, positivity, and authenticity in their lives.

[Bomin Seo · Rating 4 out of 5]

7 Cups is a platform which I found when I was feeling very difficult in my life. Just like this book, 7 Cups really helped me to feel better and be a better person. From this book I was able to learn a lot of important things which we must know to take good care ourselves and be successful in our lives. The part which I engaged the most is how we can face our own problems and how to ask for help if we are feeling difficult. It also evaluates many aspects of our social life such as maintaining healthy relationships. I'm sure that people who have an opportunity to read this great book will have an insight of how to live a more motivated life! In short, a great book.

[Haniaden · Rating 4 out of 5]

7 Cups for The Searching Soul is a reflection of our lives. How we deal with problems, phases, and 7 cups community as social support.

"Cup 1- everyone starts by sharing what is on their heart, Cup-2 they receive care and begin to attune to love, Cup 3- they realize by deliberately practicing skills to increase calm, they receive more love, Cup 4- taking care of the body by learning simple exercise, to sleep, and eat, Cup 5- accept what brings in life; the pain, the problems, and negative emotion, Cup 6- consistently care for others increase compassion and empathy, then Cup-7 keep working the program and check it out from week to week basis to make sure we are on the right track"

[Shruti · Rating 5 out of 5]

Certainly a very informative book. The intention and analogy behind publishing the content of this book is truly a game changer. It would be really helpful tool if you are willing to join the 7cups community. I loved the little stories along with the detailed dissection of the topic.
It gave me new insights while also telling me how to take care of the little things in life and make sense out of it.
One of the best books I have read. It was really Easy to understand. helped me see a lot of things from a third person/ observer's perspective. It is easy to finish reading it in a day or two so it is totally worth spending some hours on. Highly recommended.

[CG MINT · Rating 4 out of 5]

This book would be of most interest to users of the 7cups.com website, which is a peer-support site.
This book will change your life by:
Exposing the truth about how the world actually works.
Helping you understand and break free from the traps that keep you stuck.
Teaching you how and why you, your behaviors, and relationships make sense.
Empowering you to move through worry and fear to the life your heart desires.
Showing you how caring for others connects you to a deeper, stronger, and more nourishing life.

[Joy · Rating 5 out of 5]

I love how relatable it is. The problem with psychological books is that they condemn or advice like a third party. Do this, don't do this. What you are doing is wrong, no wonder you don't get sleep for instance. This book shares in a way that relates to what you are going through. For instance the story of the city and the illness affecting that city. The solutions were so much relatable and from that you decide which solution you want for yourself. Separate and build walls or relate, love and live long. 7 cups of soul searching, with each cup, a refreshing feeling.

[Sherif Riad · Rating 5 out of 5]

7 Cups for the Searching Soul is a heartfelt and practical guide to personal growth, offering a structured yet deeply personal roadmap for healing and self-discovery. Through relatable stories, actionable exercises, and the powerful metaphor of the 7 Cups, the book emphasizes the importance of vulnerability, community, and self-care. It’s an inspiring read that reminds us we’re not alone in our struggles and that by helping others, we also heal ourselves. A must-read for anyone on a journey of growth and connection!

[HopeApea · Rating 5 out of 5]

《7cups for the searching soul》is far more than a book—it’s a quiet, trusted companion for anyone navigating life’s confusion, loneliness, or longing. The “7 cups” metaphor is warm and relatable, turning big, overwhelming feelings (self-doubt, the hunt for purpose, quiet grief) into small, gentle moments of comfort and clarity.

It never preaches. Instead, it speaks like a friend who gets it—sharing soft insights that validate your struggles, not dismiss them, and guiding you toward self-compassion without pressure.

[tennisgirl26 · Rating 5 out of 5]

I really enjoyed this book, and I would say that it has definitely aided in my self-care journey.

I really enjoyed reading Chapter 12, 'Live According to What is Important.'

This chapter was really interested as it emphasized that time management should be called life management, because time = life and life = time.

Overall, this was a really good read, and I recommend this book to those who are looking to enhance their overall well-being!

[Jiya]

I am a part of 7 cups community and the book is very inspiring and helpful. The book has so much to offer to us as people and I am happy to be a part of this community. I would recommend everyone to read about it and also join the community as it has a lot to offer its members as well as listeners! Thank you for sharing such wonderful insights and helping our community grow. We learn together and we grow together!

[Reader · Rating 4 out of 5]

I joined seven cups to become a listener a few years ago now. I love to genuinely listen and help give advice if I can and make a diffrence. also it's nice to have listeners to turn to if your in need to as everybody needs listening to from time to time. I found this book to be very eye opening and it really gives you a better perspective about yourself and others, I enjoy being part of the 7 cups community and feel supported.