No Contact : How to Beat the Narcissist

by H.G. Tudor

This is the definitive guide to implement and more importantly maintaining No Contact in order to beat the narcissist. Written from the perspective of how the narcissist regards No Contact and what he or she will do to defeat it, you will find a vast amount of insight and practical observations that will assist you in your desire to rid yourself of the narcissist in your life. This book covers precisely what No Contact involves, why it is so effective with a visceral explanation as to how it affects the narcissist. The content of this publication addresses why No Contact is so hard to execute, what steps you must take to implement and maintain it, including how and when. It covers what the narcissist will do to destroy the implementation of No Contact and thus enables you to plan to counter these machinations. It takes you through the response of the narcissist from his point of view as No Contact is implemented including the blitzkrieg that is the Grand Hoover as well as taking you through the many power plays the narcissist will use against you to break your No Contact. This guide will open your eyes to what the narcissist thinks and does in order defeat you and is an unmissable and powerful tool in your battle against the narcissist.

Genres: Nonfiction, Self Help, Mental Health, Psychology

267 pages, Kindle Edition

Published February 24, 2016

Reviews

[Nicole · Rating 4 out of 5]

Intriguing

This book was very eye-opening and insightful. I caught myself analyzing a lot of people I was in contact with and even felt it might be a good "prep" book for my college daughter as she enters the real world.

[Tera (TheBookishAbyss) · Rating 4 out of 5]

Informational

I gave this a four because the information is very useful for someone dealing with this type of person, however, the more of his books I read, the more I dislike the author. He clearly loves the fact that someone is reading his book, he thinks very highly of himself, and enjoys how he treats others. He says these books are part of his "treatment", but I am unsure how they could be making him a better person. As a matter of fact, it scares me to even leave a review as I am providing him "fuel" and feel like I am painting a target on my back, but I probably don't have the long legs or proper proportions that he requires in a conquest anyhow.

[Mandy · Rating 5 out of 5]

Worth reading it.

It has a differently written style. The author itself tries to open a victim/ codependent eyes by playing the role of a narcissist itself. The very precise description of a narcissist mindset and tactics used after a breakup, is priceless. The book walks you through the sofisticated mind and tactics of different types of narcissists. The examples offered in this book are priceless as well. The repetitive writting mode of the same topic might seem boring at the first glance. On the second thought, one could realize that it is actually reinforcing , offering guidance to codependents.

[Juan Pablo · Rating 4 out of 5]

From the Horse’s Mouth

This is written by an admitted narcissist. You hear it straight from the horse’s mouth what they are, what they are capable of & what they intend to do. Very different from reading books about them from people who have experience with them. You’re getting the raw & honest truth that should really drive the point hole as to why no contact is THE thing to do. I recommend to everyone whether you’ve been involve with one or have parents, siblings etc who are narcs or not.

[Tamika Roby · Rating 4 out of 5]

Very informative

It took me a long time to finish this book because it described my ex in a nutshell. I have to give the author credit for being very candid and open about the importance of maintaining no contact.

[Leigh A · Rating 5 out of 5]

Great read

Brilliant work !
I have read several of the books so far written by the author . It will make you think differently after reading . You can't get any of this in clinical or psychological books . Gonna read more

[SuzQ · Rating 5 out of 5]

Worth reading more than once.

This helps me with a few relatives. Whenever my energy begins to deplete, I read an HG Tudor book and I am back on track.

[Michelle]

I am not going to rate this book because the author is definitely gaining fuel from the praise. He did me a huge favour though showing me where I was going wrong with establishing no contact. It is intriguing and disturbing what he claims him and his fellow narcs believe entails breaking no contact. I recognized way too many similarities between my ex and H.G. Tudor that I know I am on the right path keeping this person out of my life for good.

Also these are self-published by a narcissist that has a huge super-ego; therefore these books are long-winded wankfest that lacks good grammar and spelling. I guess the author either doesn’t have an editor or his editor is one of his flying monkeys that doesn’t dare point out the errors. Read at your own risk, loads of triggers and if you still are dealing with the cognitive dissonance that these predators use against us because it’s difficult to not realize that the person you thought they were was just a facade to drag you into their sadistic game a lot of this is going to be painful to read.

I found this book valuable in helping me break free and avoid all the hoovers.

[Miglena Metcalfe · Rating 5 out of 5]

Fantastic, very helpful

I was in a very bad tim3 when my ex blocked me on FB , even though I left him, but we still see from time to time. I was furious when I found that HE blocked me and was just about to call him , entangle him with charm, etc but because of the point of the narcissistic/ the author/I found that I was entrapped by a Power play. Ev3ryone dealing with narcissist must read and understand the book.

[Abhinav · Rating 5 out of 5]

This is written by a self-admitting Narcissist. I initially had my reasons to avoid trusting the word from a narc. It's simple. I don't believe whatever they say. Anything and everything under the sun is a carefully concocted narrative that lures people into their charm. They nominate and dominate and I was convinced the author's mindset would be no different from the moment he's conveyed that he was a narcissist writing this book. I didn't believe someone would be charitable enough to portray their side of the thinking, so I had my reasons to take this book with a grain of salt.
Boy was I wrong, and I was proved wrong.

This is coming from straight from the horse's mouth.

As I went on reading, into my 5th chapter of the book, I felt a certain uneasiness probably because so much of it was being repeated over and over. It took me a while to ponder and think through the thoughts being shared, and eventually I grew more empathetic of the fact that the author chose to disseminate this information in an effort to curb his narc tendencies. He confesses openly that he copes his heightened awareness of being a narc in people's lives by trying to write and making sense of this disorder.

Things that I found disturbingly eye opening.
1. Narc are specialists at creating illusions and obscuring reality so that you think you are looking at something when really it is something else.
2. Part of the manipulation of you is to bury deep inside you that desire to always want us.
3. When an interaction takes place, if I begin to cause an argument, walk away or end the call. Do not give into the temptation to 'put me straight' (remember it will not work with me) or to try and 'make me see sense'.
4. Establish clear boundaries and protocols by which the minimal interaction must take place and stick to them absolutely. Do not deviate.
5. No Contact is the cessation of all contact and interaction with the narcissist.
6. The narcissist will never give up on (A) wanting to extract the Hoover fuel from you, and (B) wanting to punish you.
7. Understand that the siege we will subject you to when we try and break No Contact will be intense, brutal and hard to resist. You need all your strength and awareness to deal with our repeated overtures.
8. No contact is the complete and total severance of anything and everything to do with us. You must not meet us, speak to us, watch us, ask about us or even think about us.
9. No contact means the narcissist never existed.
10. No contact means erasing the narc from your life in every format.
11. NC means banishing the narc from your life and maintaining that exiled state.

You must avoid
1. Repeated analysis of what went wrong.
2. Obtaining any kind of closure from the Narc.
3. Never give in to their hoovering attempts.

[JJ W · Rating 5 out of 5]

H.G is a genius. I knew I shouldn't hang out with an abuser. But I never would have thought of some of the steps he advocates for implementing total, 100% no contact. This book is indispensable for anyone seeking to leave an abusive relationship.

[Oyl · Rating 1 out of 5]

Did this book have an editor? I couldn't get past the grammatical errors and poor writing.

[Jim Milligan · Rating 5 out of 5]

Extremely accurate ... well worth reading.

[Jake · Rating 3 out of 5]

Tudor nails it with the descriptions of the narcs mind. I suppose him being one counts for a lot.

But goddamn.... Hire an editor for chrissake.

[Kira · Rating 5 out of 5]

Amazing!

This book is amazing! Anyone who has ever been with or is still with a narcissist should read this immediately. The author, being a narcissist himself, gives us incredible insight into their minds that empaths never would have known. Now I truly understand what No Contact entails. Thank you for writing this book. I will forever be grateful!

[Julie Fruge · Rating 5 out of 5]

Good advice straight from a narcissist's mouth

Thank you for this book. It came to me at a perfect Tim in my life. I now have some valuable tools to help me through no contact!

[Kristy Smith · Rating 5 out of 5]

Great book to show you why NO CONTACT is a must