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272 pages, Paperback
First published January 1, 1973
We do not consider how we are going to vomit; we just vomit.
“There is no need to struggle to be free; the absence of struggle is in itself freedom. This egoless state is the attainment of buddhahood.”
We must surrender our hopes and expectations, as well as our fears, and march directly into disappointment, work with disappointment, go into it, and make it our way of life, which is a very hard thing to do. Disappointment is a good sign of basic intelligence. It cannot be compared to anything else: it is so sharp, precise, obvious, and direct. If we can open, then we suddenly begin to see that our expectations are irrelevant compared with the reality of the situations we are facing. This automatically brings a feeling of diasppointment.
Disappointment is the best chariot to use on the path of the dharma. It does not confirm the existence of our ego and its dreams. (29)
The Buddha... was not a religious fanatic, attempting to act in accordance with some high ideal. He just dealt with people simply, openly, and very wisely. His wisdom came from transcendental common sense. His teaching was sound and open.
The problem seems to be that people worry about a conflict between the religious and the profane. They find it very difficult to reconcile so-called higher consciousness with practical affairs. but the categories of higher and lower, religious and profane, do not really seem relevant a basically sane approach to life. (56)
We have so many different defense mechanisms fashioned out of the knowledge we have received, the reading we have done, the experiences we have undergone, the dreams we have dreamed. But finally we being to question what spirituality means really. Is is simply a matter of attempting to be religious, pious, and good? Or is it trying to know more than other people, trying to learn more about the significance of life? What does it really mean, spirituality? (65)
Eventually we must give up trying to be something special. (68)
If one searches for any kind of bliss or joy, the realization of one's imagination and dream, then, equally, one is going to suffer failure and depression. This is the whole point: a fear of separation, the hope of attaining union, these are not just manifestations of of or the actions of ego or self-deception, as if ego were somehow a real thing which performed certain actions. Ego is the fear of losing openness, the fear of losing the egoless state. This is the meaning of self-deception, in this case—these are the ongoing action of the dream of ego, the self-perpetuatng, self-maintaining structure which is self-deception. (80–1)
The problem is that we tend to seek an easy and painless answer. but this kind of solution does not apply to the spiritual path, which many of us should ot have begun at all. One we commit ourselves to the spiritual path, it is very painful and we are in for it. We have committed ourselves to the pain of exposing ourselves, to taking off our clothes, our skin, nerves, heart, brain, until we are exposed to the universe. Nothing will be left. It will be terrible, excruciating, but that its the way it is. (93–4)
Q. Is it absolutely necessary that the spiritual friend be a living human being?
A. Yes. Any other "being" with whom you might think yourself communicating would be imaginary.
Q. Would the teachings of Christ in themselves be a spiritual friend?
A. I would not say so. That is an imaginary situation. It is the same with any teachings; they do not have to be the teachings of Christ necessarily. The problem is that we can interpret them ourselves. that is the whole point: written teachings are always open to the interpretation of ego. (101–2)
The spiritual friend might accentuate our pain in certain circumstances. That is part of the physician-patient relationship. The idea is not to regard the spiritual path as something very luxurious and pleasurable but to see it as just facing the facts of life. (103–4)
The best and most correct way of presenting the idea of compassion is in terms of clarity, clarity which contains fundamental warmth. At this stage, your meditation practice is the act of trusting in yourself. As your practice becomes more prominent in daily life activities, you begin to trust yourself and have a compassionate attitude. Compassion in this sense is not feeling sorry for someone. It is basic warmth. As much space and clarity as there is, there is that much warmth as well, some delightful feeling of positive things happening in yourself constantly. Whatever you are doing, it is not regarded as a mechanical drag in terms of self-conscious meditation, but meditation is a delightful and spontaneous thing to do. It is the continual at of making friends with yourself. (113)
Compassion automatically invites you to relate with people, because you no longer regard people as a drain on your energy. They recharge your energy, because in the process of relating to them, you acknowledge your wealth, your richness. So, if you have difficult tasks to perform, such as dealing with people or life situations, you do not feel as if you are running out of resources. Each time you are faced with a difficult task it presents itself as a delightful opportunity to demonstrate your richness, your wealth. there is no feeling of poverty at all in this approach to life. (115–6)
[M]any people make the mistake of thinking that, since ego is the root of suffering, the goal of spirituality must be to conquer and destroy ego. They struggle to eliminate ego's heavy hand but, as we discovered earlier, that struggle is merely another expression of ego. We go around and around, trying to improve ourselves through struggle, until we realize that the ambition to improve ourselves is itself the problem. Insights come only when there are gaps in our struggle, only when we strop trying to rid ourselves of thought, when we cease siding with pious, good thoughts against bad, impure thought, only when we allow ourselves simply to see the nature of thought. (180)