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But you are in France, Madame: One family, three children, five bags and the promise of adventure living in the French Alps

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At the collège for a parent-teacher interview, I met my daughter outside in the courtyard and she showed me up to her classroom. Her teacher was busy chatting, so we waited patiently in the corridor. When he did come out, he indicated that the meeting would take place downstairs and headed off with us in tow. Before sitting down, I introduced myself using my first name, and put out my hand to be shaken. He mumbled back his full name as he took my hand, although I suspect he would have been shocked if I had actually dared use it. By this stage, I had already understood that teachers did not expect to be questioned about their practices. Of course, I did—question him, that is; politely and almost deferentially. There was a slight pause, as he dipped his head to better digest what he had heard. Then, with the assurance of a perfect, unarguable answer, he replied, “But you are in France, Madame”. Some months before, my husband, three children and I had casually unzipped and discarded our comfortable Australian lifestyle and slipped on life in the country of haute couture. On arrival, there was no celebrity designer waiting for us, ready to pin and fit our new life to us; so we threw it on and wore it loosely, tightly, uncomfortably, any old how—until we learned for ourselves how to trim, hem and stitch à la française. This book is testament to the joyous, but not always easy, journey that we took along the way.Our story ‘But you are in France, Madame’ was written from the heart. If you love France, reading about France, are curious about the lives of others or are planning your own trip to France, then this might just be the book for you.July 2023 Release of a third book celebrating my French-Australian life. "Love, fear and a return to France" follows book two, "Weaving a French Life" (2020) and book one, "But you are in France, Madame." (2015)June 2022 Release of "With bare feet and sandy Growing up in Australia in the 1960s & 70s." If you have found me because of our common love of France, I would love you to keep me company again despite heading in a different direction from the books in my French series.

382 pages, Kindle Edition

Published February 10, 2016

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Catherine Berry

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It got to me. Living in France was supposed to have a beginning and an end. It nearly did have an end in a way that I could never have imagined, but now it can’t. I belong amidst the bewildering complexities and incongruences of French life, and wherever I am, for as long as I am, this will not change.

Nothing from my Australian upbringing pre-supposed this French fascination. My first steps in the language were coincidental, and it was probably luck that saw one of the young, groovy teachers allocated to my beginner’s French class at school.

I enjoyed writing, but was gently encouraged into maths and science subjects, where non-essential creative writing was relegated. Thereafter, I adopted an academic approach to getting through an undergraduate degree, teaching diplomas and a master’s degree in education. Despite these intervening diversions, my French obsession remained present and it was only natural that when my own children were old enough that we head to France.

Returning to Australia three-and-a-half years into our one-year adventure, I had to write. It made the transition easier and was a wonderful way to not forget our special few years. My book, But you are in France, Madame, was the result.

"Weaving a French Life: An Australian story," published in 2020 is a sequel to "But you are in France, Madame."

June 2022: Release of my third memoir: "With bare feet and sandy toes: Growing up in Australia in the 1960s & 70s." If you have found me because of our common passion for France, I would love you to keep me company again despite heading in a different direction from my first two books.

June 2023 update: "Love, fear and a return to France," the third in my series of French-Australian memoirs is due for release in July. Stay tuned for more.

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Profile Image for Patricia Sands.
Author 23 books1,056 followers
November 20, 2017
This is a refreshingly candid memoir about an Australian family of five and how they plan and realize a dream to live in France. Catherine Berry takes the reader along on the journey of highs and lows of adjustment to life in a foreign country. She does not hold back on the disappointments and frustrations that are inevitable. On balance, her joy shines through at the beauty surrounding them in the Haute-Savoie and the many positives of French tradition and culture. Determination, humour, and love of France all guide this active family as they settle into a new rhythm of life. I look forward to the next chapter!
Profile Image for Susan Keefe.
Author 11 books58 followers
April 9, 2017
What do you get when you get two parents with three children who just happen to have a deep rooted wanderlust? The answer is a thoroughly entertaining book!

And so we find ourselves travelling from Australia with Catherine, her husband, and three children to Annecy in the French Alps, where we, through their eyes discover how very different French life is from Australia, not only the language, but many other new things which make moving to a new country both exciting and terrifying.

Their move was an adventure, born of a love for France that Catherine had discovered whilst spending time there in her youth. Like most of us she wanted to give her children the experiences she enjoyed and so off they went to Annecy, where they rented a cottage initially, and the surrounding area where they settled.

Thanks to her vividly descriptive writing, straight away you are taken on a journey of discovery as through her eyes you explore the villages, mountains, lakes, and breath-taking scenery of one of the most beautiful regions of France. If you are fond of sports and the outdoor life then this book will have you yearning to holiday in this area, or perhaps move there…. I have to say that this story also takes the reader to many other parts of France including my locale the Loire Valley and even for a sojourn into Italy.

However, this book is not a travel guide, beautifully descriptive as it is, it is in some respects a life guide as we join this adventurous family as they settle down to life in a totally different country, millions of miles from the one which they used to called home. Not only do the children have to settle into school in another country, but the family also have to overcome the hurdles which can enter our everyday life wherever we live.

I found this story compelling reading, it is one of those books which you simply can’t put down, but know that when you get to the last page you will be sad it is finished. Being an expat myself, I found myself laughing at the simple faux pas it is so easy to make when one doesn’t understand the language, like a native (as they say), and like most sympathise with them as they come to terms with the interminable and of course infamous French bureaucracy.

I can highly recommend this as a really good light-hearted storybook to read with a French flavour, however I would also say that if you are planning to visit this area, you will find the wonderful descriptions of its villages, architecture, gastronomy and customs very interesting. This book is a real gem, it is all so very different in France as those of us who live here can testify, and the answer to everything official is, as the book title says, ‘But you are in France, Madame.’

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Author 3 books68 followers
October 31, 2016
I thoroughly enjoyed this book. I'm not sure it's because the author lived the life in France I have always dreamed of, or simply because I was swept up in the customs, the food, the places and just the pleasantries of everyday life. If you have always wondered what life might be like if you took the brave step to move halfway across the world with your family, you should share these adventures. The author finely balances beautifully descriptive passages, insightful comments on people and places and some of the more sobering aspects involved in facing life's hurdles.
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433 reviews5 followers
June 27, 2025
If I traveled to France, I would stay in an old farm house with shutters, eat molded cheeses, sip aperitifs at outside cafes, listen to cows’ bells, watch an oyster shucking contest, and speak French. This family did exactly that. The author’s lovely voice made the experience even more beautiful.
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227 reviews11 followers
February 20, 2019
One of those books where you don’t want to get to the last page - I wanted it to continue - could have read on and on…. Enjoyed this move across the World to spend time living in France. Of course it’s not all wine and wisteria - ‘life’ can get in the way sometimes. This author, for me, takes us on her journey with her family so well - I totally get the little slip-ups with the language, trying to be ‘French’ when immersed in France isn’t any easy ask. Loved the aspects of making a home, schooling, the markets, the trips they took to other regions - little walks to the boulangerie - so simple, yet - so much part and parcel of getting to know your surroundings…. thoroughly enjoyed all of it really.
292 reviews68 followers
March 24, 2023
Cozy travel/migration story of Australians in France

This charming book is about several years in the life of an Australian family who moved to rural France. It is a love poem to food, architecture, nature, friendship, adventure and discovery. It is not always cheerful, but it is over all pleasant and relaxing to read.
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Author 4 books52 followers
February 19, 2017
Catherine Berry has a dream, to live in France with her family. And it is no small endeavor, as this family of 5 start out half way around the world, in Australia.

It is inspiring to share their story as she and her husband put work on hold and organize the family move. We feel part of the adventure and of overcoming many obstacles, such as finding a place to live, getting proper driving permits, and dealing with the French school system for the 3 children. And, somehow, the one-year stay turns into four.

Berry provides a realistic view of the ups and downs of daily life and trying to navigate in a foreign culture. And while sharing these difficulties, she does so with a healthy perspective and an eye for appreciating cultural differences.

Berry and her family exude a joy for life and for trying new things. They hike many trails in mountains of the Haute-Savoie region where they live. They learn to water ski on the lake and become good friends with the instructor. They come to appreciate the joy of cooking and eating local specialties, and they use the school holidays to explore the many, diverse regions of France.

From participating in local festivals and shopping in nearby “garage” sales, the family demonstrates how one can have meaningful experiences without them being expensive.

They come to appreciate their lifestyle in France and are enriched by it. And so are we, by reading this book.
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173 reviews
April 18, 2021
I feel like I’ve had a holiday in France. Thanks so much for this story. Lots of pure escapism, family fun, and emotional moments. I want to go and live in France ! Loved the bit where the kids were discussing the merits of cheese.
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35 reviews2 followers
June 1, 2021
As worldschoolers, our family has lived all over the world and I love to read books about others to try and glean inspiration. This one sure did and even though I passionately dislike the cold, the author made me want to visit this region and stay for awhile.
The writing is funny, descriptive, and just plain well done. So refreshing to read this type of book that doesn't have grammar problems or dense, uninteresting writing.
The family is very likable as well.

Nice read.
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375 reviews27 followers
August 22, 2016
Right from the start this truly was a mega-move from one side of the world to the other, with three children and very little luggage. Add in the extreme change in weather, from Australian summertime to Alpine winter weather, school life, social life and sports activities for the children, which in turn led to adult inauguration with all things bureaucratic and Catherine certainly had a story to tell.

Theirs was never meant to be a forever move, but the original time they gave themselves kept growing as they became more settled and the children loved their new routine and activities, despite living in France being Mum’s dream to begin with. Rather than buying, they rented places to stay, often term-time lets, but that meant they regularly had to move out during the holidays. Instead of this being a hassle, it gave them the perfect excuse to travel around France and beyond as a family.

As always, life in France wasn’t all ski-ing lessons, coffee shops, markets and family road trips, they also had to battle medical issues, culture frustrations, coordinating visitors and a very long distance commuting dad/husband. However, I was quite jealous of the flexibility their lifestyle gave them and loved the way they embraced the good and the bad and got the most out of their French adventure. Catherine’s love of France and spending time with her family comes across very clearly.

This well written memoir certainly portrayed everything I would expect from a move to France and for anyone thinking of doing something similar it is an interesting and detailed account of everything they experienced while here.
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Author 4 books62 followers
February 1, 2018
A book by a very Australian Australian determined to make a success of living in France. Quaintly charming, it largely centres around her everyday life and motherly concerns – the children’s food, their health, their illnesses, their education etc – as she tries to settle in and make sense of French ways and irritating bureaucracy.
It’s the story of a family constantly changing houses and neighbours,, with a father constantly away on business, and a mother who is trying to keep family life going. But although there’s a lot about holidays, skiing, sightseeing, restaurants and shopping, the book does shed light on how it feels like to be a foreigner living in a French community.
The author comes over as delightfully wide-eyed, forthright, friendly and fun, but as the world knows, this doesn’t necessarily cut the mustard in France, and her perseverance is praiseworthy.
Their time in France is described with touching detail, and the book is written with a light, clear hand and a pleasing self-deprecating humour.
Anyone contemplating living in France should read it.
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Author 19 books220 followers
May 8, 2020
A delightful story about an Australian family's adventures in France where they lived for almost four years. I love reading about people who are brave enough to pick up and move to another country. The author describes how she, her husband and three young children embraced the culture, dealt with the language, and enjoyed the fabulous food. Her brilliant descriptions had me drooling over the scrumptious French cuisine, wandering the country markets, delighting in the quaint villages, and mesmerized by the amazing views. They made the most of their time there by exploring the many regions of this fascinating country. She recounts the faux pas, the laughter, and the tears, as a mom manages the assimilation of her family into a different culture while maintaining their Australianism. An enjoyable read. Now I want to spend Christmas in France!
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2 reviews
July 12, 2021
A most beautiful read

I learned French at school, and I’ve always wanted to go to France, live there for a while, speak the language, make mistakes and learn.
I didn’t get there , but this book took me there in the most delightful and entertaining way.
I had tears in my eyes on the final page, but that’s just me.
5 reviews1 follower
May 9, 2019
A delightful read and such a privilege to have met the lovely author.
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Author 6 books53 followers
April 12, 2024
What an adventure. I can’t imagine packing up and moving to another country, although that is what dreams are made of. Oh, how I long to do just that. But that will never happen for me, at least while my husband is alive, because he loves his job and doesn’t like to fly for over five hours, and if I move, it will be across the ocean, which is a minimum ten-hour flight or longer if I moved to my dream country of Australia. I loved this adventure in “But You Are in France, Madame” and moved along with Catherine and her family, if only in spirit, as they left Australia behind to start a new adventure in France. This book captured my attention as the family faced difficulties and learned about the new place they called home. It was a delightful read, and I stayed up late listening to the author share details as I refused to fall asleep until I finished just one more chapter. And then another. I’ve always wanted to learn to ski and learn a foreign language, but never have—I wish I could be brave like the Berry’s. This book had it all: the good, the bad, and the ugly: cheese, cafes, castles, a visit to Italy, cancer, and bedbugs (of which I’ve been fortunate enough never to experience.) I enjoyed my move (LOL) and can’t wait to read the next book in the French at Heart series.
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348 reviews5 followers
July 12, 2020
Nice enough, but not intimate

So in spite of the funny self deprecating stories , and the obviously France loving descriptions of place, and the more intimate details shared, there was a decided, aloof, business brochure feeling about this book. It took me some time to notice what it was exactly...no names. With the exception of a few one time appearances of named tradespersons, no one was named! There was her husband, eldest daughter,younger daughter, and son. Not once referred to by name! Friends and neighbors were just random friends and neighbors there was no way to tell if they were the same or different friends and neighbors referred to in previous adventures. So there was no getting attached or really even getting to know them. Very odd.
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890 reviews5 followers
September 4, 2020
Like I've said before, books of people moving to France or Italy are my favorites. This one started out very exciting and I thought it was going to be a good journey. But somewhere along the way the writing became slow and plodding, detailing every single tiny detail about inconsequential daily life. And it was really difficult to warm up to any of the characters because they were never given names! It took me at least 1/4 of the book to figure out how many children the author had because they were referred to as "first daughter or eldest daughter, second daughter or middle daughter and my son." And husband. I found it confusing and almost like the author was keeping us all at a distance.
14 reviews
September 12, 2022
Une histoire très intéressante et charmante de déménagement en France de l'Australie! A lovely read

J'ai été surpris par votre quantité de nouvelles informations que j'ai apprises sur la culture française. Je me suis attaché à la famille australienne, ce que je ne fais généralement pas avec les familles dans les romans ! Possiblement pasque comme elle a écrit, les enfants sera plus intéressantes depuis l'effet de la vie française. Je lirai son prochain livre avec joie, mais je crains que les luttes de l'auteure contre le cancer et l'abandon de son rêve de vivre en France ne soient une autre lecture, mais c'est la vie, n'est-ce pas ?
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23 reviews1 follower
April 11, 2023
Madame Berry is an excellent writer. I enjoyed this book and the recounting of her family's long stay in France a lot. I happen to now live in the same region where most of the book takes place and am impressed by her ability to capture the essence of Haute-Savoie with her words, as well as how it might be experienced by visitors or expats. I have gone on to order her second memoir and look forward to hearing how their family integrated French life into their lifestyle in Australia. Merci, Madame Berry for taking great notes and putting this book out there for us to enjoy :).
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14 reviews
July 6, 2024
I did it again

This is yet another book about an English speaker falling in love with France and going there. They go to see and often decide to remain, because they can’t help wanting to live in Paris, Brittany, the south of France or wherever. Maybe I am drawn to this type of story because I can’t understand why English speakers have been drawn to this country of culture snobs. I’ve never been to France and don’t think I will ever go. But I will continue to research France through the books written by those who have fallen for the French.
1,546 reviews11 followers
October 17, 2019
An Australian couple and their three children move to Annecy, France where she recounts the trials, tribulations, joys and surprises of adjusting to French life. Having had many of the same experiences,
I find her story (although not great literature) a true representation of life as an expat in France.
231 reviews
March 8, 2021
This book took me away with it!

What a delightful dream come true for anyone who's been to France and fallen in love with it! It satisfied my dream of doing so. Or maybe it just made it stronger. Even the hardships didAnyway, this book certainly reminded me of all the dreams and possibilities!
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414 reviews8 followers
August 24, 2022
It was an interesting tale, especially as it was written by an Australian who has a different outlook to British writers telling us about their experiences of settling in another country. I learned a lot

I was terribly confused for a while by the family seemingly buying and consuming large quantities of lollies -then I realised it was sweets not ice lollies. Whew
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13 reviews
May 8, 2023
After living in England and France for 10 years, I enjoyed this book very much because
I could relate to all the bureaucracy of living in France. It was a real learning curve but
I would not trade my time there. My small village welcomed and helped us through
a lot of confusing times....I still miss it every day. Thanks Catherine for the memories..

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10 reviews
September 6, 2017
Enjoyed parts of this, but the reluctance of the author to name her family jarred, with my husband, my daughter, son one and son two used over and over. Even fictitious names would have sufficed if anonymity had to be maintained .
370 reviews3 followers
September 18, 2021
A very good memoir of living in a part of France I’m unfamiliar with, however it could’ve used some better editing. The author, being Australian, used many colloquial terms, thus sending me to the dictionary not for French terms, but slangy Australian words.
24 reviews1 follower
December 11, 2021
Sort of diary-ish

Sort of like reading a diary about the day to day life of an Australian housewife in France for a few years. Wish there had been more comical skits, like feeding Vegemite to French children.
4 reviews2 followers
May 24, 2022
My visit to France

I loved reading this book because it swept me away to s life, an experience completely unfamiliar to me and I absolutely had to pay attention to every word to get the joy. What a delight.
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21 reviews
January 17, 2023
I enjoyed reading the book. The whole time I was reading I was wishing I would have done something like that. I have been reading Bannalec’s books set in Brittany and between the two Authors I have been working on a plan to live in France for a little while, hopefully.
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63 reviews25 followers
September 9, 2023
A really delightful book where I found myself wishing to be and identifying with the protagonist. I have immediately bought the sequel. I am really enjoying immersing myself in what it would have been like to live in France with my family.
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