Nonflict: The Art of Everyday Peacemaking

by Amir Kfir

Are you in a conflict with a family member that is causing you pain?

Are you spending too much time dealing with conflict at work?

Are you at a crossroads in your life and unsure of which direction to take?

If you answered yes to any of these questions,

Nonflict: The Art of Everyday Peacemaking is for you.

“Thank you for the impact Nonflict had on me. It helped me immediately with a vital meeting with my employees and their union. Later my wife and teenage daughter had an explosive argument and I used the Nonflict way to a peaceful resolution. We even embraced with hugs at the end!”
—Jason Rosset, CEO, Accuworx

“I founded a program to teach Masters level social work to students from the Middle East. Nonflict helped them resolve the most difficult conflicts we could imagine and to take these much needed valuable tools home to share with others.”
—Dr. Jim Torczyner, Professor of Social Work, McGill University

Authors Dr. Amir Kfir and Stephen Hecht offer you practical information and easy-to-follow exercises for dealing with conflict, regardless of the cause. You will see how they have mastered the Nonflict way in their own lives, and you will relate to many of these and other revealing examples. Let the Nonflict way guide you to strengthen and build on your relationships at home, at work, or in the community. Soon, you will also realize that conflicts are merely opportunities in disguise.

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This is a practical, easy to read book on a topic we all face; conflict resolution. We learn about the styles we use as well as the ‘why’. Then we learn how to effectively face internal and external conflicts and turn them into opportunities for growth and more effective relationships at home, work or in our communities. The book provides a step-by-step guide to deal with conflict that has proven its effectiveness from the CEO suite to Main Street and across a multitude of cultures from North America to the Mid East.

We learn more effectively by stories and the authors share many of their own life conflicts as well as some from people who have used the Nonflict way to resolve conflicts at home, at work and in their communities.

Genres: Nonfiction

148 pages, Kindle Edition

Published March 16, 2016

Reviews

[maik · Rating 2 out of 5]

Un libro sobre la resolución de conflictos tanto a nivel individual, en pareja, como grupal. Aunque habla de un método bastante bueno y fácil de emplear, los ejemplos dados en este libro apenas ofrecen valor alguno, por lo que solamente con que te leas el apéndice ya lo tendrías. Además, la edición en español contiene muchos errores ortográficos y las peores ilustraciones que he visto nunca. Con un poco más de cariño y atención al detalle habrían conseguido algo que valdría la pena.

[Kris Ang · Rating 5 out of 5]

Powerful ways of handling conflict by Amir Kfir. It's truly a gem to master. The core of it is that resolving and talking about our conflicts has the power to enable people to understand each other better. Even if we don't agree, it will be better for us to understand another person's perspective instead of building up a story in our heads and losing control.
Peace and love at the heart of every one's core will drive us to resolve our conflicts and find new grounds of connections.

[Irina Mitrofan Bitca · Rating 5 out of 5]

O abordare noua și interesanta a rezolvării conflictelor, cel puțin pentru mine. În lumina unor conflicte noi care au degenerat usor, în jurul celor dragi mie, clar mi se pare ca merita încercată o astfel de abordare.

[Ahmet Uzar · Rating 3 out of 5]

The subject is briefly described in the book, I think the book is a useful book.But from 5 I would give 3.

[PAUL STARR · Rating 4 out of 5]

An excellent and pragmatic approach to solving conflicts with lots of good real-life examples.

[Mrs Janine Emmenis · Rating 5 out of 5]

great read


Fantastic. Concise and powerful. I appreciate that in a world that full of anxiety which creates conflict this allows a moment to nonflict.

[Jo · Rating 3 out of 5]

This was a very interesting and thought-provoking read, particularly living as I do with lots of conflict in my own household (I have an autistic son). Bearing that in mind, although the theory and ideas are great, I feel that in order to do them justice, there have to be many things in place before it can be put into practice. The reason conflicts arise in the first place is because people have different points of view, and the different points of view are often related to different personality types. Different personality types can be flexible, or inflexible; calm or fiery; peaceful or angry and so many variations in between. Other events going on in peoples' lives will invariably affect moods and actions almost on a minute-by-minute basis. Everybody involved must WANT to find a peaceful resolution, and the more people involved, the more difficult it is to reach that place where this can be achieved. Therefore, to reach a position of discussion and compromise in the first place there are a lot of issues to overcome.
What this book did do for me, was create contemplation and discussion of conflict, compromise and resolution, and I took away from it the conclusion that we have to start somewhere, and if this is the start for me, or any other reader for that matter, then the book has been successful.

[Abby · Rating 5 out of 5]

I received a copy of this book in exchange for an honest review.

I thought that this was an excellent book. It was well thought out, it was logical, and helpful. Now, the basics of this book don't feel wholly original- however, it was explained well, there were excellent examples, and the original material blended well with the more tried and true thoughts to lay out how to effectively resolve a variety of conflicts. They even have included worksheets to help readers through resolving their own conflicts. And on top of that, it was also an interesting read for me when I wasn't even looking for advice resolving conflicts.

[Paul Franco · Rating 3 out of 5]

The title tells it like it is, or how it wishes it was.
Most of this book features examples, stories told by people close to the authors. Some of them pretty good, and are the best part of this book. The rest of it is not nearly as coherent as it claims to be.
There’s some good stuff here, but because its points deal with optimism, the expectations are too high; hard to believe they would work in real life.